UNDERSTANDABLE

Robert Siegers
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► Hi, my name is Robert! For a long time, I wondered why relationships felt so much harder for me than for others. Over the past years, I had the privilege of spending thousands of dollars and countless hours working with four different therapists, exploring what actually creates emotional safety ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions. I am not a health professional. My content is based on research & my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for 3 years.

  1. 2 days ago

    THIS Makes an Avoidant Start Chasing You (Obsessed With You for Good)

    ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad) Welcome to today's episode! In this video I share with you from first hand experience as an avoidant myself what makes an avoidant chase you and obsessed with you. ► Links and Resources: The Avoidant’s Idea of a Healthy Relationship Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6bFFqAAWobU&t=2274s Deactivation Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fi-wUf36e9k&t=1s My Rock Bottom Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkVmvMkZUI4&t=79s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction 01:24 Disclaimer: "Getting Your Ex Back" 05:40 The Gottman Question 07:33 #1: Understand Their Core Wounds 11:02 #2: Go Full No Contact 15:47 #3: Build a Life Without Them 19:12 #4: When They Come Back 20:39 The Power of Compassion 24:41 #5: What You Can Change 28:42 What You Should Never Accept 31:31 Summary ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

  2. 4 days ago

    Recovered Avoidant Explains Why Avoidants Always Come Back To You

    ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad) Welcome to today's episode! In this video I explain from my perspective as a recovered, healed avoidant, why avoidants always come back to you. ► Links and Resources: Limerence vs Love Video: https://youtu.be/mmNjDwdPwOA?si=5kwKwhP2ljk_ie8s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction 01:08 The Recovery Timeline 01:55 Group 1: The Unaware Avoidant 08:11 Group 2: Coming Back for Regulation 11:48 Group 3: They Come Back Because They Love You 18:26 While You Wait for Them 19:18 When They Come Back ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

  3. 6 days ago

    What an Avoidant Secretly Thinks During No Contact (They'll Never Tell You)

    ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad) Welcome to today's episode! In this video I talk about what an avoidant secretly thinks during no contact. They will never tell you that... But I do as a recovered avoidant myself. ► Links and Resources: The Avoidant’s Idea of a Healthy Relationship Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6bFFqAAWobU&t=2274s The Moment I Decided to Change Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkVmvMkZUI4&t=79s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction 01:52 Group 1: The Unaware Avoidant 14:28 Group 2: The Self-Aware Avoidant 19:50 What the Aware Avoidant Hopes For 21:06 If They Come Back ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

  4. 20 Sept

    This Is What Losing You Really Feels Like to an Avoidant

    ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad) Welcome to today's episode! In this video I explain in brutally honest detail how losing you really feels to an actual avoidant. ► Links and Resources: The Moment They're Afraid of Losing You Video: https://youtu.be/uVcVsS6UZvY My Rock Bottom Video: https://youtu.be/NkVmvMkZUI4?si=89L0sNvEjEGS0tZO Limerence vs Real Love Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mmNjDwdPwOA&t=2s Shadow Work Video: https://youtu.be/xPSEl9sOd9I?si=qLGm14wMSPoCOPC1 ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction 03:21 How Losing You Feels to an Avoidant 04:38 When The Longing Comes Back 05:38 Panic and Rock Bottom 06:44 Crawling Back During No Contact 08:11 What They Actually Lose: The Illusion 12:53 Your Perspective as a Partner 15:50 What You Can Do ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

  5. 18 Sept

    THIS Eventually Happens to an Avoidant Who Refuses to Heal

    ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad) Welcome to today's episode! In this video I talk about what eventually happens to an avoidant who refuses to heal. ► Links and Resources: Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx P*rn Addiction Video: https://youtu.be/zNfV-U7lxkg My Rock Bottom Moment Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkVmvMkZUI4&t=79s&pp=0gcJCRsMAYcqIYzv ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction to Avoidance 01:01 Why Avoidance Works 04:27 Personal Patterns and Breakups 12:30 Decreasing Effectiveness 20:13 The Avoidant Midlife Crisis 25:15 Hitting Rock Bottom ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

  6. 16 Sept

    Why P0rn Addiction Exposes Avoidant Attachment (99% of the Time)

    ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad) Welcome to today's episode! Today's one is a quite shame laden episode. We talk about the dark link between avoidant attachment and p*rn addiction. ► Links and Resources: Deactivation Strategies Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fi-wUf36e9k&t=1s Sexual compulsion Paper: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4394850/ Attachment Insecurity & Problematic Porn Use Paper: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38898361/ ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction 01:30 Avoidant Roots 04:45 The Dating Phase 07:05 Rollercoaster Phase (P0rn Consumption Begins) 14:00 Drought Period (P0rn Addiciton Implements) 16:00 Summary 18:00 What You Can Do ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

  7. 13 Sept

    THIS Is What Avoidants Do When They're Afraid of Losing You

    ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad) Welcome to today's episode! In this video I talk about what avoidants do when they're afraid of losing you. I also unpack the hidden link behind their fear of commitment and their fear of losing you... ► Links and Resources: Deactivation Strategides Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fi-wUf36e9k&t=1s Why Avoidants Always Come Back Video: https://youtu.be/YfiJsB7XXx8 ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction 02:15 A Note to Hurt Partners 03:50 Before the Relationship 09:59 The Chase 11:46 The Moment of Commitment 16:00 When Conflict Arrives 20:34 The Breakup and Relief 22:15 When They Are Finally Afraid of Losing You 26:05 When They Come Back ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

  8. 12 Sept

    To Anyone Who's Loving or Leaving an Avoidant…

    ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad) Welcome to today's episode! This one is a very personal one for me. It's a message for everyone who's loving or leaving an avoidant. ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 To Anyone Loving or Leaving an Avoidant... 02:01 Confusion 03:55 The Truth About Them 06:52 A Way Out of the Dark 07:20 1. Coming Home to Yourself 09:40 2. Taking Yourself Back 11:13 3. Becoming Unshakable 12:50 4. Rising & Refocusing 15:24 5. Attracting Secure Love 16:10 6. Love Without Losing Yourself 17:41 The Next Step ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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► Hi, my name is Robert! For a long time, I wondered why relationships felt so much harder for me than for others. Over the past years, I had the privilege of spending thousands of dollars and countless hours working with four different therapists, exploring what actually creates emotional safety ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions. I am not a health professional. My content is based on research & my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for 3 years.

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  • Creator
    Robert Siegers
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2026
  • Episodes
    421
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Robert Siegers
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    UNDERSTANDABLE

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