Found at 40

Chrissi Harris
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Turns out, life doesn’t come with a manual—but it does come with a podcast. Found at 40 is a podcast for women in midlife having honest conversations about relationships, work, parenting, and figuring out who we are in this season. Each week, guests over 40 share their best lessons, hilarious moments, and wisdom that only comes from surviving the ultimate group projects of marriage, motherhood, and careers. Together, we talk through the chaotic season of shifting identities, evolving marriages, growing kids, perimenopause knocking at the door, and the quiet panic of reinvention. It’s what we’ve learned now that we’re finally old enough to know better—and still occasionally do it anyway. Because midlife isn’t a crisis… it’s just incredibly well-researched content. Welcome to the group chat you didn’t know you needed. Instagram: @foundat40podcast

  1. 5D AGO

    Why So Many Women Are Getting ADHD Diagnoses in Midlife: ADHD vs. Dysregulation

    There is a question that so many women in midlife seem to be asking lately: “Do I have ADHD… or am I just completely overwhelmed?” Using a recent article about women receiving ADHD diagnoses in midlife as a jumping-off point, they talk through inattentive ADHD, hyperfocus, procrastination, emotional dysregulation, and the systems women build to keep life moving. Sarah shares what it was like growing up as a smart, energetic, often “spacey” kid whose ADHD traits were easy to miss, while Chrissi explores the difference between lifelong ADHD and the very midlife feeling of dysregulation– being scattered, overstimulated, and maxed out. It’s part sister conversation, part midlife brain audit, and part permission slip to ask a better question than “What’s wrong with my brain?”  (0:00) 🧠 Why so many women are asking about ADHD in midlife (1:00) 📅 Maycember chaos, end-of-school-year overload, and the midlife mental load (3:00) 💉 PRP facials, aging, sister banter, and the ongoing “who’s older?” debate (7:00) 🦷 Sarah’s root canal, big test energy, and major life transitions (9:00) 📖 The article that sparked the conversation: women, ADHD diagnoses, and the systems that suddenly stop working (11:00) 🤸 Sarah’s childhood ADHD clues: constant movement, gifted programs, spacing out, and missed signs (13:00) 📝 Why inattentive ADHD in girls was so often overlooked (16:00) 🧺 When motherhood, work, and unpredictability overwhelm even the best coping systems (18:00) 🎯 Hyperfocus, changing majors, “going off vibes,” and wondering what could have been different (21:00) ⏰ Procrastination, urgency, adrenaline, and the crash after getting everything done (24:00) 🎓 Former gifted girls, anxiety, ADHD, and the shame of feeling smart but stuck (26:00) ☕ Caffeine, ADHD medication, and what it feels like when a noisy brain finally quiets down (28:00) 🛒 The grocery list spiral: when one simple task turns into a full life reorganization (31:00) 🌪️ ADHD vs. dysregulation: feeling scattered, overwhelmed, overstimulated, or unable to function (33:00) 🔊 Emotional, sensory, and behavioral dysregulation in midlife (36:00) 🚪 Reducing input, setting boundaries, and the “unless there’s fire or blood” rule (38:00) 🫶 Lowering the shame and asking what your brain actually needs (40:00) 🐅 The tiger-in-captivity question, summer survival, kids’ phones, and midlife brain management (43:00) 💬 Final thoughts for ADHD women, dysregulated women, and everyone whose brain is following side quests Link to The Cut Article Link to Liz Moody podcast episode on ADHD and dysregulation  ✨ Hit follow, send this episode to your group chat, and leave a glowing review 📱 Check out @foundat40podcast on Instagram for extras, outtakes, and mild oversharing 🎙️ Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify 📺 Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Foundat40 SEO keywords: ADHD in women, ADHD in midlife, women with ADHD, inattentive ADHD, ADHD diagnosis in adulthood, midlife women, perimenopause and ADHD, emotional dysregulation, sensory overload, executive function, ADHD paralysis, hyperfocus, procrastination, mental load, overwhelmed moms, women’s mental health, anxiety and ADHD, adult ADHD, Found at 40 podcast

    45 min

  2. APR 28

    Life After 40: What We’re Loving, Learning, and Loathing This Week

    This week on Found at 40, Chrissi and Sarah are sharing what they’re loving, learning, and loathing in midlife—because life after 40 is equal parts growth, monotony, reinvention, and “are we really doing this again?” moments. From small personal wins to bigger mindset shifts, they talk about how to feel less stuck, more present, and actually enjoy your life in your 40s. They dive into the “Novelty Rule” (and how to make time feel slower and more meaningful), why so many of us feel behind in midlife, and how stress can completely shut down your creativity and decision-making. Plus: travel highs, sister stories, and the things currently testing their patience—including the housing market and some necessary rage toward unacceptable male behavior.  (0:00) 🎙️ Welcome back + midlife catch-up with sisters (1:00) ✈️ Two Truths and a Lie—and a surprising win (4:00) 👶 Parenting then vs. now and how things have changed (6:00) 📖 Discovering poetry in your 40s and unexpected inspiration (8:00) 🤔 Feeling behind in life and midlife timeline pressure (11:00) 👏 Self-worth, confidence, and letting go of outside validation (12:00) 🌴 Virgin Islands trip: travel, snorkeling, and unforgettable moments (16:00) 🧠 The Novelty Rule: how to make life feel slower and more meaningful (19:00) 🔄 Breaking routines and escaping midlife autopilot (20:00) 😵‍💫 Stress, burnout, and the “freeze” response explained (23:00) 🔥 What we’re loathing: unacceptable behavior from certain men in Congress (30:00) 🏡 The housing market, finances, and why adulting feels harder than ever Learn more about The Novelty Rule on the Liz Moody Podcast ✨ Hit follow, send this episode to your group chat, and leave a glowing review 📱 Check out @foundat40podcast on Instagram for extras, outtakes, and mild oversharing 🎙️ Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify 📺 Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Foundat40 Keywords: midlife podcast, life after 40, women in their 40s, midlife reset, feeling stuck in life, how to stop feeling behind, novelty rule, how to make life more exciting, midlife burnout, stress and freeze response, personal growth podcast, self improvement for women, confidence in your 40s, reinvention in midlife, routines vs novelty, making life feel meaningful, housing market struggles, adulting in your 40s, sister podcast, relatable podcast for women

    35 min

  3. APR 21

    Your Brain is a Liar: How to Stop Overthinking & Break Old Patterns in Midlife

    If your brain has been running the same exhausting loops—overthinking, second-guessing, telling you you’re behind—this episode is going to feel like a reset. I’m joined by life coach Ashley Molitor, who helps women unlearn the BS stories that keep them stuck, overwhelmed, and disconnected from themselves. We get into the patterns, limiting beliefs, and midlife mindset shifts that quietly run the show—and how to finally break free from them. If you’ve ever felt like you know what needs to change but can’t seem to do it, this conversation will hit. (0:00) 🔄 The “spinning wheel of death” in your brain—midlife overthinking explained (2:00) 🎯 What a life coach actually does (and how it helps you break patterns faster) (5:00) 🧠 Why your brain resists change—and keeps you stuck in the same cycles (7:30) 📖 Limiting beliefs: the stories you didn’t choose but keep living by (10:30) ⏳ “I’ll focus on me later”—why that mindset never works (12:30) 🗓️ Living on autopilot: busy, overwhelmed, and disconnected from your values (15:30) 🤝 Motherhood, burnout & why asking for help is the real power move (18:30) ⚖️ Body image, negative self-talk & separating facts from the story (21:30) 🔁 The patterns you don’t realize you have (relationships, habits & self-sabotage) (25:00) ❓ The questions you’re asking yourself that keep you stuck (30:00) 🔥 How to identify patterns by looking at results you don’t like (34:00) 😵 Post-interaction spiraling & how to stop overanalyzing everything (38:30) ✨ Letting go of “shoulds” and rewriting the story you actually want Follow Ashley on Instagram at @ashleylmolitor and or visit her website at https://www.ashleymolitor.com ✨ Hit follow, send this episode to your group chat, and leave a glowing review 📱 Check out @foundat40podcast on Instagram for extras, outtakes, and mild oversharing 🎙️ Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify 📺 Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Foundat40 Keywords: midlife overthinking, limiting beliefs, self-sabotage, breaking patterns, mindset for women, life coach Ashley Molitor, feeling stuck in midlife, negative self-talk, body image, boundaries, emotional health, personal growth for women, midlife reset, confidence, self-trust

    44 min

  4. APR 14

    Sarah is Engaged!!! 💍 Find Love Again in Your 40s 💖

    After divorce, heartbreak, and nearly 20 years in a marriage that ultimately wasn’t right, Sarah is sharing the full story of how she found love again in midlife—and knew this relationship was different. In this episode, we talk honestly about dating after divorce, learning to trust your intuition, recognizing green flags, and why finding love in your 40s can actually be better than the first time around. Plus, Sarah shares the wildly sweet engagement story that had me secretly wearing a wig in public like a low-budget spy. If you’re navigating dating in your 40s, healing after divorce, or wondering if healthy love is still out there for you… this one is for you. (0:00) 🌴 Spring break adventures, capybara encounters, and why St. Augustine unexpectedly delivered (3:00) 👽 Our latest family obsession: Project Hail Mary, aliens, and audiobook recommendations (5:00) 💍 Sarah officially announces she’s engaged—and adjusting to fiancé life (7:00) 💔 Rewinding the clock: life after the end of a 19-year marriage and starting over after divorce (9:00) ❤️‍🩹 Dating after divorce, rebuilding confidence, and why jumping in too fast can happen (10:00) 🚩 “Where’s the bag of hair?” — the hilarious dating metaphor for hidden red flags in midlife dating courtesy of the movie Fever Pitch with Drew Barrymore and Jimmy Fallon (13:00) 💚 The unexpected green flags that made Sarah realize this relationship felt different (15:00) 🧠 Chemistry vs. compatibility: what actually matters in long-term relationships (17:00) 🏡 What 19 years of marriage taught Sarah about what she truly needs in a partner (19:00) 🕵️ Behind-the-scenes of the engagement setup, ring recon, and my accidental secret-agent role (24:00) 🎶 The proposal night: how the surprise engagement actually unfolded at the Cannons concert (28:00) 😂 Why I was hiding in a Velma-esque wig and secretly filming the whole thing (34:00) ✨ Why finding love in your 40s can be better than finding it in your 20s (35:00) 🧭 Dating after divorce advice: trusting your intuition, listening to your body, and not ignoring warning signs (44:00) 💕 The biggest lessons Sarah learned about healthy love, emotional safety, and knowing when it’s right ✨ Hit follow, send this episode to your group chat, and leave a glowing review 📱 Check out @foundat40podcast on Instagram for extras, outtakes, and mild oversharing 🎙️ Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify 📺 Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Foundat40

    51 min

  5. APR 7

    Feeling Lost? Finding Yourself Again When Life Doesn’t Go as Planned

    If you’ve ever looked at your life and thought, “wait… this isn’t what I planned,” this episode will hit close to home—in the best way. Today, I’m joined by Jess Prudhomme for a deeply honest conversation about what it really looks like to navigate life when things don’t go as expected. We talk about identity shifts, starting over, and the quiet (and sometimes painful) process of finding your way back to yourself. If you’re feeling lost, stuck, or like you’ve outgrown your life, this one will remind you—you’re not alone, and you’re not off track. (0:00) 🎙️ Meet Jess Prudhomme + the moment you realize life isn’t going as planned (3:00) 🧭 The subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs you’ve outgrown your life (6:00) 💔 When everything starts shifting—relationships, identity, and direction (9:00) 🧠 The internal spiral: feeling lost, confused, and disconnected from yourself (13:00) 🔄 The idea of a “life detour” and why it’s not what we think (17:00) ⚖️ Letting go of the life you planned vs. clinging to what feels safe (21:00) 🧩 Identity unraveling: who am I if I’m not this version of myself? (25:00) 🚪 The moment things start to crack open (even if it doesn’t feel like it yet) (29:00) 🌱 Healing isn’t linear—what growth actually looks like in real life (33:00) 🗣️ Learning to trust your intuition again after big life changes (37:00) 🔍 The difference between alignment, avoidance, and starting over (41:00) 💡 What “finding yourself again” really means (and what it doesn’t) (45:00) ✨ Small shifts that begin the road back to yourself (48:00) 🤍 The unexpected gifts hidden inside life not going to plan Follow Jess on Instagram at @thegreatdetour and listen to her podcast, The Great Detour, or visit her website at thegreatdetour.com ✨ Hit follow, send this episode to your group chat, and leave a glowing review 📱 Check out @foundat40podcast on Instagram for extras, outtakes, and mild oversharing 🎙️ Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify 📺 Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Foundat40 finding yourself again, feeling lost in life, life doesn’t go as planned, starting over, identity crisis, personal growth, healing journey, trusting yourself, life transitions, burnout, self discovery, women’s personal development, reinventing yourself, emotional healing, life changes

    57 min

  6. MAR 31

    Millennial Menopause: The Perimenopause Truth No One Talks About (Symptoms, Hormones & What to Expect)

    Perimenopause has entered the chat—and most of us were never given the manual. In this episode, I sit down with therapist and author Lauren Tetenbaum to unpack what’s actually happening in our bodies during perimenopause and menopause, and why so many women feel blindsided by it. This conversation is equal parts validating, eye-opening, and surprisingly empowering. If you’ve ever wondered, “Is this normal?”—this episode is for you. We talk symptoms, hormones, identity shifts, and what it really looks like to prepare for this next phase of life—without fear, shame, or misinformation. (0:00) 🎙️ Why perimenopause feels like it came out of nowhere for so many women (4:00) 🤯 The early symptoms of perimenopause you might be missing (and mislabeling) (7:00) 🧠 Brain fog, mood swings & anxiety—what’s actually happening hormonally (11:00) 🔄 Why your body suddenly feels “off” (and why it’s not in your head) (15:00) 🩺 The biggest gaps in women’s health education around menopause (19:00) 📉 Hormones explained simply: what’s dropping, shifting, and why it matters (23:00) 😩 Sleep issues, irritability & burnout—how they’re all connected (27:00) 💬 The emotional side of perimenopause no one talks about (31:00) 🔥 Libido, relationships & identity changes in midlife (35:00) 🧴 What actually helps: treatment options, lifestyle shifts & support (39:00) 📚 Inside Millennial Menopause—why this guide is different (43:00) 🧩 How to advocate for yourself with doctors (and what to ask for) (47:00) 🌱 Reframing menopause as a transition—not a decline (51:00) ✨ What women in their 30s and 40s should know now to feel prepared Follow Lauren on Instagram at @thecounselaur ✨ Hit follow, send this episode to your group chat, and leave a glowing review 📱 Check out @foundat40podcast on Instagram for extras, outtakes, and mild oversharing 🎙️ Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify 📺 Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Foundat40

    52 min

  7. MAR 24

    If You Want a Village, You Have to Be a Villager: Why Community Feels So Hard Right Now

    If you’ve ever thought, “I want a village… but also I don’t want to leave my house,” this episode is going to feel uncomfortably relatable—in the best way. Today I’m joined by writer, speaker, and educator Brooke Romney, whose words about community, connection, and showing up have sparked conversations everywhere. In this honest, witty, and thought-provoking conversation, we dig into why so many of us are craving deeper friendships and real community—while also protecting our time, guarding our energy, and avoiding anything inconvenient. We talk about what modern life is getting right (hello, convenience) and what it might be quietly costing us, the invisible work that actually holds communities together, and why the little things we tend to dismiss might be the exact things that create the connection we’re looking for. (0:00) 🎙️ Meet Brooke Romney + why this conversation about community matters now (6:00) 💬 The viral post that sparked a bigger conversation about connection (7:00) 🧠 “If we only do what we enjoy… who does the rest?” (10:00) 🔄 What shifted from “protect your peace” to craving real community (13:00) 📱 Convenience culture, screen time, and why life feels lonelier (16:00) 🧩 The invisible work that quietly holds communities together (19:00) 🚨 The bystander effect—and why people don’t step up (24:00) ⚖️ People-pleasing vs. true community (a powerful reframe) (28:00) ✨ Why things that don’t spark joy often lead to deeper fulfillment (34:00) 🏡 What it actually means to “be a villager” in real life (37:00) 😓 When you feel like you’re the only one showing up (44:00) 🌱 Simple, realistic ways to start building connection today Follow Brooke on Instagram at @brookeromneywrites ✨ Hit follow, send this episode to your group chat, and leave a glowing review 📱 Check out @foundat40podcast on Instagram for extras, outtakes, and mild oversharing 🎙️ Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify 📺 Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Foundat40

    50 min

  8. MAR 17

    Midlife Advice We’re Absolutely Not Qualified to Give

    If you’ve ever wondered how to make friends in your 40s, how to parent a teenager without losing authority, or what to do when you don’t know what you’re doing with your life—this episode is for you. In this first-ever advice episode of Found at 40, Chrissi is joined by her sister Sarah to answer real listener questions about friendship in adulthood, marriage communication, parenting teens, identity in midlife, and navigating major life transitions after 40.  This conversation covers everything from how long it actually takes to build deep friendships as an adult, to what to do when your spouse wants something you’re not comfortable with, to how to approach difficult relationships with parents—even in your 40s. They also unpack midlife career confusion, rediscovering yourself after years of motherhood, and the emotional transition of your child graduating and leaving home. If you’re feeling stuck, disconnected, or like you “should have it figured out by now,” this episode offers honest, practical, and relatable advice for navigating midlife with more clarity, confidence, and self-trust. (0:00) 🎙️ Advice episode kickoff: unfiltered, real-life advice for midlife women (2:00) 💔 Divorce, healing, and rebuilding your life in your 40s (5:00) 🍝 Parenting, family life, and redefining “normal” experiences for your kids (10:00) 🤝 How to make friends in your 40s and build real adult friendships (12:00) ⏳ How long it takes to form deep friendships (and why it feels so hard) (14:00) 🔁 Simple habits that turn acquaintances into close friends (16:00) 🔥 Marriage communication: what to do when partners want different things sexually (20:00) 🧭 Midlife identity crisis: “I don’t know what to do with my life” (25:00) 📱 Reconnecting with yourself: boredom, phone habits, and self-discovery (27:00) 🛍️ Midlife confidence and style: when to invest in yourself (yes, even leggings) (29:00) 💡 Life lessons by 40: stress, money, and what actually matters (30:00) 👩‍👧 Parenting teens: boundaries, trust, and staying the parent—not the friend (34:00) 😬 Difficult parent relationships: setting boundaries and communicating with confidence (40:00) 🎓 Kids leaving home: navigating identity, grief, and the empty nest transition (41:00) ❤️ Friendship in your 40s: what qualities matter most now ✨ Hit follow, send this episode to your group chat, and leave a glowing review 📱 Check out @foundat40podcast on Instagram for extras, outtakes, and mild oversharing 🎙️ Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify 📺 Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Foundat40

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Turns out, life doesn’t come with a manual—but it does come with a podcast. Found at 40 is a podcast for women in midlife having honest conversations about relationships, work, parenting, and figuring out who we are in this season. Each week, guests over 40 share their best lessons, hilarious moments, and wisdom that only comes from surviving the ultimate group projects of marriage, motherhood, and careers. Together, we talk through the chaotic season of shifting identities, evolving marriages, growing kids, perimenopause knocking at the door, and the quiet panic of reinvention. It’s what we’ve learned now that we’re finally old enough to know better—and still occasionally do it anyway. Because midlife isn’t a crisis… it’s just incredibly well-researched content. Welcome to the group chat you didn’t know you needed. Instagram: @foundat40podcast

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  • Creator
    Chrissi Harris
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    46
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Found at 40
  • Show Website
    Found at 40

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