
You Can’t Go Back to How It Was: Why Real Change in Marriage Starts with You
You miss how things used to be - when she smiled more, laughed at your jokes, and seemed happy to see you. But what you’re really missing isn’t her, it’s who you used to feel like in your marriage.
In this episode, we'll unpack why trying to get back to the past keeps you stuck, and how to move forward by rebuilding trust, connection, and confidence - starting from within.
You’ll learn:
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Why the “old version” of your relationship can’t come back and why that’s okay.
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What it means to show up differently instead of trying harder.
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How rebuilding your sense of worth changes everything in your marriage.
 
🎧 Listen now to discover what happens when you stop chasing the past and start becoming the man you actually want to be.
Mentioned Episode:
Ep 17 – Why You Keep Losing It https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VvT_AoE8DB4
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Information
- Show
 - FrequencyUpdated Weekly
 - PublishedOctober 24, 2025 at 6:00 AM UTC
 - Length20 min
 - RatingClean