Unshaming AuDHD

Jes Diverges
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Welcome to UnShaming AuDHD - a podcast for autistic ADHDers who want to remove shame, blame, and guilt from their lives and replace them with curiosity, compassion, and joy. I'm your host, Jes Diverges, and I'm here to help you reconnect to the authentic and unapologetic version of yourself that's been hidden away by systemic, interpersonal, and intergenerational shame. My goal with each episode is that you walk away feeling at least 1% more seen, heard, valued, and loved, because you belong here. You have *always* belonged here. Let's get into it.

  1. Sep 11

    015: How To Avoid Burning Out While Recovering From AuDHD Burnout

    In this episode of UnShaming AuDHD, hosts Jes Diverges and Javelin Laurence explore how neurodivergent individuals can avoid burning out while attempting to recover from or prevent AuDHD burnout. They unpack how traditional self-care or recovery practices often turn into rigid expectations that compound exhaustion and prolong recovery. The hosts define AuDHD burnout as a deep mismatch between demands and capacity, contrasting it with standard career burnout and highlighting severe impacts like skill regression. To catch approaching burnout early, Jes and Javelin share personal yellow and red flags, including apathy toward favorite hobbies, difficulty cooking, and heightened irritability. They discuss practical, low-demand strategies such as "no expectation days" and "task tiering" to safely lower life's difficulty volume and dismantle all-or-nothing thinking. Finally, the hosts emphasize radical acceptance, releasing artificial urgency, and honoring one's individual capacity without guilt or shame. Autistic Burnout Scale: https://www.instagram.com/p/DDPwf42uNwl/ Jes’s AuDHD Allowed & Out Loud program: https://www.jesdiverges.com/allowedandoutloud Jav’s Coaching For Queer Artists In Alberta, CA: https://www.alchemycoaching.ca/free-coaching-program Other Links & Resources: Javelin’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/javelinlaurence Javelin’s Coaching Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alchemydivergencecoaching Javelin's Website: https://www.alchemycoaching.ca/ Jes’s Website: ⁠https://www.jesdiverges.com⁠ Jes’s Email: ⁠⁠jes@jesdiverges.com⁠⁠ Join Jes’s Combo Platter Community: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/jesdiverges Jes’s Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/jesdiverges⁠ Jes’s TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@jesdiverges⁠ Jes’s Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@jesdiverges⁠ Transcript Document: ⁠https://tinyurl.com/UnshamingAuDHDTranscripts⁠

    015: How To Avoid Burning Out While Recovering From AuDHD Burnout

  2. Mar 20

    014: How Spirituality, Magic, & AuDHD Collide, Pt. 2: Where We Are Now

    In this two-part episode, Jes and Javelin explore how growing up Catholic and evangelical (respectively) shaped their beliefs, and how they each found their way into witchcraft, tarot, and more expansive, queer-affirming spirituality. They talk about magic as “science we haven’t explained yet,” the power of placebo, talismans, and ritual, and why neurodivergent brains often thrive on phases instead of rigid consistency. Together, they unpack shame, “good vs bad person” thinking, capitalism, and the myth of being fundamentally broken—offering play, silliness, and wholehearted choice as deeply spiritual practices. Links: Javelin’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/javelinlaurence Javelin’s Coaching Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alchemydivergencecoaching Javelin's Webside: https://www.alchemydivergencecoaching.com Jes’s Website: ⁠https://www.jesdiverges.com⁠ Jes’s Email: ⁠⁠jes@jesdiverges.com⁠⁠ Join Jes’s Combo Platter Community: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/jesdiverges Jes’s Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/jesdiverges⁠ Jes’s TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@jesdiverges⁠ Jes’s Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@jesdiverges⁠ Transcript Document: ⁠https://tinyurl.com/UnshamingAuDHDTranscripts⁠

  3. Mar 20

    014: How Spirituality, Magic, & AuDHD Collide, Pt. 1: Where We Came From

    In this two-part episode, Jes and Javelin explore how growing up Catholic and evangelical (respectively) shaped their beliefs, and how they each found their way into witchcraft, tarot, and more expansive, queer-affirming spirituality. They talk about magic as “science we haven’t explained yet,” the power of placebo, talismans, and ritual, and why neurodivergent brains often thrive on phases instead of rigid consistency. Together, they unpack shame, “good vs bad person” thinking, capitalism, and the myth of being fundamentally broken—offering play, silliness, and wholehearted choice as deeply spiritual practices. Links: Javelin’s Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/javelinlaurence⁠ Javelin’s Coaching Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/alchemydivergencecoaching⁠ Javelin's Webside: ⁠https://www.alchemydivergencecoaching.com ⁠ Jes’s Website: ⁠⁠https://www.jesdiverges.com⁠⁠ Jes’s Email: ⁠⁠⁠jes@jesdiverges.com⁠⁠⁠ Join Jes’s Combo Platter Community: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/jesdiverges⁠ Jes’s Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/jesdiverges⁠⁠ Jes’s TikTok: ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@jesdiverges⁠⁠ Jes’s Substack: ⁠⁠https://substack.com/@jesdiverges⁠⁠ Transcript Document: ⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/UnshamingAuDHDTranscripts⁠⁠

  4. Feb 27

    013: What's In A Hobby?

    New co-host Javelin Laurence joins Jes to talk about all things hobbies as an autistic ADHDer. They discuss what makes a hobby a hobby, how auDHDers tend to interact with their hobbies (or not), and Javelin shares their three rules for sustainable, long lasting hobby-having. Links: Javelin’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/javelinlaurence Javelin’s Coaching Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alchemydivergencecoaching Jes’s Website: ⁠https://www.jesdiverges.com⁠ Jes’s Email: ⁠⁠jes@jesdiverges.com⁠⁠ Join Jes’s Combo Platter Community: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/jesdiverges Jes’s Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/jesdiverges⁠ Jes’s TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@jesdiverges⁠ Jes’s Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@jesdiverges⁠ Transcript Document: ⁠https://tinyurl.com/UnshamingAuDHDTranscripts⁠

    013: What's In A Hobby?

  5. Jan 21

    012: What Is Unshaming?

    In this episode, I dive into what I actually mean when I say “unshaming auDHD.” I discuss how shame is not an emotion, but a lens through which we learn to view ourselves. I also talk about where shame comes from, and how to acknowledge and work with it by developing a counteractive voice called a loving witness. David Bedrick’s website: www.davidbedrick.com Other Links & Resources: Individual Coaching: www.jesdiverges.com/individualcoaching AuDHD Summer Camp: www.jesdiverges.com/audhdsummercamp Join The Combo Platter: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/jesdiverges Jes’s Website: ⁠https://www.jesdiverges.com⁠ Jes’s Email: ⁠⁠jes@jesdiverges.com⁠⁠ Join My Email List: ⁠https://www.jesdiverges.com/newsletter⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/jesdiverges⁠ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@jesdiverges⁠ Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@jesdiverges⁠ Transcript Document: ⁠https://tinyurl.com/UnshamingAuDHDTranscripts⁠

  6. 07/09/2025

    011: I Think I'm AuDHD... What the #&@! Do I Do Now??

    In this episode, Jes goes into all the basics that you need to know if you’re just starting to realize that you’re an autistic ADHDer as an adult. They talk about the pros and cons of getting an official diagnosis (yes, there are cons), as well as some steps you can take with a perfectly valid self-diagnosis in order to learn more about your auDHD brain and how to accommodate yourself. Self-Assessments: https://embrace-autism.com/autism-tests/ Neurodivergent Therapist Directories: https://psychologytoday.com https://liberatorywellnessnetwork.com https://neurodivergentpractitioners.org/ https://ndtherapists.com/ My Services: https://jesdiverges.com/comboplatter https://jesdiverges.com/audhdsummercamp https://jesdiverges.com/individualcoaching Other Links: Jes’s Website: ⁠https://www.jesdiverges.com⁠ Jes’s Email: ⁠⁠jes@jesdiverges.com⁠⁠ Join My Email List: ⁠https://www.jesdiverges.com/newsletter⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/jesdiverges⁠ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@jesdiverges⁠ Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@jesdiverges⁠ Transcript Document: ⁠https://tinyurl.com/UnshamingAuDHDTranscripts⁠

  7. 06/02/2025

    010: Deconstructing Your Lens for Disability

    In this solo episode of UnShaming auDHD, host Jes Diverges unpacks the complex world of disability models, offering a nuanced exploration of how society understands neurodivergence. Critically examining the medical, social, and holistic models, Jes challenges deficit-based thinking and shares her preferred holistic approach that recognizes disability as an intersectional experience shaped by biological, psychological, and societal factors. Drawing from personal insights and scholarly research, she advocates for a balanced perspective that celebrates neurodiversity, challenges systemic barriers, and provides meaningful accommodations. This episode, which serves as an introduction to her upcoming book, offers listeners a compassionate and empowering view of disability that goes beyond traditional diagnostic frameworks. (episode description & transcript generated by otter.ai) Links & Other Resources: Book mentioned: Decolonizing Therapy by Dr. Jennifer Mullan Creator mentioned: Rebecca, 15 Tenets of White Supremacy series & LOTS of other great content: https://patreon.com/whitewomanwhisperer Models of Disability Article: https://autistictic.com/2020/02/14/the-holistic-model-of-disability/#:~:text=The Holistic Model of Disability recognizes that every disabled person's,and could improve their life. Autistic vs. Allistic Morals Study (TW for strong deficit language against autists): https://autistictic.com/2020/02/14/the-holistic-model-of-disability/#:~:text=The Holistic Model of Disability recognizes that every disabled person's,and could improve their life. Join The Combo Platter: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/jesdiverges Jes’s Website: ⁠https://www.jesdiverges.com⁠ Jes’s Email: ⁠⁠jes@jesdiverges.com⁠⁠ Join My Email List: ⁠https://www.jesdiverges.com/newsletter⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/jesdiverges⁠ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@jesdiverges⁠ Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@jesdiverges⁠ Transcript Document: ⁠https://tinyurl.com/UnshamingAuDHDTranscripts⁠

  8. 04/30/2025

    009: Masking, Misdiagnosis, and More w/ Javelin Laurence

    In this episode, Jes sits down with Javelin Laurence to explore the complexities of psychology through a neurodivergent lens. They discuss Javelin's journey of self-discovery, from early fascinations with personality tests to understanding their ADHD and autistic identity. The conversation delves into the limitations of Western psychology, the challenges of misdiagnosis, and the importance of recognizing individual experiences in mental health. Javelin shares insights from their coaching work and personal experiences, offering a critical and compassionate perspective on neurodiversity. (Episode description & transcript generated by otter.ai) Links & Resources: Book Mentioned: Neurotribes by Steve Silberman Javelin’s Website & Blog: https://www.alchemycoaching.ca Javelin’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alchemydivergencecoaching Javelin’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@JavelinLaurence Other Links & Resources: Join The Combo Platter: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/jesdiverges Jes’s Website: ⁠https://www.jesdiverges.com⁠ Jes’s Email: ⁠⁠jes@jesdiverges.com⁠⁠ Join My Email List: ⁠https://www.jesdiverges.com/newsletter⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/jesdiverges⁠ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@jesdiverges⁠ Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@jesdiverges⁠ Transcript Document: ⁠https://tinyurl.com/UnshamingAuDHDTranscripts⁠

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Welcome to UnShaming AuDHD - a podcast for autistic ADHDers who want to remove shame, blame, and guilt from their lives and replace them with curiosity, compassion, and joy. I'm your host, Jes Diverges, and I'm here to help you reconnect to the authentic and unapologetic version of yourself that's been hidden away by systemic, interpersonal, and intergenerational shame. My goal with each episode is that you walk away feeling at least 1% more seen, heard, valued, and loved, because you belong here. You have *always* belonged here. Let's get into it.

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  • Creator
    Jes Diverges
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    17
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Jes Diverges
  • Show Website
    Unshaming AuDHD

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