You can do everything right. You can work yourself to the bone. But if you're the only one carrying the weight of provision while your partner sits back and says my money is my money and your money is for the home, something is broken. In this raw, deeply practical episode of Unbroken Podcast, host Richard Akita sits down with a traditional chief and community leader for an unfiltered conversation that will challenge everything you think you know about what it means to provide, why the old model of men providing everything is collapsing under the weight of modern reality, and the uncomfortable truth that provision is no longer the sole responsibility of the husband but a joint effort that requires both partners to show up. This guest holds nothing back. He breaks down why the idea of the man being the provider has shifted from men providing everything to both partners contributing, why some men are just not responsible and leave everything for the woman to do, and the one phrase that's destroying marriages before they even begin: my money is my money, the man's money is for the home. He reveals why it depends on the upbringing of the woman, how his wife was told during their marriage that when you get money you bring it home but when there's any debt your husband is there to take care of it, and the moment you realize that women keep money better than men because the day to day affairs you're on set. He also explains why he tells his daughters I'm not going to kill myself and leave everything for you, how he's giving them education so they can be independent and help their husbands build a home instead of waiting for their husbands to provide everything, and the one thing every father needs to teach his children: if you want to be independent from your husband then take your school serious and get a good job. This isn't just about money. It's a masterclass in understanding why some men are scared to see their wives rise more than them, why if you marry a professional and ask her not to work then you need to provide, and how when the woman is working and the man is also working it becomes a partnership. He dives into why women are more studious with money and build on the capital while men take the money and see a girl they've been chasing and give her 500 before they even get home, how if you take 10 women and 10 men maybe two women might come back failing but seven men will come failing, and the uncomfortable reality that the woman has to wake up early morning make sure the kids are ready walk the children to school come back get the man food to eat and go to work while the man sits somewhere pushing draft and chatting with his friends. He also tackles why it gets to a point where the woman is also a human being and she will say it to you and that will build your ego and then there's fighting, how we as fathers should lead by example in our homes, and the one truth every man needs to accept: provision is done jointly now. If you're married, wondering whether your value as a man is tied to how much you provide, or asking yourself why your partner says their money is theirs while expecting you to carry everything, this conversation will give you the clarity, the language, and the courage to stop killing yourself trying to provide alone and start building a home where both of you show up and do what is necessary. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎙️ ABOUT THE HOST Mr Richard Akita is a multifaceted relationship and life coach, author, entrepreneur, and corporate trainer with over 30–35 years of experience in management and personal development. IG: https://www.instagram.com/akitarichard/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎧 ABOUT UNBROKEN PODCAST Unbroken Podcast is where stories meet truth. Hosted by Richard Akita, the show brings together thinkers, builders, healers, and disruptors to have the conversations most people are afraid to have about love, faith, identity, money, family, and the journey to becoming whole. Welcome to the new home of unfiltered wisdom. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔔 SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss the next episode 👍 LIKE if this conversation challenged you 📤 SHARE with someone who NEEDS to hear this
