The Problem With...

James Smith

The Problem With… isn’t here to give easy answers - it’s here to ask the uncomfortable questions behind today’s biggest trends and taboos. Each week, host James Smith digs into what’s really going on - from AI to wellness culture - through unfiltered chats with experts and insiders to uncover the truth behind the noise.

  1. 4 HR AGO

    The Problem With Being Your Business: James Haskell

    James Haskell joins James Smith for a brutally honest conversation about life after professional sport, the chaos of building multiple businesses, and what it actually takes to stay relevant when the game is over. A former England rugby star, Sunday Times bestselling author, and DJ, Haskell pulls no punches on the mental cost of reinvention — and why his obsession with performing has never really left him. 👁️ Try Neutonic: https://www.neutonic.com/jamessmith 🧪 Check your Test: https://www.manual.co/smith 📝 Business Mentoring: https://www.jamessmith.business 🏋🏼‍♂️ Online Coaching: https://www.jamessmithacademy.com James Haskell on Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/jameshaskell James Haskell's music – https://open.spotify.com/artist/5ry5gHsT7l1X84yGPZeVIj The Good, The Bad & The Rugby – https://open.spotify.com/show/1LJJ9KUF4aAjcSPimyKfp3 James opens up about the fear of failure that drove him through rugby, the strange emptiness that follows success, and why 40 felt like the moment everything had to change. From DJing in a music industry that doesn't return emails, to launching Black Eye Gin with a £1.50-per-bottle charity model, to finally getting his testosterone tested — this one covers ground most people won't. He covers: ◼️ Why being your own business is feast or famine — and how to future-proof it ◼️ The DJ career no one takes seriously (yet) ◼️ Building undeniable proof against self-doubt ◼️ Why catastrophising your future can be a legitimate motivational tool ◼️ What testosterone at level 3 actually feels like — and what TRT changed ◼️ The email list gap that's costing him (and you) real money Chapters: 00:00 There Are a Lot of Lost Men Out There 01:23 The Problem With Being Your Own Business 03:22 Life After Rugby — Planning vs Panic 05:05 Finding What You Actually Want to Do 05:30 The DJ Career: 12 Years, 31 Records 07:22 MMA, Surgeries and the Body Paying the Price 09:24 Going Back to Basics in 2026 10:18 Why Haskell Got Into DJing 12:01 Building Undeniable Proof Against Self-Doubt 13:31 Imposter Syndrome, Evidence Bases and Therapy at 17 15:35 Creating Common Enemies as Motivation 18:06 Catastrophising as a Motivational Mechanism 18:44 Defining What Success Actually Looks Like 19:21 Why Very Wealthy Men Lose Their Money 20:01 The Rocky Montage Years: Fear of Failure as Fuel 20:52 Learning to Sit In the Moment 22:00 The Music Industry Is a Wild West Shambles 24:50 The 50 Cent Tour Story — Music vs Every Other Business 27:03 Drug Culture, Harm Reduction and the Honest Conversation 30:49 What He'd Tell His Daughter About Drugs 32:02 Social Media, Innocence and Raising Kids Today 33:39 Does Civilisation Correct Itself? 35:40 On Politics, Reform and Weak Leaders 37:13 Hair Transplants, Prince William and Shaving Your Head 39:14 The James Haskell Effect on Rugby Back Rows 41:47 Henry Pollock, Pranks and the England Camp 44:03 The Witch Teeth Prank at the Dentist 45:24 The 2007 World Cup — and Ronny Ring's Band of Brothers Moment 49:01 Maidenhead RFC, Getting Dropped and a Mate's Game of His Life 53:41 Black Eye Gin — The Charity, the Recipe and the Origin 57:06 Rugby, UFC and Sports That Don't Apologise for Themselves 59:55 Trying Neutonic for the First Time 01:01:05 Building an Event That Combines Sport, Music and Fitness 01:07:19 Peptides, BPC-157 and Healing a Torn Bicep 01:09:05 Testosterone at Level 3 — Getting on TRT 01:20:32 The Relevancy Trap and Running Active Businesses 01:22:38 The Infinity Pool Story — Getting the Balance Right 01:26:36 Why Haskell Doesn't Have an Email List (Yet) 01:27:46 The Email Marketing Masterclass He Didn't Ask For 01:37:57 What's Coming Next: Music, DJ Gigs and the Tequila Launch This is one of those conversations that goes everywhere — rugby war stories, music industry chaos, drug policy, fatherhood, hormones, hair transplants, and the uncomfortable truth that being very good at performing doesn't automatically make you good at business. Haskell is funnier, more self-aware, and more switched-on than most people give him credit for — and this is the version of him you don't usually get to see. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    1hr 40min

  2. 6 DAYS AGO

    The Problem With Trying to Feel Better: Dr Julie Smith

    Dr Julie Smith joins James Smith for a wide-ranging conversation on the psychology of emotion, mental health, and what it really means to feel better. A clinical psychologist and international bestselling author, Dr Smith dismantles the idea that difficult emotions are problems to be solved and challenges James on everything from catastrophising and shame-based motivation to the surprising emotional cost of success. 👁️ Try Neutonic: https://www.neutonic.com/jamessmith 🧪 Check your Test: https://www.manual.co/smith 📝 Business Mentoring: https://www.jamessmith.business 🏋🏼‍♂️ Online Coaching: https://www.jamessmithacademy.com Dr Julie Smith's YouTube Channel – https://www.youtube.com/@DrJulie Dr Julie Smith On Instagram –https://www.instagram.com/drjulie/ James opens up about his experience of lockdown, being cut off from Australia, the relief (not happiness) of hitting major milestones, and why he uses financial goals as a psychological permission slip to keep overworking. She explains: ◼️ Why wanting to feel better is sometimes part of the problem ◼️ How to recognise when distress is situational vs something deeper ◼️ The double standard we apply to ourselves vs others ◼️ Why self-compassion isn't weakness (it's the harder skill) ◼️ What status loss does to mental health and identity Chapters: 00:00 The Problem With Trying to Feel Better 04:20 When Anxiety Means You're a Good Parent 07:23 Is Low Mood Situational or Something Deeper? 12:10 When Should You Actually Get Therapy? 13:52 James Being Locked Out of Australia 15:36 Not Feeling Like You Qualify for Help 17:34 The Workaholics Trap and Honest Feedback 18:45 Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy — Where Does Dr Smith Stand? 20:23 James's LSD Day in the Park 21:49 The Periodic Table of Emotions 27:12 Vulnerability, Fatherhood and Opening Up 29:08 Redefining Success Beyond the Metrics 32:26 Giving Good Advice You Don't Take Yourself 34:49 Severance and the Work-Life Split 38:07 The Hidden Cost of Living a Very Public Life 41:24 When Followers Tell You You've Saved Their Life 44:28 How a Relationship Changed James's Relationship With Work 45:13 Status, Mental Health and the Fear of Losing It 53:01 The Double Standard We Have for Ourselves 55:42 Using Financial Goals as a Coping Mechanism 57:28 Catastrophising as Motivation 01:00:04 Why Every Goal Feels Empty After You Hit It 01:02:51 Fear of Success vs Fear of Failure 01:08:30 The Journey Is the Point — Not Just the Outcome 01:09:18 Sneak Peek: Dr Smith's New Book 01:10:21 Generational Amnesia and the Young People of Today 01:15:08 Closing Takeaways: What Actually Helps This conversation takes a candid look at the psychology behind overwork, the emotional emptiness that can follow achievement, and the courage required to actually let people in. Dr Smith's clinical perspective on self-compassion, attachment, and the standards we hold ourselves to offers a grounding counterweight to James's trademark candour — and the result is one of the most honest conversations on mental health the podcast has produced. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    1hr 19min

  3. 24 MAR

    The Problem With Self Sabotage: Connor Beaton (ManTalks)

    👁️ Try Neutonic: https://www.neutonic.com/jamessmith 🧪 Check your Test: https://www.manual.co/smith 📝 Business Mentoring: https://www.jamessmith.business 🏋🏼‍♂️ Online Coaching: https://www.jamessmithacademy.com Connor Beaton joins James Smith to reveal the uncomfortable truth about self-sabotage. Far from being a simple lack of discipline, self-sabotage is a sophisticated survival strategy your brain uses to maintain control. Beaton explains why your psyche would rather choose a familiar disaster over an unfamiliar victory, keeping you locked in a cycle of destructive behavior to protect a fragile sense of identity. They dismantle the myth that dark motivation is a sustainable fuel for success and expose the biological cost of running on shame. From adoption trauma and attachment theory to the high-stakes world of elite performance, this conversation uncovers the invisible weights that stop men from being present in their own lives. He explains: ◼️ Why your brain actively avoids healthy new habits ◼️ How shame-based fuel creates a performance ceiling ◼️ What happens when achievement replaces human connection ◼️ Why mastery and addiction share the same neurology ◼️ How radical transparency prevents relationship resentment Chapters: 00:00 The Psychology of Working With Men 03:37 The Real Problem With Self-Sabotage 04:11 Sabotage as a Protective Strategy 05:37 James’ Experience With Wild Weekends 07:15 Reinforcing Your Negative Identity 08:06 Carl Jung and The Shadow 09:11 Why Your Brain Prefers Familiarity 11:16 The John Jones Sabotage Pattern 12:46 Relational Trauma and Attachment Issues 13:45 Breaking Your Nervous System Set Point 16:02 George St-Pierre on Real Courage 17:51 James' Battle With Cognitive Dissonance 19:52 The Truth About Cocaine Habits 23:00 High Performers and The Control Trap 24:18 Dark Motivation: Using Shame as Fuel 26:42 Why Success Often Feels Empty 27:23 James’ Story of Adoption and Spite 30:35 Shifting From Spite to Family 32:48 Dating Volume and Almond Croissants 35:43 Healing Trauma Through Your Children 43:43 Rebuilding Trust and True Intimacy 47:14 Addiction as an Attachment Issue 49:33 Mastery vs The Addictive Tendency 53:07 Learning to Let Go of Control 57:17 The Dangers of Mental Masturbation 59:12 Diminished Versions of Yourself 01:02:14 Learning to Choose Your Regrets 01:04:02 The Psychological Fear of Retirement 01:08:40 The Cost of Professional Relevancy 01:12:19 Communicating Trade-offs in Relationships 01:15:51 Modern Dating’s Silent Plague 01:17:46 Re-infusing Choice into Relationships 01:21:53 Navigating the Psychological Map Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    1hr 29min

  4. 10 MAR

    The Problem With Perfectionism: Jonny Wilkinson

    👁️ Try Neutonic: https://www.neutonic.com/jamessmith 🧪 Check your Test: https://www.manual.co/smith 📝 Business Mentoring: https://www.jamessmith.business 🏋🏼‍♂️ Online Coaching: https://www.jamessmithacademy.com Johnny Wilkinson on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jonnywilkinsonofficial/ Rugby legend Johnny Wilkinson joins James Smith to reveal the uncomfortable truth about the problem with perfectionism, why the pursuit of "perfect" is a quiet crisis that creates a dangerous lie of future salvation while destroying your current reality. Wilkinson explains how living in a constant state of survival and impending doom reshapes our biology and threatens the very essence of human potential. They discuss the myths around "mastery" being a finished destination, the toxic nature of avoiding failure, and the real reasons behind the mental time bomb that elite performance often hides. From the pressures of a World Cup final to the quiet struggle of starting a business, this episode explores how the need for control can break down the whole system of human performance. We Cover: ⬛ Why Perfectionism is a Survival State not a Success Strategy ⬛ How the Myth of "Making It" Destroys Human Curiosity ⬛ Why Mastery Requires Self-Awareness over Mechanical Replication ⬛ How to Harness Pressure as Energy instead of Enduring it as Truth ⬛ What Happens when You Stop Chasing Outcomes and Start Healing the Gut Chapters: 00:00 Intro: Harder Than a World Cup Penalty 00:32 Who Is Johnny Wilkinson? 01:19 What Is the Problem With Perfectionism? 03:01 Nobody's Perfect: Is the Journey the Point? 05:34 Regression to the Mean & the Pressure of Kicking 07:07 Martin Johnson, Teammates & Carrying the Weight 09:46 Pressure Is Just a Thought — Reframing It Entirely 12:29 The Bell Curve of Arousal in Sport 14:15 Growing Up in Survival Mode 16:43 Opening the Door to Yourself 19:14 Identity, Expectations & Tipping Over 20:40 Missing a Kick in Front of the England Camp 23:39 From Running Away to Owning the Space 25:51 One Living — Born From a Changing Room in Toulon 27:02 Why Johnny Started a Health Brand 31:37 When Your Body Can't Keep Up With Your Mind 34:48 One Living: The Rebrand Story 38:31 Growth Mindset vs Fixed Mindset in Business 40:45 Listening to Your Body Like You Listen to a Kick 43:30 Stress, Food Choices & What You Actually Want 49:06 What One Living Really Stands For 53:13 Opening Doors: The Philosophy Behind the Brand 57:44 The Virtue of Suffering — Is Misery Masculine? 59:16 Thoughts as Truths & the Stray Cat Problem 1:03:46 The Mind Gym: Switching Energy States 1:07:03 Cold Water, Nature & Resetting Your Energy 1:08:59 The One Living Shots Explained 1:11:39 Stop, Breathe, Drink: A Philosophy for Life 1:14:13 Closing Thoughts & Where to Find One Living Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    1hr 16min

  5. 3 MAR

    The Problem With Finance Gurus: Michael Taylor

    👁️ Try Neutonic: https://www.neutonic.com/jamessmith 🧪 Check your Test: https://www.manual.co/smith 📝 Business Mentoring: https://www.jamessmith.business 🏋🏼‍♂️ Online Coaching: https://www.jamessmithacademy.com Michael Taylor's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@UCG4DcZXrpIKwmgdXNU1iUgQ Michael Taylor, a professional trader and author, joins James to break down why most finance gurus are full of it. They discuss the red flags of get-rich-quick trading schemes, how brokers make money when you lose, and why Forex attracts scammers. Michael explains the difference between real investing and fake lifestyles, the dangers of blindly following trading signals, and why most people fail at currency trading. Whether you're thinking about investing in your 20s or deciding between paying off your mortgage versus building wealth through stocks, this conversation cuts through the BS and gives you real talk about money. THIS PODCAST IS NOT FINANCIAL ADVICE Timestamps 00:00 Finance Gurus and Lamborghini Scams 00:12 Professional Trader Michael Taylor Interview 00:24 Casino Risk Management vs Trading 01:07 Problems with Fake Finance Influencers 02:32 Chauffeur Knowledge and Information Replication 03:55 Broker Commission Models Explained 05:06 Red Flags in Trading Education 06:13 Forex vs Stock Market Fundamentals 09:04 Why Forex Trading Is Dangerously Hard 10:15 Survivorship Bias in Finance Content 11:50 Mortgage Payoff vs Stock Investment 12:16 Calculated Risk and Personal Finance 14:02 Global Equities Beat Interest Rates 15:21 Why People Avoid Financial Education 16:12 Wealthy People Talk About Money Differently 17:44 Taking Responsibility for Your Finances 18:36 James Smith's Investment Journey Begins 19:07 Getting Lucky in the Stock Market 20:54 Borrowing Money to Invest Early 22:33 Finding Your Sweet Spot in Stocks 23:24 Balance Sheet Analysis for Beginners 25:46 Shorting Businesses and Ethics 27:26 Identifying Cash Flow Problems Early 28:40 Bitcoin and Cryptocurrency Allocation 31:23 Long-Term Investing vs Day Trading 32:03 Social Media as Interest Savings Account 32:22 2008 Financial Crisis Impact 34:34 Market Crashes Create Opportunities 36:11 Pandemic Trading During Market Chaos 37:45 First Steps for New Investors 39:05 Picking Individual Stocks Strategy 40:25 Emotional Investment Decisions 41:31 Tax-Efficient Investment Accounts UK 44:02 Lifetime ISA Government Top-Up 45:04 State Pension Won't Exist 46:36 Compounding Interest Over Decades 51:04 Warren Buffett Started at 15 52:40 Starting Late at 35 54:20 Inflation Erodes Purchasing Power 55:11 Fiscal Drag and Wage Stagnation 56:00 Property Ladder vs Stock Market 57:06 Stamp Duty Killing UK Stock Market 59:18 IPO Market Decline in UK 01:00:17 Making LSE Attractive for Listings 01:02:07 Class of 2020 IPO Disasters 01:03:35 Reviving the UK Stock Market 01:05:28 Boring Businesses Make Real Money 01:06:03 Newborn Investment Fund Idea 01:07:05 Private School vs Index Funds 01:09:10 Spending Strategy and Fun Money 01:11:02 Business vs Personal Investment Accounts 01:16:03 Main Dos and Don'ts of Investing 01:20:04 Delayed Settlement Promotes Gambling 01:22:17 Intraday Trading Is Mostly Gambling 01:27:25 Supporting Small Businesses Locally 01:33:46 How to Make Six Figures Book 01:35:16 Klarna Buy Now Pay Later Problems 01:37:50 Building Wealth Through Solid Businesses Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    1hr 39min

  6. 24 FEB

    The Problem With Net Zero: Konstantin Kisin

    👁️ Try Neutonic: https://www.neutonic.com/jamessmith 🧪 Check your Test: https://www.manual.co/smith 📝 Business Mentoring: https://www.jamessmith.business 🏋🏼‍♂️ Online Coaching: https://www.jamessmithacademy.com Konstantin Kisin joins James Smith to discuss the problem with Net Zero, a quiet crisis where ideological virtue signaling is actively making the West poor, weak, and strategically irrelevant. Kisin explains how our obsession with carbon metrics functions as a dangerous accounting trick that exports British industry to China while gaslighting citizens into accepting a lower standard of living. They strip back the myths of modern activism to expose a deeper civilizational time bomb: a generation suffering from historical amnesia and a lack of meaning, now being incentivised toward economic suicide by a government that prioritizes "waffle" over the survival of its own industrial base. We cover: ⬛ Why Net Zero is an accounting trick that exports emissions and imports poverty ⬛ The "Status Game" behind climate activism and doomsday narratives ⬛ How the welfare state traps young men in a cycle of dependency and video games ⬛ Why mass immigration is used to conceal the reality of a shrinking economy ⬛ The urgent need to prioritize cheap, reliable energy over ideological virtue signals Timestamps: 00:00 Net Zero's Economic and Geopolitical Failures 05:42 Energy Prices and Carbon Accounting Illusions 07:18 Why Ideologies Appeal to Lost Generations 10:00 Status Games Drive Activist Movements 12:22 Greta Thunberg and Incentive Structures 15:13 Personal Branding and Business Mentorship 16:21 Historical Amnesia and Educational Gaps 19:03 Travel Exposes Western Privilege and Safety 22:30 Direction of Travel Matters More Than Absolutes 25:03 Parasites Need Problems to Solve 31:33 Soviet Subversion and Western Self-Destruction 34:38 Israel-Palestine Through an Ideological Lens 37:53 Ukraine Support and European Weakness 41:03 National Pride Erosion and Military Service 45:00 Podcast Success Takes Years of Investment 51:34 Welfare Dependency Traps Young Men 58:01 Video Games Cannot Replace Real Life Achievement 1:02:15 Long-Form Conversations Change Political Discourse 1:09:06 Police Officers Make Split-Second Life-Death Decisions 1:23:25 Economic Solutions: Energy, Taxes, and Growth 1:28:30 Illegal Immigration and British Values 1:34:21 Integration Over Diversity Politics 1:39:50 Wealthy Brits Leaving Due to Cultural Hostility Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    1hr 44min

  7. 17 FEB

    The Problem With Women in BJJ: Ffion Davies

    Ffion Davies joins James Smith to reveal the problem with women in jiu-jitsu, a sport often gatekept by a "sausage fest" mentality and dangerous myths about self-defense. Davies, a six-time world champion, exposes why the current narrative is failing women and how the lack of equal pay is a quiet crisis threatening the sport's growth. They confront the reality of the "big strong dude" syndrome, the biological discrepancies in training, and the high-stakes battle for financial respect in elite competition. 👁️ Try Neutonic: https://www.neutonic.com/jamessmith 🧪 Check your Test: https://www.manual.co/smith 📝 Business Mentoring: https://www.jamessmith.business 🏋🏼‍♂️ Online Coaching: https://www.jamessmithacademy.com Ffion's Online Training Membership: https://ffiononline.com/ Ffion Davies on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ffioneiradaviesbjj Ffion Davies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ffiffipengtinginlondon We cover: ⬛ Why the "Self-Defense" Narrative is a Dangerous Lie ⬛ Equal Pay, ADCC & The Battle for Financial Respect ⬛ Why Athleticism is a Trap for Beginners ⬛ The Truth About Skin Infections & "Ballgate" ⬛ Why You Should Learn from Purple Belts, Not Just Legends Chapters: 00:00 Breaking Barriers for Female Grapplers 2:56 Challenges Facing Women in the Sport 6:33 Building Trust and Community in Training 10:02 Reframing Motivation for Jiu-Jitsu 15:19 Realistic Expectations for Beginners 17:23 First Experiences and Gym Challenges 22:53 Judo vs Jiu-Jitsu Training Differences 29:35 Judo People Are Unique Athletes 36:05 Gi vs No-Gi: Technical Differences 45:56 Skin Infections and Training Hygiene 52:26 Armor Gym: A New Training Environment 59:56 Seminar Dynamics and Rolling Etiquette 1:01:57 Competing in Adult Divisions 1:04:06 Encouraging New People to Try Jiu-Jitsu 1:09:44 The Global Jiu-Jitsu Community 1:12:36 Fion Davies' Current Projects Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    1hr 16min

  8. 10 FEB

    The Problem With Following Your Passion: Max Olesker

    👁️ Try Neutonic: https://www.neutonic.com/jamessmith 🧪 Check your Test: https://www.manual.co/smith 📝 Business Mentoring: https://www.jamessmith.business 🏋🏼‍♂️ Online Coaching: https://www.jamessmithacademy.com Max Olesker joins James Smith to discuss the problem with following your passion. Why an unstructured life can lead to an intellectual and spiritual vacuum if you aren't prepared for the consequences. Olesker explains that pursuing a calling without a strategy is a dangerous gamble that often ends in physical and financial ruin. We cover: ⬛ Why "Follow Your Passion" is a Strategic Dead End ⬛ The Brutal Reality of Pro Wrestling & Performative Pain ⬛ Navigating the Rigorous Path to Orthodox Conversion Chapters: 0:00 The Problem With Passion 5:40 The "Yes Man" Lifestyle 9:13 The Cost of the Ring 16:13 Wrestling & Social Media 26:36 The Comedy Flow State 36:07 The Creativity Grind 40:45 Identity & Heritage 47:12 Rigorous Conversion 1:08:19 The Shabbat Detox 1:15:16 The Surgical Finale 1:36:23 Making The Cut Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    1hr 40min
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The Problem With… isn’t here to give easy answers - it’s here to ask the uncomfortable questions behind today’s biggest trends and taboos. Each week, host James Smith digs into what’s really going on - from AI to wellness culture - through unfiltered chats with experts and insiders to uncover the truth behind the noise.

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    James Smith
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2026
  • Episodes
    27
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