Bewildered

Dear Marty and Ro, I once was lost but now am found by the Bewildered podcast!! I began listening about a year ago, at the prompt of a dear friend. I’ve been a long time fan of Dr. Martha Beck since reading Finding Your North Star when it first came out, and knocked my socks off. Socks were everywhere! Bewildered podcast is a delightful revelation in this chapter of my life, like North Star when I first received it. And it is so much more. It is such a uniquely amazing thing to share in your laughter and love and vulnerability and silliness and kindness and intellect and wit and humanity. Thank you!!! A zillion times thank you. I love the meandering style of the podcast, and the cheeky way that you avoid convention by creating your own cultural conventions. Thank you for being you out loud, and refusing to perform professionalism for the first chunk of each show! I just love it. Including the implicit invitation to consider what I’m trying to figure out. Here’s one: As a bi woman, it’s terribly interesting to me that our p*rn industries are quite enthusiastic about presenting multiple women with each other in sexual contexts, but the notion of interwoven love lives, or families and households that break out of a hetero-nuclear model, are still somehow aberrant. And Thank Goddess for you, that you are all willing to be aberrant aloud! We other butterflies (well this one anyway!) need to be reminded regularly that we are not wrong for wanting something different than the culture dictates. As for me… “I like it!”! I love you all so much! I am listening through the back catalogue a bit at a time, trying not to binge and leave myself in a Bewildered-less desert. Luckily, I get to share in that same warmth, and the gentle shifts in thinking, upon second listens. I am plentifully bewildered on the daily… and Bewildered nourishes my spirit in ways I can’t even describe. ❤️‍🔥Your work helps me to feel so much less alone in the world… that is a very profound gift. Marty, thank you for being brilliant AND weird, aloud in this world, for all the years so far! You do a profound service to smart women (all women) by doing so. You are enriching the world in such a unique and life-giving way. Ro, thank you for being brilliant AND weird, aloud in this world. Your laughter is a chorus of angelic bells. Keep pealing ! And being oh-so-human as well. I am with you on the motherhood journey as a single mom in my 40s, now with my son at six years old. Speaking of pealing:peeling - bringing conscious attention to how I parent and letting that drive the inner work I do is honestly the most intense personal development a**kicking I have ever had. Parenthood (and uniquely, motherhood) favours the brave! Finally, six years in, I seem to be able to hold my boundaries with a light and loving heart. Thank you both for sharing your unusual, creative, hilarious, wacky, brilliant selves (and throuplehood) so courageously with the world! Thank you for reminding me that so much more is possible from the grounded place of healthy and loving relationships! Love love love you! Mwah!! ❤️‍🔥

I have been listening to Bewildered for a while now and it’s been so good for my mental health, especially in current times. Martha and Ro are amazing - I feel like I’m at home when listening to their banter. Such a comfortable, soft place to land. Thank you both.

In one of the episodes, Martha mentioned that she wrote her book with the intention of finding people like her—people she imagined were out there somewhere. When I heard that, it struck me deeply because I instantly felt like one of those people. Listening to both of you feels like having a warm, insightful conversation with kindred spirits. Your humor, honesty, and the way you both explore the bewildering parts of life have been such a gift. It’s helped me feel seen and understood in ways I didn’t expect. As someone who has been navigating a profound healing journey over the past few years, your words and stories have resonated with me in a very meaningful way. Feels like being wrapped in the warmest family hug. Thank you so much for sharing your brilliance and for creating a space where people can feel more connected - to you, to themselves and to the world around. It means so much. ❤️

My girlfriend brought your podcast to my attention a few weeks ago and I have been listening everyday in my car while I work. You both are so funny but also so inspiring. Thank you.