The Anxiety Recovery Podcast

Valerie Rubin
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Love doesn’t have to feel like walking on eggshells. If you’re caught overthinking texts, fearing abandonment, or shrinking yourself just to feel chosen—you’re not alone. Hosted by trauma-informed somatic coach and anxious attachment expert Valerie Rubin, this podcast guides you to uncover and heal the subconscious patterns that keep you stuck in anxiety, people-pleasing, and unfulfilling relationships. Learn how to heal your anxious attachment, regulate your nervous system, speak your needs, and attract love that truly feels like home.

  1. 1 hr ago

    Health Anxiety & Health OCD: How to Stop Obsessing Over Your Health with Danielle Jhiani

    Does one unexplained sensation in your body send you spiraling into “What if something is seriously wrong with me?” You notice something feels different, and suddenly you can’t stop thinking about it. You monitor your body, question what every sensation means, and feel like you can’t relax until you know you’re okay. In this episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, I sit down with Danielle Jhiani for an honest conversation about health anxiety and health OCD, and what it feels like when worrying about your health starts taking over your life. We explore what happens in your mind when you notice a sensation you can’t immediately explain, and why constantly monitoring your body can feel like the only way to keep yourself safe. Where does being responsible about your health end, and being trapped in an obsessive cycle begin? Danielle shares a moment when health anxiety felt unbearable, bringing us into the emotional reality behind the worry. We also discuss what people with health anxiety desperately wish their loved ones understood, and the painful beliefs people develop about themselves when they can’t seem to stop obsessing over their health. If you’ve spent years believing that staying on high alert is what keeps you safe, where do you even begin to change that pattern? We talk about that starting point, along with one small but meaningful step you can take toward reclaiming your life from health anxiety. In this episode, we discuss: • What happens in your mind when an unexplained body sensation triggers fear.• What health anxiety can feel like at its most unbearable.• What people with health anxiety wish their loved ones understood.• The painful misconceptions people have about themselves when they can’t stop worrying.• The line between caring for your health and feeling trapped in constant monitoring.• Where to begin when checking your body feels essential to your safety, and a small step toward reclaiming your life. If you’re exhausted from feeling like you can never fully trust your body or let your guard down, this conversation will help you feel less alone and consider what moving forward could look like. If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation. I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready to reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved. When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn. Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-call Connect with Valerie's Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/ Connect with The Anxiety Recovery Podcast's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theanxietyrecoverypodcast/ Connect with Danielle on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/my_ocd_coach/

  2. 22 Oct

    How to build a healing relationship with yourself with Ann Weiser Cornell

    You know why you’re anxious in relationships. You can trace the patterns back to childhood. But when someone pulls away, you’re right back in that familiar place: “Please choose me. Please don’t leave.” Then another part of you says, “I hate that I need you this much.” This week, I’m joined by Ann Weiser Cornell, a worldwide authority on Focusing and co-developer of Inner Relationship Focusing, to explore why understanding your attachment wounds doesn’t always change what happens when they’re triggered—and how to begin building a different relationship with the parts of you that are hurting. Ann shares her own journey with alcohol addiction and how Inner Relationship Focusing helped her change her relationship with herself. We also explore what it means to meet your feelings with compassionate presence, including the inner conflict between desperately wanting love and feeling ashamed of needing it. Together, we discuss:• How early experiences of love and emotional safety can shape adult relationship patterns.• The longing underneath thoughts like “I’ll never be loved.”• Why one part of you can crave closeness while another struggles to trust it.• How “I should be over this” affects your relationship with your wounded parts.• What Inner Relationship Focusing looks like in practice.• How to begin making room for yourself—and for love—without forcing your feelings to change. Ann is the bestselling author of The Power of Focusing and co-author of Untangling: How You Can Transform What’s Impossibly Stuck. She has taught Focusing in more than 20 countries over the past 30 years. If you’re tired of understanding your patterns but still feeling caught in them, this conversation offers a compassionate place to begin. If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation. I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready to reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved. When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn. Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-call https://www.instagram.com/focusingresources/ https://focusingresources.com/welcome-to-focusing-resources/?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAcGRvZgJzcnRjBmFwcF9pZA85MzY2MTk3NDMzOTI0NTkAAacFsDLV5wKT_A99DeMTsQzzCW4q6Ww1sAK4lpQQxeEabh5XfkGwUPfghVkvmg_aem_0DJcDSyVF3Wes5Cu1QfFGA Check out The Anxiety Recovery Podcast's Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/theanxietyrecoverypodcast/Check out Valerie's Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/

  3. 15 Oct

    How to Trust Yourself When You Don’t Know What’s Next & Navigating Change with Travis Ambrose

    You know something needs to change. But what if you regret it? What if the people you love think you’re making a mistake? And how are you supposed to trust yourself when decisions you felt so sure about haven’t worked out before? This week, relationship coach Travis Ambrose joins me to explore how to trust yourself when you don’t know what’s next. From relationships to career changes and starting over, we talk about navigating life’s pivots and uncertainty, finding your authentic voice, and moving forward when there’s no guarantee. We get into: • Recognizing when it’s time to change direction, even when nothing is obviously wrong• Making decisions when your fears, your own judgment, and everyone else’s opinions get tangled together• Rebuilding self trust after choices you’ve labeled “wrong”• Exploring who you are beyond other people’s expectations• Connecting with your inner child and rediscovering what you love• The Artist’s Way and using three morning pages for self discovery• Working with your inner critic and connecting with Self through parts work• The role of faith in self trust and finding peace in uncertainty If you’re craving a new chapter but feel terrified to take the first step, this conversation offers space to explore what’s calling you forward and how to begin trusting yourself along the way. If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation. I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready to reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved. When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn. Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-call Connect with Valerie's Mental health/business page here: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/ Connect with & follow the anxiety recovery podcast with more clips of the show on Instagram here https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/ Connect with Travis on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/travisambrosecoach/ https://www.travisambrose.com/ https://open.spotify.com/episode/0aqLi5twZA3Bixh0clTnGV?si=361c6d914425456f

  4. 8 Oct

    Human Design, Sales & Anxious Attachment: Are You Selling as Yourself or From Fear of Rejection? With Jackie Smythe

    Have you ever held back what you REALLY wanted to say because you were afraid someone wouldn’t like you anymore? Or had someone say no to your offer and immediately thought, “What am I doing wrong? Am I charging too much? Maybe I’m just not good at this.” Oof. That fear of not being chosen can show up in your business just as much as it does in your relationships. 😅 In this episode, I’m talking with Human Design business mentor Jackie Smythe about understanding yourself, trusting your body, and the fear that comes up when you let people see who you actually are. Jackie shares how learning about her Human Design changed her life and business, helped her recognize that her previous marriage no longer felt aligned, and eventually led her from Pennsylvania to Tulum, Mexico. We talk about what Human Design is, what Jackie describes as your soul’s language and blueprint, the “not self” theme for each type, and how to find your strategy and authority. And we get into the questions that come up when you’re putting yourself out there: Does your sales approach actually need to change, or did that interaction bring up something painful? What does selling as yourself even LOOK like? What happens when you stop trying so hard to be chosen and start trusting the way you naturally connect with people? We also talk about projectors and the need for recognition, speaking your truth, and being afraid that the real you might be “too much” for someone. If you’ve ever watered yourself down to keep a relationship or tried to figure out who you need to be to make someone buy, you’re going to want to hear this one. ❤️ If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation. I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready to reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved. When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn. Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-call https://www.instagram.com/iamjackiesmythe/ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ignite-your-voice/id1665751181https://theblueprint.mykajabi.com/the-2027-club?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAcGRvZgRzcnRjBmFwcF9pZAwyNTYyODEwNDA1NTgAAacYF2RJTEJJRDnoOWEiSh89WtG7KlaCTk5OYl5GaB1Y-6Pp8Q6K_GaKslLW1g_aem_0GokHdQftkoZHYGLF0R7yw&utm_id=97760_v0_s00_e0_tv6_a1dennh2b48xa5 Connect with Valerie on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/Follow the new Instagram account for The Anxiety Recovery Podcast for more clips from the show here:https://www.instagram.com/theanxietyrecoverypodcast/

  5. 1 Oct

    Binge Eating, Emotional Eating & Body Image: How Your Nervous System Shapes Your Relationship With Food with Stephanie Mara

    Why do you sometimes keep eating when you’re already physically full? And how can you feel okay about your body one day, then hate what you see in the mirror the next, even though nothing has changed? This week, I’m joined by Stephanie Mara, MA, Somatic Nutritional Counselor, creator of Somatic Eating®, and host of the Satiated Podcast, to explore the connections between binge eating, emotional eating, body image, anxious attachment, and your nervous system. Stephanie shares her experience with IBS and what shifted when she began listening to her body differently. Together, we talk about how early experiences of being cared for can shape our relationship with food, how different nervous system states affect eating and body image, and why shame can make these patterns harder to untangle. We also explore feeling physically full without feeling satisfied, how food can become a source of comfort and safety, and unlearning diet culture when its rules still live in your head. Stephanie explains titration and how to reconnect with your body at a pace you can tolerate, including finding joy in that connection, even when it feels far away. One of my favorite moments was our conversation about “of course.” Of course you wanted comfort. Of course you reached for something that helped. That understanding opens up a different conversation than “What’s wrong with me?” If you’re exhausted from fighting with food or waiting for your body to change before you can feel good in it, this episode is for you. If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation. I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready to reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved. When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn. Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together here: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-call Connect with Stephanie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_stephaniemara/ Check out Stephanie's Somatic Eating Program here: https://somaticeating.com/ Connect with Valerie on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/ Check out the new anxiety recovery podcast instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/theanxietyrecoverypodcast/

  6. 18 Sept

    How to Actually Flirt: Attraction, Chemistry & Dating Anxiety with The Flirt Coach Benjamin Camras

    Why is it SO easy to flirt with someone you don’t really care about, but the second you actually like someone, suddenly you forget how to be a human? 😂 In this episode, I’m joined by Benjamin Camras, aka The Flirt Coach, to break down how to ACTUALLY flirt without performing, overthinking every interaction, or making your entire dating experience about one question: “Do they like me?” Because when you struggle with dating anxiety or anxious attachment, attraction can feel incredibly high stakes. You’re analyzing their texts, replaying the date in your head, wondering if you were too much, looking for signs they’re pulling away, and trying to figure out exactly what to say or do to keep them interested. But what if flirting isn’t about convincing someone to like you? What if it’s simply about becoming comfortable expressing attraction, creating connection, and staying curious about whether YOU actually like them? Benjamin breaks down what people misunderstand about flirting, why anxiety can kill our natural ability to connect, and the actual anatomy of good flirting, from eye contact, teasing, compliments and physical attraction to creating emotional, spiritual and energetic connection. We also get into how flirting differs across cultures, whether flirting can be learned if you’ve always considered yourself awkward or “bad at dating,” masculine/feminine energetics during dating + how those dynamics can look different within LGBTQIA+ relationships. If you’ve ever left a date thinking, “Did they like me? Was I awkward? Did I say too much? Why haven’t they texted me?” Then this episode is for you. In this episode, we get into: ✨ Why you suddenly forget how to flirt when you ACTUALLY like someone ✨ How dating anxiety and anxious attachment interfere with attraction and connection ✨ The biggest misconception people have about flirting ✨ How to stop obsessing over “Do they like me?” and start asking “Do I like THEM?” ✨ How to flirt if you feel awkward, shy, anxious or terrified of rejection ✨ Eye contact, teasing, compliments, touch and other ways we create chemistry ✨ Emotional, spiritual, energetic and physical ways of connecting w/someone ✨ Why flirting can look completely different across cultures ✨ Masculine and feminine energy in dating, courtship and LGBTQIA+ relationships How to heal the fear of rejection and the fear of uncertainty in early stages of datingFlirting doesn’t have to be a performance designed to make someone want you. Sometimes it’s simply having the courage to say, “I’m attracted to you. I’m going to let you see that. And I don’t need to know exactly what happens next.” If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation. I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready to reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved. When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn. Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: ⁠https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-call⁠ Connect with Benjamin on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/p/DWFFiVZk8jj/⁠ Follow Benjamin's podcast here: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/3Ti023cM762SVaQOZrdWlv?si=dd2c0f32a18046dd⁠ Check out Benjamin's products/1:1 here:⁠https://stan.store/benjamincamras?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAcGRvZgJleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBzcnRjBmFwcF9pZA85MzY2MTk3NDMzOTI0NTkAAafWP1g89CSX1XN-_QGtPHgEcKAD_SB8MUodbtwMlkruinxpJo30N4Qheo23oA_aem_O2j3FSLm8xQvgRE4XnBwjA⁠

  7. 11 Sept

    Meeting Your Soul in Another Body: The Connection That Changed Everything with Ashley McCabe

    What happens when you meet a friend and your body recognizes them before your mind can understand why? In this episode, Reiki practitioner and art teacher Ashley McCabe takes us into the exact moment she met the person she describes as “the other half of her soul.” She shares the psychic sensations, immediate knowing, and synchronicities that made this friendship feel like she was meeting her soul in another body. We explore how disconnected Ashley felt from her own soul before meeting this person and how that disconnection had been showing up in her relationships, creativity, body, and everyday life. She reveals what she saw in this friend that felt like looking directly at herself, what the connection cracked open inside her, and the first parts of her old life that began falling apart afterward. Ashley opens up about her Kundalini awakening, Saturn return, cycle syncing, communication through dreams, and the strange synchronicities that appeared throughout this chapter of her life. We also discuss the book Journey of Souls, the veil of the in between, psychic sensations, and the possibility that some connections reach far beyond what we can logically explain. But how do you know whether an intense connection is truly soul-deep or actually a trauma bond? Ashley shares how she began discerning the difference, what it cost her to remain disconnected from herself, and whether she ever confused the person who awakened her with the source of the awakening. We talk about the fear of losing the person who reflected you back to yourself, and the fear that without them, you might also lose the version of yourself they helped you discover. Ashley shares the first signs that your soul may be trying to redirect your life, why that redirection can require you to outgrow people, and how Reiki can help you hear your own truth beneath fear, conditioning, and other people’s expectations. Ultimately, Ashley realized that this friendship hadn’t given her a soul. It had reflected her own soul back to her. Do we meet “our soul in another body” so we can keep that person forever, or so we can finally recognize who we have been all along? If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation. I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready to reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved. When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn. Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-call Connect with Ashley on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleysartapothecary/ Connect with Ashley on Tik tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashleysartapothecary4 Check out Ashley's website and products here: https://www.ashleysartapothecary.com/?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAcGRvZgJleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBzcnRjBmFwcF9pZA85MzY2MTk3NDMzOTI0NTkAAaclkuPPZZRTl20vWdmYYtBiQ1t0KS8YNkmEEpNFWIIES1LY4SXOhS1Ksiv3jg_aem_xU7BdtLUqWUcrtNP_7Uxog https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/

  8. 27 Aug

    The hidden signs of ADHD in Women: Anxiety, Overwhelm & Emotional Dysregulation

    What if the anxiety, overwhelm, emotional intensity, and difficulty dealing with uncertainty you’ve been struggling with are actually connected to ADHD? In this episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, I’m joined by Theresa Lear Levine to unpack what ADHD can really look like in adult women, especially the symptoms that often get overlooked, misunderstood, or mistaken for anxiety. We talk about why so many women go years without realizing they have ADHD, what emotional dysregulation can feel like from the inside, and why understanding your ADHD intellectually doesn’t always mean you know what to do when your nervous system becomes overwhelmed. Theresa also shares her own experience with ADHD and the struggles happening behind the scenes before she understood what was going on. We dive into: The misunderstood signs of ADHD in adult womenWhy ADHD in women is so often missedADHD vs. anxiety and where the two overlapWhat ADHD can look like emotionallyWhy uncertainty can feel so difficult with ADHDShame, overwhelm, and learning to give yourself more graceWhat happens in the body during emotional dysregulationThe role of the nervous system in working with ADHDHow Theresa uses EFT/tapping in her workWhat emotional regulation can realistically look like when you have ADHDIf you’ve ever wondered, “Is this anxiety, or could I have ADHD?” or you understand your patterns but still struggle to change what happens when you’re overwhelmed, this conversation will give you a completely different way to understand what may be happening underneath the surface. If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation. I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready to reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved. When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn. Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-call https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/ Join Theresa's Skool Community here: https://www.skool.com/@theresalearlevine Connect with Theresa on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/theresalearlevine/

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Love doesn’t have to feel like walking on eggshells. If you’re caught overthinking texts, fearing abandonment, or shrinking yourself just to feel chosen—you’re not alone. Hosted by trauma-informed somatic coach and anxious attachment expert Valerie Rubin, this podcast guides you to uncover and heal the subconscious patterns that keep you stuck in anxiety, people-pleasing, and unfulfilling relationships. Learn how to heal your anxious attachment, regulate your nervous system, speak your needs, and attract love that truly feels like home.

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