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A lot of us live in our head, disconnected from our feelings and intuition. This podcast touches on releasing insecure attachment, accepting your authentic self and getting “unstuck” by connecting to how you FEEL instead of how you THINK. I’ve been there, and discuss sensitive subjects using my own experiences with a lot of laughs and even more empathy… because we’re all flawed humans.

Deal With It‪!‬ Tracy Crossley

    • Education
    • 4.8 • 19 Ratings

A lot of us live in our head, disconnected from our feelings and intuition. This podcast touches on releasing insecure attachment, accepting your authentic self and getting “unstuck” by connecting to how you FEEL instead of how you THINK. I’ve been there, and discuss sensitive subjects using my own experiences with a lot of laughs and even more empathy… because we’re all flawed humans.

    Journey of Attachment: Instead of Trying to Fix People, Try This Instead

    Journey of Attachment: Instead of Trying to Fix People, Try This Instead

    Your partner is a narcissist or an avoidant or emotionally unavailable… or some other label you have assigned to him/her. You’ve read up about how to deal with people like that, and have taken it upon yourself to fix them. You want to show them how they can be better, so you as a couple can be better. But why is it their responsibility to change? What about your role? Beating them up for your relationship problems won’t solve the issues between you. So what’s the answer?

    Start with compassion. Subconscious patterns are hard to break. If you are working on yourself, you know this to be true. Your partner isn’t bad or broken. They are human, just like you. Putting energy toward telling them what they need to do differently is energy better spent on yourself. Maybe they don’t want to be “fixed.” And if they do want to change, it’s their journey… not yours. In this week’s podcast we will focus on acceptance and compassion—for yourself and your mate. And really, this applies all relationships, not just intimate ones. This shift will move you from a constrictive space where you feel powerless, to a loving and expansive place that brings you peace.

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    • 34 min
    Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Marilyn Alauria

    Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Marilyn Alauria

    “I’m like Bewitched with a lot of vodka!” Meet psychic medium Marilyn Alauria. From the age of three she had psychic experiences, but she didn’t know that’s what they were. As a kid she was constantly told it was just her imagination and she was overly sensitive. Those messages, coupled with childhood abuse, led Marilyn to push her abilities aside. She turned to drinking and drugs in her early teens to quiet the feelings, voices and confusion she experienced—not knowing how to deal with it. It wasn’t until after college that she connected with a medium who encouraged her to use her gifts, which opened up a whole new world to her. Marilyn had finally come home.

    “I fell into my soul. I fell into my alignment. I fell into who I am—my home.”
    –Marilyn Alauria

    Today Marilyn is a healer, instructor, coach and world-renowned psychic medium. Through her Soul Finder Academy and Membership for your Soul programs, Marilyn helps people live a practical, meaningful and joyous life (no unicorns, flying carpets, or impossible routines required!). Join me as she shares the low and high points of her journey—from watching her dad shoot a gun at her mom to winning an Emmy award—to finally arrive at a place of alignment with who she truly is. Marilyn leaves us with three simple yet powerful exercises to connect with your soul that I encourage you to try!

    You can learn more about Marilyn at:
    Website: marilynalauria.com
    Facebook: facebook.com/marilynalauria1
    Instagram: instagram.com/marilynalauria

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    Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

    • 45 min
    Journey of Attachment: Feel Criticized? How To Let It Go and Be Happy

    Journey of Attachment: Feel Criticized? How To Let It Go and Be Happy

    Someone makes an off-handed remark and you bristle. Or they criticize you and you go into full-blown defensive mode before you dissolve into a million pieces. Why does this happen? Why are you so sensitive to some things while others slide off your back? You react when there is some truth in what was said; a truth you don’t want to admit to yourself, let alone have it pointed out by another person. When they call it out you become awash with shame. Shame is a VERY uncomfortable emotion to deal with so instead of feeling it, you deflect, attack, avoid or blame.

    Maybe your friend says you can’t be alone, which is why you’re always jumping from one bad relationship to the next. If that’s not true, there would be no reaction. Nothing would be triggered inside of you. But if you strike back and/or want to crawl into a hole… that’s a sign. Shame is talking and it’s time to listen. In this week’s podcast we’re talking about how to deal with criticism and shame. It’s hard to see the unsavory or unlikeable parts of yourself, but acknowledging those parts is the road to self-love, self-acceptance and emotional freedom. When you own your actions and feel the shame, you open the door to healing. No one likes criticism, but it can be an incredibly powerful tool for growth.

    WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget)
    Put on your cape and open yourself to all sorts of criticism. Own what’s yours and let it flow through you. Remember you have your magic cape!

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    Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

    • 25 min
    Journey Of Attachment: Breaking the Toxic Anxious-Avoidant Relationship Cycle

    Journey Of Attachment: Breaking the Toxic Anxious-Avoidant Relationship Cycle

    The same dance happens all the time in unhealthy relationships between an anxious and an avoidant. The anxious struggles with self-value so they perform: see me, pay attention to me! This neediness causes the avoidant to run. But then, when the avoidant is away, they miss their anxious partner. They want to feel that “closeness” again so the avoidant returns and the whole cycle goes on repeat with the anxious clinging and the avoidant running.

    The anxious partner tends to blame the avoidant for problems in the relationship because THEY did the leaving. Anxious see themselves as the emotional ones while their avoidant partners are robots. In truth, the anxious person is avoiding too. They are avoiding their feelings and avoiding responsibility. Both parties want control, blaming the other person so there is a winner and a loser. Where is the love in that?? In this week’s podcast we’ll dig into attached relationships driven by fear and anxiety. There are no winners and losers here—only losers. Whether you are the anxious or avoidant partner, learn how to break the cycle by focusing on yourself so you change the way you show up in relationships. There IS a better way!

    WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget)
    Whether you are anxious or avoidant, it is about YOU, not the other person. And since it IS you, you can change your relationships NOW.

    Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt

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    • 48 min
    Journey Of Attachment: Did I Say Something Stupid? Examining Your Communication Style.

    Journey Of Attachment: Did I Say Something Stupid? Examining Your Communication Style.

    You just said something that pissed off your partner. But geez, you were only joking. Then your friend asked for your opinion about what they were wearing, and was hurt by what you said. It seems like you’re always stepping on landmines, then constantly defending what you said or going on damage control. Should you be honest or not? Why is everyone so damn sensitive?

    Maybe it’s not them. When you don’t own what you say, and instead blow it off by saying, “I call it like I see it!” or “That’s just how I was raised,” or “Can’t you take a joke?” you invalidate the other person. You’re not able to see beyond your own perspective to realize the impact it has on others. If you want to have relationships that you’re not constantly repairing, take a deeper look at what you say and why. In this week’s podcast you’ll be challenged to look at the motivation behind the way you communicate. What are you trying to achieve? Is it working? What negative beliefs are at play? This self-examination will keep you from running on autopilot so you catch yourself before putting your foot in your mouth. It’s a relationship saver.

    Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt

    Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

    • 32 min
    The Journey of Attachment: The Not So Rare Avoidant/Anxious Attachment Type (REBROADCAST)

    The Journey of Attachment: The Not So Rare Avoidant/Anxious Attachment Type (REBROADCAST)

    Insecure attachment issues are very painful. Some may be familiar with John Bowlby’s attachment theory on childhood development. I talked about these in Podcast #63: Your Attachment Style, and encourage you to listen to it for an overview. Here I take the Anxious/Avoidant style a step further. Based on my own experience, and talking with hundreds of clients, the supposedly rare style of an Avoidant/Anxious/Avoidant is not so rare. This is when an independent person (avoidant) thinks they’ve found their soulmate in another avoidant, then becomes anxious that he/she will leave. This may manifest in choosing someone who likes you more than you like them (how could they possibly leave you?)so even if you have a lack of interest--it gives you something, or trying to rescue/fix someone (how can they leave if they need you?), or any number of different scenarios. The problem is, these relationships keep you avoiding YOURSELF and that’s not a place you want to live. Learn more about this style of attachment and how to break the pattern plus I also cover what true avoidant and true anxious behavior are in terms of characteristics--so you can find your style and do something about it. There’s a lot of info, so listen closely!

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    Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

    • 1 hr 23 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
19 Ratings

19 Ratings

Tartan Spakles ,

Pure Gold

I’ve been listening to the podcast now for about 2 months. I can honestly say of the many podcasts I’ve listened to; this is the best, most engaging self-help/psychology podcast out there.

Tracy delivers the gold nuggets in such a pure, authentic way and I truly believe that is priceless. Absolutely brilliant. I love her laugh too !

Budgie241989 ,

Potential but distracted

Could be really well done but constant interruptions, phone calls, laughing, etc makes it seem very unprofessional and hard to engage.

SPEARITOS ,

Authentic, real, full of wisdom and hilarious. Outstanding contribution

I started listening to Tracy’s podcasts about 6 weeks ago and I haven’t looked back. I think her contribution is outstanding. I feel like she is describing me and every episode I listen to has me buzzing with new awareness.

I find her candidness and authenticity refreshing. coupled with the way in which she delivers her punchy message together with with laughter and humour and it resonates with me.

Her podcasts are comprehensive and with the call to action, hints and tips on the topic and a summary of related podcasts, means you get loads of value for the time you commit to listening and working on yourself.

I am very grateful that i heard Tracy on a talk show, enabling me to then find her on Itunes. Simply abundant living is my new great catch phrase.

Rosalind
UK

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