This Love In Action

Kevin & Raychel
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When you look at social media, you’re bombarded with either the filtered “perfect couple” façade or the chaotic drama of toxic love. And when it comes to friends and family? The behind-closed-doors truth often stays hidden.On This Love In Action, we’re breaking that silence. Join us - a real, honest, growth-focused married couple - as we dive deep into the raw, unfiltered conversations everyone craves but rarely hears. From navigating attachment styles to healing family dynamics, tackling the tough stuff like trauma, sex, and everything in between, we’re pulling back the curtain on what it takes to create a thriving relationship.It’s time to talk about love the way it really is - messy, transformative, and worth it.

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  1. 3d ago

    What Is 'Mental Load' and Why Is It Destroying Marriages?

    This Love in Action: Episode 1 Show Notes What Is "Mental Load" and Why Is It Destroying Marriages? They almost didn't make it. Kevin and Raychel pull back the curtain on eight years together to get honest about the invisible workload, the "mother-son" dynamic, and the codependency that nearly broke their marriage before they built something real. Summary In their first episode, Kevin and Raychel reject the highlight-reel version of relationships shown on social media and reality TV in favor of an unfiltered look at what it actually takes to keep a marriage working. They break down "mental load," the constant, invisible mental tracking of a household's needs, and how it turned their dynamic into something closer to mother and son than two equal partners. It's a raw conversation about perfectionism, people-pleasing, shame, and the slow work of rebuilding trust after years of one partner carrying everything. Key Takeaways Mental load is the invisible tax of running a household. It's not the tasks themselves, it's the constant background tracking of appointments, groceries, schedules, and deadlines that never turns off.Perfectionism can quietly sabotage shared projects. Raychel's need to control the podcast's execution turned a shared vision into a one-person burden, while Kevin's people-pleasing meant he never pushed back or contributed his own ideas.Naming the pattern is the hard part, not the fix. It took repeated, exhausting conversations (and real defensiveness from Kevin) before the "mother-son" dynamic was even acknowledged.Trust has to be rebuilt through consistency, not declarations. Raychel didn't trust Kevin's follow-through until he showed a track record, not just a single grand gesture.Codependency runs both directions. Raychel admits she chose a partner who needed her and reinforced that need, meaning the imbalance wasn't something that just happened to her.Timestamps [00:00:00] Why they're finally doing this podcast, and why relationship content online is mostly fake[00:02:00] Eight years together, five married: how much they've each changed and what that means for staying together[00:04:00] The failed podcast attempt two years ago, and why trying again mattered[00:05:00] Raychel on stepping away from perfectionism and wanting the process to actually feel good[00:07:00] How perfectionism bled into the podcast itself, and Raychel "helicopter parenting" their creative process[00:08:00] Kevin's people-pleasing role, and how being a "yes man" fed the imbalance[00:09:00] Introducing the "mother-son" relationship dynamic[00:10:00] Defining mental load: the constant scanning and tracking no one sees[00:14:00] How Kevin actually learned to notice and take on tasks without being told[00:15:00] Why bringing up mental load over and over was exhausting for Raychel, and Kevin's defensiveness[00:19:00] Rebuilding trust after a history of dropped follow-through[00:20:00] Codependency as a two-way street: Raychel's own accountability[00:21:00] Closing thoughts and the invitation to follow alongResources & Links  Instagram: @thisloveinaction YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThisLoveInAction/featured

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When you look at social media, you’re bombarded with either the filtered “perfect couple” façade or the chaotic drama of toxic love. And when it comes to friends and family? The behind-closed-doors truth often stays hidden.On This Love In Action, we’re breaking that silence. Join us - a real, honest, growth-focused married couple - as we dive deep into the raw, unfiltered conversations everyone craves but rarely hears. From navigating attachment styles to healing family dynamics, tackling the tough stuff like trauma, sex, and everything in between, we’re pulling back the curtain on what it takes to create a thriving relationship.It’s time to talk about love the way it really is - messy, transformative, and worth it.

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  • Creator
    Kevin & Raychel
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    1
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 This Love In Action
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