G'day, I'm Kat John. My mission is to inspire you to save your fks for the things that matter and give zerofks to the things that don't. Through sharing real guidance, raw truths relatable stories, this podcast is sure to help you dig deep into yourself and create a new outlook on life. New episodes released on Monday. Listen anywhere you get your podcasts, and please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it.
Live At YOUR Pace And Rhythm
My ego has been getting caught up in living at a pace and rhythm that actually isn't mine. It looks at people around me and thinks, "oh shit, you're not doing enough Kat! You need to hustle more, post more, do more, create more, busy your schedule more!"
It feels when I try to force myself out of how I know I want to live, how I want to create and to dance with life at the pace and paces that are true to me.
So it's been my practice watch this pattern come up, create a shit tonne of anxiety and attempt to put pressure on me. It's been my practice to stay in my lane, own that lane and be a-okay there.
I hope today's episode lands with you. Lemme know your take-aways and insights.
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Don't Just "Do" The Work, Integrate It
I had a great moment on a coaching call with The Legends a few weeks back. A good handful of them felt the need to confess that they had taken a break from the modules as they were integrating the work. To their surprise, they got a big "hallelujah" from me and a round of applause.
There's one thing to "do" the work. To know it, read it, talk about and think about it, but the next and most important layer is to integrate what you know, what you've read, talked and thought about into your life. That's the hard layer.
The ego will resist that step because it means change. "What if you lose your partner, job, friends, or your whole identity?" These are the silent thoughts the ego has that cock-block you from making brave and bold steps.
Enjoy today's episode and be sure to give us your feedback via review, DM or email.
Throw Your Relationship Criteria List In The Bin
I had a list, a big fat giant list of everything I wanted in a man. But I didn't just have one list ... I had umpteen lists because I kept forgetting to add "this" or "that" and wanted to make sure the Universe got my order right!
For years I was delivered what I wanted - the height, the success, the hunger for life, the physical chemistry. But for all those years, each person I'd meet and date never quite hit the sweet spot in my heart.
With spiritual maturity and epic annoyance of not attracting in the real deal, I got rid of all the lists and started focusing on the essence of the relationship I desired. I imagined the energy of "us", the feel "us", the way I was around him, felt around him and imagined that I could be my full self with "him".
This practice helped me open my mind, my heart, my eyes and senses to look beyond what I thought I wanted, and instead, acknowledge the essence of the person. As a result, my mind, my heart, my eyes and senses helped me acknowledge Steve as my person, someone who I friend-zoned for years because I had that darn list!
Living An Enriched Life
Something is definitely shifting in me of late, and I'm letting it happen. Usually, I'd psychoanalyse it and try to make sense of it, but this time, I'm allowing the intelligence to do it's thing as I step aside.
I can feel areas of my life that I have ignored or not placed as much importance on call me to lean into them, like family, adventure, and creating experiences and moments that I've previously deemed boring.
My clients have been inspiring me so much with their lives and it's sparked conversations between Steve and I. We've talked about living in different parts of the world, to travelling alone and honouring our independence, to how we want to lead as parents and care-givers, and more. It's been enriching and I'm excited.
Permission To Grieve
My beautiful client and now friend, Maddie, experienced a miscarriage over twelve months ago after falling pregnant unexpectedly. Being a mum was not on her radar at that time in her life, so this threw her for six.
Maddie went through a McFlurry of emotions and thoughts about what to do, what not to do and reassessed her life in a very rapid and short period of time. At her core, she knew that having this baby was not for her, but she felt guilt and shame around this. She thought of all the women finding it difficult to fall pregnant when they so badly wanted to, and how she was in a position of choice of whether to keep the baby, or not.
After looking online with not success for groups, podcasts or forums of women who has been pregnant, didn't want the baby and miscarried before having an abortion, left Maddie feeling alone and unsure of what to do with all the feelings moving through her.
In today's episode, Maddie shares her tough emotional journey with allowing herself to feel grief and how difficult it was for her to own her choice due to considering other womens' feelings before her own.
Take The Lesson And Put It Into Practice
After my big fat healing last Sunday, it was time for me to put the lessons into practice. Once I had let out the big tears and journaled, I knew to create an end result to help me channel my focus into what matters ... my family.
Every part of my ego wanted to revert back to the old pattern of being open for a day and then shutting up shop, aka my heart, for the rest of the week. But fk that - there's a new sheriff in town and that's my true authentic self.
In today's episode I share the end result I created to help me focus on letting my heart stay open and what I put into practice to make the healing and epiphany real.
I’ve followed Kat for a while. I look forward to each new episode and always learn something and come away feeling inspired. I love the little ditty’s she sings and smile along with her. Thank you Kat, keep shining bright, you’re amazing! Bex Good Foodie
I so needed to listen to this today… finally
it was an amazing reminder of how far I have come 😇
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.
Real and raw!
Thank you Kat for creating this podcast and sharing with us. It feels like you’re chatting directly to me. I love your real ness and I appreciate your zero FKS approach! You are such an inspiration. Thank you thank you thank you 🙏🏽💛