The Relaxed Male is a podcast that helps men find their purpose and learn to breathe. We offer solutions for when life gets tough. Whether it’s divorce or just the stress of everyday life, we can help you get back on your feet and be the man you want to be.
You deserve more than what society tells us we should do as men. Be the father your children need, be the partner your spouse needs, and most importantly - be yourself! This all starts with you getting out of your own way and deciding how you are going to live life.
Live From Mission Critical
This week I am talking to both Rich Chelson and Matt Glesspie of Operation: Tears of the 22 and how they got started. How they did it without knowing what they were getting into. How they did it scared.
Now the sound quality isn't the same level that I am used to cranking out but that is part of the fun of trying new things out. So Listen as we talk about how they overcame some of the obstacles they faced as they built a 501(c)(3) from the ground up.
If you want help finding your why on doing something new and unknown reach out and schedule a consult
There is a Need For Leadership
August 4-7 Tears of the 22 Retreat
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Main Topic Uvalde 400 officers standing around waiting for someone to give orders
Sniper couldn’t get clearance
Possible result of defunding the Police
Police don't want to be put in jail
Don't want the responsibility laid on their heads
Reminds me of Atlas Shrugged
Men need to take responsibility and action when needed
Can't have men afraid of the consequences of their noble actions.
Yes there are actions that are not noble but taking a chance is needed in life
When life and death are at stake you do it.
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Is religion important?
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Event! Operation Tears of the 22: Mission Critical
Main Topic man has had religion their whole lives
there are many different types of religion
The key point is that all of them have a god.
Abrahamic Religions all have god. And they break apart from there
Judaism, Islam, Christianity
Each of those breaks down into subgroups, And those subgroups into smaller subgroups
There are modern religions that turn Man into a god. Modern deconstructionists. Covidien's for example
The environmental religion worships the earth
Everybody believes in something.
Even atheists have a god they turn to.
What is religion used for? Give us a moral compass
A place to meet other people on a common topic
What Religion is not a guilt trip
Why do people leave the church? Abuse
Don't see a purpose
They see it as a hypocrisy
They see religious people as hateful
Change of beliefs
How to get the most out of your religion You get what you put in.
I am a Failure
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I wasn't the perfect brother. I wasn't the perfect Son. I have let down my family many times over. I found out why lying does you no good. I have broken hearts, and I have failed as a father on many different levels. I have failed as a husband. I have rattled my marriage to its core. I have people pleased and let folks down many times in my long and storied life.
I failed in many different careers, and I have had at least 8 failed business attempts. I have quit smoking only to take it back up again. I have failed to see how extraordinary I could make my life.
That is until I stopped and looked at the path of destruction I have made. I blamed so many people for my problems. My Stepmom, my bio mom, my dad, my wife, my bosses, my kids, for the longest time it was always someone else to whom I would pan all the responsibility off to. Heck, I still do in a sense.
But then I started looking at the common denominator in every circumstance. There was only one constant in each of those. That was me. About 6 years ago. I realized I didn't stand for anything. yeah I would pick and choose beliefs when they were in line with who I was with. Yet did it really define me? No, it didn't. Until 6 years ago and I woke up to the fact that I could change myself.
Create the future from the future, not the past You can start over now It feels unsafe but that's ok Your mind is just wigging out Is there something wrong with you? Accept that you screwed up Look at where you went wrong Learn and plan how to not do that If you want to see what you are capable of Set up a consult call and let's talk.
The Operation Tears of the 22 Mission Critical Retreat.
Storytime - home town alma mater is giving away free school supplies and I raised the question of why this seems like it will end badly? I got a lot of parents from that area chimed in saying it was a good thing. I really don't think it is, for many different reasons. I have several thoughts as to why not having the parents provide the supplies
Well this is when you really need to have that debate. Just leave it alone? why? Because it’s easier? It’s with good intentions? Remember what the road to hell is paved with.
I agree it sounds good on paper but the devil is in the details. What are you showing the kids about life? That they don’t need to worry? The system will take care of you? Just accept that free lunch with out looking to see if there is a hook on it? I’m leery of free stuff with it being an altruistic motive. Altruism is one of the most evil things a man can do for another man. Because everything has a cost and altruistic motives cost the victim his ability to care.
So is it worth talking about yeah I think it is.
This is where my thoughts on altruism come into play.
Men have been taught that their first concern is to relieve the suffering of others. … To make that the highest test of virtue is to make suffering the most important part of life. Then man must wish to see others suffer in order that he may be virtuous. Such is the nature of altruism.
Ayn Rand What you are getting when you're altruistic is that you have to hope for people to suffer so that you are able to give more of yourself. This is often why caretakers sabotage their wards. They have to be able to swoop in to rescue that person so that they feel needed.
You are sacrificing yourself You are not taking care of yourself. You are putting yourself in harm's way You are causing that other person to be dependent upon you and your actions You are taking risks that are not needed You are not actually helping that person You are not allowing the other person to figure it out. You are making them dependent on you you are creating two victims at the same time. Miss conceptions of Altruism There are many different factors of altruism that many people get wrong. There are many myths
Myth It makes you happy?
Clears your concionce
Makes the world better?
Allows you to find new friends/partners
Helps you get further in corporations
Truth No, it cants make you happy. Your thoughts can.
Till you have to let the person live their own life
Except that it takes care out of the world
If you like codependent friends if not it makes them codependent
Except that it erodes trust in the long run
[Altruism] is a moral system which holds that man has no right to exist for his own sake, that service to others is the sole justification of his existence, and that self-sacrifice is his highest moral duty, value, and virtue. This is the moral base of collectivism, of all dictatorships.
Ayn Rand this is one of the big things that Nice guys do. They have an altruistic sense of morality. They do it and expect others to go along with their thoughts and when they don't they get upset and resentful.
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Live an Intentional Life
What is intention? So many times we are living our life because we see someone else doing something or we are told how we should live our lives and we blindly just do it. We don't think about does that fit what we want in life? You often see teenagers struggle with this. These Young people run from one fad to the next. This is why the current fad of gender studies is so damaging. Because they don't know if the permanent changes to their lives are what they really want. They think they do but they won't even know who they are and what they believe till they are around 26.
Even after 26 many people still, don't question who they are. What do they stand for? They don't know what their standards are, and many nice guys haven't even had a thought for themselves in so long they hardly even know how to do that.
You hear the intentional life being mentioned from time to time. The speakers are often talking about living in a way that makes you happy. So you can be in a constant state of joy. Well, that's not possible. Nor is it wanted
It is living life on your terms.
Signs you may want to start living with intention. Your life isn't going the way you want it too You don't make plans You are feeling burnout You are always putting out other people's fires Are you asking Disempowering questions? Feel like you are spinning How do you live life with intention? Have standards Listen Have a plan Follow that plan Dream Big and go for it Have boundaries and Enforce them Have your priorities straight
Easy and relaxed
Listen to the podcast and you will understand why it’s relaxed. You won’t be disappointed.
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