Unashamed Unafraid

Unashamed Unafraid
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Unashamed Unafraid is a show dedicated to being unashamed about sexual addiction recovery and unafraid of coming unto Christ for healing. Pornography and sexual addiction are not something you are stuck with to manage your whole life. We share real stories of recovery, the best resources, information from experts, and answer anonymous questions with those who know. All to help you on the path of being 100% healed from pornography and sexual addiction.

  1. 1d ago

    EP 228: Curtis' Story - Counterfeit Emotions

    In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Sam interviews Curtis Morley, who shifted from tech CEO and entrepreneur to “Emotionologist” after personal upheaval and a difficult divorce. Curtis explains his framework of “counterfeit emotions,” including shame as the counterfeit of guilt, misery as the counterfeit of pain, and sobriety as the counterfeit of recovery, emphasizing that recovery measures “how deep” rather than “how long.” He discusses dopamine dependence, why the problem is the need for pornography rather than pornography itself, and a bus metaphor for witnessing emotions and choosing authentic counterparts. Curtis outlines additional dyads (love/lust, kind/nice, excellence/perfectionism, joy/pleasure) and offers hope through his Be Whole method, plus shares the origin of his song “Whole Again,” inspired by his daughter’s healing after a rare blood disease. - - - Sign up or book a call with Curtis! www.counterfeitemotions.com/recovery- - -  In the sobriety world you often hear the saying it’s only a matter of time until… you have another relapse. In the recovery world it’s only a matter of time until… you overcome this for good.  Sobriety from pornography is only the first step, but most programs end there. It turns out that sobriety is actually the counterfeit of recovery. A false sense of security with blockers and filters but without curing the underlying issues. People have believed for decades that willpower and white knuckling is enough. That’s where the trap is. Sobriety is a life of fear and misery whereas recovery is full of joy and refined. There is so much hope for full recovery. Is possible. People are overcoming the struggle for good.  Freedom from the grind feels amazing to wake up every day with peace and hope.  Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.comTimestamps: 00:43 Sam's Recovery Check-In 02:00 Meet Curtis Morley - Emotionologist 02:59 Entrepreneur Dream Life 04:45 Divorce And Counterfeits 08:14 Pain Joy Breakthrough 10:47 Sobriety Versus Recovery 17:04 Digging Up The Demons 22:25 Lapse As A Gift 25:54 Identity Trap And Hope 28:39 Four Drivers Of Urges 30:58 What Recovery Really Means 32:38 Dopamine Cycle Explained 35:38 Rewriting Triggers for Peace 38:29 Emotional Bus Metaphor 39:28 Guilt vs Shame Research 43:20 Counterfeit Emotion Dyads 46:41 Authenticity and Peace 47:56 Hope and Be Whole Method 52:44 Whole Again Song Story

    EP 228: Curtis' Story - Counterfeit Emotions

  2. Aug 26

    EP 227: Live Unashamed - Breaking Isolation

    In this episode of Unashamed, Unafraid, Sam, Chris and Joshua discuss how isolation fuels relapse and undermines recovery from sexual addiction. Sam shares relapsing while his wife was away, connecting it to unprocessed emotions, blaming his spouse, and failing to plan for connection; the group emphasizes ownership, accountability, and reaching out in temptation as a key recovery skill. Joshua describes months of isolation amid financial strain, work instability, and possible re-injury that removed fitness as a coping tool, plus feeling distant from God; a child’s spontaneous hug prompts him to recognize repeated “love notes” through people reaching out. They reject isolation as ineffective, commit to renewed community and group support, and invite listeners to email their plans to get connected. Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.comTimestamps: 01:31 Relapse and Heavy Heart02:25 Isolation Triggers04:48 Ownership Over Blame06:52 Make the Call09:08 Sobriety vs Recovery10:44 Refusing to Isolate13:29 Stressors Behind Isolation17:40 God Reaching Out21:20 Affirmations and Identity23:33 System for Temptation27:04 Commitments and Next Steps29:33 Audience Challenge and Wrap

    EP 227: Live Unashamed - Breaking Isolation

  3. Aug 19

    EP 226: Hypnotherapy and Porn Addiction

    In this episode of Unashamed, Unafraid, Sam and Austin welcome clinical hypnotherapist and master hypnotist Erin from familiesgettinghelp.com. Together, they explore how hypnotherapy functions as a powerful, non-traditional tool in sexual addiction recovery. Erin dispels common pop-culture myths surrounding hypnosis, breaks down the neurochemistry of shame, and demonstrates how tapping into theta brain waves allows clients to rewrite subconscious beliefs formed in childhood. The conversation dives deep into both bottom-up approaches—like shifting core identity and future pacing—and top-down somatic tools you can use in real-time to manage temptation. Whether you are struggling with unwanted behaviors or supporting someone who is, this episode offers actionable insights on integration, emotional regulation, and step-by-step healing. --- Families Getting Help helps people break free from the subconscious patterns that drive pornography use, rebuild trust and stronger relationships, and change the inner dialogue that keeps them stuck in unwanted patterns. Learn More: FamiliesGettingHelp.com Book Your Introduction Call Now: https://familiesgettinghelp.com/#ghl-calendar. Discount code: UNASHAMED Free Automatic Impulse Control Video: Want the free workshop where you learn how to automatically turn down a temptation? Go here - https://help.familiesgettinghelp.com/turndowntemptationsnow  ---- Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps03:40 - Introducing Guest Erin & Demystifying Hypnotherapy Basics08:33 - The Role of Shame, Dopamine Loops, & Neurochemistry in Addiction12:00 - Brain Waves, Subconscious Memories, & Rewiring Neural Pathways17:15 - Comparing Hypnotherapy to EMDR & Sam/Austin's Personal Experiences24:20 - Bottom-Up Identity Shift vs. Top-Down Somatic Recovery Tools27:50 - Automatic Impulse Control Demonstration: Using Somatic Tools for Urges32:55 - Connecting with Erin (FamiliesGettingHelp.com) & St. George/Zoom Services36:30 - Personal Readiness, Emotional Maturity, & Taking Recovery Ownership41:15 - Advice for Families, Final Takeaways on Identity, & Episode Sign-Off

    EP 226: Hypnotherapy and Porn Addiction

  4. Aug 12

    EP 225: Live Unashamed - Brotherhood is Not Optional

    In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Chris, Sam, Mason, and Austin discuss why building a real male brotherhood is essential—not optional—for recovering from sexual addiction. They explore the common hurdles men face in seeking support, such as fatherlessness, isolation, and the tendency to minimize their struggles rather than open up. The hosts emphasize that true brotherhood requires both deep vulnerability during moments of temptation and lighthearted fun to build genuine connection. Ultimately, they encourage listeners to stop isolating, step out in courage, and clearly communicate what they need from supportive peers to achieve lasting healing. Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps: 0:43 – Welcome to Unashamed, Unafraid & Four Brothers in the House2:18 – "Brotherhood is Not Optional" & Trying to Recover Alone4:05 – Mason & Sam’s Story: Realizing Dudes Don't Talk About Porn Addiction6:27 – Why Men Avoid Brotherhood: Fatherlessness & Unhealthy Patterns8:52 – The Wild Hearts Group & The Power of "Will You Pray For Me?"11:41 – Reaching Out Before a Relapse vs. Calling After the Fact14:08 – The Young Single Adult Trap: Isolation & Minimizing the Problem16:34 – Attending a Group vs. Actually Being Known19:12 – What Blocks Men From Making the Call During Temptation?21:55 – Balancing Dynamic Brotherhood: Serious Healing + Stupid Jokes24:23 – Teaching Other Dudes What You Need (Listening vs. Fixing)27:14 – Reaching Out & Community Meetup Announcements

    EP 225: Live Unashamed - Brotherhood is Not Optional

  5. Aug 5

    EP 224: Mike's Story

    This episode of Unashamed Unafraid introduces guests Mike (“Sacramento Mike”) and his son Weston, with Mike visiting Utah from Hawaii for his daughter’s wedding. Mike describes growing up in an LDS family near Sacramento, first encountering pornography at 11, becoming compulsively drawn to it, and being forcibly sexually assaulted by older boys around age 13–14, which deepened his shame and porn use; he later learned those boys were arrested for raping family members. At 18, after drug use, he prayed on a beach, quit drugs, served a mission in Ecuador, married, and raised a family while hiding a long-term pornography problem that escalated alongside law-enforcement work in Oakland and PTSD. After multiple deaths in his care and suicidal crises, he sought help, was retired from duty, and recounts a 2018 moment when his wife, prompted by God, prevented a planned suicide, helping him recognize God’s love. Mike has now been sober from pornography and sexual acting out for 8 years.  Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.comTimestamps:01:28 Wedding Weekend Banter03:02 First Exposure To Porn05:25 Sexual Assault And Confusion07:14 Shame And Silence08:43 Beach Prayer Wake Up11:32 Mission And Marriage13:51 Law Enforcement And Trauma15:22 Confessing and Hiding Secrets16:30 PTSD and Relapse Cycle18:14 Family Distance and Regrets21:07 Deaths on the Job23:24 Retired and Identity Crisis25:22 Therapy and Escalation26:10 2018 Suicide Crisis27:31 Gods Love and Closing28:25 The Dream32:59 Weston's thoughts on dad's recovery39:11 Life After Disclosure41:34 Warrior Heart Boot Camp49:15 Helping Other Men54:19 Gratitude by Brandon Lake

    EP 224: Mike's Story

  6. Jul 28

    EP 223: Live Unashamed - Recovery Check-in

    In this episode, James, Sam, Joshua, and Mason sit down for a follow-up on the commitments they made in past episodes (EP 151: Filling the Void of Addiction and EP 193: How Can I Trust God?). They dive open-honestly into what accountability actually looks like in practice—from putting software on phones to actively battling for true brotherhood and moving away from transactional faith to find God directly in the present moment and pain. Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps:01:29 – James’s update (Revisiting EP 151): Putting Ever Accountable on his phone and achieving over a year of sobriety03:20 – Healthy accountability vs. using tools to bypass inner healing05:10 – Proud of the journey: Overcoming the nonchalance and habit of slip-ups after 13 years06:50 – Sam’s update (EP 151): Overcoming father wounds and learning how to cultivate authentic brotherhood09:15 – Battling for your brothers: Second chances, slumber parties, and overcoming codependency11:20 – Joshua’s update (EP 151): Moving past checking religious boxes and learning to trust God with hard conversations14:30 – Facing the fear of outcomes: Asking God for direction instead of avoiding conflict15:30 – Mason’s update (Revisiting EP 193): Shifting away from black-and-white thinking and learning to feel pain16:15 – Redefining recovery: Finding a true relationship with God beyond just quitting pornography18:15 – Psalm 23: How God prepares a table for us in the presence of difficulty, not just comfort20:20 – Finding God in the "Now": Moving past prayers focused only on the past or future22:15 – Closing commitments: Bringing Jesus into the center of brotherhood23:10 – How to reach out and wrap-up

    EP 223: Live Unashamed - Recovery Check-in

  7. Jul 21

    EP 222: Mike's Story

    Mike recounts early exposure to pornography, shame shaped by church messaging, family dynamics, and later learning his biological father’s sexual addiction, then baptizing him before his mission. He describes a canceled temple wedding due to church discipline, continued struggles after marriage, and his shift toward inner work, self-compassion, and a reframe of repentance as metanoia—a fresh view of self, God, and the world—emphasizing wholeness over perfection and connection as the antidote. He recommends “Lean on Me” as his recovery song. He discusses his pivot from branding and graphic design into men’s work, retreats, and breathwork, including co-founding the HEARE Brotherhood. Connect with Mike and get resources here: - www.thelightinus.org- www.hearebros.com- LinkedIn Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.comTimestamps:01:11 Making Repair Story03:05 Meet Mike Allen03:20 Career Pivot and Purpose06:32 Family Crest Breakthrough07:41 First Mens Retreat Leap10:05 Breathwork Heart Opening12:22 HearBrotherhood Origin13:46 Early Porn Exposure14:39 Family Context and Masculinity17:28 Shame and Church Messages20:43 Bio Dad Addiction Reveal23:11 Baptizing His Dad23:48 Engagement Secrets25:02 Recommend Taken Away27:40 Wedding Canceled30:28 Marriage Did Not Fix It31:24 Beyond Twelve Steps34:51 Metanoia Not Shame37:30 Opposition And Shadow40:04 Golden Nuggets45:06 Find Mike Online45:47 Lean On Me Finale

    EP 222: Mike's Story

  8. Jul 14

    EP 221: Live Unashamed - Fire the Old God

    Sam, Mason, James, and Austin discuss “firing the old God and hiring the new one.” They define the “old God” as transactional, shaming, distant, perpetually disappointed, and often rooted in childhood, family-of-origin dynamics. The "old God" is a false God that uses reward systems, shame, and sometimes spiritual manipulation. To embrace a new God, you can: 1. Explicitly name false beliefs about God, 2. Identify their impact on relationships, nervous system3. Reality-test beliefs through scripture and Christ’s character4. Examine how the belief once protected parts of the self5. Grieve the loss of the familiar but harmful God-image, and 6. Use rituals (termination letter, speaking aloud, burning notes) to “fire” it. To close, Austin recommends John Eldredge’s One Minute Pause App feature "20 Days to Experience Jesus.” Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps: 01:19 Meet the Old God03:27 Where Shame Begins05:38 Why Fire Him08:29 Dismantle the Belief10:45 Grieve the Old Image12:03 Steps and Rituals14:52 Hire the New God16:47 Relational Exposure Practice17:47 Relapse and Rework20:30 Resources and Reflections22:05 Listener Challenge Outro

    EP 221: Live Unashamed - Fire the Old God
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Unashamed Unafraid is a show dedicated to being unashamed about sexual addiction recovery and unafraid of coming unto Christ for healing. Pornography and sexual addiction are not something you are stuck with to manage your whole life. We share real stories of recovery, the best resources, information from experts, and answer anonymous questions with those who know. All to help you on the path of being 100% healed from pornography and sexual addiction.

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  • Creator
    Unashamed Unafraid
  • Years Active
    2016 - 2026
  • Episodes
    224
  • Rating
    Explicit
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