ADHD with Jenna Free

Jenna Free

When you're tired of trying the latest ADHD tips and tricks it's time to do some deeper work. This is what we do here. No more rushing to get everything over with so you can go lay down. We are here to regulate and start truly living (and enjoying) your life. Through ADHD Regulation work we will change the way you experience life with ADHD (think more fun and less dread).

  1. FEB 9

    EP. 46: Why "Honoring Your ADHD" Can Keep You Stuck and The Misunderstanding That Makes Things Worse

    What if honouring your ADHD brain is actually making things worse? What if the relief you feel from avoiding stressful tasks isn't self-acceptance... but dysregulation running the show? In this episode, I break down three common ways we think we're honouring our neurodivergence, but we're actually fueling the dysregulation. There's a difference between conscious choice and compulsive avoidance. One is empowering. The other keeps you stuck. We'll look at: why avoiding things that cause anxiety (like mail) tells your nervous system they're dangerous - making the problem worse over time how the panic sprinter cycle (frantic bursts then crash) isn't your natural state - it's your brain in fight or flight why text message overwhelm is dysregulation, not neurodivergence (all-or-nothing thinking, perfectionism, feeling like demands) the key question: is this a conscious choice I'm making, or is dysregulation making choices for me? how to break these cycles by facing things with regulation work - not white-knuckling, not avoiding You're an adult. You can do whatever you want. But when you're making choices from a regulated place, you'll actually want to do the things that used to feel impossible. Download the free ADHD Regulation Guide -- www.adhdwithjennafree.com/adhdguide Want to dive into this work to reduce symptoms and make life more enjoyable? ADHD Groups are now open -- www.adhdwithjennafree.com/groups Pre-order "The Simple Guide to ADHD Regulation" -- www.jennafree.com/book Connect with Me Instagram TikTok

    22 min
  2. JAN 26

    EP. 44: Why ADHDers Get Stuck in Paralysis and The Counterintuitive Way Out

    Pre-order "The Simple Guide to ADHD Regulation" - linktr.ee/adhdwithjennafree ADHD Regulation Groups are now open! - www.adhdwithjennafree.com/groups You can get your free ADHD Regulation Guide here - www.adhdwithjennafree.com/adhdguide Chapters 00:00 Introduction & Physical Regulation Moment 01:00 What is ADHD Paralysis? The Traditional View 02:00 The Missing Piece: Fight or Flight 03:00 Executive Dysfunction vs. Dysregulation 04:00 Jenna's Personal Experience with Paralysis 06:00 Understanding the Freeze Response 08:00 Why Forcing Yourself Makes It Worse 11:00 The Alternative: Getting Your Foot Off the Brake 12:00 The Power of "Slow and Steady Wins the Race" 14:00 Practical Steps for Paralysis Moments 16:00 The Overwhelm-Paralysis Pipeline 18:00 Beliefs That Changed Everything Summary In this episode, I talk about ADHD paralysis and why the mainstream understanding is missing a huge piece. The traditional view says paralysis stems from executive dysfunction, but here's the problem: it doesn't account for the fact that most ADHDers are also in fight or flight. We're dysregulated. When we're in fight-flight-freeze-fawn, so many symptoms of ADHD and dysregulation overlap that we can't tell what's coming from where. The mainstream message assumes it's all coming from your ADHD brain, but my perspective is that yes, we have an ADHD brain and that kicked us into fight or flight - but now so much of what we're dealing with is actually the dysregulation, not the ADHD itself. This is amazing news because you can get out of dysregulation. I share my personal experience: since focusing almost solely on regulation, I haven't experienced paralysis in a year and a half. I break down what's happening in the freeze response - physical symptoms like muscle tension and fatigue, psychological symptoms like dissociation and feeling stuck. Here's the counterintuitive piece: when you feel stuck, you feel like you need to force yourself back into action with urgency, guilt, and shame, but this will not help - it only makes it worse. You might get moving short-term, but it triggers more dysregulation, creating more paralysis. The alternative is to get your foot off the brake - reduce tension and frantic energy. I walk through the importance of physical regulation in paralysis moments (deep breath, drop shoulders, speak out loud "I'm safe"), why belief work like "slow and steady wins the race" is vital, and how to work on the overwhelm-paralysis pipeline. The real question isn't how to force yourself out of paralysis - it's how to heal the dysregulation causing the freeze response. Action Step This week, when you experience paralysis, notice it objectively with curiosity - not judgment. Ask yourself: is overwhelm present right before the paralysis? They often go together. Instead of forcing yourself with urgency or shame, try the physical regulation approach: take a deep breath, drop your shoulders, slow down. If you're stuck on the couch, say out loud "I'm laying on the couch. I'm safe. It's okay." This might feel counterintuitive when you feel like you should be jumping into action, but remember - the white-knuckling grip is what's causing the freeze. Relaxing that grip is how you eventually stop freezing up. It won't get you unstuck in that second, but if you do this whenever you think of it, you're working on reducing paralysis long-term instead of just forcing yourself through it short-term. And start playing with the belief "slow and steady wins the race" - can you find even a crack in your armor where part of you goes "maybe that's true"? Takeaways ADHD paralysis is often caused by nervous system dysregulation (the freeze response) rather than just executive dysfunction - and freeze is workable through regulation The mainstream view blames paralysis on having an ADHD brain, but much of what we're dealing with in adulthood is actually the dysregulation our different brain kicked us into Forcing yourself with urgency, guilt, shame, and fear might get you moving short-term, but it makes the paralysis worse long-term by triggering more dysregulation The freeze response causes physical symptoms (muscle tension, chronic fatigue, restricted breathing) and psychological symptoms (dissociation, emotional numbness, feeling stuck, hypervigilance) Getting out of paralysis requires the opposite of what feels intuitive - you need to reduce tension and frantic energy (get your foot off the brake), not increase it with more force Connect with Me Instagram TikTok

    21 min
  3. JAN 19

    EP. 43: What does regulation do for ADHD?

    ADHD Regulation Groups are now open! - www.adhdwithjennafree.com/groups You can get your free ADHD Regulation Guide here - www.adhdwithjennafree.com/adhdguide Chapters 00:00 Introduction: Not Regulating for Regulation's Sake 01:30 ADHD Regulation Groups Are Open 03:00 Why "Should" Never Sustains Motivation 05:00 Push Motivators vs Pull Motivators 07:00 The Real Question: Do I Want a Regulated Life? 08:00 Benefit #1: Blood Flow Returns to Your Brain 08:30 Benefit #2: Executive Functioning Increases 09:00 Benefit #3: Symptoms Go Down 10:00 Benefit #4: More Sustainable and Consistent Living 14:00 Benefit #5: Enjoyment (The Biggest Motivator) 18:00 Recap: What Are You Pulled Towards? Summary In this episode, I talk about why you shouldn't regulate just because you think you should - and what to focus on instead. I get comments saying "I know I should regulate but I don't know how" or "I should be working on it," and the key here is: regulation is not good or bad, you're not a bad person if you're dysregulated. If you're only doing it because you feel like you should, it's probably not going to end well. Just like exercise - if you're only doing it because you should, it won't stick. But if you genuinely want to feel good, strong, and have a more vibrant life, it's easier to keep up with. I break down why "shoulds" never sustain motivation - they're push motivators (running away from something) versus pull motivators (walking towards something you want). Push motivation works short-term but is unsustainable. Pull motivation keeps you going long-term. I share the 5 key benefits of ADHD regulation to help you connect with what you're actually pulled towards: (1) Blood flow returns to your prefrontal cortex so you can think clearly, (2) Executive functioning increases, (3) ADHD symptoms go down, (4) You can live in a more sustainable and consistent way instead of the frantic crash cycle, and (5) You actually enjoy your life. I share my real-life example: 7 years of being intense then doing nothing versus 2.5 years of showing up every day with no burnout in sight - less work, less stress, more productive. The real question isn't "should I regulate?" - it's "do I want a regulated life and everything that comes with that?" Action Step This week, ask yourself: Am I trying to regulate because I think I should, or because I genuinely want what it gives me? Connect with your pull motivators, not push motivators. Do you want clearer thinking and lower symptoms? Do you want to live sustainably instead of frantically crashing? Do you want to enjoy your life while also being productive? Hold those desires in your mind. If you can't connect with those yet, that's okay - maybe you just know you don't want what you have now (paralysis, brain fog, frantic energy). That's enough to start walking forward. But don't try to force yourself with "should" - that's a recipe for dysregulation. Takeaways Regulation is not good or bad - don't do it just because you think you should, that's a recipe for dysregulation and will never sustain motivation "Shoulds" are push motivators (running away from something) which work short-term but are unsustainable - pull motivators (walking towards something you want) keep you going long-term 5 key benefits of ADHD regulation: blood flow returns to brain for clearer thinking, executive functioning increases, symptoms go down, sustainable consistent living instead of frantic crash cycle, and enjoyment of life The frantic crash cycle is not your natural state - it's you in panic mode and dysregulation, so working on sustainability isn't going against who you are You can have both productivity AND enjoyment - with regulation you get more productive, less stressed, and enjoy life more (not one or the other) Connect with Me Instagram TikTok

    22 min
  4. JAN 12

    EP. 42: Why Your ADHD Apps Aren't Working (Try This Analog Approach Instead) | ADHD with Jenna Free

    Join the Regulated Approach to ADHD Tools workshop (January 19th) - https://www.adhdwithjennafree.com/toolsworkshop You can get your free ADHD Regulation Guide here - www.adhdwithjennafree.com/adhdguide Chapters 00:00 Introduction: A Regulated Approach to ADHD Tools Workshop 02:00 ADHD, Dysregulation, and Digital Overstimulation 05:00 Why Physical Tools Are More Grounding 08:00 My Paper Calendar System (3.5 Years Strong) 11:00 Why We Choose Tools (And Why That's the Problem) 14:00 Functionality Over Dopamine 16:00 Less Is More: Simplicity Is Key 19:00 Regulating vs Dysregulating Tools Summary In this episode, I talk about why your ADHD apps and digital tools aren't working - and what to try instead. Most ADHD conversations focus on external supports like apps, calendars, and organizational systems, but sometimes our ADHD strategies are actually making things worse. There's strong messaging out there that the more complicated the ADHD tool, the better - more features, more automation, more tech. But is this really helping? When everything lives on your phone (calendar, lists, organizational apps), it's less grounding for your nervous system, easier to forget things buried digitally, and adds to overstimulation. Digital tools mirror dysregulated thinking - fast-paced, a million folders, scrolling forever. Physical analog tools mirror regulated thinking - you can only do one thing at a time, they're softer and slower. I share my paper calendar system that I've used every single workday for 3.5 years without fail (not because I'm trying hard, but because it supports my regulation). Most ADHD tools are chosen to create motivation through dopamine, novelty, or urgency - but this motivation is unreliable and fades fast (like that bean app everyone was using). The fun will fade, the aesthetics will fade. Instead, focus purely on functionality from day one. I break down why less is more, how to find your MVP (minimum viable product), and the difference between regulating tools (visible, simple, dependable, work even when you're tired) versus dysregulating tools (live entirely on phone, too many features, require frequent setup, rely on novelty). Action Step This week, assess your current ADHD tools and apps. Ask yourself: Is this tool regulating or dysregulating my nervous system? Am I using this because it's functional and solves a real problem, or because it's pretty, fun, or gave me a dopamine hit when I first got it? Look for one area where you could simplify - maybe you have five calendars all over the place when you really need just one or two. Or maybe everything lives on your phone when one physical tool (like a paper calendar or simple notebook) would be more grounding. What's the MVP - the minimum viable product - that would actually solve your problem without all the extra features you're not using anyway? Takeaways Digital ADHD tools can be dysregulating - when everything lives on your phone, it's less grounding, easier to forget (buried digitally), and adds to overstimulation with lights, sounds, and fast-paced scrolling Physical analog tools are more regulating because they're tactile, slower, and force you to do one thing at a time - your nervous system is primal and prefers the physical world Most ADHD apps are chosen for dopamine, novelty, or urgency - but this motivation is unreliable and fades within 3 days to a week, which is why you keep buying new tools that don't stick Focus purely on functionality, not aesthetics or fun - the prettiest calendar won't help if you stop using it after a week, but an ugly functional one you use every day will change your life Less is more: simplicity is key - cut the fluff, find your MVP (minimum viable product), and make tools as simple as possible so they work even when you're tired or low energy Connect with Me Instagram TikTok

    23 min
  5. JAN 5

    EP. 41: Why You Can't Change Your ADHD Habits (Your Identity Is Keeping You Stuck) | ADHD with Jenna Free

    Join the free "A Regulated Vision for 2026" hangout (January 8th, 10am MST) - https://www.adhdwithjennafree.com/newyears You can get your free ADHD Regulation Guide here - www.adhdwithjennafree.com/adhdguide Join the waitlist for ADHD Groups (starting January 27-28) - www.adhdwithjennafree.com/waitlist Chapters 00:00 Introduction: Free Regulated Vision for 2026 Hangout 01:15 Identity and ADHD: How You See Yourself Changes Everything 02:35 The Stereotypical ADHD Identity Trap 04:30 Your Brain Will Fight to Keep Your Identity (Even If You Hate It) 06:00 Identity Acts as a Filter 07:15 My Non-ADHD Example: Intuitive Eating Journey 09:05 My ADHD Identity Shifts 11:00 When ADHD Is No Longer Your Personality 12:25 We Act in Ways That Confirm Who We Believe We Are 14:10 ADHDers Think They Can't Do Long-Term Things 16:00 Notice Where ADHD Language Shrinks You 17:30 Regulation Work Is For People Who Believe Change Is Possible Summary In this episode, I talk about ADHD identity and how the way you see yourself determines what you attempt, what you tolerate, and how you grow. Most ADHD conversations focus on symptoms, tools, and hacks - very little attention is given to identity. But here's the thing: most change doesn't fail because of effort, it fails because of identity. The stereotypical ADHD identity sounds like "ADHDers can't watch a two-minute video" or "I'm scattered, I can't focus, I do things last minute, I can't follow through." These may describe states or actions (especially when dysregulated), but they get mistaken for traits - for who we are. When we solidify these states into our identity, we stop trying to build capacity, stop trusting ourselves, and regulation feels unrealistic. Your nervous system will work hard to protect your identity, even parts you don't like. Identity acts as a filter - it determines what you notice and dismiss. If you identify as someone who can't focus, you'll unconsciously collect evidence that confirms it. This is why ADHD regulation efforts feel pointless when we think "this is just who I am." I share my journey with intuitive eating (shifting from strict dieter to intuitive eater over 10 years with zero effort now) and my ADHD journey (from "I just do things last minute, that's who I am" to identifying as someone who values slowing down and regulation). When ADHD is no longer your personality or ceiling, when symptoms and dysregulation aren't who you are, everything opens up. People stay consistent through identity, not willpower - you don't have to motivate yourself to act in character. When identity shifts, urgency-based motivation fades and positive motivators come out. Regulation work is for people who believe change is possible and are ready to expand how they see themselves. Action Step This week, ask yourself: How do I describe myself? What do I identify with? Do the ways I identify make regulation, growth, and the change I'm looking for easier or harder? Notice where ADHD language shrinks you - phrases like "I'm a procrastinator," "I can't focus," "I'm lazy," "I'm not motivated." These keep you stuck. Consider what shifts you might make in how you want to see yourself. Are you someone who values enjoying life? Are your actions showing that? Are you someone who believes change is possible? Start there. You don't have to change who you are, but work on how you see yourself - that's the first step before any regulation work can stick. Takeaways Most ADHD change doesn't fail because of effort, it fails because of identity - the way you see yourself determines what you attempt and what feels possible Your brain fights to keep your identity even if you don't like it - going against who you believe you are feels unsafe, so if you identify as "scattered and can't focus," your system will work to keep that Identity acts as a filter determining what you notice and dismiss - if you take criticism to heart but dismiss compliments, that's your identity at work People stay consistent through identity, not willpower - you don't have to motivate yourself to act in character, you naturally do things that align with how you see yourself Regulation work is for people who believe change is possible, value depth over hacks, and are ready to expand how they see themselves - not for people who want to stay inside the ADHD stereotype Connect with Me Instagram TikTok

    19 min
  6. 2025-12-29

    EP. 40: Why Long-Term Goals Feel Impossible with ADHD (And How to Change That) | ADHD with Jenna Free

    Join the free "A Regulated Vision for 2026" hangout (January 8th, 10am MST) - https://www.adhdwithjennafree.com/newyears You can get your free ADHD Regulation Guide here - www.adhdwithjennafree.com/adhdguide Join the waitlist for ADHD Groups (starting January 27 & 28) - www.adhdwithjennafree.com/waitlist Chapters 00:00 Introduction: Why Goals Feel Exhausting 01:00 You've Only Ever Pursued Goals from a Survival State 03:00 Why Relief is Your Primary Dopamine Source 05:00 The Primal Metaphor: Running from the Bear vs Picking Berries 08:00 Why Focusing on the End Goal Keeps You Stuck 11:00 What Regulated Motivation Actually Looks Like 14:00 My Real Life Example: 7 Years Dysregulated vs 2.5 Years Regulated 17:00 Growth is a Long-Term Game 19:00 This Week's Practice: Shift from Sprint to Present Summary In this episode, I talk about why long-term goals feel impossible with ADHD - and how to actually change that. If goals feel exhausting, you have ideas but pursuing them feels overwhelming and anxiety-fueled, and you can't sustain anything long-term, you're likely dysregulated. Here's what's really happening: you've only ever pursued goals from a survival state, and survival state motivation is sprint motivation. When you're in fight or flight, your body isn't trying to help you grow - it's trying to help you survive or escape. The only motivation that works in that state is urgency, shame, fear, and guilt. This is why you can't start a project until the deadline is hours away, why you crash after submitting something, and why you burn out trying to fix your whole life in a weekend. I share a powerful analogy: you're trying to climb a mountain with "run from the bear" energy, but all meaningful goals require "walk the mountain path to pick berries" energy. These are two completely different nervous system modes. Most ADHDers have only ever operated in sprint mode, but all goals worth having require that steady foraging energy. I break down what keeps you stuck (focusing on completion as the only reward, needing panic to get started) and what regulated motivation actually looks like (steady, sustainable, internally rewarding, about experience not escape). I share my real-life entrepreneur example: 7 years dysregulated getting nowhere versus 2.5 years regulated building consistent momentum. The key isn't trying harder - it's working on the state of your nervous system so you can access that berry-picking energy. Action Step This week, when you sit down to do something (start small - even washing dishes counts), notice when you get into that sprinting energy of "I gotta get this over with." Shift it to: "For the next few minutes, I'm just going to be present with the task at hand. I'm just gonna do what I'm doing." You're teaching your nervous system: this is safe, I'm not running from a bear, I am picking berries. This disrupts that relief-driven cycle and starts building your capacity for sustainable, long-term effort. Remember: slowing down doesn't mean doing less - it means picking berries instead of running from the bear. Takeaways You've only ever pursued ADHD goals from a survival state, and survival motivation is sprint motivation - urgency, shame, fear, guilt - which can't sustain long-term pursuits When dysregulated, relief is your primary dopamine source (just get it over with) versus fulfillment (I want to do this) - this is why you can't stick with goals The analogy: you're trying to climb mountains with "run from the bear" energy when you need "walk the path to pick berries" energy - two completely different nervous system modes Regulated motivation is steady, sustainable, internally rewarding, and about experience not escape - you can start without panic, continue without adrenaline, stop without self-judgment, and pick up again without dread Slowing down and being present with each step (berry-picking energy) will get you to your goals more consistently than sprinting (bear energy) - sustainability beats intensity for anything meaningful Connect with Me Instagram TikTok

    24 min
4.8
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When you're tired of trying the latest ADHD tips and tricks it's time to do some deeper work. This is what we do here. No more rushing to get everything over with so you can go lay down. We are here to regulate and start truly living (and enjoying) your life. Through ADHD Regulation work we will change the way you experience life with ADHD (think more fun and less dread).

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