Healing For Love

Dr Gemma Gladstone
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Healing for Love A podcast for anyone who wants to heal their schemas, shift their patterns and grow into their most grounded, authentic self in love & life. Hosted by Dr Gemma Gladstone - dating & relationship coach, former clinical psychologist (25+ years), and Advanced Schema Therapists, Trainer/Supervisor. This podcast offers thoughtful, insight-rich episodes to help you understand your patterns, heal from past emotional wounds and start rewriting your Love Template.If you’ve ever felt stuck in familiar dynamics like seeking approval, fearing abandonment, dating narcissists or losing yourself in relationships, you’re not alone. Healing for Love is a space for self-reflection, emotional insight and practical encouragement.  Here, you’ll learn how to reconnect with your worth, trust your inner voice and build relationships that support who you truly are.This is for the woman who’s ready to feel more secure, more whole and more herself - in love and in life.

  1. 4 DAYS AGO

    140. People Pleasing in Relationships - The Psychology Behind Why You Put Others First

    Send Gemma a message EXCITING NEWS - Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind program and receive early access benefits Why do some people constantly put others first, struggle to say no, worry excessively about upsetting people, or feel guilty for prioritising themselves? In this episode of Healing for Love, Dr. Gemma Gladstone explores the deeper psychology behind people pleasing through a schema therapy lens. This is not simply about being “too nice.” People pleasing is often a learned survival strategy rooted in early relational experiences, attachment dynamics, fear, guilt, conditional acceptance and coping styles developed in childhood. Gemma unpacks:  What people pleasing actually is  Why it develops  The difference between self-sacrifice, subjugation and approval-seeking  Why guilt and fear often drive people pleasing behaviours  How early family dynamics shape self-suppression  Why some women struggle to set boundaries or speak up in relationships  The connection between people pleasing and emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partners  How schemas influence dating, relationships and self-trust  Why people pleasing is often linked to survival, safety and connection  Small practical steps to begin changing these patterns This episode also explores:  Self-sacrifice schema  Subjugation schema  Approval-seeking schema  Abandonment dynamics  Conditional parenting  Coping modes and “dating personas”  The importance of reconnecting with your own needs, preferences and authenticity If you often:  Put other people’s needs ahead of your own  Feel guilty saying no  Worry excessively about upsetting others  Need reassurance before making decisions  Stay quiet to avoid conflict  Feel anxious expressing yourself  Struggle with boundaries in dating or relationships …this episode will likely resonate deeply. Mentioned in this episode Gemma also shares details about her upcoming self-study program: Love Wisely Foundations (coming soon!) - a schema-informed relationship program designed to help women understand and rewrite unhealthy relationship patterns and “love template.” Support the show 🎉🎉😊EXCITING NEWS - Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind program and receive early access benefits! 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for podcast listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY 🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY List   🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

    47 min

  2. 28 APR

    139. Dating Apps: Why They Feel So Hard and How to Navigate Them

    Send Gemma a message Dating apps can feel like a bit of a horror show at times. But underneath the frustration, the confusion and the endless swiping… there’s something much deeper going on. In this episode, I explore how your schemas - particularly abandonment, defectiveness, emotional deprivation and people-pleasing patterns - can shape:  Who you feel drawn to  What you tolerate  And why you might ignore your own instincts I also walk you through a more grounded, intentional way to approach dating apps - not as “dating platforms,” but simply as introduction tools. Because real dating doesn’t happen on the app.  It happens in real life. Support the show 🎉🎉😊EXCITING NEWS - Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind program and receive early access benefits! 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for podcast listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY 🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY List   🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

    52 min

  3. 7 APR

    138. The Love Paradox: Why You Keep Choosing the Wrong Partner - And How to Break the Cycle

    Send Gemma a message This episode is a special one - I’m sharing the audio from a recent live masterclass where I walk you through the deeper psychological patterns that drive attraction, and why insight alone often isn’t enough to change them. If you’ve ever found yourself drawn to emotionally unavailable, avoidant, or self-absorbed partners - even when you know better - this episode will help you understand why. I explore what’s happening beneath the surface, and what it actually takes to begin shifting these patterns from the inside out.  What you’ll learn  Why high chemistry is not always a sign of compatibility  The “love paradox” - wanting one thing, but being pulled toward something very different  How your early schemas (core emotional patterns) shape who you’re drawn to  What schema chemistry is and why attraction can feel so compelling - even when it’s not right for you  The role of people-pleasing, self-sacrifice, and loss of voice in dating  Why “just date more” or “choose better” doesn’t solve the problem  The key stages involved in breaking long-standing relationship patterns  How to begin rewriting your “love template” so you can move toward emotionally available partners This episode is for you if…  You keep finding yourself in similar relationship dynamics  You’ve dated emotionally unavailable or avoidant men  You struggle to trust yourself in dating  You tend to over-give, over-accommodate, or lose yourself in relationships  You’re ready to understand why this keeps happening - and start doing things differently These patterns are not random - they are shaped by deeper, often unconscious processes. And once you understand them, you can begin to shift them. Want to go deeper? If this episode resonates, I also share more about my Love Wisely group coaching program inside this training. It’s a 12-week experience designed to help you:  Understand your patterns clearly  Work with your schemas  Build self-trust  And begin relating in a way that supports the kind of relationship you actually want  Support the show 🎉🎉😊EXCITING NEWS - Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind program and receive early access benefits! 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for podcast listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY 🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY List   🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

    1hr 36min

  4. 17 MAR

    137. 10 Healthy Dating Rules for Women Who Tend to Over-Give

    Send Gemma a message If dating tends to bring up anxiety, self-doubt, people-pleasing, or the urge to lose yourself in someone else, this episode is for you. In this practical episode, I’m speaking directly to women who tend to be very giving, very empathic, and very accommodating in relationships, but who often struggle to stay connected to themselves while dating. If you have a history of subjugation, self-sacrifice, under-entitlement, loose boundaries, or worrying too much about being “too much” or “too needy,” dating can quickly become stressful and confusing. You may find yourself focusing more on whether the other person likes you than on how you actually feel. In this episode, I walk you through 10 clear dating rules to help you feel calmer, more grounded, and more self-protective in the early stages of dating, without becoming closed off or guarded. This is about dating in a way that helps you stay connected to your own needs, your own feelings, and your own experience. In this episode, I cover: Why meeting early in real life is better than building a false sense of connection through endless textingWhy first dates should be short, simple, and low pressureThe importance of putting a time boundary around early datesWhy alcohol can make it harder to stay connected to your instincts and boundariesWhy you do not need to extend a date unless you genuinely want toWhy it is healthy to directly say you’d like to see someone again if that is true for youWhy it matters to keep your life running normally when you meet someone newWhy rushing physical intimacy can create attachment before real compatibility is clearHow to think about chemistry more wisely, especially if you have a pattern of schema chemistryWhy the most important question after a date is not “Did they like me?” but “How did I feel?”Key themes in this episode: This episode explores how schemas such as subjugation, self-sacrifice, abandonment, emotional deprivation, and under-entitlement can quietly shape the dating process. It also highlights a more grounded and emotionally healthy approach to dating: Dating is data. Rather than treating every date like a test of your worth, this episode encourages you to slow down, gather information, notice how you feel, and assess whether the other person is truly right for you. If this episode resonated: If you’ve been enjoying the podcast, I’d be so grateful if you left a quick review on Apple Podcasts. It really does help more women find the show. And if this episode made you think of someone in your life, feel free to share it wit Support the show 🎉🎉😊EXCITING NEWS - Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind program and receive early access benefits! 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for podcast listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY 🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY List   🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

    44 min

  5. 11 MAR

    136. What If Your Partner Struggles With Emotional Intimacy? - Listener Q&A

    Send Gemma a message In this episode of Healing for Love, I respond to a thoughtful question from a listener who describes a relationship that is supportive and stable - yet something important is missing. Her partner is kind, affectionate, and easy to live with. But when it comes to emotional conversations, he rarely initiates them. Over time, she has begun to feel emotionally alone in the relationship. This is a surprisingly common dynamic. Many people find themselves in relationships where their partner cares deeply but struggles with emotional expression or emotional dialogue. The question then becomes: is this simply a difference in style, or does it signal something deeper about compatibility and emotional needs? In this episode, I explore how to think about this situation from both perspectives. We discuss: Why emotional intimacy matters in long term relationshipsThe difference between low emotional dialogue and true emotional neglectHow early experiences can shape someone’s emotional styleThe role schemas can play in how we interpret our needs in relationshipsWhy feeling like a “burden” when expressing needs is often an important clueHow to distinguish between lack of skill and lack of motivation in a partnerQuestions you can ask yourself to clarify what you truly need in a relationshipHow to communicate emotional needs in a constructive and specific waySometimes the most important shift is moving away from the question: “How do I change my partner?” And instead asking: “What kind of emotional life do I want to live in my relationship?” If you’ve ever found yourself wondering whether your emotional needs are “too much,” this episode will give you a thoughtful framework for understanding what’s really going on. Support the show 🎉🎉😊EXCITING NEWS - Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind program and receive early access benefits! 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for podcast listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY 🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY List   🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

    35 min

  6. 9 MAR

    135. How Can I Heal from Relationship Regret?

    Send Gemma a message Hey, if you'd like to reduce your chances of future relationship regret, then come to my free live training: Join here Have you ever looked back on a past relationship and thought: Why did I stay so long? Why didn’t I see the signs earlier? If only I had done something differently… Relationship regret can be incredibly painful. Many people find themselves stuck replaying the past, analysing every decision and blaming themselves for how things turned out. But in this episode, I explain why this mental loop is not actually helping us heal. In psychology, the “should have, could have, would have” pattern is known as counterfactual thinking. It’s a form of rumination where the mind tries to solve an unsolvable problem - the past. And while it feels like we are trying to understand what happened, what is often happening underneath is emotional avoidance. Beneath regret there is usually something much more vulnerable: Grief. Grief about the relationship. Grief about what we hoped it would be. Grief about the loss of the future we imagined. In this episode, I explore: Why regret often keeps us stuck in ruminationThe psychology of counterfactual thinkingWhy self-blame is so common after difficult relationshipsHow rumination can block emotional healingThe grief that often sits underneath regretWhy painful relationships are not “wasted time”How our schemas influence what we tolerate in relationshipsHow to shift from self-blame to insight and growthSimple ways to respond differently when regret arisesI also look at an important reframe: Relationships are often our greatest teachers. Even the painful ones can reveal important truths about our emotional needs, our patterns, and the schemas that shape our relationship choices. When we approach our past with compassion rather than self-blame, we open the door to healing and to making wiser choices in the future. If this episode resonates with you Many of the women who join my Love Wisely program come with this same question: "Why did I end up in relationships like that?" Inside the program we explore the deeper psychological patterns behind attraction, schemas, and relationship choices - and how to create healthier relationships going forward. You can learn more about Love Wisely on my website. Support the show 🎉🎉😊EXCITING NEWS - Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind program and receive early access benefits! 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for podcast listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY 🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY List   🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

    38 min

  7. 2 MAR

    134. My Top 5 Dark Red Flags in Dating (Part 2)

    Send Gemma a message In Part 2 of this series, I continue unpacking the darker red flags that often show up early in dating – the ones that are easy to dismiss but costly to ignore. These are not minor quirks. They are patterns that predict future control, manipulation, blame-shifting, entitlement and emotional instability. In this episode, I explore: What I call “future mirroring” – a subtle form of love bombing designed to accelerate closenessThe chronic victim stance and how trauma dumping can be used as manipulationWhy repeated stories of being “wrongly accused” deserve careful attentionExaggerated reactions to frustration, shame or not getting their wayHow to recognise blame shifting earlyWhy high chemistry without character is not compatibilityHow to strengthen your intuitive muscle and trust your internal dataIf you’ve ever felt confused, slightly uneasy or pressured in early dating but talked yourself out of it – this episode is for you. I also share details about the upcoming round of Love Wisely, beginning April 16, and how you can join the priority list. Support the show 🎉🎉😊EXCITING NEWS - Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind program and receive early access benefits! 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for podcast listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY 🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY List   🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

    40 min

  8. 27 FEB

    133. My Top 5 Dark Red Flags In Dating (Part 1)

    Send Gemma a message Not all red flags are equal. Some signal incompatibility. Others signal something much darker. In this episode, I’m breaking down the first three of my Top Five Dark Red Flags in Early Dating - the traits that, in my clinical experience, rarely improve with time and often predict controlling or deeply problematic relationship dynamics. If you’ve ever found yourself: Ignoring your gutGiving someone “the benefit of the doubt”Talking yourself out of discomfortWanting to be the easygoing, understanding oneThis episode is for you. I explore: Why people-pleasing schemas can keep you in situations you already know aren’t rightHow subtle pushiness can signal future controlWhy arrogance is one of the most dangerous personality traits to overlookThe difference between confidence and entitlementHow love bombing can be used strategicallyWhat “future mirroring” is and why it hooks so many intelligent womenI also explain why what you feel in your body matters - and how to recognise when someone is testing your compliance rather than building real connection. This is not about demonising people. It’s about helping you see clearly. Support the show 🎉🎉😊EXCITING NEWS - Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind program and receive early access benefits! 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for podcast listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY 🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY List   🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

    35 min
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Healing for Love A podcast for anyone who wants to heal their schemas, shift their patterns and grow into their most grounded, authentic self in love & life. Hosted by Dr Gemma Gladstone - dating & relationship coach, former clinical psychologist (25+ years), and Advanced Schema Therapists, Trainer/Supervisor. This podcast offers thoughtful, insight-rich episodes to help you understand your patterns, heal from past emotional wounds and start rewriting your Love Template.If you’ve ever felt stuck in familiar dynamics like seeking approval, fearing abandonment, dating narcissists or losing yourself in relationships, you’re not alone. Healing for Love is a space for self-reflection, emotional insight and practical encouragement.  Here, you’ll learn how to reconnect with your worth, trust your inner voice and build relationships that support who you truly are.This is for the woman who’s ready to feel more secure, more whole and more herself - in love and in life.

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  • Creator
    Dr Gemma Gladstone
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    141
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Healing For Love
  • Show Website
    Healing For Love

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