Above Average

Lorissa and Alex

Welcome to Above Average. For the women who want the career, the family, the marriage, AND the personal goals... ...and are tired of being told that wanting it all means failing at all of it. We're having the candid conversations no one else is having about what it takes, what's working, and what we're still figuring out. Because being a high achiever doesn't mean you have it all figured out. It means you never settle. Hosted by Alex Payetta and Lorissa Violet

Episodes

  1. Emma Grede's "Three-Hour Mom" Take, And the Judgment Going Both Ways

    2D AGO ·  BONUS

    Emma Grede's "Three-Hour Mom" Take, And the Judgment Going Both Ways

    Sometimes you're in the rhythm and everything feels good. Sometimes the rhythm breaks and you have to rebuild the whole thing. In this catch-up, one of us is in each season. Alex and Lorissa catch up on where they each actually are right now.. one of them in the most grounded season she's had in a while, one of them hitting a wall and re-working how she runs her week. The conversation wanders into the Emma Grede "three-hour mom" debate, the judgment between working moms and stay-at-home moms, and why kids turn out how they turn out regardless of what we do. What We Cover → The moment Lorissa realized compounding Fridays was never going to catch her up → The Emma Grede "three-hour mom" take and the problem with judging other parents' choices → Why Lorissa's third baby year has felt completely different than her first two Connect With Us Alex Payetta alexpayetta.com | @alexpayetta Lorissa Violet lorissaviolet.com | @lorissaviolet Timestamps 0:00 Alex's "I feel lucky all the time" season 2:15 Morning gratitude walks with a 4-year-old 3:48 Lorissa hits a wall, Lorissa's List takes off, and the one-day-a-week model breaks 6:30 Why being particular means being involved 8:10 Not blending work and kids, even when the baby is just chilling 11:22 Third-baby year: why time actually feels slower this time 14:05 The Emma Grede three-hour mom debate 17:40 Judgment between working moms and stay-at-home moms 20:18 The friend whose stay-at-home mom couldn't let them travel 22:00 Nature versus nurture, and kids who turn out great anyway

    20 min
  2. It All Comes Back To Blood Sugar | Dr. Sam Riley on Energy Crashes, Cravings & Hormones

    APR 27

    It All Comes Back To Blood Sugar | Dr. Sam Riley on Energy Crashes, Cravings & Hormones

    You keep trying new supplements, new workouts, new morning routines, and something still feels off. The thing nobody is checking is usually the thing running underneath all of it. Dr. Sam Riley is back for round two. This time we go deep on blood sugar.. why it sits at the root of hair loss, insomnia, weight that won't budge, hormone issues, fertility struggles, and the anxiety that seems to come out of nowhere. What You'll Learn → The everyday symptom most women write off as "just hangry" that's actually a red flag for something much bigger → Why intermittent fasting is making a huge group of women feel worse, and how to know if you're in that group → The four foods Dr. Sam pulls first when someone says "I've tried everything and nothing is working" → What a continuous glucose monitor actually shows you in two weeks (and why the first week you shouldn't change a thing) → The protein number that makes women's jaws hit the floor, and the math that makes it doable → How food order at a single meal can completely change the way your body responds Wake Up Different Dr. Sam kept coming back to the same thing.. consistency with the basics. That's 90% of the work right there. Wake Up Different is the 28-day rebuild that turns the basics.. protein first, regulated, fueled.. from a daily decision into your default. 👉 https://alexpayetta.com/wakeupdifferent Connect With Us Lorissa Violet lorissaviolet.com | @lorissaviolet Alex Payetta alexpayetta.com | @alexpayetta Dr. Sam Riley drsamriley.com | @dr.samriley Mentioned in This Episode Ashley Barrett Wellness — Virtual Nutritional Therapy PractitionerDiabetes with Dani — Creator of Conquer Your Diabetes, a Type 1 program for kids and womenCyrex Labs — food sensitivity and autoimmune testingTimestamps 0:00 Why blood sugar is almost every woman's first problem 4:12 Hangry, sweaty, anxious, emotional, the Snickers commercial response 8:45 What a continuous glucose monitor actually tells you 14:20 Hair thinning, insomnia, weight that won't budge 19:08 Cortisol, chronic stress, and the insulin receptor shut-down 24:30 The protein math for women and how to actually hit it 30:15 Food order at a meal and why it completely changes blood sugar response 36:40 PCOS, fertility, and the vegan-to-pregnant story 42:50 Diet Coke culture, carbonation, and what it does to digestion 48:22 The four foods Dr. Sam pulls first 54:10 Kids, tantrums, night waking, and the parasite conversation nobody is having 1:02:05 Workouts, fasting, and fueling your body 1:08:40 Where to actually start today

    1h 5m
  3. When Charts, Timers, and Consequences Stop Working | Peaceful Parenting with Randy Free

    APR 13

    When Charts, Timers, and Consequences Stop Working | Peaceful Parenting with Randy Free

    You've tried the charts, the timers, the consequences, the gentle approach, and your kid is still melting down every morning before anyone's out the door. What Randy Free teaches is the middle ground many parents are actually looking for, somewhere between gentle parenting and old-school discipline, and it works for all kid (even neurodivergent ones). Randy Free is a family counselor and retired international tax partner who spent 30 years in high-pressure corporate environments before building the PEACE-ful Parenting Process for neurodivergent kids and the high-achieving parents trying to figure out what actually works. What You'll Learn A simple framework for deciding which battles to fight and which ones to let go, so you stop trying to correct everything at once.What's actually happening in your child's brain during a meltdown, and why your calm matters more than your consequence.The story Randy tells about kicking his own son's door down in anger, and what his son remembered years later (it's not the lesson).Mentioned in This Episode Randy Free's PEACE-ful Parenting Process at coachtoresilience.comThe PEACE-ful Parenting Self Assessment (free download): https://drive.google.com/file/d/1t5k06pPR-OeTqDBiMIJh_bE4j9phnhra/viewTake the Stress Loop Quiz This whole episode comes back to how the mom's nervous system sets the tone for the entire house. If you've been running at a pace that leaves no room for patience, that shows up in every interaction with your kids. The Stress Loop quiz helps you figure out where your capacity is actually breaking down so you can start building it back. alexpayetta.com/quiz Connect With Us Alex Payetta at alexpayetta.com and @alexpayetta on Instagram Lorissa Violet at lorissaviolet.com and @lorissaviolet on Instagram Timestamps 0:00 Meet Randy Free and his path from tax partner to parenting counselor 2:45 The PEACE acronym and how peaceful parenting differs from gentle parenting 6:30 The parenting quadrant, choosing your battles with red, blue, green, and yellow 12:15 Alex and Lorissa on the consistency struggle between partners 18:00 Nature vs. nurture and how neurodivergent brains process emotions differently 23:30 Mirror neurons and why your kids absorb your stress 29:00 The volcano exercise for teaching kids their own warning signs 35:00 Repairing after you lose your temper 40:45 When kids question authority and where to draw the line 48:00 Over-scheduling and what transitions do to a child's nervous system 55:00 Structure vs. flexibility for neurodivergent kids 1:00:00 Parenting a highly intelligent child who is emotionally behind 1:05:00 How to work with Randy and where to find him

    1h 19m
  4. How We Actually Run Our Households | Meal Prep, Cleaning, Outsourcing & Daily Systems

    MAR 27

    How We Actually Run Our Households | Meal Prep, Cleaning, Outsourcing & Daily Systems

    Two moms break down every system they use to run their households, businesses, and families without losing their minds. If you've ever felt like you're doing a million things and none of it is running smoothly, this one's for you. What You'll Learn → The weekly rhythm that replaced seven nightly "what's for dinner" spirals with one 30-minute decision → How a $75/week hire fits into a system that runs your entire household without you holding every piece → The thing Alex does every single day that most people don't even know exists, and it's saving her hours Grab the Free Guide Everything we talked about in this episode comes back to one thing: knowing where your time is actually going so you can take it back. Alex put together a free guide called "4 Proven Strategies to Get Back 10 Hours Every Week" that walks you through the exact audit and filtering process she uses with every single client. If this episode fired you up, start here. 👉 https://alexpayetta.com/createtime Connect With Us Alex Payetta https://alexpayetta.com | https://www.instagram.com/alexpayetta/ Lorissa Violet https://lorissaviolet.com | https://www.instagram.com/lorissaviolet/ Mentioned in This Episode Butcher Box https://www.butcherbox.com Thrive Market https://www.thrivemarket.com/lorissa Mixbook https://www.mixbook.com Whisper Flow https://whisperflow.com Resonant https://resonant.app The Short Years https://theshortyears.com Asana https://asana.com Timestamps 0:00 Life updates (Japan, South by Southwest, sleep struggles) 12:00 Meal systems and why we eat the same thing every day 19:24 Why Lorissa picks sleep over the 5:30 AM workout 23:31 Buying back your time before anything else 26:45 Revenge bedtime procrastination 37:03 What happened when a client got a task management system 44:00 The $75/week part-time assistant breakdown 57:00 Car bins, mudroom staging, diaper bag systems 62:00 Kids artwork system that keeps memories without clutter 68:42 Why Lorissa starts every day praying for discernment 76:36 How AI is changing the way Alex runs her business

    1h 25m
  5. Nervous System, Stress, and Fixing the Root Cause with Dr. Sam Riley

    MAR 14

    Nervous System, Stress, and Fixing the Root Cause with Dr. Sam Riley

    We have our first guest ever on the pod, Dr. Sam Riley. He's a chiropractor who practices frequency medicine, which means he looks at the whole person: structural, emotional, and biochemical. We get into why "fixing your nervous system" might be missing the point, what's actually behind high cortisol and that tired-but-wired feeling, and why emotions show up in the body more than most people realize. What we cover: → Dr. Sam's origin story (and the moment he walked out of his allergist's office at 14) → What frequency medicine actually is and how it differs from Western medicine → Why your nervous system might be doing exactly what it's supposed to do → The connection between emotions and physical symptoms → Alex's fertility journey and what shifted when she addressed a subconscious block → High cortisol, fight or flight, and the "tired but wired" cycle → Blood sugar, hydration, and minerals—the foundations most people skip → Why working on emotional trauma is just as important as seeing a chiropractor → Practical takeaways for high-achieving women who can't overhaul their lives overnight Hosted by @LorissaViolet and @AlexPayetta Links: To find Alex: → Follow @alexpayetta https://www.instagram.com/alexpayetta/ → Download Free Guide How to get 10+ Hours Back / Week https://alexpayetta.myflodesk.com/createtime → Learn more about at www.alexpayetta.com To find Lorissa: → Follow @lorissaviolet → LORISSAVIOLET.com To find Dr. Sam Riley: → Dr. Sam Riley on Instagram: @dr.samriley → Book with Dr. Sam: www.RileyChiro.com

    58 min

About

Welcome to Above Average. For the women who want the career, the family, the marriage, AND the personal goals... ...and are tired of being told that wanting it all means failing at all of it. We're having the candid conversations no one else is having about what it takes, what's working, and what we're still figuring out. Because being a high achiever doesn't mean you have it all figured out. It means you never settle. Hosted by Alex Payetta and Lorissa Violet

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