Own Your Identity

Jason Mellard
  • 5.0 (2)
  • Sexuality
  • Updated Biweekly

Own Your Identity empowers men experiencing same-sex attraction to live a life of purpose and possibility. Each episode contains actionable tools to keep listeners moving forward into the life they truly desire, through the power of Christ and for the glory of God.

  1. The Power of Meaning and Focus

    1d ago

    The Power of Meaning and Focus

    What does the Pride flag mean to you? In this deeply personal episode, I share why the Pride flag has represented grief, permission, deception, and opportunity throughout different seasons of my life. More importantly, I explore two powerful abilities God has given each of us: the ability to choose what something means and the ability to choose what we focus on. Through my own story, the story of my dad, and timeless biblical examples, we'll discover how the meanings we assign to life's hardest experiences shape the people we become—and how Scripture invites us to interpret our lives in ways that produce greater faith, hope, love, and purpose. Life happens. The meaning we give it is a choice. Is Same-Sex Attraction Holding You Back? | Free Assessment

    12 min
  2. The Power of a Mentor Mindset

    Jun 20

    The Power of a Mentor Mindset

    What if the best time to adopt a mentor mindset is when you feel least qualified? Most of us think of mentors as successful, confident people who have already overcome life's challenges. But what if one of the most powerful things you could do in a difficult season is spend two minutes a day thinking like a future guide? In this episode, I share a vulnerable story from my final semester of college when I landed in the emergency room after a nervous breakdown. Looking back, I believe adopting a mentor mindset—even for a few minutes a day—could have changed the way I walked through that season.You'll learn:• Why your current struggle may matter more than you think• How a mentor mindset creates hope in the middle of pain• Six things every mentor believes• Why God often uses our hardest experiences to prepare us to help others• Three practical tools for developing a mentor mindset today Whether you're navigating same-sex attraction, loneliness, divorce, rejection, a faith crisis, pornography recovery, or simply a season that doesn't make sense, this episode will challenge you to stop asking only, "How do I get through this?" and start asking, "What am I learning that might help someone else someday?" Because your story isn't over. And someone needs the wisdom you're gaining right now. 🌐 Do you feel like SSA is bigger than you? Take SSAquiz: https://ownyouridentitynow.com/ssaquiz/ 🤝 Interested in coaching? Visit https://ownyouridentitynow.com/coaching/ #OwnYourIdentity #Mentorship #PersonalGrowth #ChristianMen #Purpose #Healing #SameSexAttraction #FaithJourney #MentalHealth #Leadership

    15 min
  3. Don't Let SSA Color Your Future

    Jun 12

    Don't Let SSA Color Your Future

    Chuck was 73 years old before he shared about his same-sex attractions. For decades, fear, shame, and silence kept parts of his story hidden. But when he finally chose to use his voice, he discovered something many of us need to hear: It is never too late. Never too late to tell the truth. Never too late to step out of hiding. Never too late to embrace who God says you are. In this conversation, Chuck shares his journey toward greater freedom, courage, and authenticity—and how choosing to live in the light changed everything. If you've ever wondered whether your story still matters, this episode is for you. For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com

    37 min
  4. If Muscles Could Talk

    Jun 5

    If Muscles Could Talk

    Why did a muscle magazine have such a hold on me? For years, I found myself drawn to images of strong, muscular men. I thought I was looking at bodies. Looking back, I think I was looking for something else. In this episode, I explore a question that has followed me for decades: If muscles could talk, what would they say? They seemed to promise strength, confidence, belonging, security, and relief from the fear that I wasn't enough. But no matter how much I worked out, the message never changed: "Get back to the gym." Join me as I unpack the deeper story behind body image, masculinity, comparison, and same-sex attraction—and how I discovered that the things we pursue for worth can never give us what we're truly seeking. Whether you've struggled with body shame, comparison, insecurity, or the feeling that you have to earn your place in the world, I think you'll find something of yourself in this conversation. In this episode: Why I was obsessed with muscle magazinesThe hidden messages I attached to muscular bodiesHow body image became a search for worthThe difference between pursuing strength and pursuing reliefWhat muscles can and cannot give usFinding identity beyond performance and appearance ✉️I'd love to hear from you! Shoot me a line at hello@jasonmellard.com 🔗 Learn more about coaching and resources: Own Your Identity

    8 min
  5. Shirts vs. Skins: Uncovering Body Shame

    May 23

    Shirts vs. Skins: Uncovering Body Shame

    What if the shame you carry about your body is actually tied to a deeper story you’ve believed about yourself? In this deeply personal episode, Jason shares vivid memories from his childhood and teenage years — from “shirts vs. skins” in PE to comparing himself to other boys, feeling exposed in his body, and believing he didn’t measure up as a man. He explores how body shame can shape identity, fuel comparison, distort confidence, and even become entangled with validation, masculinity, and same-sex attraction. You’ll also hear honest stories and reflections from men in the Own Your Identity community about insecurity, comparison, fitness, shame, and healing. In this episode: Why body shame often begins in small, confusing moments The hidden story many men attach to their bodies How comparison steals presence and confidence The overlap between body shame, validation, and same-sex attraction Why a “better body” can’t heal a wounded identity A practical framework for healing body shame How the gospel speaks to shame, exposure, and worth You do not need a different body to begin living a meaningful life. You need a different story. Learn more about coaching and resources at ownyouridentitynow.com

    21 min

  6. Apr 12

    You've Got What it Takes

    “You’ve got what it takes.” That’s what my friend Noah writes to Timothy—a young man experiencing same-sex attraction (SSA) and feeling alone.In this episode, I share Noah’s letter and the impact it had on me. If you’ve wrestled with SSA, shame, identity, or your future, I hope this reminds you: you are not alone, and your story isn’t over.👉 Read Noah’s full letter: https://jasonmellard.com/dear-timothy-with-love-noah/👉 Coaching: https://ownyouridentitynow.com/groupcoaching

    25 min
  7. Don’t Die Wondering: Interview with Bent on Men author

    Mar 22

    Don’t Die Wondering: Interview with Bent on Men author

    What are you avoiding that you don’t want to die wondering about? In this conversation with Harrison Bly, author of Bent on Men, we explore a simple but confronting rule of life: don’t die wondering. We talk about what it looks like to: Say the honest thing in friendshipsShare your story instead of hiding itGet curious about your attractions instead of fearing themTake small, meaningful risks that move you toward connectionHarrison shares how vulnerability didn’t come all at once, but through a series of small decisions to stop avoiding and start engaging. This episode is an invitation to stop playing it safe — and start living with courage, curiosity, and faith. Because the greatest tragedy isn’t failure… It’s living a life where you never stepped forward — and always wondered what could have been. About Harrison Bly: Harrison Bly is an author and speaker helping men find hope and freedom in the tension between faith, identity, and same-sex attraction. His book Bent on Men is a raw and honest look at his journey toward authenticity, healing, and connection. https://harrisonbly.com/ 🔗 Connect with OYI Website: https://ownyouridentitynow.com/ Coaching: https://ownyouridentitynow.com/coaching/ Take the SSA CLARTITY QUIZ: https://ownyouridentitynow.com/ssaquiz/ 🙌 If this resonated Like, subscribe, and share this with someone who needs the reminder: You don’t have to stay stuck.

    40 min

  8. Mar 6

    We Honor You

    What happens when the story you’ve been telling yourself about your attractions begins to change? In this episode, Jason talks with Kevin, a graduate of the Own Your Identity group coaching program, about his journey from shame and isolation to honesty, community, and a renewed understanding of identity. Kevin shares about growing up with confusing attractions, the loneliness of secrecy, and the courage it took to finally open up to safe people. He also talks about how learning he wasn’t alone changed everything. This conversation is a reminder that your attractions don’t define you — and that sharing your story can be a powerful step toward freedom. For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

    28 min
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Own Your Identity empowers men experiencing same-sex attraction to live a life of purpose and possibility. Each episode contains actionable tools to keep listeners moving forward into the life they truly desire, through the power of Christ and for the glory of God.

Information

  • Creator
    Jason Mellard
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    62
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Jason Mellard
  • Show Website
    Own Your Identity

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