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12-step recovery for those of us who love alcoholics or addicts. We share our experience, strength, and hope as we use the principles of the Al-Anon program in our lives. We talk openly and honestly about the problems and challenges as we face alcoholism and addiction in our friends and relatives. We share the tools and solutions we have found that let us live a life that is serene, happy, and free, even when the alcoholic or addict is still drinking or using.

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12-step recovery for those of us who love alcoholics or addicts. We share our experience, strength, and hope as we use the principles of the Al-Anon program in our lives. We talk openly and honestly about the problems and challenges as we face alcoholism and addiction in our friends and relatives. We share the tools and solutions we have found that let us live a life that is serene, happy, and free, even when the alcoholic or addict is still drinking or using.

    Gratitude 2021 – 373

    Gratitude 2021 – 373

    In November, I asked the members of the email list, “what are you grateful for today?” These are your responses. I had hoped to get them out shortly after the US Thanksgiving holiday, but as life happened, that didn’t happen. Maybe this is a reminder that we can practice gratitude every day.







    I said this in my email (with a small edit for circumstances since then.)







    For those of us in the US, our Thanksgiving holiday is just a few days away. Although it is important to me to express gratitude every day, I still give it particular emphasis around this time.







    What am I thankful for right now?







    I am thankful that nobody in my family has yet been affected by COVID.







    … that I was able to visit with a son and his new wife, who we had not met before. And that we were able to enjoy the things we have in common and not dwell on the things that divide us.







    … that my father and mother died peacefully and at home.







    … that I have been able to connect with all of you during this time of isolation.







    And, of course, I am grateful for everyone who sent in a share in response to that email, and which are shared in this episode.







    What are you thankful for today?

    • 17 min
    Embracing Risk – 372

    Embracing Risk – 372

    How do you embrace risk in your life today? How has this changed in recovery? Why can risk-taking be healthy? Spencer and SA explore these questions and others.







    “A ship in the harbor is safe—but that’s not what ships are for.” John A. Shedd







    Social psychology research tells us that at the end of their life, more people regret the risks they never took than the ones they did- even if it didn’t work out as they had hoped.  Today we explore the inherent role of positive, healthy risk-taking in recovery and ask: (SA note to Spencer-just ideas.  See if any resonate)







    * What does the program teach us about risk taking? * Can healthy risk-taking lead to a fuller, happier life even when it requires venturing from the safety of the shore? * How can risk-taking propel us forward in our personal growth? In our recovery? And in all of our affairs-i.e.-every facet of our lives? (SA note to Spencer-now that I have had a chance to marinate, I think this question may be redundant and covered on question 2. Your thoughts?) * Why do we find taking risks so challenging? * Is it easier to take risks in one area of our lives while we hesitate in another? * If so, can that inform the areas where we may consciously choose to incorporate more small, healthy risks in order to grow?* Can taking healthy risks serve as a role model for loved ones in our lives?







    During a global pandemic, risk taking may seem a strange topic to undertake. Aren’t we all taking risks every day just to survive? Program note-the risk taking we are discussing today is not negative, dangerous, or risky behavior, but more those behaviors that take us to the edge of or dangling precariously from our comfort zone psychologically and emotionally. They are actions that remind us that while we may prefer to live our lives as though we are made of glass-fragile and breakable, we are, in fact, made of steel-strong and tough. 







    Positive Risk Taking Defined: actions where the outcome is uncertain and 1) benefits the individual's well-being (a person may gain something) 2) its potential costs are mild in severity (there is no threat to health or safety) and 3) it is socially acceptable (Duell and Steinberg 2019). 







    Risk Taking Synonyms: valor, adventurousness, courage, brave deed, daring action.Risk Taking Antonyms: cowardice, meekness, timidity. (The reason I added this is because I think it highlights the basic underlying premise of taking risks-none of us wants an MO of cowardice or timidity so it’s pretty much, take risks or perish. The antonyms are much more instructive for our purposes than the synonyms so if we are short on time, the synonyms can be cut).















    * The risks of: going to your first meeting, speaking in a meeting for the first time, rigorous honesty, getting a sponsor, completing a fourth step inventory, admitting to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs (huge risk taking requiring such courage), etc.* How do taking these risks pay benefits in other areas of our life?* Is living with failure if things don’t work out as we hoped easier than living with regret that we never took the chance?* Once we really embrace our own recovery, why is it no longer safer to avoid risk?* What do we gain by staying in the safety of our box or by running away?* What do we miss out on?* What do we stand to gain by seeing life and our actions taking risks as an adventure?* What barriers or challenges to taking risks are there? A few include fear (our old friend again), perfectionism, procrastination, paralysis, disappointment, rejection, pain, avoidance, self-doubt, overthinking, etc. This could be a very lengthy but informative discussion.* Overthinking can be a huge barrier to taking a risk.

    • 1 hr 29 min
    Reflection on a loss, December 19, 2021

    Reflection on a loss, December 19, 2021

    My mother breathed her last on this day. I reflect on her life, what she meant to me, and what seeds she planted in me.

    • 8 min
    A Teacher in Recovery – 371

    A Teacher in Recovery – 371

    Are you a teacher? How has recovery changed the way you teach? What recovery tools do you use in the classroom?







    Rajni joins Spencer to share her experience as a teacher, both before and after entering recovery.







    Our conversation started with a bit of Rajni's story.







    Characteristics that she identified in herself, pre-recovery, included these:







    * Overdeveloped sense of responsibility – overcommitted * Hyper-vigilance* Perfectionism * Sarcasm* A lack of boundaries, obsessive thinking* Abandoning herself  by taking on students’ problems







    Some recovery tools that she is now using include these:







    * Appropriate boundaries.* The “wisdom to know the difference”







    Some slogans she uses on a regular basis are:







    * QTIP (Quit taking it personally)* Serenity Prayer (ACA Version)* I don’t have to react to everything * HALT (am I Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired?)* Hands off pays off – is it mine?* Easy Does It* 3 C’s & M’s* I didn’t cause it, I can’t control it, I can’t change it* Mothering, martyrdom, managing















    Readings and Links







    Rajni read from Courage to Change, January 12.







    Al-Anon is looking for contributions for a new daily reader on the Steps, Traditions and Concepts.







    An email from Gina referred to the summary of the 2014 World Service Conference, particularly the section on how to initiate change in the Al-Anon legacies, starting in the third paragraph on p. 36.







    Upcoming topics







    An upcoming topic is “gratitude”. What are you grateful for this year? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecovery.show with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.















    Music from the Show











    Indigo Girls – Closer to Fine











    Ingrid Michaelson – Be OK











    Soul Asylum – Runaway Train

    • 1 hr 20 min
    Gentleness with Myself – 370

    Gentleness with Myself – 370

    BHow have you treated yourself meanly or roughly? How have you learned to be gentle with yourself?







    Anna joins Spencer to talk about why being gentle with herself is so important in her recovery, and how an experience at Christmas revealed this to her and produced a spiritual awakening.







    Our conversation is guided by these concepts.







    * how I learned to love myself through the fellowship (“my fellows loved me until I could love myself”)* how I use the St. Francis Prayer as a tool for gentleness with myself* this topic is also touching base with the idea of “self parenting” for me* how “gentleness with myself” is really my step zero. (every other step works so much better if I go to step zero first!)















    Readings and Links







    Anna read from the Just for Tonight bookmark.







    She also recited the “Saint Francis Prayer”, which is included on the Just for Today bookmark.







    Feedback







    Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecovery.show with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.















    Music from the Show











    Alanis Morissette – Everything











    Servant of Peace · Snatam Kaur











    The Mamas – Touch the sky

    • 1 hr 32 min
    Healing through Writing – 369

    Healing through Writing – 369

    Lisa grew up in alcoholism, addiction and abuse. She is finding healing through writing a novel.







    Content warning: Lisa talks about some of the abuse she survived as a child.







    Here are some of the questions that guided our conversation.







    * Please tell us your story.* What inspired you to write?* How are your experiences reflected in your protagonist?* What did you learn about yourself while writing it?* How has writing helped you to heal?* What is your wish for someone reading your book?







    For that last question, Lisa has different goals for 3 different groups of readers. She says,







    From How Al-Anon Works an excerpt from Chapter 28 about perfectionismFor those in recovery, I hope it’s a story they could relate to.For those who don’t realize they are living in an emotionally abusive home at the hand of alcoholism, maybe some of Carla’s experience will resonate with them and that this behavior is damaging and not okay and perhaps they will reach out to Ala-Teen or Al-anon to learn they didn’t cause, can’t cure, and can’t control, which is fancy recovery talk for, it’s not your fault!And finally, for those not in recovery, to understand that an alcoholic doesn’t have to be a slurring derelict on the street or Miss Hanigan in Annie. Alcoholism is a sneaky and progressive family disease that affects every person in the house















    Readings and Links







    Lisa read from How Al-Anon Works an excerpt from Chapter 28 about perfectionism.







    Lisa's book Slanted and Disenchanted is available from many places including Amazon. (I do receive a small commission if you purchase through Amazon.)







    Talk to us







    Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecovery.show with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.















    Music from the Show











    The Killers – All These Things That I've Done











    Modest Mouse – Float On











    Sufjan Stevens – (This is) The Thing







    And a bonus: the song that introduced Lisa to punk.











    Bikini Kill – Feels Blind

    • 1 hr 38 min

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shapmasa ,

Grateful listener

The first episode I heard was 370. Before I listened, I had been experiencing sleep disturbances with intense nightmares. Because of that episode I started reading the thought for tonight before bed and meditating with it. Ever since I implemented this routine, I have not had nightmares and I have slept much more peacefully. I find that listening to your podcast is the perfect start to my day on my way to work and I am so grateful to you. Thank you for enriching my life and helping me continue to work on myself.

Kelly, FL ,

The Recovery Show

I am not even sure how long I have been listening to The Recovery Show, but it has probably been about 2 years. I am so grateful to Spencer and the various co-hosts for sharing your experiences, strength and hope. Listening to the show has helped keep me grounded in my recovery, encouraged me and reminded me of tools to stay healthy. I have referred The Recovery Show to many people. It is great to listen to on my morning walks. Thank you!

brdpudn04 ,

So grateful

I found your podcast during Covid when my gym shutdown and I started running at home I can’t begin to tell you how much this podcast has helped me to not feel alone and to get some understanding about this disease I am so grateful for you and for every speaker that is on hear

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