Self-Selecting

Cory Hageman

A podcast on everything under the umbrella of nutrition, training, PEDs, bodybuilding, and maybe the occasional non-fitness add-on with @cory_fit

  1. 3 hrs ago

    E. 164 How to Stop Hating Yourself & Finally Build Real Confidence With Sue Bush

    Most women don’t struggle with fat loss because they’re lazy — they struggle because they’ve spent years hating themselves, chasing acceptance, and tying their worth to how they look. In this episode, Sue Bush joins me for an honest conversation about body image, confidence, discipline, self-worth, emotional healing, and the mindset shifts that changed her life. We talk about the pressure women feel to be accepted, how negative self-talk destroys progress, and why sustainable transformation starts with learning how to show up for yourself consistently. Sue shares her journey from insecurity, shame cycles, and perfectionism to building true confidence, emotional resilience, and a healthier relationship with herself, fitness, and food. We also discuss competing, social media pressure, boundaries, self-abandonment, therapy, discipline, and how to stop living for other people’s approval. If you’ve ever struggled with body image, self-confidence, emotional eating, perfectionism, or feeling stuck in cycles of self-sabotage, this episode will hit home. Timestamps: - [00:00 – 05:00] – Sue Bush’s fitness journey, coaching philosophy & creating sustainable fat loss - [05:00 – 09:30] – Sue’s viral Instagram series, accountability & calling people “up” - [09:30 – 13:50] – Why losing weight is easy — maintaining results is the hard part - [13:50 – 20:25] – Sue’s body image struggles, insecurity & discovering confidence through fitness - [20:25 – 27:00] – The moment Sue realized she didn’t want to feel miserable anymore - [27:00 – 31:00] – Women, acceptance, comparison culture & changing negative self-talk - [31:00 – 39:40] – Setting boundaries, people pleasing, self-abandonment & personal alignment - [39:40 – 43:50] – Taking care of yourself, emotional depletion & identifying what’s missing - [43:50 – 46:50] – Discipline, self-respect & why life isn’t fair — but your response matters - [46:50 – 51:56] – Healing trauma, changing your mindset & building emotional resilience - [51:56 – 59:30] – Sitting with yourself, finding alignment & creating lasting self-confidence Links & Resources: Follow Sue on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/suegainz/ Work With Physique Development: https://physiquedevelopment.typeform.com/to/ToP9TYLE Purchase The Complete Fat Loss Guide: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-fat-loss-guide/ Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/ https://coryfit.com/ ⁠Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min ⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultation For more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/ ⁠Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

    1 hr

  2. 4d ago

    E. 163 Why You Keep “Falling Off” Your Diet (And How to Finally Stay Consistent)

    Most people don’t fail fat loss because they lack motivation — they fail because they can’t stay consistent long enough to see results. In this episode, I break down the real psychology behind fat loss adherence, emotional eating, self-sabotage, and why so many people keep “starting over” every Monday. We cover reactive dieting, loose tracking, overeating cycles, motivation dependency, and the hidden behaviors preventing long-term weight loss success. I also explain how to build non-negotiable standards, improve dietary adherence, stop relying on pressure or guilt, and finally create sustainable fat loss habits that actually last. If you feel like you know what to do but can’t stay consistent with dieting, nutrition, or fat loss goals, this episode will help you understand why. Timestamps: - [00:00 – 04:54] – Why fat loss progress keeps falling apart and the hidden reason people lose momentum. - [04:54 – 06:44] – The REAL reason most people can’t stay consistent with dieting. - [06:44 – 11:11] – What dietary adherence actually means and why most people misjudge it. - [11:11 – 14:03] – Why your expectations don’t match your fat loss results. - [14:03 – 20:07] – Emotional dieting, negative motivation, and the toxic fat loss cycle. - [20:07 – 23:41] – Self-image, personal standards, and inconsistent eating behaviors. - [23:41 – 26:00] – Chasing goals vs escaping discomfort during fat loss. - [26:00 – 32:20] – Why your habits are tied to consequences instead of identity. - [32:20 – 34:30] – What real fat loss consistency actually looks like. - [34:30 – 38:49] – Why pressure, urgency, and “starting over” keep you stuck. - [38:49 – 41:00] – Why most people regain weight after dieting phases. - [41:00 – 43:40] – How to actually stay “on track” with nutrition and fat loss. - [43:40 – 48:28] – The biggest fat loss excuses sabotaging your progress. - [48:28 – 51:08] – Why weight loss always works when true adherence is present. - [51:08 – 54:00] – Overtraining, excessive cardio, and hidden self-sabotage behaviors. - [54:00 – 59:23] – How to stop restarting your diet and finally stay consistent. Links & Resources: Purchase The Complete Fat Loss Guide: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-fat-loss-guide/ Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/ https://coryfit.com/ ⁠Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min ⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultation For more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/ ⁠Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

    59 min

  3. May 18

    E. 162 Why Your Traps Keep Growing (The Real Problem Isn’t Genetics)

    In this episode, I break down why so many people struggle to actually target the muscles they’re trying to grow—and why poor scapular stability is often the real issue behind trap dominance, neck tension, and upper body imbalances. I explain how instability at the scapula changes muscle recruitment patterns, why many rear delt and shoulder exercises unintentionally become trap exercises, and how improving scapular control can completely change your upper body development. We also cover common misconceptions around trap growth, overhead pressing mechanics, warm-up strategies, and why most people are searching for quick fixes instead of addressing the real problem. Timestamps: - [00:00 – 04:49] – Why trap dominance happens and how scapular stability affects upper body training. - [04:50 – 07:10] – Scapular movement explained and why instability changes muscle recruitment. - [07:11 – 09:44] – Trap growth misinformation, PED myths, and why genetics aren’t the full story. - [09:45 – 14:59] – The real issue: scapular instability, elevation vs depression, and compensation patterns. - [15:00 – 17:44] – The biggest mistakes during lateral raises and rear delt flies that overgrow traps. - [17:45 – 23:55] – Overhead pressing, neurotoxins/Botox for traps, injury risks, and muscle recruitment. - [23:56 – 26:44] – Why people want quick fixes instead of improving scapular control and movement quality. - [26:45 – 33:26] – Warm-ups, mobility drills, scapular holds, and stability exercises that actually help. - [33:27 – 38:19] – Windmills, shoulder stability progressions, and exposing upper body weaknesses safely. - [38:20 – 41:20] – Exercise order, movement prep before compounds, and how to improve upper body targeting long term. Links & Resources: Purchase The Complete Fat Loss Guide: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-fat-loss-guide/ Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/ https://coryfit.com/ Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min ⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultation For more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/ ⁠Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

    41 min

  4. May 15

    E. 161 What Bodybuilding Really Costs Women (Hormones, PEDs & Motherhood) With Daraja Weidemoyer

    In this episode, Daraja Weidemoyer and I dive into the evolving standards of bikini bodybuilding, the increasing density required to stay competitive, and the difficult conversations surrounding PED use, fertility, and long-term health. Daraja shares her perspective on building a pro-level physique naturally, navigating PCOS and endometriosis, and the impact birth control had on her mood, recovery, and overall well-being. We also talk about the identity shift that comes with motherhood, learning to adapt your routine instead of chasing perfection, and why balance and sustainability are critical for longevity in bodybuilding. This episode is a real conversation about competing at a high level while staying aligned with your values, protecting your health, and creating a life outside of the sport. Timestamps: - [00:00 – 03:20] – Daraja Weidemoyer intro, bodybuilding journey, and becoming a mom. - [03:21 – 11:29] – Bikini bodybuilding becoming denser and evolving judging standards. - [11:30 – 17:26] – PED use, genetic potential, patience, and risk tolerance in bodybuilding. - [17:27 – 22:07] – Fertility, virilization concerns, and family planning in bodybuilding. - [22:08 – 30:29] – Birth control, PCOS, PMDD, and hormonal health struggles. - [30:30 – 35:22] – Managing PMS, mindset shifts, and improving self-awareness. - [35:23 – 43:59] – Competing after motherhood and adapting to the new bikini standard. - [44:00 – 48:14] – Finding a new rhythm as a mom while pursuing bodybuilding goals. - [48:15 – 52:59] – Letting go of rigidity and adapting training to real life. - [53:00 – 59:59] – Why balance and flexibility create longevity in bodybuilding. - [01:00:00 – 01:05:59] – Social media comparison, mindset, and staying aligned with your values. - [01:06:00 – 01:17:33] – Building more size, lifting heavier, and Daraja’s future competitive goals. Links & Resources: Follow Daraja on Instagram: @darajaweid Work With Daraja: https://refinedstrengthcoaching.com/services/ Purchase The Complete Fat Loss Guide: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-fat-loss-guide/ Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/ https://coryfit.com/ ⁠Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min ⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultation For more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/ ⁠Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

    1h 18m

  5. May 11

    E. 160 Why You’re Gaining Fat Instead of Muscle (Building Phase Mistakes)

    In this episode, I break down why most muscle-building phases fail—and it usually has nothing to do with the plan itself. I explain why building muscle requires a completely different level of discomfort than fat loss, why you need to commit to the process even when you don’t like how you look, and how inconsistent adherence on both training and nutrition is the biggest reason people spin their wheels. We also cover the truth about “lean bulking,” why comparison (especially with enhanced athletes) will mislead you, and how to actually make a build productive by focusing on execution, training intensity, and being coachable. Timestamps: - [00:00 – 03:49] – Why most builds feel unproductive and the gap between expectations vs reality. - [03:50 – 06:49] – Building muscle requires a different kind of “suck” than fat loss. - [06:50 – 10:59] – Tunnel vision, consistency, and why you don’t have to love the building phase to succeed. - [11:00 – 14:59] – Having a clear reason to build (you can always lose fat later). - [15:00 – 18:29] – PED misconceptions, “lean bulk” myths, and committing fully to the process. - [18:30 – 23:56] – The fastest ways to gain fat in a build. - [23:57 – 29:28] – Why most builds fail. - [29:29 – 32:13] – Overcomplicating training (glute bias myths). - [32:14 – 37:13] – Being coachable, accepting feedback, and removing ego from progress. - [37:14 – 40:16] – Stop ignoring weaknesses. - [40:17 – 42:48] – You know if you’re truly adherent. Links & Resources: Purchase The Complete Fat Loss Guide: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-fat-loss-guide/ Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/ https://coryfit.com/ ⁠Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min ⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultation For more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/ ⁠Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

    43 min

  6. May 4

    E. 159 Why Your Fat Loss Isn’t Working (It’s Not the Diet)

    In this episode, I break down why fat loss often feels inconsistent—and why the real issue usually isn’t the plan, but your level of adherence to it. I explain the different levels of dietary adherence, how to identify intentional vs unintentional deviations, and why not everyone needs to be “perfect” to make progress. We also cover how to match your expectations to your execution, avoid burnout from unnecessary rigidity, and build a sustainable fat loss approach that actually works long term. Timestamps: - [00:00 – 03:36] – Why fat loss feels inconsistent. - [03:37 – 04:44] – Defining adherence. - [04:45 – 05:56] – Level A adherence. - [05:57 – 07:33] – Level B adherence. - [07:34 – 09:38] – Level C adherence. - [09:39 – 12:34] – Level D adherence. - [12:35 – 16:44] – Why most people don’t need perfect adherence to lose fat successfully. - [16:45 – 20:25] – Tight deadlines, aggressive fat loss, and intentional vs accidental non-adherence. - [20:26 – 25:21] – Why your body keeps score even when your tracking doesn’t. - [25:22 – 32:52] – Ranking dietary deviations. - [32:53 – 39:38] – Why loosening adherence can sometimes improve fat loss results. - [39:39 – 43:29] – Find your real bottleneck and build a sustainable dieting system. Links & Resources: Purchase The Complete Fat Loss Guide: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-fat-loss-guide/ Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/ https://coryfit.com/ ⁠Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min ⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultation For more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/ ⁠Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

    44 min

  7. May 1

    E. 158 The Truth About Women’s Bodybuilding, PEDs & Switching Divisions With Courtney Starr

    In this episode, Courtney Starr and I have an honest conversation about switching divisions, building a competitive physique, PED realities in women’s bodybuilding, and making decisions that align with your long-term health. We break down bikini vs wellness demands, the sacrifice required to stay competitive, the importance of genetics, and why success in bodybuilding has to be defined on your own terms—not just placings or titles. If you’re navigating division changes, enhancement decisions, or chasing progress without losing yourself, this episode is for you. Timestamps: - [00:00 – 03:49] – Courtney Starr intro, coaching background, and bodybuilding journey. - [03:50 – 06:55] – Courtney in bikini in 2020. - [06:56 – 11:59] – First PED exposure, early misconceptions, and the bikini landscape in 2020. - [12:00 – 15:59] – Transitioning from bikini to wellness and why the switch made sense. - [16:00 – 20:29] – Sacrifice, intimidation, and realizing bodybuilding is more than just size. - [20:30 – 27:39] – Building muscle, offseason weight gain, and why staying shredded year-round is overrated. - [27:40 – 33:59] – PED requirements, genetics, and whether success is worth the trade-offs. - [34:00 – 35:59] – Sleep, training, nutrition, and the basics that matter before PED use. - [36:00 – 41:24] – Understanding real PED risks, fake compounds, and informed consent. - [41:25 – 49:59] – TRT, Anavar, hormones, bloodwork, and why health should come first. - [50:00 – 55:35] – Growth hormone, lab-based decisions, and smarter enhancement choices. - [55:36 – 01:01:21] – Defining your “why,” sponsorships, and what success really means. - [01:01:22 – 01:05:01] – Moving back to bikini and Courtney’s current direction. Links & Resources: Follow Courtney on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatnutritionchic/ Work With Courtney: https://www.allstarphysiques.com/?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQMMjU2MjgxMDQwNTU4AAGnGrbzKbi22fg7y76opEXD8_nh57m_B9d5yx_EISL268oVF4HzghfO0-im7BA_aem_OJZg_ZsipCYn0zBtNnYASg Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/ https://coryfit.com/ ⁠Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min ⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultation For more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/ ⁠Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

    1h 5m

  8. Apr 27

    E. 157 How to Tell If You’re Actually Hungry or Just Craving Food

    In this episode, I break down the difference between real physiological hunger and cravings, and why most people struggle to tell them apart—especially during a fat loss phase. I walk through what’s actually driving hunger (hormones, sleep, stress, hydration), why not all hunger signals are “real,” and how emotional and behavioral patterns influence cravings. I also cover practical ways to assess what you’re feeling in the moment, build tolerance to hunger, and make better decisions without feeling out of control while dieting. Timestamps: - [00:00 – 04:16] – Breaking down hunger vs cravings and why most people misinterpret the signals - [04:17 – 07:52] – Physiological hunger explained (ghrelin, leptin, and true hunger cues) - [07:53 – 09:14] – Why not all hunger is real (dehydration, habits, environment) - [09:15 – 13:17] – The mistake of trying to outrun hunger during dieting - [13:18 – 16:02] – How meal composition and nutrient timing impact hunger and energy - [16:03 – 18:38] – Distinct vs transient hunger and the role of sleep + cortisol - [18:39 – 21:58] – How upbringing and food behaviors shape hunger awareness - [21:59 – 27:04] – Emotional hunger vs true hunger (anxiety, fear, and food attachment) - [27:05 – 32:39] – Cravings, cheat meals, and why calories vs behavior both matter - [32:40 – 37:18] – Using flexibility (“slush fund”) to reduce binge/restrict cycles - [37:19 – 40:34] – How to differentiate hunger vs cravings in the moment - [40:35 – 42:14] – Why eliminating hunger isn’t realistic + building tolerance - [42:15 – 47:59] – Self-talk, decision-making, and improving dietary control long-term Links & Resources: Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/ https://coryfit.com/ ⁠Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min ⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultation For more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/ ⁠Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

    48 min
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About

A podcast on everything under the umbrella of nutrition, training, PEDs, bodybuilding, and maybe the occasional non-fitness add-on with @cory_fit

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  • Creator
    Cory Hageman
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    164
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Cory Hageman
  • Show Website
    Self-Selecting

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