Friendless

James Avramenko
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Are you feeling lonely or struggling to make friends? You're not alone. In 'Friendless,' host James Avramenko explores the ups and downs of friendship, the challenges of making new connections, and the impact of social isolation on our mental health. Each episode, James talks to people from all walks of life who have experienced friendship struggles and share their stories of triumph and perseverance. From overcoming shyness to navigating social anxiety, 'Friendless' offers practical tips and empathetic advice to help you build meaningful connections and find your community. Join James as he explores the complex world of human connection and the power of friendship.

  1. Sometimes Things Work Out (LIVE at the Book Warehouse with Special Guest Susin Nielsen!)

    1D AGO · VIDEO

    Sometimes Things Work Out (LIVE at the Book Warehouse with Special Guest Susin Nielsen!)

    This week on a very special episode of Friendless,  host James Avramenko welcomes acclaimed author Susin Nielsen for a live recording at Book Warehouse Vancouver. Susin's latest novel "Snap" tells the story of three unlikely friends brought together through an anger management program—and it all started with a real incident at a disastrous school visit 15 years ago. In this wide-ranging conversation, Susin and James explore the power of optimistic storytelling in dark times, the peculiar difficulty of making friends in Vancouver (despite everyone being "so outwardly cheery"), and why setting Canadian stories in "any town USA" drove Susin crazy enough to plant her work firmly in Vancouver's streets and neighbourhoods. They also dive into Susin's journey from craft services on Degrassi Junior High to writing on the show at age 22, creating positive work environments on Family Law, refusing publisher pressure to censor her work, and her recent experiments with meditation and church-going (for the community, not necessarily Jesus). Whether you're interested in the craft of writing, the challenge of building community, or just want to hear two people who love Vancouver bond over its friendship paradoxes, this conversation has something for you. Links & Resources: Susin's Website: susinnielsen.com/ Book Warehouse Vancouver: [link]Sign up for the Friendless Substack HERE! Follow Friendless on TikTok and on Instagram Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!! Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

    54 min
  2. Practicing Resilience and Gratitude (with special guest Dr. Greg Hammer)

    JAN 20 · VIDEO

    Practicing Resilience and Gratitude (with special guest Dr. Greg Hammer)

    This week on a very special episode of Friendless, I sit down with Dr. Greg Hammer—pediatric intensive care physician, recently retired Stanford professor, and author of A Mindful Teen—to talk about what we're actually doing to young people in 2025. We unpack the unique pressures facing today's teens: smartphones as double-edged swords, the performative perfection trap of social media, sextortion and AI-generated abuse, fentanyl-laced everything, gun violence as background noise, and the impossible college admissions race. You know, light stuff. But here's the thing—Dr. Hammer isn't here to just list problems. We dig into his GAIN method (Gratitude, Acceptance, Intention, Non-Judgment), a practical framework for building actual resilience without the therapy-speak b******t. We talk about neuroplasticity, the negativity bias our brains are stuck with from evolutionary baggage, and why telling your kids to be grateful while you complain about traffic doesn't work. We also get real about recognizing depression versus sadness, the telltale signs parents and teachers miss, and why love needs to be a verb, not just a feeling. Fair warning: this episode discusses teen mental health, suicide, and self-harm in depth. In This Episode: Why "kids are resilient" is a cop-out The self-surveillance generation and viral culture paralysis How smartphones and social media rewire developing brains The GAIN method: a 3-minute daily practice for mental resilience Three Good Things: the stupidly simple gratitude practice that actually works Modeling behaviour vs. telling kids what to do Recognizing the signs of clinical depression in teens Why we're all more alike than different (and our dark thoughts aren't unique)Guest Bio:Dr. Greg Hammer is a pediatric intensive care physician, recently retired professor at Stanford University School of Medicine, and author of Gain Without Pain and A Mindful Teen. He's spent his career studying physical and mental wellness, longevity science, and resilience practices—and has raised teenagers while watching an entire generation navigate challenges he never had to face. Resources: A Mindful Teen by Dr. Greg Hammer: Amazon | Barnes & Noble Dr. Hammer's website: greghammer​md.com Instagram: @greghammer​mdMental Health Resources: Canada: Call or text 988 (Suicide Crisis Helpline) USA: Call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) Crisis Text Line (both countries): Text HOME to 741741Sign up for the Friendless Substack HERE! Follow Friendless on TikTok and on Instagram Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!! Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

    46 min
  3. Sobriety and the Art of Queer Friendships (with special guest Will Pacheco)

    JAN 13 · VIDEO

    Sobriety and the Art of Queer Friendships (with special guest Will Pacheco)

    In this very special episode of Friendless, host James Avramenko delves into the complexities of friendship, sobriety, and mental health with his dear friend William Raphael Pacheco. Join them as they discuss the impact of family names, the challenges of quitting substances, and the journey toward self-acceptance.  They share laughs, deep reflections, and valuable life insights on maintaining friendships and navigating queer spaces while staying sober. Follow Will on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/will.r.pacheco/ Sign up for the Friendless Substack HERE! Follow Friendless on TikTok and on Instagram Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!! Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

    1h 13m
  4. The Art of Writing and Belonging (with special guest Genki Ferguson)

    JAN 6 · VIDEO

    The Art of Writing and Belonging (with special guest Genki Ferguson)

    In this very special episode of 'Friendless,' recorded live at the Book Warehouse on Main Street, host welcomes guest Genki Ferguson, an author based in Vancouver. Genki shares insights on his writing career, experiences working at Book Warehouse, and studying at Emily Carr University. He talks about his debut novel 'Satellite Love' and his forthcoming book 'The Love An Abalone Feels For the Sea' set for 2027 release. The discussion dives deep into the timelines of publishing, the process of writing, and the importance of community for writers. Genki and James also touch on the impact of independent bookstores, online communities like Bookstagram and BookTok, and how different storytelling mediums influence their work. The conversation wraps up with reflections on the state of the publishing industry and the significance of organic connections and community in a writer's journey. You can find Genki Ferguson's debut novel Satellite Love at your local bookstore, and follow them on Instagram @genki_ferguson. Sign up for the Friendless Substack HERE! Follow Friendless on TikTok  and on Instagram Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!! Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

    41 min
  5. 2026? I Hardly 2025-er! (Year End Retrospective Special!)

    2025-12-30 · VIDEO

    2026? I Hardly 2025-er! (Year End Retrospective Special!)

    In this very special episode of Friendless, join host James Avramenko in a look back on the year that was 2025. He reflects on the highs and lows of the past year. James opens up about his medical leave, mental health, and the complexities of dealing with burnout. He discusses guest highlights, including interviews with Dean Spade and Dust Kwaine, and shares his thoughts on the current state of friendship in culture. James also provides recommendations for books, movies, and music that defined his year and announces exciting new plans for 2026, including monthly live episodes with local authors. Tune in for an honest and insightful look back at 2025 and a glimpse into what's coming next. Sign up for the Friendless Substack HERE! Follow Friendless on TikTok and on Instagram Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!! Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr Books Mentioned: Giovanni’s Room - James Baldwin Monsters: A Fan’s Dilemma - Claire Dederer Penance - Eliza Clark Ten Bridges I’ve Burnt: A Memoir in Verse - Brontez Purnell The Children of Jocasta - Natalie Haynes The Five: The Untold Lives of the Women Killed by Jack the Ripper - Hallie Rubenhold Follow me on StoryGraph: https://app.thestorygraph.com/profile/javramenko Movies Mentioned: Sinners Final Destination: Bloodlines One Battle After Another Eddington 28 Years Later Follow me on Letterboxd: https://letterboxd.com/anaveragemango/

    46 min
  6. Love At First Sight (with special guest Lee Smith)

    2025-09-17 · VIDEO

    Love At First Sight (with special guest Lee Smith)

    In this very special episode of "Friendless," host James Avramenko sits down with dear friend and special guest Lee Smith for an honest, vulnerable conversation about connection, identity, and the unexpected magic of friendship. Together, they unpack the challenges of forging community in a remote world, the unique energy of in-person gatherings, and the exhilarating (and sometimes scary) experience of bringing all your people together. James and Lee discuss the power of vulnerability when inviting others into your life, what it means to support and witness friends through life transitions, and how personal growth can manifest in surprising ways. From reflections on midlife rediscovery and the shifting meaning of happiness, to playful confessions about Pokemon-themed parties, stickers, and the joys of childhood nostalgia, this episode explores how small gestures and authentic presence can deepen bonds. Listeners will also hear insights on reparenting practices, the importance of building and nurturing friendship "toolkits," and the radical idea of bringing romance and intentionality into platonic relationships. Lee and James share actionable tips on staying connected (including the transformative act of making a friends list!), and discuss how celebrating one another can anchor us through life’s valleys and peaks. If you're searching for inspiration to reconnect with your community, tools for meaningful self-reflection, or simply a joyful reminder of the power of showing up as your truest self, this episode will leave you feeling seen and supported. Call to action: Take a moment this week to write down your friends’ names and reach out with a small note, gift, or message to let them know how much they mean to you! Sign up for the Friendless Substack HERE! Follow Friendless on TikTok and on Instagram Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!! Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr Connect with your own community and share your "lightning bolt moments" with #FriendlessPod!

    56 min
  7. The Woo and The Boo (with special guest Gavin Harper)

    2025-09-10 · VIDEO

    The Woo and The Boo (with special guest Gavin Harper)

    This week on a very special episode of Friendless, host James Avramenko welcomes back one of his best friends, Gavin Harper, for an honest, heartwarming, and hilarious catch-up. Together they dive deep into the complexities of names and identity, community building, and the tough but necessary process of personal growth after life implosions. Gavin shares candid reflections on leaving a difficult job, navigating tricky workplace relationships, and embracing accountability for past actions—all while finding new joy and authenticity through connection, especially among Vancouver’s vibrant queer, autistic, and wrestling-loving communities. The episode is packed with stories about rebuilding after hardship, the cathartic magic of local pro wrestling, and the powers of “quiet time” with friends. James and Gavin laugh about introversion, party timing misadventures, and why pro wrestling is better than Disneyland. They also tackle topics like embracing authentic selfhood, sobriety, and the challenges and triumphs of making new friends as adults. Whether you’re looking for tips on healing, building community, or simply in need of some affirming laughs, this Friendless episode reminds us that real friendship is found in vulnerability, mutual care, and showing up for each other—whether in the wrestling ring or the living room. Tune in for wisdom, laughter, and a reminder that you don’t always have to be entertaining to be a good friend—sometimes, you just need to be there. Sign up for the Friendless Substack HERE! Follow Friendless on TikTok and on Instagram Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!! Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

    58 min
  8. Being the Great Optimist (with special guest Dust Cwaine)

    2025-08-26 · VIDEO

    Being the Great Optimist (with special guest Dust Cwaine)

    This week on a very special episode of Friendless, host James Avramenko sits down with one of Vancouver’s premier drag musicians and local icon, Dust Cwaine. From their first Instagram DM to this lively conversation, James and Dust dive into the realities of art, friendship, and finding connection in Vancouver’s often tough-to-crack creative scene.Dust opens up about their journey from writing profiles in BeatRoute Magazine to nine years in drag and making a name as a bold, genre-bending musician. Together, they unpack the intersections of drag, music, and legacy—why Dust made the leap from ephemeral lip-syncing to creating original music that lasts.Along the way, you’ll hear candid talk about building micro-communities, navigating friendship breakups, and what it really takes to be vulnerable—both onstage and off. Dust shares wisdom on mentorship, the tension and fun that drives their creative process, and why leaving little tangible gifts (like handwritten notes) for loved ones matters so much.Expect laughs, honest confessions, the value of a “six pack” of close friends, and even the story of Dust’s triumph over epic earwax. Plus, Dust debuts a special exclusive track from their upcoming album, Twin Lakes.If you’ve ever felt like making friends is hard or wondered how to build art—and relationships—that truly last, this episode is for you.Sign up for the Friendless Substack HERE!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramSupport the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

    1h 15m
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Are you feeling lonely or struggling to make friends? You're not alone. In 'Friendless,' host James Avramenko explores the ups and downs of friendship, the challenges of making new connections, and the impact of social isolation on our mental health. Each episode, James talks to people from all walks of life who have experienced friendship struggles and share their stories of triumph and perseverance. From overcoming shyness to navigating social anxiety, 'Friendless' offers practical tips and empathetic advice to help you build meaningful connections and find your community. Join James as he explores the complex world of human connection and the power of friendship.

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  • Creator
    James Avramenko
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    167
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2022 Friendless
  • Show Website
    Friendless

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