Birds and Bees Don't Fck

Arielle Zadok
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We can all agree that the whole birds and bees thing was a lie, right? When it comes to sex education in the 80s, 90s and even today, everyone gets a big ole F. And not the good kind. Join host Arielle Zadok as she talks to friends, comedians and sexuality professionals about what they did, and didn't learn about sex growing up.

  1. 3D AGO

    What Porn Taught Hollywood About Sex Scenes w/ Lotus Lain

    Lotus Lain is an adult performer, producer, intimacy coordinator and sex worker advocate originally from California's Central Valley where growing up in a small town meant most of her real sex education came later through curiosity, the internet, and eventually working in the adult industry itself. In this episode we talk about the unexpected overlap between porn and Hollywood, how the adult industry approached consent, boundaries and choreography long before mainstream film and television caught up, and why productions eventually realized they needed intimacy coordinators. We also get into mentorship in the adult industry, what actually happens on set when filming sex scenes, and why performers deserve experts guiding those moments. Catch Lotus and I gettin' real reading Reddit stories over on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 4p PT / 7p ET: https://www.youtube.com/@birdsandbeesdontfck ____________________________________________________ Where to find Lotus: Instagram: @icy.lotus TikTok: @icy.lotus Where to find Arielle: Instagram: @birdsandbeesdontfck TikTok: @birdsandbeesdontfck Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck Organizations we support: Free Speech Coalition Sexual Wellness Professional Alliance Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon: STORY 1: My husband (37M) has been seeing other women and I (36F) don't know if I should give him another chance. What would you do? STORY 2: AIO? My daughter didn't listen to the teacher during a female emergency and is now receiving a referral Like my cuffs? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: https://lovecrave.com/arielle ___________________________________________________ Episode Cheat Sheet: 02:29 Growing up in California's Central Valley 04:28 Discovering the adult industry 06:36 Mentorship and "porn mom" lineage 08:45 Consent and boundaries on adult film sets 10:55 The logistics of filming sex scenes 13:18 Why Hollywood eventually needed intimacy coordinators 15:31 Differences between porn sets and traditional film sets 17:38 Choreographing realistic sex scenes 19:54 Why actors need experts guiding intimate scenes 22:15 Performer advocacy and safety on set 24:35 The rise of intimacy coordination in Hollywood 26:58 What film productions still get wrong about sex scenes 28:40 Why sex workers understand boundaries and consent 30:41 Supporting performers during vulnerable scenes 33:01 Changing the culture of filming intimacy

    1h 2m

  2. MAR 25

    Where There's A Will, There's A F****g Way w/ Aimee Latta

    Aimee Latta is a certified embodied intimacy and relationship coach and the host of the podcast Come Talk With Aimee, originally from Utah where the best sex education she got was a fifth grade presentation from a very enthusiastic husband and wife team… followed by years of abstinence-only education and a very graphic childbirth video meant to scare everyone into never having sex. In this episode we talk about growing up in Utah, abstinence-only sex education, Mormon purity culture, and what happens when the only messaging around sex is prevention instead of pleasure. We also get into Aimee's journey from working in public health policy to becoming an intimacy and relationship coach helping people reconnect with their bodies, their pleasure, and their partners. Want more? Catch bonus Reddit story reactions, private chats and more on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 4p PT / 7p ET: https://www.youtube.com/@birdsandbeesdontfck _________________________________________________   Where to find Aimee: Instagram: @cometalkwithaimee TikTok: @cometalkwithaimee Podcast: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/podcast Where to find Arielle: Instagram: @birdsandbeesdontfck TikTok: @birdsandbeesdontfck Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck   Like my cuffs?  Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here:  https://lovecrave.com/arielle   Episode cheat sheet: 00:46 Starting a sex podcast and talking about sex publicly 03:22 Why talking about sex still feels taboo 05:18 How Aimee started the Come Talk With Aimee podcast 10:00 Being a public voice in sex education and intimacy coaching 18:54 From public health policy to becoming an intimacy coach 28:12 Growing up in Utah with abstinence-only sex education 34:57 BYU rules, Mormon purity culture, and sex before marriage 47:42 Mormon garments, religion, and sexuality 49:21 Becoming a sex and relationship coach 53:52 Painful sex in marriage and rediscovering pleasure 59:57 Why couples struggle to talk openly about sex

    1h 4m

  3. MAR 18

    The Cuban Missile Crisis of Burlesque w/ Tito Bonito

    Tito Bonito is an international burlesque performer, host and instructor originally from Miami, Florida where he knew he was gay before he even knew how babies were made… and learned most of the rest through TLC, the Spice Girls, and sheer curiosity. Catch Tito and I talkin' some real shit reading Reddit stories and join the afterparty over on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 4p PT / 7p ET: https://www.youtube.com/@birdsandbeesdontfck _________________________________________________ Where to find Tito: Instagram: @cubanmissilecrisis | Links: https://www.titobonito.com/links Where to find Arielle: Insta: @ariellezadok // @birdsandbeesdontfck TikTok: @birdsandbeesdontfck   Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon: STORY 1: My (31F) husband (33M) of four years doesn't take our role playing seriously when we have sex. He purposely takes his characters way over the top. STORY 2: AITA for dropping our dinner on the ground and walking out when my boyfriend asked me "What's for dinner tonight, b*tch?"   Like my cuffs?  Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here:  https://lovecrave.com/arielle ________________________________________________ Episode Cheat Sheet:  03:07 Shadowbanning, algorithms and why sex educators need Patreon 07:00 Demisexuality, graysexuality and why dating apps don't work for everyone 09:14 Friends who f**k, play communities and chosen family 10:41 Why hookup culture looks different for women, femmes and men 12:45 The dream of a hookup app for women and femmes 18:31 Why talking about sex openly matters 20:00 Therapy, curiosity and emotional intelligence in relationships 23:07 Why getting "dicked down" can improve your mood 24:22 Prostate pleasure, anal play and why butt toys need a stopper 27:05 Lube 101: silicone vs water based and toy safety 29:31 Gooning, masturbation and slowing down sexual experiences 31:40 Subspace, rope play and erotic trance states 36:18 Growing up gay in Miami and early memories of sexuality 40:52 Masculinity, machismo and emotionally healthy men 46:22 Why it's harder for men to seek emotional or sexual support 49:36 The performance of masculinity and learning sensuality 53:55 Why monogamy puts pressure on one partner to meet every sexual need 57:35 Men in burlesque and how Tito found the stage 59:27 The early burlesque scene and performing masculine tropes 01:03:44 Why burlesque is political, comedic and deeply sex positive 01:06:03 Giving audiences permission to explore sexuality 01:08:20 Consent culture and why burlesque spaces teach boundaries

    1h 9m

  4. MAR 11

    Everyone Wants To Be A Cult Leader w/ Jimanekia Ebon

    Join the watch party LIVE AT FIVE on YouTube: https://youtu.be/BKSYUvCUo74?si=BiA5cpUkzvn53BrX Jimanekia Eborn is a trauma specialist, sexuality educator, survivor advocate, co-owner of Cintima, and founder of the nonprofit Tending the Garden, originally from Riverside, California where she actually DID received sex education multiple times growing up… but was any of it good? Absolutely not. In this episode we talk about grief, trauma work, modern dating struggles, sex education failures, intimacy coordination, professional wrestling (yes, I mean that), mental health, and why community and safe spaces are essential for connection and pleasure. Catch Jimanekia and I reading Reddit stories and join the afterparty over on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon: STORY 1: AITA for cancelling mother's day celebration that I arranged for my wife after hearing what she told my son? STORY 2: AIO if I end my relationship because my bf kisses and tells me he loves me before leaving for work in the morning? Where to find Jimanekia: Instagram: @jimanekia  Cintima Training: https://cintima.co Nonprofit: https://tendingthegarden.love Where to find Arielle: Insta: @ariellezadok // @birdsandbeesdontfck TikTok: @birdsandbeesdontfck Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck Like my cuffs? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here:  https://lovecrave.com/arielle   Episode Cheat Sheet & Index: 00:09 Intro 02:30 Imposter syndrome and starting the podcast 05:00 Jimanekia's work in professional wrestling mental health 08:30 Losing her father and navigating grief 10:20 The power of laughter during difficult moments 12:10 Community, connection, and safe spaces during the pandemic 15:15 Dating apps and the loss of real connection 17:45 Nervous systems, safety, and intimacy 20:00 Protecting your peace and sexual boundaries 21:40 Working in sex education and consent culture 23:00 Growing up in Riverside, California 23:50 Early sex education experiences 25:30 Sneaking HBO and learning from Real Sex and Loveline 29:00 Why representation in sex education matters 31:20 Finding community in the sex industry 33:30 Boundaries and accountability in sexuality spaces 36:00 How Jimanekia got into intimacy coordination training 40:30 Building Cintima and training intimacy coordinators 44:00 Working across trauma care, media, and sexuality education 47:00 Play parties, consent culture, and power dynamics 49:30 Weird and wonderful jobs in the sexuality industry 51:00 Learning about sex through books and curiosity 54:00 Balancing multiple careers in sexuality work 58:30 Why asking for help matters

    1 hr

  5. MAR 4

    Cute Butt Stuff w/ Whitaker Cohen

    Whitaker Cohen is the Founder and CEO of Amore Sui, originally from the East Coast where despite having a mom who worked for Planned Parenthood she still received plenty of medical sex education without any lessons on pleasure. We talk about terrible sex education, orgasm myths, squirting, consent, power dynamics, and how Whitaker went from a few bad anal experiences to launching a company designing beginner friendly butt plugs specifically for women.   Catch Whitaker and I reading Reddit stories and join the afterparty over on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck Episode cheat sheet: 00:38 Meeting Whitaker Cohen 05:23 Growing up with Planned Parenthood sex education 09:55 Goal oriented sex vs pleasure 12:14 Squirting myths 16:59 What sex education actually teaches 19:23 The clitoris and missing research 24:07 The "blue balls" myth 28:38 Consent, fawning, and sexual assault 33:10 Power dynamics and sex 37:52 Discovering anal pleasure 40:03 Starting Amore Sui 44:28 Designing a beginner friendly butt plug 49:09 Why most butt plugs are badly designed 53:43 Launching a sex toy company 58:01 Reddit story teaser   Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon: STORY 1: I found my fiancés sex tape with my stepmother. We're supposed to get married in two weeks. STORY 2: AITA for locking up my stuff so my wife will not touch it   Where to find Whitaker: Instagram: @loveamorsui Get 10% off your oder: https://loveamorsui.com/ARIELLE15   Where to find Arielle: Insta: @ariellezadok // @birdsandbeesdontfck TikTok: @ThePleasureProducer // @birdsandbeesdontfck Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck   Like my cuffs? Me too. Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here:  https://lovecrave.com/arielle

    1 hr
  6. Birds & Bees Don't Read Reddit w/ Elisa Ellis (Bonus Episode)

    MAR 3 ·  BONUS

    Birds & Bees Don't Read Reddit w/ Elisa Ellis (Bonus Episode)

    CLICK HERE to access the full episode. It's here! Our very first bonus episode of Birds & Bees Don't Read Reddit and I'm starting this adventure with none other than comedian Elisa Ellis who also happens to get the most unhinged versions of me in real life. This episode is WILD ya'll. Here are the stories, only available on Patreon: Story 1: I just found out that I'm a mistress...of 4 years. OMG. How do I tell her? 48M/36F Story 2: My 43f husbands 46m affair partner 19f is pregnant doesn't know the baby's father and I don't know where to begin with fixing this Story 3: AITA For suing my girlfriend after she had my 1967 impala project taken to the scrapyard? Honestly, this was one hell of a way to start. Follow Elisa: On Instagram & TikTok @ElisaMcBear Follow Me: On Instagram & TikTok @BirdsAndBeesDontFck and my personal Instagram @ArielleZadok Love my Crave Cuffs? Use my link and get $15 off anything storewide: lovecrave.com/arielle

    8 min

  7. 09/26/2025

    An Overdue Update

    I ghosted, I know. And I'm sorry. So here's a little update on where things are at! Including me losing (for now) my primary instagram account @ariellezadok Like, comment & subscribe if you're happy to hear me! ________________ Get your Backstage Pass and join the circle community: https://www.thepleasureproducer.com/backstagepass Take the free masterclass, Pleasure on Purpose: https://www.thepleasureproducer.com/masterclass Dive into The Sexy Directory: https://thesexydirectory.substack.com/ Follow me on instagram: @BirdsAndBeesDontFck // @ThePleasureProducer (at least these still exist... for now!)

    19 min

  8. 06/26/2024

    Sexy Confidence (w/ Tia Lynn)

    Tia Lynn is a sex and intimacy coach, Tedx speaker and host of the Sexy Biz Babe podcast originally from Utah where as you can imagine, the Mormons (which she was not one of) taught her nothing about sexuality but a whole lot about judgement. Some things we said... "Pole dancing gives permission for others to explore their desires and sensuality." "Transitioning into sex coaching happened naturally based on client feedback and impact." "When you upgrade and when you progress past that, that makes them look at themselves in a way that they're not ready to." "Play parties provide a space where sex is permitted, but it's not required." "Consent is required at play parties, and there's accountability for violating someone's boundaries." ... plus so much more. Watch it on YouTube to get the full experience!   Where to find Tia: Intsta: @sexybizbabe Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sexy-biz-babe/id1450558365?mt=2   Where to find Arielle: Insta: @ariellezadok // @birdsandbeesdontfck Freebies, classes, OnlyFans and more: https://stan.store/ArielleZadok Website: https://www.birdsandbeesdontfck.com/   K, love you, byeeeee

    51 min
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We can all agree that the whole birds and bees thing was a lie, right? When it comes to sex education in the 80s, 90s and even today, everyone gets a big ole F. And not the good kind. Join host Arielle Zadok as she talks to friends, comedians and sexuality professionals about what they did, and didn't learn about sex growing up.

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  • Creator
    Arielle Zadok
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2026
  • Episodes
    89
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2018 - 2023 Arielle Zadok / Champagne Womb LLC
  • Show Website
    Birds and Bees Don't Fck

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