This Wasn't the Plan

Tara Resnick
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This Wasn't the Plan is a podcast for women navigating life after the plan fell apart. Hosted by life coach Tara Resnick (@tararesnick), this podcast explores what happens when life takes an unexpected turn — and how women find themselves, rebuild, and thrive on the other side. Tara sits down with women who are childfree by circumstance, navigating infertility and IVF, healing from divorce, starting over in their 30s, 40s and 50's, grieving friendship breakups, and building unplanned lives that actually fit who they are now and they love. We talk about the messy middle. The grief and the hope. The both/and of loving your life while mourning what didn't happen. Trusting yourself. Choosing yourself. Loving yourself. And turning your plot twist into your power. If your life looks nothing like you planned — and you're figuring out what comes next — this podcast is for you. New episodes every Monday.

  1. 6D AGO

    To the Woman Nobody Sends Flowers To: A Mother's Day Episode for Childfree, Childless, and Every Woman in Between

    Mother's Day is complicated. And this episode is for every woman who feels like Sunday wasn't made for her. Whether you're navigating infertility, pregnancy loss, a failed IVF journey, or living childfree by circumstance - or you're grieving your mom, estranged from your mother, or simply struggling in ways the world doesn't talk about enough - this one is for you. In this episode we talk about: Why Mother's Day is hard for so many women in so many different waysHow to actually get through the weekend without losing yourselfWhy your worth has never been tied to being a motherWhat it really means to be whole exactly as you areWhy every single thing you have built and survived deserves to be celebrated You are not what didn't happen to you. You are everything you chose to become anyway. This episode was released early - on Saturday instead of Monday - because some of you needed it before Sunday. Not after. New creator from this community alert! My brave and powerful friend and former podcast guest is sharing her journey on TikTok. Go follow @victoria.in.progress for everything from her IVF Journey to childfree by circumstance to decluttering! Connect with Tara Resnick: Instagram: @tararesnick TikTok: @tara_resnick www.tararesnick.com

    15 min

  2. MAY 4

    When the Strong Woman Breaks: The Hidden Cost of Overfunctioning

    What happens when the woman who holds everything together finally falls apart? In this raw and honest episode, I open up about a breaking point that changed everything — and why it had nothing to do with the parking machine that set it off. After 13 hours alone managing a family health crisis, I hit my limit and cried for three hours. But this episode isn't about that day. It's about the lifetime of overfunctioning, carrying, and absorbing that led to it. I break down why some of us become "the strong one," what happens when you finally stop, the guilt cycle that follows, and how to sit in the discomfort of disrupting patterns that were never sustainable. I also talk about how overfunctioning can often be self-abandonment and how choosing yourself is not selfish. Plus: life updates on dating, making new friends in your 30's and 40's, and falling deep into a drugstore beauty rabbit hole. Connect with Tara Resnick: Instagram: @tararesnick TikTok: @tara_resnick

    28 min

  3. APR 20

    To Every Woman in Her 30s: I'm 43 and Here are the Life Lessons you Actually Need Hear

    What do women over 40 wish they had known in their 30s? I’m 43, and here’s the truth I learned the hard way. In this episode of This Wasn't the Plan, I share the life lessons I wish someone had told me in my 30s about relationships, boundaries, people pleasing, fertility and starting over. These are the lessons that cost me alot - staying too long in the wrong relationships, losing myself trying to keep the peace, and hard truths women need to hear. I open up about navigating IVF as a single woman in my 40s, rebuilding my identity after heartbreak, and what it really takes to start over when life doesn’t go according to plan. If you’re in your 30s and feel behind, stuck in a relationship that isn’t changing, or questioning your next chapter, this episode will speak directly to you. This is the conversation I wish someone had the courage to have with me sooner. In this episode, I share: What waiting for the wrong partner to change really costs youWhy people pleasing is self-abandonment and how to stop losing yourselfThe truth about setting boundaries and why it feels uncomfortable at firstHow to start over in your 30s or 40s when life doesn’t go as plannedThe one person who was always responsible for saving me Connect with Tara Resnick: Instagram: @tararesnick TikTok: @tara_resnick https://tararesnick.com/

    29 min

  4. APR 13

    Ask Us Anything: Divorce, Infertility, Friendship Breakups, Healing & Starting Over (With Jess & Victoria)

    This week I’m joined by two women who know what it means to rewrite the plan - and do the deep personal growth work that comes with it. Jess (@thegreatdetour) married her high school sweetheart and at 35 made the brave decision to leave a toxic relationship and start completely over. Victoria (@victoriamahoney29) spent years navigating infertility and IVF before choosing to stop treatments and build a life that looks different than she imagined - and is beautiful because of it. Together we’re answering YOUR questions in a full Ask Us Anything episode covering divorce, friendship breakups, healing from toxic relationships, being childfree by circumstance, what emotional maturity actually looks like and life when the plan falls apart and you have to find yourself again. This one felt less like a podcast and more like three women having an honest conversation over drinks — and we think you’re going to feel every bit of it. In this episode we cover: • Navigating divorce and the identity shift that comes with it • Healing from toxic relationships and what recovery really looks like • Friendship breakups — why they happen and how to heal • Choosing to stop IVF and what life looks like on the other side • Personal growth and emotional maturity through life’s hardest chapters • What “starting over” actually means at 35, 40 and beyond • How to build a life that wasn’t the plan — but is yours This Wasn’t the Plan is the podcast for women navigating infertility, life after IVF, being childfree by circumstance, divorce, breakups, reinvention, healing, personal growth, and the beautiful, hard work of starting over.

    1h 10m

  5. MAR 30

    How Long Does Healing Actually Take? The Honest Truth About Your Body, Identity, and Starting Over

    Six months ago, something ended. For me it was IVF, and the dream of a life I'd spent years trying to build. But this episode isn't just about infertility - it's about what happens after any hard chapter closes and you're left figuring out who you are now. This is my honest six-month update. Not the performed version. Not the "look how far I've come" highlight reel. The real one - including the parts I've been embarrassed to say out loud. I talk about what genuine healing actually looks like when you're still in it. I talk about your body after it's been through something - hormonal shifts, grief weight, the strange experience of looking in the mirror and not quite recognizing yourself. And I talk about why six months is nothing. Why your body, your identity, and your sense of self take so much longer to recalibrate than anyone tells you - especially in your late thirties, forties, and fifties. If you've come out of a divorce, a loss, a fertility journey, a career ending, or any chapter that took more from you than you expected - this one is for you. In this episode: What healing looks like when you're surprised by your own progress but not yet doneWhy your body isn't failing you — it's just on its own timelineThe truth about recovering physically after something hormonally or emotionally significantWhy comparison to who you were before is an unfair data setWhat's actually helped: the unsexy, repetitive, boring things that move the needleWhy consistency and grace will always outperform pressure and perfection Code PODCAST40 gets you 40% off the Reclamation Guide at www.tararesnick.com Connect with Tara Resnick: Instagram: @tararesnick TikTok: @tara_resnick https://tararesnick.com/

    29 min

  6. MAR 23

    Healing Your Relationship with Food and Your Body: Hormones, Weight & Starting Over with Gina Livy

    Nobody counted more carefully than you. Nobody tried harder. And it still didn't work — and that's not a coincidence, that's a system that was never built for your body. This week I'm sitting down with Gina Livy — weight loss expert, bestselling author, and founder of The Livy Method — a program specifically designed for women who are done with the diet-culture hamster wheel and ready for something that actually works. But before she became the go-to expert for hundreds of thousands of women? She pivoted. Hard. Gina shares her own story of turning life's unexpected turns into her greatest power — and how that journey became the foundation of everything she now teaches. We get into ALL of it: Why calories in, calories out is one of the most dangerous oversimplifications in women's healthHow hormones, perimenopause, and menopause are running the show in ways nobody warned you aboutThe psychology behind our relationship with food — and why shame has never once made anyone healthierWhy ditching the scale, the measuring cups, and the counting might be the most radical thing you do for your bodyHow the real factors — stress, grief, identity loss, life upheaval — live in our bodies and affect our weight in ways traditional programs completely ignore This conversation hit different for me. Because so many of the women in this community are already doing the hard work of rebuilding their lives after something they didn't plan for — and their bodies are carrying that story too. You were never broken. You just never had the full picture. Gina Livy is the bold, purpose-driven founder and CEO of The Livy Method, a lifestyle behavior change program transforming weight loss by helping people focus on how they eat, think, and feel. As a best-selling author and keynote speaker, Gina has helped over 150,000 people ditch diets for good. With 30+ years of experience, she’s built a community in 55+ countries, with over 7M podcast downloads and a mission to make weight loss kind, accessible, and sustainable. The Livy Method Spring Live Session begins on April 20, 2026, and runs for 91 days. The program is hosted within a private Facebook community and includes access to the new Livy Method App, which features built-in LivyAI for a personal experience, along with ongoing support and guidance from their program specialists. Connect with Gina Livy: Instagram: @ginalivy https://livymethod.com Connect with Tara Resnick: Instagram: @tararesnick TikTok: @tara_resnick https://tararesnick.com/

    1h 14m

  7. MAR 16

    Why Adult Friendships End: My Experience with Friendship Breakups and the 3 Types of Friend Loss

    Losing a friend as an adult is one of the most common — and most untalked about — experiences we go through. And yet almost no one gives us permission to actually grieve it. In this honest solo episode, I share my own experiences losing a close friend during the hardest chapter of her life, and why that loss cracked something open I couldn't ignore. I walk through the three archetypes of friendship loss I developed, why adult friendships naturally shed as we grow, and why some people simply don't have the capacity for hard, honest conversations — and what that means for the relationships in your life. This episode is about normalizing friendship breakups, giving yourself permission to grieve them fully, and understanding why difficult life seasons will always reveal who's actually built to stay. Topics covered: Why adult friendships endFriendship breakups and growing apartHow to grieve a friendship endingAvoidant friendships and conflict avoidance in adultsLosing friends during hard life seasonsThe three types of friendship loss Connect with Tara: Instagram: @tararesnick TikTok: @tara_resnick https://tararesnick.com/

    32 min

  8. MAR 9

    How to Build Resilience and Heal After Life’s Unexpected Losses & Chapters with Blair Kaplan Venables

    Grief can come from infertility, lost dreams, identity shifts, divorce, career changes, or the life you thought you were going to have. In this episode, I sit down with grief and resilience expert Blair Kaplan Venables to talk about what it actually means to live through loss and come out the other side with purpose. Blair shares her personal story of navigating deep grief and how those experiences shaped her work helping others process loss, build resilience, and create meaning from painful chapters of life. Together we explore how grief shows up in ways we often ignore, why unprocessed grief can manifest physically, and how sharing our stories can help others heal. This conversation also dives into the unexpected paths life can take when things do not go according to plan - and how those plot twists can open the door to growth, purpose, and resilience. If you are navigating grief, rebuilding after loss, or learning how to live a life you never planned, this episode will remind you that healing is possible and that your pain can become part of your purpose. Connect with Tara Resnick: Instagram: @tararesnick TikTok: tara_resnick https://tararesnick.com/ Connect with Blair Kaplan-Venebles Instagram: @blairfromblairland https://blairkaplan.ca/ https://theglobalresilienceproject.com/

    55 min
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This Wasn't the Plan is a podcast for women navigating life after the plan fell apart. Hosted by life coach Tara Resnick (@tararesnick), this podcast explores what happens when life takes an unexpected turn — and how women find themselves, rebuild, and thrive on the other side. Tara sits down with women who are childfree by circumstance, navigating infertility and IVF, healing from divorce, starting over in their 30s, 40s and 50's, grieving friendship breakups, and building unplanned lives that actually fit who they are now and they love. We talk about the messy middle. The grief and the hope. The both/and of loving your life while mourning what didn't happen. Trusting yourself. Choosing yourself. Loving yourself. And turning your plot twist into your power. If your life looks nothing like you planned — and you're figuring out what comes next — this podcast is for you. New episodes every Monday.

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  • Creator
    Tara Resnick
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    31
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2026 Tara Resnick
  • Show Website
    This Wasn't the Plan

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