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Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast delivers effective, compassionate, & science-based tools for anyone with Anxiety, OCD, Panic, and Depression.

Your Anxiety Toolkit - Anxiety & OCD Strategies for Everyday Kimberley Quinlan, LMFT

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Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast delivers effective, compassionate, & science-based tools for anyone with Anxiety, OCD, Panic, and Depression.

    Stop Doing These Things if You Have Panic Attacks | Ep. 377

    Stop Doing These Things if You Have Panic Attacks | Ep. 377

    In the realm of managing anxiety and panic attacks, we often find ourselves inundated with advice on what to do. However, the path to understanding and controlling these overwhelming experiences also involves recognizing what not to do. Today, we shed light on this aspect, offering invaluable insights for those grappling with panic attacks. 
    Stop doing these things if you are having panic attacks, and do not forget to be kind to yourself every step of the way. 

    1. DON'T TREAT PANIC ATTACKS AS DANGER It's a common reaction to perceive the intense symptoms of a panic attack—rapid heartbeat, dizziness, or a surge of fear—as signals of immediate danger. However, it's crucial to remind ourselves that while these sensations are incredibly uncomfortable, they are not inherently dangerous. Viewing them as mere sensations or thoughts rather than threats can create a helpful distance, allowing for more effective response strategies.
    2. DON'T FLEE THE SCENE The urge to escape a situation where you're experiencing a panic attack is strong. Whether you're in a grocery store, on an airplane, or in a social setting, the instinct to run away can be overwhelming. However, leaving can reinforce the idea that relief only comes from escaping, which isn't a helpful long-term strategy. Staying put, albeit challenging, helps break this association and builds resilience.
    3. DON'T ACCELERATE YOUR ACTIONS During a panic attack, there might be a tendency to speed up your actions or become hyper-vigilant in an attempt to alleviate the discomfort quickly. This response, however, can signal to your brain that there is a danger, perpetuating the cycle of panic. Slowing down your breath and movements can alter your brain's interpretation of the situation, helping to calm the storm of panic.
    4. AVOID RELIANCE ON SUBSTANCES Turning to alcohol or recreational drugs as a quick fix to dampen the intensity of a panic attack can be tempting. Nonetheless, this can lead to a dependency that ultimately exacerbates the problem. It's important to let panic's intensity ebb and flow naturally, without leaning on substances that offer only a temporary and potentially harmful reprieve.
    5. STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP Self-criticism and judgment can add fuel to the fire of anxiety and panic. It's vital to adopt a compassionate stance towards yourself, recognizing that experiencing panic attacks doesn't reflect personal failure or weakness. Embracing self-kindness can significantly mitigate the added stress of self-judgment, creating a more supportive environment for recovery.
    SEEKING SUPPORT Remember, you're not alone in this struggle. Whether through therapy, online courses, or community support, reaching out for help is a sign of strength. Resources like "Your Anxiety Toolkit" are there to remind you that it's possible to lead a fulfilling life, despite the challenges panic attacks may present.
    Lastly, embrace the notion that it's a beautiful day to do hard things. Facing panic with acceptance rather than resistance diminishes its hold over you, opening the door to healing and growth.
    TRANSCRIPT: 
    Stop doing these things if you have panic attacks. I often, here on Your Anxiety Toolkit, talk about all the things you need to do—you need to do more of, you need to practice skills that you can get better at. But today, we’re talking about the things you shouldn’t do if you are someone who experiences panic attacks, panic disorder, or any other disorder that you also experience panic attacks in. Let’s get to it. Let’s talk about the things not to deal.
    Welcome back. Stop doing these things if you have panic attacks. When I say that, in no way do I mean that the things we’re going to discuss you should beat yourself up for. If you’re doing any of the things that we talk about today, please be gentle. It is a normal human reaction to do these things. I don’t want you to beat yourself up. Please feel absolutely zero judgment from me because ev

    • 11 min
    20 Phrases to Use when you are Anxious | Ep. 376

    20 Phrases to Use when you are Anxious | Ep. 376

    Anxiety can often feel like a relentless storm, clouding your thoughts and overwhelming your sense of calm. It's during these turbulent times that finding the right words can be akin to discovering a lifeline amidst the chaos. 
    To aid you in navigating these stormy waters, we've curated a list of 20 empowering phrases based on expert advice. These phrases are designed to validate your feelings, soothe your inner critic, fill you with encouragement, and help you respond proactively to anxiety. Here's how you can incorporate them into your life to foster resilience, kindness, and self-compassion.

    VALIDATE THE DIFFICULTY "This is hard, and it's okay that it's hard for me." Acknowledge the challenge without judgment. "I'm doing the best I can in this moment." Remind yourself of your effort and resilience. "My feelings are valid and understandable." Affirm the legitimacy of your emotions. "I am human, and having a difficult day is okay." Normalize the ups and downs of human experience. "I give myself permission to feel this while being kind to myself." Embrace your feelings with compassion. SOOTHE THE CRITICAL VOICE "This is not my fault." Release unwarranted guilt and blame. "It’s okay that I’m not perfect." Celebrate your humanity and imperfections. "It's okay to make mistakes." View errors as opportunities for growth. "My challenges do not define my worth." Separate your worth from your struggles. "May I be gentle with myself as I navigate this difficult season?" Practice self-compassion and kindness. FILL YOURSELF WITH ENCOURAGEMENT "It's a beautiful day to do hard things." Empower yourself to face challenges. "I can tolerate this discomfort." Recognize your strength and resilience. "This anxiety or discomfort will not hurt me." Acknowledge your capacity to withstand anxiety. "Humans are innately resilient." Remind yourself of your inherent ability to overcome adversity. "I am more than my worst days." Focus on the breadth of your life’s narrative. GET CLEAR ON YOUR RESPONSE TO ANXIETY "I REFUSE to lead a life based on fear." Commit to acting on your values. "I choose to speak to myself with understanding and patience." Cultivate a compassionate inner dialogue. "I have already chosen how I'm going to respond, and now I'm going to honor that decision." Preemptively decide on positive actions. "I will treat myself with the same kindness that I offer others." Extend your empathy inward. "I’m going to honor my journey and respect my own pace." Accept your unique path and timing. BONUS PHRASE FOR CONTINUOUS SUPPORT "We are just going to take one step at a time." Focus on the present moment to manage overwhelm. These phrases, thoughtfully designed to address different facets of anxiety, are tools at your disposal. Use them to navigate through moments of anxiety, to remind yourself of your strength, and to cultivate a kinder relationship with yourself. Remember, it's not about employing all of them at once but finding the ones that resonate most with you. Anxiety is a complex and deeply personal experience, and thus, your approach to managing it should be equally personalized. Let these phrases be your guide as you continue on your journey toward a more peaceful and empowered state of being.
    TRANSCRIPTION: 
    Here are 20 phrases to use when you are anxious. Now I get it, when you’re anxious, sometimes it’s so hard to concentrate. It’s so hard to know where you’re going, what you want to do, and it’s so easy just to focus on anxiety and get totally stuck in the tunnel vision of anxiety or feel completely overwhelmed by it. 
    Today, I want to offer you 20 phrases that you can use when you’re feeling anxious or experiencing OCD. These are yours to try on and see if you like them. You don’t have to use all of them. They’re here for you to use as you wish, and hopefully, they’re incredibly helpful.
    All right, my loves, let’s talk about the 20 phrases you can use when you’re feeling anxious

    • 16 min
    Why teen depression is at an all-time high (with Chinwe Williams) | Ep. 375

    Why teen depression is at an all-time high (with Chinwe Williams) | Ep. 375

    THE RISING TIDE OF TEEN DEPRESSION: UNDERSTANDING AND ADDRESSING A MODERN CRISIS In recent times, the specter of teen depression has loomed larger than ever before, casting a long shadow over the lives of young individuals across the globe. With reports indicating a significant upsurge in cases of depression among adolescents, the need to unravel the complexity of this issue and explore effective strategies for intervention has never been more urgent.
    At the heart of the matter is the alarming statistic that suicide rates among teenagers aged 15 to 19 have surged by 76% since 2007, with a particularly distressing increase observed in teen girls. The rates of suicide have doubled among female teens compared to their male counterparts, underscoring a gendered dimension to the crisis. Moreover, the youngest demographic, children between the ages of 10 and 14, has witnessed the highest rate of increase in suicide across all age groups, a fact that underscores the severity and early onset of mental health challenges in today's youth.
    This escalation in teen depression and suicidal ideation can be attributed to a myriad of factors, ranging from societal pressures and the rapid pace of cultural shifts to the unique challenges posed by the digital age. The omnipresence of social media and technology, while offering new avenues for connection, has paradoxically fostered a sense of isolation and disconnection among adolescents. The digital landscape, with its relentless comparison and instant feedback loops, has exacerbated feelings of inadequacy, anxiety, and despair among young people.
    Furthermore, the impact of depression is not confined to any single demographic. Contrary to previous beliefs that African-American families were less likely to experience suicidal ideation, recent research has unveiled an elevated risk among African-American boys aged five to 11. This revelation challenges preconceived notions about the protective factors supposedly inherent in certain communities and underscores the indiscriminate nature of mental health challenges.
    The narrative surrounding teen depression and despair is further complicated by the conflation of despair with clinical depression. While depression is a diagnosable condition characterized by a specific set of symptoms persisting over time, despair can embody similar feelings of hopelessness and sadness without necessarily meeting the criteria for a clinical diagnosis. This distinction is crucial for understanding the breadth and depth of the emotional turmoil experienced by adolescents, which may not always fit neatly into diagnostic categories.
    Addressing this burgeoning crisis requires a multifaceted approach, centered around the power of connection and the cultivation of resilience. Building resilience in young people involves fostering internal coping mechanisms as well as providing robust external support systems. Parents, educators, and mental health professionals play a pivotal role in modeling healthy coping strategies and offering unwavering support to adolescents navigating the tumultuous waters of mental health challenges.
    One of the key strategies for combatting teen depression involves nurturing meaningful connections between young people and their caregivers. The act of showing up for adolescents in both significant moments and the mundane details of daily life can have a profound impact on their sense of belonging and self-worth. Consistency in presence and support, coupled with genuine engagement in activities that resonate with the interests of young people, can fortify their emotional resilience and counteract feelings of isolation and despair.
    In the digital realm, it is imperative to strike a balance between leveraging technology for connectivity and mitigating its potential negative impacts on mental health. Encouraging responsible and mindful use of social media, fostering face-to-face interactions, and emphasizing the importance of digital detoxes can

    • 38 min
    What it is REALLY like to be an Anxiety Therapist | Ep. 374

    What it is REALLY like to be an Anxiety Therapist | Ep. 374

    In the realm of mental health, the role of an anxiety therapist is often shrouded in mystery and misconceptions. To shed light on this crucial profession, Joshua Fletcher, also known as AnxietyJosh, shares insights from his latest book, "And How Does That Make You Feel?: Everything You (N)ever Wanted to Know About Therapy," in a candid conversation with Kimberley Quinlan on her podcast.





    Joshua's book aims to demystify the therapeutic process, offering readers an intimate look behind the therapy door. It's not just a guide for those struggling with anxiety but an engaging narrative that invites the general public into the world of therapy. The book's unique angle stems from a simple yet intriguing question: Have you ever wondered what your therapist is thinking?


    One of the book's key revelations is the humanity of therapists. Joshua emphasizes that therapists, like their clients, are complex individuals with their own vices, flaws, and inner dialogues. The book begins with a scene where Joshua, amidst a breakthrough session with a client, battles an array of internal voices—from the biological urge to use the restroom to the critical voice questioning his decision to drink an Americano right before the session.


    This honest portrayal extends to the array of voices that therapists and all humans contend with, including anxiety, criticism, and analytical thinking. Joshua's narrative skillfully normalizes the internal chatter that professionals experience, even as they maintain a composed exterior.


    The conversation also touches upon the diverse modalities of therapy, highlighting the importance of finding the right approach for each individual's needs. Joshua jests about "The Yunger Games," a fictional annual event where therapists from various modalities compete, underscoring the passionate debates within the therapeutic community regarding the most effective treatment methods.


    A significant portion of the book delves into the personal growth and challenges therapists face, including dealing with their triggers and the balance between professional detachment and personal empathy. Joshua shares an anecdote about experiencing a trigger related to grief during a session, illustrating how therapists navigate their emotional landscapes while maintaining focus on their clients' needs.


    The awkwardness of encountering clients outside the therapy room is another aspect Joshua candidly discusses. He humorously describes the internal turmoil therapists experience when meeting clients in public, highlighting the delicate balance of maintaining confidentiality and acknowledging the shared human experience.


    Joshua's book, and his conversation with Kimberley, paint a vivid picture of the life of an anxiety therapist. It's a role filled with challenges, personal growth, and the profound satisfaction of facilitating others' journeys toward mental wellness. By pulling back the curtain on the therapeutic process, Joshua hopes to demystify therapy, making it more accessible and less intimidating for those considering it.


    In essence, being an anxiety therapist is about embracing one's humanity, continuously learning, and engaging in the most human conversations without judgment. It's a profession that requires not only a deep understanding of mental health but also a willingness to confront one's vulnerabilities and grow alongside their clients. Through his book and the insights shared in this conversation, Joshua Fletcher invites us all to appreciate the intricate dance of therapy—a dance that, at its best, can be life-changing for both the therapist and the client.




    Transcript: 


    Kimberley: I’m very happy to have back on the show Joshua Fletcher, a dear friend of mine and quite a rock star. He has written a new book called And How Does That Make You Feel?: Everything You (N)ever Wanted to Know About Therapy. Welcome back, Josh.


    Joshua: It’s good to be back. Thanks, Kim.

    • 37 min
    Living with Depression: Daily Routines for Mental Wellness | Ep. 373

    Living with Depression: Daily Routines for Mental Wellness | Ep. 373

    In the realm of mental health, the significance of structured daily routines for depression cannot be overstated. Kimberley Quinlan, an anxiety specialist with a focus on mindfulness, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and self-compassion, emphasizes the transformative impact that Daily Routines for Depression can have on individuals grappling with this challenging condition.
    Depression, characterized by persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and a lack of interest in once-enjoyable activities, affects every aspect of one's life. Quinlan stresses that while professional therapy and medication are fundamental in the treatment of depression, integrating specific daily routines into one's lifestyle can offer a complementary path toward recovery and mental wellness.
    THE POWER OF MORNING ROUTINES FOR DEPRESSION Starting the day with a purpose can set a positive tone for individuals battling depression. Quinlan recommends establishing a consistent wake-up time to combat common sleep disturbances associated with depression. Incorporating light physical activity, such as stretching or a gentle walk, can significantly boost mood. Mindfulness practices, including meditation, journaling, or gratitude exercises, can help foster a healthier relationship with one's thoughts and emotions. Additionally, a nutritious breakfast can provide the necessary energy to face the day, an essential component of "Daily Routines for Depression."
    DAYTIME ROUTINES FOR DEPRESSION Throughout the day, setting realistic goals and priorities can help maintain focus and motivation. Quinlan advocates for the inclusion of pleasurable activities within one's schedule to counteract the anhedonia often experienced in depression. Techniques like the Pomodoro Method can aid in managing tasks without becoming overwhelmed, breaking down activities into manageable segments with short breaks in between. Exposure to natural light and ensuring a balanced diet further contribute to improving mood and energy levels during the day.
    EVENING ROUTINES FOR DEPRESSION As the day draws to a close, engaging in a digital detox and indulging in relaxation techniques become crucial. Limiting screen time and investing time in hobbies or skills can provide a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment. Establishing a calming bedtime routine, including activities like reading or taking a bath, can enhance sleep quality, an essential factor in "Daily Routines for Depression."
    WEEKLY ACTIVITIES TO OVERCOME DEPRESSION Quinlan also highlights the importance of incorporating hobbies and community engagement into weekly routines. Finding a sense of belonging and purpose through social interactions and new skills can offer a much-needed respite from the isolating effects of depression.
    NAVIGATING TOUGH DAYS WITH COMPASSION Acknowledging that the journey through depression is fraught with ups and downs, Quinlan advises adopting a compassionate and simplified approach on particularly challenging days. Focusing on basic self-care and seeking support when needed can provide a foundation for resilience and recovery.
    In conclusion, Daily Routines for Depression are not just about managing symptoms but about rebuilding a life where mental wellness is prioritized. Through mindful planning and self-compassion, individuals can navigate the complexities of depression and move towards a more hopeful and fulfilling future.
    PODCAST TRANSCRIPT If you’re living with depression today, we are going to go through some daily routines for your mental wellness. 
    Welcome. My name is Kimberley Quinlan. I’m an anxiety specialist. I talk all about mindfulness, CBT, self-compassion, and skills that you can use to help you with your mental wellness. 
    Let’s talk about living with depression, specifically about daily routines that will set you up for success. My goal first is to really highlight the importance of routines. Routines are going to be the most important part of your depression recovery,

    • 23 min
    Increasing Distress Tolerance (with Joanna Hardis) | Ep. 372

    Increasing Distress Tolerance (with Joanna Hardis) | Ep. 372

    In the insightful podcast episode featuring Joanna Hardis, author of "Just Do Nothing: A Paradoxical Guide to Getting Out of Your Way," listeners are treated to a deep dive into the concept of distress tolerance and its pivotal role in mental health and personal growth. Joanna Hardis, with her extensive background in treating anxiety disorders such as panic disorder, OCD, and Generalized Anxiety Disorder, shares her professional and personal journey toward understanding and teaching the art of effectively managing internal discomfort without resorting to avoidance or escape tactics.

    The discussion begins with an exploration of the title of Joanna's book, "Just Do Nothing," which encapsulates the essence of her therapeutic approach: the intentional practice of stepping back and allowing thoughts, feelings, and sensations to exist without interference. This practice, though seemingly simple, challenges the common impulse to engage with and control our internal experiences, which often exacerbates suffering.
    A significant portion of the conversation is dedicated to "distress intolerance," a term that describes the perceived inability to endure negative emotional states. This perception leads individuals to avoid or escape these feelings, thereby increasing vulnerability to a range of mental health issues including anxiety, depression, and substance abuse. Joanna emphasizes the importance of recognizing and altering the self-limiting beliefs and thoughts that fuel distress intolerance.
    Practical strategies for enhancing distress tolerance are discussed, starting with simple exercises like resisting the urge to scratch an itch and gradually progressing to more challenging scenarios. This gradual approach helps individuals build confidence in their ability to manage discomfort and makes the concept of distress tolerance applicable to various aspects of life, from parenting to personal goals.
    Mindfulness is highlighted as a crucial component of distress tolerance, fostering an awareness of our reactions to discomfort and enabling us to respond with intention rather than impulsivity. The podcast delves into the importance of connecting with our values and reasons for enduring discomfort, which can provide the motivation needed to face challenging situations.
    Joanna and Kimberley also touch on the common traps of negative self-talk and judgment that can arise during distressing moments, advocating for a more compassionate and accepting stance towards oneself. The idea of "choice points" from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is introduced, encouraging listeners to make decisions that align with their values and move them forward, even in the face of discomfort.
    The episode concludes with a message of hope and empowerment: everyone has the capacity to work on expanding their distress tolerance. By starting with small, manageable steps and gradually confronting more significant challenges, individuals can cultivate a robust ability to navigate life's inevitable discomforts with grace and resilience.
    EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS: 
    The Concept of "Just Do Nothing": This core idea revolves around the practice of intentionally not engaging with every thought, feeling, or sensation, especially when they're distressing. It's about learning to observe without action, which can reduce the amplification of discomfort and suffering. Understanding Distress Intolerance: Distress intolerance refers to the belief or perception that one cannot handle negative internal states, leading to avoidance or escape behaviors. This concept highlights the importance of recognizing and challenging these beliefs to improve our ability to cope with discomfort. Building Distress Tolerance: The podcast discusses practical strategies to enhance distress tolerance, starting with simple exercises like resisting the urge to scratch an itch. The idea is to gradually expose oneself to discomfort in a controlled manner, thereby building resilience and con

    • 31 min

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676 Ratings

Been In Love Since ‘94 ,

Kimberly is great

Much needed information and support on a very difficult topic. Kimberly’s open, down to earth approach is a gift for those of us needing help with OCD. When listening to the podcast it’s like a combination of listening to a trusted caring friend and a very knowledgeable and professional therapist. I highly recommend this podcast as well as Kimberly’s other media and CBT SCHOOL!!

HollyGolightly22 ,

Life-changing listen

This podcast has changed my life. So much gratitude to Kimberley. I began listening a couple years ago for my anxiety, gaining such useful tools. I have realized through gaining knowledge that I’ve struggled with OCD since I was a child. The self-compassion and knowledge I’ve gained supported me in doing the work and finding my own treatment for my recovery of OCD. I now have an amazing therapist, so much hope, and kindness to myself.

Pfcdavis ,

Great content

I listened to the hopeless episode and found that to ring so true. Everyone struggles with hopelessness. It was helpful to hear that depression includes a lack of enjoyable activities and we should try to do them even if our depression tries to keep us down.

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