We Don't Deserve Men

Kayla Yoder
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We Don't Deserve Men is a show dedicated to shifting the dynamic between men and women from competition to cooperation.

  1. 12/18/2025

    40. Are Dating Coaches Making Things Worse? with Justin Leff

    *]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-(--header-height)" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "d499a4f8-304a-4b1a-92b8-4049b0bbcef9" data-testid= "conversation-turn-111" data-scroll-anchor="false" data-turn= "user"> In this episode, Kayla & Justin delve into the phenomenon of dating coaches, discussing its impacts on the dating landscape. They explore the challenges of data collection in the dating industry, the unregulated nature of dating coaching, and its performative aspects. The conversation shifts towards broader societal influences, such as the effects of birth control, shifting gender dynamics, and the rise of polyamory. They also address the role of the internet in exacerbating confusion and inauthenticity in modern relationships. Finally, they touch upon potential solutions, emphasizing the need for curiosity, personal responsibility, and fostering meaningful conversations.   00:00 Welcome Back, Justin! 00:34 Diving into the World of Dating Coaches 03:05 The Unregulated Realm of Dating Coaches 04:09 The Complexity of Human Interaction in Dating 13:51 The Role of Men and Women in Dating Dynamics 19:07 The Impact of Birth Control on Dating and Relationships 33:19 The Rise of Dating Coaches and Sex Work 48:16 The Disconnect Between Men and Women 53:15 The Importance of Romantic Relationships 54:37 The Rise of Non-Monogamy and Its Implications 55:47 Conflict Management and Relationship Challenges 57:15 Polyamory as a Band-Aid Solution 01:03:12 The Role of Dating Coaches and Performative Dating 01:11:21 The Impact of the Internet on Dating and Relationships 01:20:57 Behavioral Awareness Coaching and Individual Solutions 01:22:58 The Complexity of Modern Relationships 01:35:00 Optimism and Solutions for the Future   *]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "22d808c6-0adf-47c9-a3d3-18edfe3cd7eb" data-testid= "conversation-turn-112" data-scroll-anchor="false" data-turn= "assistant"> Get in touch with Justin:  Website: https://www.soliliumcoaching.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/soliliumthoughts/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoliliumThoughts/   Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global  IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/

    1h 42m

  2. 12/10/2025

    39. The Stay-at-Home Dad Era: Redefining Fatherhood with Laurence Chinery from The Dad Dialogue

    In this episode of 'We Don't Deserve Men,' host Kayla Yoder welcomes Laurence, the creator of The Dad Dialogue Podcast, for an in-depth conversation about his experiences as a stay-at-home dad. Laurence shares insights from his podcast, discussing its origins, purpose, and the invaluable lessons learned from engaging in deep conversations with other fathers. He reflects on the different challenges and rewards that dads face compared to moms and emphasizes the importance of meaningful dialogue in parenting. Laurence also delves into his personal journey, including the dynamics of his relationship with his wife, the impact of their faith on their family, and the societal perceptions of non-traditional gender roles. Additionally, the episode touches on strategies for maintaining relationship polarity and the significance of communication and respect in a marriage. Through Laurence's narrative, listeners gain a comprehensive understanding of modern fatherhood, the importance of adapting roles in a partnership, and the benefits of living authentically and cooperatively. 00:00 Welcome to 'We Don't Deserve Men' 00:38 Introducing The Dad Dialogue Podcast 02:01 The Challenges and Rewards of Deep Conversations 03:24 Differences in Parenting: Dads vs. Moms 03:50 Advice for New Dads 10:51 The Stay-at-Home Dad Journey 13:32 Adapting to New Roles and Responsibilities  16:36 Balancing Family and Personal Fulfillment 26:21 Maintaining a Strong Marriage 38:51 Respect and Boundaries in Parenting 42:58 Understanding Children's Comprehension 43:18 The Importance of Respect in Relationships 44:02 Egalitarian Relationships: 50/50 or 80/80? 46:34 Honoring Differences in Marriage 51:42 Leading the Family with Faith 01:09:02 Boundaries and Communication in Marriage 01:18:39 Challenges and Joys of Being a Man 01:24:58 Final Thoughts and Reflections   Dad Dialigue:  Website: https://www.daddialogue.co.uk/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/daddialogue/     Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global  IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/

    1h 31m

  3. 12/03/2025

    38. Real Men Feel: Rethinking Masculinity with Andy Grant

    In this episode, the host welcomes Andy Grant, an author, coach, healer, and host of the Real Man Feel podcast. Andy shares his journey of personal growth, discussing how he transitioned from traditional male stoicism to embracing emotions. He emphasizes the importance of men acknowledging their feelings and the societal challenges that hinder this process, such as cultural expectations and gender norms. The conversation covers men's emotional health, the role of supportive relationships, and the benefits of men's groups. Additionally, Andy explores the impact of women's empowerment on men's identities and relationships. Practical tips for improving communication and fostering emotional intelligence are shared, along with the significance of balance and harmony in personal development. This episode provides valuable insights into how men and women can better understand and support each other in their emotional journeys.   00:00 Introduction and Guest Background 01:19 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Service 02:52 Challenges Men Face Today 04:24 Impact of Women's Empowerment on Men 08:33 The Importance of Emotional Expression 16:34 Men's Groups and Safe Spaces 36:17 Navigating Relationships and Self-Love 40:49 The Nature of Men's Problem-Solving 41:14 Challenges in Women's Groups 41:49 Building Trust and Communication 43:27 Men's Emotional Vulnerability 45:30 Supporting Men in Emotional Expression 47:11 Communication Differences Between Genders 52:27 The Importance of Clear Communication 58:54 Men's Emotional Expression and Solitude 01:06:45 Encouraging Men to Seek Help 01:08:23 Resources for Men's Emotional Health 01:09:51 Final Thoughts and Reflections 01:11:25 Guest's Personal Insights   Get in touch with Andy:  Website: https://theandygrant.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/theandygrant/ Find Men's Groups: https://mensgroup.com/ Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global  IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/

    1h 16m

  4. 11/26/2025

    37. Dating in the Age of the Algorithm: Exploring the Effects of Social Media, Dating Apps & Only Fans with Layne

    In this episode, we explore the intersection of technology and online dating, discussing how social media, dating apps, and movies influence the dynamics between men and women. The conversation delves into the impact of online media on societal and cultural interactions, highlighting the challenges and changes in personal relationships. Takeaways Technology is reshaping how we connect. Online dating has transformed relationship dynamics. Social media influences perceptions of relationships. Dating apps offer both opportunities and challenges. Movies reflect and shape dating norms. Cultural dynamics are shifting with technology. Personal interactions are affected by online presence. The role of technology in relationships is complex. Social media can both connect and isolate people. Understanding technology's impact is crucial for relationships.   Chapters 00:00:29 Introduction and Welcome 00:00:38 Technology and Online Dating 00:00:56 Social Media's Societal Impact 00:09:53 Worldview and Cultural Shifts 00:23:25 Men's Perspective on Dating 00:36:33 Contributions of Social Media 00:50:36 Statistics and Superficiality 01:04:53 Rite of Passage in Dating 01:23:53 Importance of Experience 01:32:03 Common Experiences in Dating   Check out the For Reelz podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5YW92VODeKzHssmmbmwjxR?si=e145fa33b9864286     Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global  IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/

    1h 46m

  5. 11/19/2025

    36. Internal Jiu Jitsu: Conquering Mind and Body Resistance by Giving Way with Julio Rivera

    In this episode, Julio Rivera shares his journey of personal growth through Jiu-Jitsu, exploring how it serves as a metaphor for life. He discusses overcoming fear, the importance of mental health, and redefining masculinity. Julio's insights offer a unique perspective on using martial arts to navigate life's challenges and find authenticity. Keywords Jiu-Jitsu, personal growth, mental health, overcoming fear, masculinity Takeaways Jiu-Jitsu is a metaphor for life. Overcoming fear leads to personal growth. Martial arts can help find authenticity. Mental health is crucial for well-being. Redefining masculinity is important. Jiu-Jitsu teaches calmness in chaos. Personal experiences shape our journey. Helping others is a path to healing. Life's challenges offer new directions. Authenticity is key to happiness. Chapters 00:00:11 Introduction to Jiu-Jitsu as a Metaphor 00:06:10 Overcoming Fear and Personal Growth 00:15:07 Mental Health and Calmness 00:24:21 Practical Self-Defense and Empowerment 00:27:21 Freedom and Best Performance 00:55:49 Internal Jiu-Jitsu: The Book 00:58:36 Using Jiu-Jitsu to Navigate Life Get in touch with Julio:  Website: https://internaljiujitsu.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/internaljiujitsu/ Book: https://www.how2conquer.com/books/internal-jiu-jitsu/   Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global  IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/

    1h 22m

  6. 11/12/2025

    35. Is Wikipedia still a Boys' Club? An Exploration with Wikipedia Editor - Lane Rasberry

    Summary: In this episode, Kayla Yoder welcomes Lane Rasberry, a seasoned Wikipedia editor and the Wikimedian in Residence at the University of Virginia's School of Data Science. Lane shares insights into his extensive experience with Wikipedia, highlighting the gender imbalance within the platform's biographies and editorial community. The conversation delves into the challenges women face in the Wikipedia community, including harassment and underrepresentation, and explores broader societal issues of gender disparity. Lane emphasizes the importance of constructive collaboration and the role of technology, like AI, in shaping the future of information sharing. The discussion also touches on the differences in social media dynamics and the evolving landscape of gender roles. Keywords: Wikipedia, gender imbalance, editorial community, harassment, underrepresentation, societal issues, gender disparity, AI, technology, social media dynamics, gender roles Takeaways: Lane Rasberry's role as Wikimedian in Residence. Gender imbalance in Wikipedia's biographies. Challenges women face in the Wikipedia community. The role of AI in information sharing. Social media dynamics and gender roles. Constructive collaboration in addressing gender issues. The importance of reliable sources in Wikipedia. Differences in social media and Wikipedia. The evolving landscape of gender roles. Lane's insights on societal gender disparity. Chapters: 00:00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome 00:03:00 Lane's Background and Wikipedia Experience 00:09:00 Gender Imbalance in Wikipedia 00:18:00 Challenges Women Face 00:27:00 Role of AI and Technology 00:36:00 Social Media Dynamics 00:45:00 Evolving Gender Roles 00:54:00 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global  IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/

    1h 6m

  7. 02/06/2025

    34. The Real Reason Men Don't Go to Therapy (And What We Can Do About It) with Justin Leff

    In this episode of 'We Don't Deserve Men,' host Kayla Yoder engages in a profound discussion with Justin Leff, a behavioral awareness coach, about men's mental health. They explore why traditional therapy is less popular among men, whether it effectively addresses men's needs, and how mental health support for men can improve without compromising their identity or masculinity. Justin shares his fresh insights and emphasizes the importance of addressing the stigma around men's mental health and therapy. The conversation pivots on challenging societal norms, the impact of social media, and the importance of goal-oriented support systems for men. This episode aims to inspire listeners to initiate more conversations around men's mental health in their circles.   00:00 Introduction to Men's Mental Health 01:59 Meet Justin Leff: Behavioral Awareness Coach 03:28 Why Fewer Men Seek Therapy 06:10 Masculinity and Therapy: A Complex Relationship 08:33 Gender Differences in Therapy Approaches 25:58 The Role of Social Media in Shaping Masculinity 39:34 Historical Context of Gender Equality 41:14 Theories and Realities of Patriarchy 42:33 Social Media's Impact on Gender Dynamics 43:12 Challenges Facing Young Men Today 44:21 Conservative Shifts and Gender Roles 46:01 Balancing Individual Strength and Social Norms 50:05 Therapy and Mental Health Support for Men 01:02:39 Economic and Cultural Shifts Impacting Men 01:06:10 The Importance of Nuanced Conversations 01:10:35 Personal Reflections and Closing Thoughts   Get in touch with Justin:  Website: https://www.soliliumcoaching.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/soliliumthoughts/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoliliumThoughts/   Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global  IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/

    1h 17m

  8. 01/29/2025

    33. Where are the Role Models? The Impact of Media on Masculinity and Modern Manhood with Layne & Cole

    In this episode of 'We Don't Deserve Men,' Kayla Yoder is joined by Layne and Cole, hosts of the 'For Reelz' podcast. They discuss the significant influence of movies and media on masculinity and the modern man. The conversation covers topics such as unrealistic body standards set by superhero films, the portrayal of hyper-masculine figures and clueless buffoons, and the lack of relatable role models for young men. They also delve into the impact of political messaging in modern movies and its implications for men today. Layne and Cole offer valuable insights into these issues from their expertise in media and personal experiences as young men. This episode provides a thoughtful and nuanced exploration of how film and TV contribute to shaping men's identities and perceptions.   00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction 00:30 Discussing Media's Influence on Masculinity 04:40 Unrealistic Body Standards in Hollywood 06:44 Mental Health and Media Portrayals 13:35 The Hero Complex and Real-Life Expectations 17:28 Shifting Masculinity in Modern Media 30:40 Political Messaging in Movies 43:48 Movies vs. Social Media: Blurring the Lines 46:02 The Power of Storytelling: Let Writers Write 48:22 Empowering Women in Cinema: A Double-Edged Sword 52:14 Men's Mental Health: The Silent Struggle 56:02 Hollywood's Role in Shaping Gender Perceptions 01:04:16 Realistic Portrayals: The Key to Impactful Cinema   01:12:30 The Challenges and Joys of Being a Man 01:18:35 The Power of Women: Influence and Inspiration 01:25:11 Final Thoughts and Gratitude       Check out the For Reelz podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5YW92VODeKzHssmmbmwjxR?si=e145fa33b9864286     Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global  IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/

    1h 27m
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We Don't Deserve Men is a show dedicated to shifting the dynamic between men and women from competition to cooperation.

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  • Creator
    Kayla Yoder
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2025
  • Episodes
    39
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2024
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