They Called Her Bitter

Sarah Bader & Margaret Bronson
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They Called Her Bitter explores stories that often go untold, stories shaped by grief, endurance, and the cost of telling the truth; offering language, validation, and perspective for those untangling from coercive belief systems and structures.

Episodes

  1. 1D AGO

    From Shiny Happy People to Doug Wilson

    Help Fuel Deconstruction Doulas Fight Against Religious Abuse: https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-us-fuel-our-fight-against-religious-abuse   Media inquiries: https://www.sonsofpatriarchy.com/contact Patreon: patreon.com/sonsofpatriarchy Website: sonsofpatriarchy.com Email us: contact@sonsofpatriarchy.com   They Called Her Bitter: https://www.instagram.com/theycalledherbitter/ Deconstruction Doulas: https://www.deconstructiondoulas.com   Tia's Books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Tia-Levings/author/B08QDXBRBV?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1&qid=1775134817&sr=1-1&shoppingPortalEnabled=true   Summary In this engaging conversation, Tia Levings and Sarah explore the journey from survivor to advocate, discussing trauma, activism, and the power of storytelling. They share insights on navigating exposure, supporting survivors, and envisioning a future of change. Takeaways - Journey from survivor to advocate - Trauma and recovery strategies - The role of storytelling in activism Keywords survivor advocacy, trauma recovery, storytelling, religious trauma, activism, social justice, patriarchy, survivor stories, mental health, community support

    55 min
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    1D AGO ·  BONUS

    You Might Also Like: On Purpose with Jay Shetty

    Introducing NOAH KAHAN: Imposter Syndrome, Anxiety & The Pressure of Success (What He’s Never Shared Before) from On Purpose with Jay Shetty. Follow the show: On Purpose with Jay Shetty Jay sits down with singer-songwriter Noah Kahan to break down the pressure that comes after “making it” - the imposter syndrome, the constant comparison, and the fear of losing it all. Noah shares how music became his escape from anxiety growing up, what it felt like to finally land the record deal he dreamed of, and why success didn’t silence the doubt, it amplified it. Jay and Noah unpack the myth of the “tortured artist,” and the quiet fear that healing might take away what makes you creative. Noah opens up about his recent OCD diagnosis, how he let go of the belief that he had to suffer for his art, and what it took to find his voice again without relying on pain. Noah speaks candidly about his struggles with body dysmorphia and the unexpected therapy of creating his documentary. Together they explore what it means to find balance and to stop performing for the world so you can finally be seen by the people who matter most. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Stop Defining Your Worth by Your Work  How to Face Your Unseen Fears Through Therapy  How to Stay Present When Life Feels Overwhelming  How to Extract Lessons from Painful Feedback  How to Handle the Fear of Losing Your Success  How to Stay Grounded Between Praise and Criticism   How to Prioritize Your Time Over the Endless Grind Whether you are navigating a major life transition or simply trying to find your footing in a loud world, remember that your self-worth is not a mathematical equation based on your latest achievement. No one should have to navigate their mental health journey alone. Join Noah in the mission to prove that the more we share our stories, the more we empower others to do the same. Visit: https://www.busyheadproject.org/  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe   Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:54 Seeing Yourself Through the Eyes of Others  04:39 The Childhood Memory That Defined My Career  05:42 Middle Child Energy and the Need to Be Heard  06:57 Music Was My Only Plan A  08:44 The Disconnect Between Fitting In and Being Genuine   11:09 Expressing Yourself Without Giving Yourself Away  14:05 Songwriting: The Constant Search for a Simpler Life  17:25 Every Creative Process Is Different  18:52 When What You Do Becomes Who You Are  24:07 The Power of Journaling Your Lessons  27:05 Does Healing Kill Creativity?  29:48 My Biggest Regret in Communicating with Family  32:43 The Vulnerability of Filming Your Private Life  36:32 Healing and Finding Peace as a Family  43:51 Has Success Made Mental Health Harder or Better?  46:19 The Honest Truth about Body Dysmorphia  52:09 Living and Dying by Your Own Honesty  57:40 The Difference Between Going to Therapy and Doing Therapy  01:00:24 Do You Secretly Find Comfort in Your Pain?  01:02:01 Re-evaluating What Truly Matters After Success  01:05:59 Finding the Strength to Believe in Yourself  01:11:04 Protecting Your Heart While Taking Criticism 01:14:06 Stability Rooted in Love and Marriage 01:20:48 Would You Rather? 01:22:55 Gut Reaction 01:25:46 Noah on Final Five   Episode Resources: Website | https://noahkahan.com/  YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/c/NoahKahan  Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/noahkahanmusic  Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/noahkahanmusic/  TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@noahkahanmusic  X | https://x.com/NoahKahan See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. DISCLAIMER: Please note, this is an independent podcast episode not affiliated with, endorsed by, or produced in conjunction with the host podcast feed or any of its media entities. The views and opinions expressed in this episode are solely those of the creators and guests. For any concerns, please reach out to team@podroll.fm.

  3. APR 2

    Behind the Scenes of Survivor Care: Moscow, Idaho (Part 2)

    Help Fuel Deconstruction Doulas Fight Against Religious Abuse: https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-us-fuel-our-fight-against-religious-abuse   Media inquiries: https://www.sonsofpatriarchy.com/contact Patreon: patreon.com/sonsofpatriarchy Website: sonsofpatriarchy.com Email us: contact@sonsofpatriarchy.com   They Called Her Bitter: https://www.instagram.com/theycalledherbitter/ Deconstruction Doulas: https://www.deconstructiondoulas.com   Summary In this conversation, Sarah Bader and Margaret discuss the complexities of sharing personal stories as survivors of trauma. They explore the emotional challenges, the role of media in amplifying their voices, and the importance of community support. The discussion highlights the nuances of public exposure, the responsibility felt by survivors to speak out, and the potential consequences of their narratives. Through their experiences, they emphasize the need for careful storytelling and the impact it can have on both individuals and communities. In this conversation, Sarah Bader and Margaret discuss the complexities of personal identity, the challenges of advocacy, and the emotional toll of navigating public and private life. They explore themes of authenticity, the weight of responsibility in their work, and the importance of community support. The dialogue highlights the struggles of trauma, the search for self amidst chaos, and the need for collective action against spiritual abuse and societal injustices. Ultimately, they emphasize the power of vulnerability and the necessity of seeking help in their ongoing fight for change. Takeaways Discussing personal stories can be both empowering and daunting. Survivors often face scrutiny when sharing their experiences publicly. Working with trusted organizations can help survivors tell their stories safely. The media can amplify survivor voices but also misrepresent them. Navigating public exposure requires mental health considerations. Survivors often feel a sense of responsibility to speak out for others. The journey of telling one's story can lead to unexpected opportunities. Community support is crucial for survivors during their healing process. The impact of sharing stories can ripple through communities. Survivors must prepare for both positive and negative reactions to their stories.  Authenticity is a journey of self-acceptance. Navigating public life can be overwhelming and isolating. The weight of responsibility can lead to anxiety and fear. Connections with others can be both a source of strength and vulnerability. Trauma can complicate personal identity and relationships. Vulnerability is a powerful tool for connection and healing. Support from the community is essential for advocacy work. The cost of doing the right thing can be high. It's important to recognize the emotional toll of advocacy. Collective action is necessary to combat systemic issues. Keywords advocacy, survivor stories, media exposure, personal narratives, trauma, church abuse, public speaking, mental health, storytelling, community support, authenticity, personal growth, advocacy, trauma, identity, support, community, spiritual abuse, mental health, empowerment

    1h 7m

  4. MAR 26

    Behind the Scenes of Survivor Care: Deconstruction Doulas (Part 1)

    Help Fuel Deconstruction Doulas Fight Against Religious Abuse: https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-us-fuel-our-fight-against-religious-abuse   Media inquiries: https://www.sonsofpatriarchy.com/contact Patreon: patreon.com/sonsofpatriarchy Website: sonsofpatriarchy.com Email us: contact@sonsofpatriarchy.com   They Called Her Bitter: https://www.instagram.com/theycalledherbitter/ Deconstruction Doulas: https://www.deconstructiondoulas.com   Summary In this conversation, Sarah Bader and Margaret discuss the complexities of sharing personal stories as survivors of trauma. They explore the emotional challenges, the role of media in amplifying their voices, and the importance of community support. The discussion highlights the nuances of public exposure, the responsibility felt by survivors to speak out, and the potential consequences of their narratives. Through their experiences, they emphasize the need for careful storytelling and the impact it can have on both individuals and communities. In this conversation, Sarah Bader and Margaret discuss the complexities of personal identity, the challenges of advocacy, and the emotional toll of navigating public and private life. They explore themes of authenticity, the weight of responsibility in their work, and the importance of community support. The dialogue highlights the struggles of trauma, the search for self amidst chaos, and the need for collective action against spiritual abuse and societal injustices. Ultimately, they emphasize the power of vulnerability and the necessity of seeking help in their ongoing fight for change. Takeaways Discussing personal stories can be both empowering and daunting. Survivors often face scrutiny when sharing their experiences publicly. Working with trusted organizations can help survivors tell their stories safely. The media can amplify survivor voices but also misrepresent them. Navigating public exposure requires mental health considerations. Survivors often feel a sense of responsibility to speak out for others. The journey of telling one's story can lead to unexpected opportunities. Community support is crucial for survivors during their healing process. The impact of sharing stories can ripple through communities. Survivors must prepare for both positive and negative reactions to their stories.  Authenticity is a journey of self-acceptance. Navigating public life can be overwhelming and isolating. The weight of responsibility can lead to anxiety and fear. Connections with others can be both a source of strength and vulnerability. Trauma can complicate personal identity and relationships. Vulnerability is a powerful tool for connection and healing. Support from the community is essential for advocacy work. The cost of doing the right thing can be high. It's important to recognize the emotional toll of advocacy. Collective action is necessary to combat systemic issues. Keywords advocacy, survivor stories, media exposure, personal narratives, trauma, church abuse, public speaking, mental health, storytelling, community support, authenticity, personal growth, advocacy, trauma, identity, support, community, spiritual abuse, mental health, empowerment

    49 min

  5. MAR 19

    Are You in a Christian Nationalist Cult? (Part 2)

    Help Fuel Deconstruction Doulas Fight Against Religious Abuse: https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-us-fuel-our-fight-against-religious-abuse   Media inquiries: https://www.sonsofpatriarchy.com/contact Patreon: patreon.com/sonsofpatriarchy Website: sonsofpatriarchy.com Email us: contact@sonsofpatriarchy.com   They Called Her Bitter: https://www.instagram.com/theycalledherbitter/ Deconstruction Doulas: https://www.deconstructiondoulas.com   Summary This episode explores the complex dynamics of cult deconstruction, the role of fear and control in religious and political systems, and the importance of empathy and self-love in healing from cultic influence. Margaret and Sarah delve into how beliefs are manipulated, the dehumanization process, and pathways to genuine connection and liberation. Chapters 00:00 Understanding the Occult in Deconstruction 02:10 The Spectrum of Cult Experiences 05:07 The Role of Compassion in Deconstruction 08:03 Personal Journeys of Deconstruction 10:52 Navigating Political and Religious Nuances 13:42 The Influence of Cult Dynamics on Society 16:53 The Underlying Beliefs of Christian Nationalism 25:29 Welfare and Community Care 28:12 Empathy and Societal Learning 31:03 The Role of Systems in Human Behavior 34:32 The Impact of Childhood Conditioning 37:47 The Dynamics of Gender and Control 42:33 Dehumanization and Its Consequences 47:29 Humanism vs. Christian Nationalism 52:51 The Importance of Empathy in Dialogue 56:04 Reaching Beyond the Digital Divide 57:19 Dehumanization and Its Impact 59:38 The Character of God and Evangelicalism 01:01:23 Christianity's Shift Towards Cult-like Behavior 01:03:56 The Role of Fear in Christian Nationalism 01:07:52 The Loss of Privilege and Its Consequences 01:09:43 Self-Love and the Christian Experience 01:24:47 Connecting with Peer Support and Advocacy Takeaways The spectrum of cult experiences and early indoctrination Nervous system wounds versus intellectual understanding The role of fear and control in Christian nationalism Dehumanization and its impact on marginalized groups Pathways to self-love and compassion as resistance Keywords cult deconstruction, Christian nationalism, empathy, self-love, dehumanization, religious control, political manipulation, healing from cults, faith and doubt, community resilience

    1h 27m

  6. MAR 12

    Margaret Bronson's CNN Experience (And How You Can Join Her Work)

    Help Fuel Deconstruction Doulas Fight Against Religious Abuse: https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-us-fuel-our-fight-against-religious-abuse   Media inquiries: https://www.sonsofpatriarchy.com/contact Patreon: patreon.com/sonsofpatriarchy Website: sonsofpatriarchy.com Email us: contact@sonsofpatriarchy.com   They Called Her Bitter: https://www.instagram.com/theycalledherbitter/ Deconstruction Doulas: https://www.deconstructiondoulas.com   Summary In this conversation, Sarah Bader and Margaret discuss their experiences with trauma, healing, and empowerment as survivors. They delve into the anticipation and anxiety surrounding a CNN interview, the importance of building a support network, and the challenges of securing funding for survivor resources. The dialogue highlights the emotional toll of advocacy work, the vision for creating safe pathways for survivors, and the collective journey towards success beyond individualism. Chapters 00:00 Culinary Cravings: Indian and Thai Delights 00:28 The Anticipation of a Major Interview 03:18 Empowering Survivors: The Journey to CNN 06:31 Behind the Scenes: Filming with CNN 09:38 The Emotional Toll of Sharing Stories 12:17 Family Dynamics and Personal Growth 15:41 The Impact of Survivor Voices 18:27 Preparing for the Documentary Premiere 19:14 Preparing for the Online Backlash 23:06 The Journey of Healing and Support 24:18 Challenges Faced in Survivor Support 31:27 Navigating Organizational Growth and Funding 43:02 Building Connections and Overcoming Rejection 50:47 The Weight of Responsibility and Future Hope 52:37 Stepping into the Light 53:48 The Weight of Responsibility 56:03 Navigating the Past 58:00 The Need for Support 58:59 A Vision for Change 01:01:00 Building a Safe Pathway 01:03:14 Funding the Future 01:05:16 Shared Mission and Collective Success Takeaways Sarah and Margaret share their sensitivity to alcohol and its effects. They bond over their favorite Indian and Thai dishes, highlighting cultural connections. Margaret discusses the anxiety surrounding her upcoming CNN interview. The conversation shifts to the importance of survivor stories and empowerment. Margaret reflects on the emotional impact of trauma and healing processes. They discuss the challenges of public exposure and its effects on survivors. Building a support network is crucial for survivors navigating their journeys. Margaret emphasizes the need for funding and resources to support survivors. The vision for the future includes creating safe pathways for those leaving harmful environments. The conversation concludes with a focus on hope and resilience in the face of adversity. Keywords survivor stories, trauma healing, CNN interview, empowerment, support network, funding resources, advocacy, emotional toll, Pamela Brown, personal growth

    1h 11m

  7. MAR 7

    Margaret (and CREC Survivors) will be EXPOSING DOUG WILSON on CNN!

    Special comes out March 22 at 8pm EST on CNN TV, and will stream beginning March 23: https://cnnpressroom.blogs.cnn.com/2026/02/17/cnns-pamela-brown-reports-in-the-rise-of-christian-nationalism-for-the-whole-story-with-anderson-cooper/   Help Fuel Deconstruction Doulas Fight Against Religious Abuse:  https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-us-fuel-our-fight-against-religious-abuse   Media inquiries: https://www.sonsofpatriarchy.com/contact Patreon: patreon.com/sonsofpatriarchy Website: sonsofpatriarchy.com Email us: contact@sonsofpatriarchy.com   They Called Her Bitter: https://www.instagram.com/theycalledherbitter/ Deconstruction Doulas: https://www.deconstructiondoulas.com   Summary In this conversation, Sarah Bader and Margaret Bronson discuss their experiences with trauma, the anticipation surrounding an upcoming documentary with CNN, and the emotional impact of recent events on survivors. They explore the importance of retreats, the challenges of navigating public reactions, and the complexities of addressing criticism while fostering community support. The dialogue highlights the resilience of survivors and the significance of hope amidst adversity. Takeaways Retreats are a vital part of healing and community building. The emotional toll of recent events can feel overwhelming. Survivors often experience a deep sense of hope and disillusionment. Public support can empower survivors to share their stories. Anticipating criticism is part of preparing for public exposure. The impact of trauma can manifest in physical symptoms. Community support is crucial for mental health and resilience. Survivors are often conditioned to be hopeful, leading to deep disappointment. Online comments can significantly affect mental well-being. Planning for the future involves addressing potential backlash.   Keywords retreats, Pacific Northwest, trauma, survivors, documentary, public reactions, criticism, mental health, community support, personal growth

    19 min

  8. MAR 5

    Are You in a Christian Nationalist Cult? (Part 1)

    Help Fuel Deconstruction Doulas Fight Against Religious Abuse: https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-us-fuel-our-fight-against-religious-abuse   Media inquiries: https://www.sonsofpatriarchy.com/contact Patreon: patreon.com/sonsofpatriarchy Website: sonsofpatriarchy.com Email us: contact@sonsofpatriarchy.com   They Called Her Bitter: https://www.instagram.com/theycalledherbitter/ Deconstruction Doulas: https://www.deconstructiondoulas.com   Summary In this conversation, Sarah Bader (of Sons of Patriarchy) and Margaret Bronson (of Deconstruction Doulas and CNN's "The Situation Room") delve into the complexities of cult dynamics, exploring personal experiences and the broader implications of high-control groups. They discuss the importance of language in defining cults, the various forms of control exerted by these groups, and the societal impact of cult-like behavior, particularly in relation to Christian nationalism. The conversation emphasizes the need for awareness and understanding of these dynamics to foster healing and deconstruction from harmful belief systems. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Personal Anecdotes 00:20 The Cult Discussion Begins 03:09 Understanding the Term 'Cult' 06:17 The Importance of Language and Accountability 09:14 Defining Cults: The BITE Model 12:29 Behavior Control in Cults 13:25 Information Control and Its Implications 15:12 Thinking Control and Its Consequences 18:16 Emotional Control and Repression 20:23 The Journey of Deconstruction and Healing 29:35 Deconstructing Beliefs and Emotional Responses 32:44 The Impact of Cults on Human Development 36:17 Christian Nationalism and Religious Colonization 39:59 Language as a Tool of Control 44:30 The Role of Women in Cult Dynamics 49:45 The Intersection of Cults and Self-Improvement 54:26 Caste Systems and Hierarchies in Cults Takeaways The term 'cult' can evoke strong reactions, but it's essential for accountability. Cults often manipulate language to control narratives and perceptions. Behavior control is a significant aspect of cult dynamics, dictating personal choices. Information control limits access to diverse perspectives, reinforcing cult beliefs. Thinking control restricts individual thought, creating a false sense of agency. Emotional control leads to repression of feelings, hindering personal growth. Women in cults often face unique challenges and roles that reinforce patriarchal structures. Cults operate on hierarchical systems, creating a caste-like structure among members. The intersection of cult dynamics and nationalism is increasingly relevant in today's society. Deconstructing harmful beliefs requires understanding the mechanisms of control within cults. Keywords cult, deconstruction, high control groups, emotional control, behavior control, information control, thinking control, Christian nationalism, language manipulation, women's roles

    1h 1m

  9. FEB 26

    Sarah Bader and Margaret Bronson's Stories

    Help Fuel Deconstruction Doulas Fight Against Religious Abuse: https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-us-fuel-our-fight-against-religious-abuse   Media inquiries: https://www.sonsofpatriarchy.com/contact Patreon: patreon.com/sonsofpatriarchy Website: sonsofpatriarchy.com Email us: contact@sonsofpatriarchy.com   They Called Her Bitter: https://www.instagram.com/theycalledherbitter/ Deconstruction Doulas: https://www.deconstructiondoulas.com   Summary In this episode, Sarah Bader and Margaret Bronson discuss the complexities of survivor support, the stigma of bitterness, and the importance of community in healing from spiritual abuse. They share personal experiences, the challenges of raising awareness and resources, and their aspirations for creating safe spaces for survivors. The conversation emphasizes the need for empathy, understanding, and the importance of financial support to help those transitioning out of high-control environments.   Chapters 00:00 The Concept of Bitterness in Survivor Narratives 02:45 Sarah Bader's Journey and Work with Survivors 05:53 The Role of Community and Support in Healing 10:34 Proud Moments and Challenges in Advocacy 15:41 Understanding the Loneliness of Advocacy Work 24:48 The Challenge of Seeking Help 25:44 Understanding the Needs of Survivors 26:42 Financial Support and Community Resources 27:38 Navigating Safe Spaces for Survivors 30:05 The Dream of a Supportive Community 32:39 Creating Safe Spaces for Women 33:27 The Importance of Transition Spaces 35:39 The Impact of Trauma on Survivors 38:42 Addressing Systemic Issues in Cults 40:54 The Need for Comprehensive Support 43:56 The Role of Education and Awareness 46:42 The Collective Responsibility to Help Survivors 49:39 Paving the Path for Escape 52:40 The Importance of Compassionate Support 01:00:23 The Burden of Sabbath Observance 01:02:18 Liberation and Rest: The True Meaning of Sabbath 01:03:29 Creating Safe Spaces: The Role of Cohorts and Retreats 01:06:47 Navigating Trauma: The Challenges of Healing 01:09:27 Leadership and Community: Redefining Authority 01:12:15 Pride in Progress: Personal and Organizational Achievements 01:15:43 The Struggle for Resources: Funding and Support 01:22:29 Future Aspirations: Building a Sustainable Organization 01:26:00 Finding Community: Healing Outside Religious Spaces   Takeaways The label of 'bitterness' is often used to dismiss survivors' experiences. Community support is crucial for survivors navigating their healing journey. Survivors often reach back to help others once they find their footing. Financial resources are essential for providing adequate support to survivors. Creating safe spaces for survivors is a priority in the healing process. Empathy and understanding are key in supporting those leaving high-control environments. Leadership in survivor support requires careful navigation of power dynamics. The journey of deconstruction is unique for each individual and requires patience. Survivors often face significant challenges in accessing resources and support. Building a network of support can empower survivors to reclaim their lives.   Keywords survivor support, bitterness, community, deconstruction, spiritual abuse, healing, empowerment, leadership, resources, advocacy

    1h 35m

  10. FEB 19

    Unmasking Religious Extremism

    Help Fuel Deconstruction Doulas Fight Against Religious Abuse: https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-us-fuel-our-fight-against-religious-abuse   Media inquiries: https://www.sonsofpatriarchy.com/contact Patreon: patreon.com/sonsofpatriarchy Website: sonsofpatriarchy.com Email us: contact@sonsofpatriarchy.com   They Called Her Bitter: https://www.instagram.com/theycalledherbitter/ Deconstruction Doulas: https://www.deconstructiondoulas.com   Summary Join us as we explore honest stories of spiritual trauma, community resilience, and the journey toward liberation from high-control religious systems. This episode features candid conversations about the legacy of evangelical supremacism, the impact of Christian nationalism, and strategies for supporting survivors and deprogramming individuals trapped in abusive cult environments.   Chapters 00:00 - Opening remarks and guest introduction 02:04 - Camera angles and authenticity in content creation 04:29 - Sarah introduces her work, credentials, and the podcast purpose 05:41 - Margaret recounts her background in Christian conservatism, homeschooling, and deconstruction 09:28 - The influence of Doug Wilson, Old Testament law, and Christian nationalist ideology 11:15 - Marital journey through evangelical Christianity and the challenges of faith deconversion 14:11 - The firing of Margaret's husband due to illness and church hierarchy issues 16:14 - The impact of Bodies Behind the Bus and community accountability efforts 18:52 - Reflection on God's goodness and disillusionment with high-control spaces 20:19 - Questioning biblical interpretations and developing new frameworks for faith 22:54 - Deconstructing American history narratives and Christian nationalist myths 29:21 - The power of survivor networks and collective activism 31:28 - Dreaming of sanctuary spaces like lighthouses and tiny homes 32:46 - Navigating traditional gender roles, marriage, and personal boundaries 36:29 - The two types of survivors: rule followers and rebels 44:50 - The emotional toll of activism, loneliness, and community support challenges 47:45 - The intersection of cult deprogramming, legal aid, and community-building efforts 51:38 - Personal experiences with grooming, abuse, and activism in high-control churches 60:14 - The importance of critical questions about faith, authority, and accountability 66:33 - Margret's vision for deconstructing cult dynamics and community resilience 70:01 - Recognizing the influence of conservative Christianity on American politics and society 73:37 - Addressing misinformation, disinformation, and the algorithmic control of cults 78:39 - Resources for survivors, therapists, and organizations fighting high-control groups 82:15 - The role of academia, therapy, and support networks in healing journeys 84:11 - The importance of owning one's mind and rejecting spiritual oppression 85:03 - Reflections on media like Shiny Happy People and its traumatic revelations 88:34 - Closing remarks on community healing and ongoing activism efforts   Takeaways - Margaret shares her personal journey from conservative Christian roots to deconstruction and activism - Discussions on the influence of the Heritage Foundation, Christian nationalism, and their ties with cult-like behavior - The role of architecture and symbolism in church spaces reflecting theological authority - How deconstruction intersects with issues like patriarchy, racism, and abuse recovery - Strategies for community support, activism, and the importance of nuanced conversations about accountability - Insights into working within and dismantling high-control religious systems, including the legal and social challenges faced by survivors - The unique intersection of faith, trauma, mental health, and activism from both atheist and Christian perspectives

    1h 18m

  11. FEB 5

    NEW: They Called Her Bitter

    Media inquiries: https://www.sonsofpatriarchy.com/contact Patreon: patreon.com/sonsofpatriarchy Website: sonsofpatriarchy.com Donate: https://donorbox.org/sons-of-patriarchy   Deconstruction Doulas: https://www.deconstructiondoulas.com They Called Her Bitter: https://www.instagram.com/theycalledherbitter/   They Called Her Bitter explores stories that often go untold, stories shaped by grief, endurance, and the cost of telling the truth; offering language, validation, and perspective for those untangling from coercive belief systems and structures. Join Sarah Bader of Sons of Patriarchy and Margaret Bronson of Deconstruction Doulas for this NEW weekly series under the Sons of Patriarchy umbrella, beginning Thursday, February 19. Search They Called Her Bitter on your favorite podcast catcher, or continue listening on Sons of Patriarchy (it will be on both feeds), and subscribe to the Sons of Patriarchy YouTube channel if you'd like to watch!

    1 min

  12. JAN 31

    The REAL Story Behind the Cities Church Protest

    Media inquiries: https://www.sonsofpatriarchy.com/contact Patreon: patreon.com/sonsofpatriarchy Website: sonsofpatriarchy.com Donate: https://donorbox.org/sons-of-patriarchy   Deconstruction Doulas: https://www.deconstructiondoulas.com They Called Her Bitter: https://www.instagram.com/theycalledherbitter/   Get to know Margaret and Deconstruction Doulas. The launch of They Called Her Bitter. Sarah and Margaret's relationship and goal for the new podcast. The protests at Cities Church, Christ Kirk D.C., and Christ Church Moscow all share patterns and people, why is no one talking about them? Hillary Clinton's article in The Atlantic, "MAGA's War on Empathy" and the mainstream thought of Allie Beth Stuckey, Joe Rigney, Doug Wilson, Pete Hegseth, Christian Nationalism, and the CREC.

    1h 20m

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They Called Her Bitter explores stories that often go untold, stories shaped by grief, endurance, and the cost of telling the truth; offering language, validation, and perspective for those untangling from coercive belief systems and structures.

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  • Creator
    Sarah Bader & Margaret Bronson
  • Years Active
    2K
  • Episodes
    12
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026
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