Unrelenting Pursuit

Brad and Lisa Valencia
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Whether you're facing challenges, navigating a crisis, enjoying a strong marriage, or dreaming of one in the future—we invite you to join us. We’re all about keeping it raw, unfiltered, and real, with plenty of laughter along the way, all while keeping our focus on Jesus. Together, let’s walk through the highs and lows of marriage with faith, authenticity, and joy!

  1. 3D AGO

    197. Stop Calling It “Too Much,” : The weight you are meant to carry

    We live in a world that constantly tells us we’re overwhelmed, overbooked, and at capacity—but what if that’s not the full truth? In this episode, we talk about the difference between being overloaded and being misaligned. Because sometimes it’s not that we’re carrying too much… it’s that we’re carrying the wrong things. Learning to increase your capacity isn’t about doing more—it’s about becoming stronger. It’s about letting go of what doesn’t matter, picking up what does, and allowing God to stretch you in the process. You are meant to carry the weight of the roles God has entrusted to you, and that weight is heavy because it is valuable and worth carrying. If you’ve been feeling like life is “too much,” this episode will help you step back, reassess, and realign—so you can carry what you were actually created for. As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here.  linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit

    59 min

  2. APR 8

    196. The Power of Solitude: Quieting the Noise to Hear God

    In this episode, we’re talking about something that sounds simple… but is actually deeply challenging—solitude. What happens when God asks you to lay down not just sin, but your wants, your noise, and your need to stay busy? I share personally how difficult it has been to quiet my mind and sit still before Him—and what He’s been revealing in that space. If your mind feels constantly full and slowing down feels uncomfortable, you’re not alone. This is an invitation into something deeper. As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here.  linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit

    55 min

  3. APR 1

    195. Fix the Weakest Link: The Truth About Stewarding Your Life

    You can’t build a strong life on weak foundations. In this episode, we challenge the idea that doing “well overall” is enough. Because if one pillar is weak—your spiritual life, your health, your emotions, your relationships, your work, or your finances—it will eventually impact everything. We share where we’ve struggled personally and invite you to take a real, honest inventory of your own life. As Preston Morrison says, “When you give yourself what you want, you might get a little happier… but when you give yourself what you need, you will get a lot stronger.” This is your moment to stop avoiding—and start strengthening. As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here.  linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit

    59 min

  4. MAR 25

    194. Fix- It Focused: Can You Work on Your Marriage Too Much?

    There is a point in marriage restoration where working on the relationship can quietly turn into overworking the relationship. Every conversation becomes serious. Every interaction becomes an evaluation. Every moment together feels like it has to produce progress. Without realizing it, you can slip into fix-it mode — where connection is replaced with pressure, safety is replaced with performance, and joy is replaced with constant analysis. In this episode, we talk about how real healing doesn’t come from forcing breakthrough conversations or trying to solve years of pain overnight. It comes from learning to take one step at a time. You’ll learn why laughter is not avoidance — it’s regulation. Why celebrating small wins builds emotional safety. Why balance is essential if you want your spouse to stay open instead of shut down. We’ll also unpack how creating moments of lightness, shared enjoyment, and genuine appreciation can rebuild the foundation that hard conversations actually stand on. Because the truth is — people talk when they feel connected, safe, seen. And marriages heal when pressure is replaced with steady, faith-filled progress. If you’ve been feeling exhausted from trying to “fix everything,” this episode will help you slow down, refocus, and move forward with wisdom, intention, and hope. As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here.  linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit

    45 min

  5. MAR 18

    193. Moving Toward Security: Attachment Styles Can Change

    Secure attachment is not about being perfect - In this final episode of our attachment series, we talk about what it looks like to live and love from a place of emotional security. Secure individuals are able to communicate clearly, handle conflict without panic, and remain present even when relationships feel uncomfortable. We will explore how secure attachment shows up in marriage, parenting, and leadership — and why people who feel emotionally safe create environments where others can thrive. If you’ve ever wondered whether attachment style can change, the answer is yes. Through healing relationships, self-awareness, emotional regulation, and consistent corrective experiences, many people move toward what is called earned secure attachment. Attachment explains behavior — but it does not excuse it. Growth toward security looks like slower reactions, clearer communication, and the ability to stay connected even in discomfort. There is hope. Security can be learned and is ultimately anchored in Christ!  As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here.  linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit

    1h 3m

  6. MAR 11

    192. When You Want Love but Fear It: Understanding Fearful-Avoidant Attachment

    Have you ever felt like part of you deeply wants connection… but another part of you doesn’t trust it? Fearful-avoidant attachment lives in that tension. In this episode, we talk about the push–pull cycle that happens when someone both craves closeness and fears it. This attachment style often forms in chaotic or traumatic environments, and it can create emotional swings, confusion about needs, and instability in relationships. We’ll look at how fearful-avoidant attachment shows up in marriage, parenting, and leadership, and why conflict can feel so overwhelming for someone wired this way. If you’ve ever wondered why relationships can feel both deeply desired and deeply threatening at the same time, this episode will help bring clarity—and hope for healing. As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here.  linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit

    55 min

  7. MAR 4

    191. I’ll Handle It Myself: The Heart of Avoidant Attachment

    In this episode of Unrelenting Pursuit, we’re diving into avoidant (dismissive) attachment — the style that often says, “I’ll handle this myself.” Avoidant attachment isn’t about not caring. It’s about learning early on that emotions felt unsafe or overwhelming — so independence became protection. We explore how this plays out in: Marriage — withdrawing during conflict, struggling to verbalize emotions, and appearing distant even when committed. Parenting — emphasizing independence, minimizing feelings, and offering solutions instead of empathy. Leadership — strong and decisive, yet sometimes intimidating or emotionally unavailable. If you’ve ever felt more comfortable being self-sufficient than emotionally open, or are married to someone who is, this episode is for you. As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here.  linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit

    49 min

  8. FEB 25

    190. The Ache to Be Secure: Anxious Attachment Explained

    In this episode, we take a deep dive into anxious attachment—what it is, how it forms, and how it quietly shapes the way we love, lead, and parent. If you’ve ever felt afraid of being abandoned, needed constant reassurance, or found yourself overthinking every conversation or conflict, you may lean toward an anxious attachment style. Many people with anxious attachment love deeply, give generously, and care intensely—but inside, there can be a constant fear: “What if I’m not enough?” We’ll talk about how anxious attachment shows up: In marriage: • Fear of rejection or abandonment • Needing constant reassurance • Overanalyzing your spouse’s tone, words, or actions • Feeling like you care more than they do In parenting: • Struggling with fear when children pull away or gain independence • Over-protecting or over-involving yourself in their lives • Tying your worth to your child’s behavior or affection In leadership: • People-pleasing to avoid conflict • Difficulty making firm decisions • Taking criticism very personally • Feeling crushed when others are disappointed But there is hope. God is not anxious in His love for you. He is steady, secure, and faithful. As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here.  linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit

    1h 4m
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Whether you're facing challenges, navigating a crisis, enjoying a strong marriage, or dreaming of one in the future—we invite you to join us. We’re all about keeping it raw, unfiltered, and real, with plenty of laughter along the way, all while keeping our focus on Jesus. Together, let’s walk through the highs and lows of marriage with faith, authenticity, and joy!

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  • Creator
    Brad and Lisa Valencia
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    197
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Brad and Lisa Valencia
  • Show Website
    Unrelenting Pursuit