Love Each Other Better

Ali Miller
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Did you know that too much conflict and arguing is one of the top 3 reasons couples get divorced? According to Forbes, 58% of divorcing couples cited this as their #1 reason for splitting up. When I read this 2024 statistic, my first thought was: It doesn't have to be this way! Hi, I'm Ali Miller, and I created the Love Each Other Better Podcast to share relationship-saving tools and principles that will help you and your partner spend less time fighting and more time doing what you do best: loving each other. I'm a longtime Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and a Certified Coach specializing in couples communication and conflict resolution. I've worked with hundreds of couples over the past two decades, helping them work through their challenges and create thriving relationships. On the Love Each Other Better Podcast, I share transformational tools and inspiration from Nonviolent Communication to help couples find their happy again, tools I've only been sharing with my clients and students until now. I am overjoyed to be able to share them with you here on this podcast. Whether you're on the verge of divorce or just a tad bit dissatisfied in your relationship and know it can be so much better, you're in the right place if you want more fun, more ease, and more LOVE in your relationship. I'm so glad you're here.

  1. 4 hr ago

    53: Dismantling Domination Culture Through Non-Coercive Collaborative Parenting with Vivek Patel

    What if the way we relate to children has a much bigger impact on perpetuating — or dismantling — systems of oppression and violence than we realize? In this episode, I'm joined by special guest Vivek Patel, who has spent more than 30 years developing, practicing, and teaching Non-Coercive Collaborative Parenting (NCCP), an approach that challenges deeply ingrained assumptions about parental authority, discipline, rules, and children's autonomy. Drawing on concepts echoed in the philosophy of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and the vision of relating through power with rather than power over, Vivek shares how domination culture shows up in the ways adults relate to children. We explore how treating children as people to manage, control, or get to comply can reinforce patterns of dehumanization, and how his NCCP approach can help nurture a culture rooted in mutual respect, consent, and collaboration. Vivek talks about the difference between being permissive and being collaborative, what it means to be a model, guide, and friend to our children rather than an authority figure, and why honoring a child's "no" matters so much. We also get practical, exploring what consent looks like with even very young children, how to navigate everyday moments of children's "resistance," how to repair when we've violated a child's consent, and why slowing down our own urgency can change everything. Whether you're a parent, a teacher, an NVC practitioner, or simply someone interested in creating a more just world, this conversation offers a powerful invitation to reconsider how we relate to the most vulnerable among us — and how transforming our relationships with children is an essential part of dismantling domination culture itself. CONNECT WITH MY GUEST,  VIVEK PATEL Vivek Patel of Meaningful Ideas has been sharing Conscious Parenting concepts for over 15 years. The ideas he shares have been used by thousands of families to create more harmony and connection in their homes. He has written more than 500 parenting articles and created over 300 videos. There is also a book in the works. Vivek cares deeply about empowering parents to develop more harmonious relationships with their kids using a powerful approach called "Non-Coercive, Collaborative Parenting", based on Communication, Connection, and Collaboration. He is also best friends with his 29 yr old. Check out Vivek's social media @meaningfulideas  http://www.facebook.com/meaningfulideas http://www.instagram.com/meaningfulideas https://www.youtube.com/meaningfulideas https://www.twitter.com/meaningfulideas https://www.tiktok.com/@meaningfulideas http://www.meaningfulideas.com If you'd like to receive more personalised and intimate parenting support from Vivek, please consider joining his parenting support group: https://www.meaningfulideas.com/courses/meaningful-ideas-membership Sign up for Vivek's FREE COURSE "Guiding Without Controlling". Registration Link https://meaningfulideas.com/fp/guiding-without-controlling-free-course   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST, ALI MILLER Learn NVC with your partner in a customized, private container with me: Hearing Each Other's Hearts: NVC Essentials for Couples 4-Week Private Program for Couples: https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com/NVCforCouples Book a free consultation call with Ali: https://www.calendly.com/alimillercoaching/45 Get my free feelings and needs lists: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Connect with me on social media: IG: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email me: Ali@AliMillerCoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

  2. 15 Oct

    52: Deep Dive into NVC with John Kinyon: Insights from a Close Friend of Marshall Rosenberg

    In this special episode, I sat down with John Kinyon, a close friend of Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of Nonviolent Communication (NVC). Join us as we explore some of the insights John learned directly from Marshall, along with what has inspired him most about other teachers of his, including Carl Rogers (cofounder of Humanistic Psychology) and Dick Schwartz (founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS)). Our conversation delves into the spiritual dimensions of NVC, the nuances of empathy, and how NVC is so much more than a communication and mediation tool. Perfect for anyone interested in deepening their understanding of NVC — both its roots and its potential. About my guest: John Kinyon is an internationally recognized mediator and trainer of his Mediate Your Life (MYL) approach. For over 25 years he has mediated conflicts and developed and delivered the MYL training throughout the U.S. and in countries around the world in Europe, Asia, and Australia. He is a certified trainer of the Center for Nonviolent Communication, and worked closely for over a decade with NVC creator/founder Marshall Rosenberg. CONNECT WITH MY GUEST, JOHN KINYON: John's website: https://www.johnkinyon.com Mediate Your Life Trainings: https://johnkinyon.com/trainings/ Email John: john@johnkinyon.com CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST, ALI MILLER: Book a free 45-minute call: https://www.calendly.com/alimillercoaching/45 NVC Training + Coaching Check out my updated Love Each Other Better Private Programs: The Essentials + The Deep Dive: https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com/privateprograms Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In https://www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

  3. 2 Oct

    51: The Subtle Blame You Don't Know You're Doing, and Why it's Keeping You Stuck

    Blame doesn't always sound like blame. In this episode, we'll look at the top three subtle ways it shows up in your relationship without you realizing it, why it keeps you and your partner stuck in fight mode, and what to do about it...so you can get out of fight mode and get on with doing what you do best: loving each other.    Connect with your host, Ali Miller: Book a free 45-minute call: https://www.calendly.com/alimillercoaching/45 NVC Training + Coaching Check out my updated Love Each Other Better Private Programs: The Essentials + The Deep Dive: https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com/privateprograms Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In https://www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

  4. 16 Sept

    50: How to Work Together When You and Your Partner Disagree About Parenting

    When you and your partner clash over parenting—too harsh, too permissive, wrong boundaries, wrong tone—it can quickly turn into disconnection, defensiveness, and a painful battle to prove who's right. In this episode, I share how Nonviolent Communication can help you move beneath parenting "strategies" to the real drivers: the feelings, needs, and values both of you are trying to protect. You'll learn the three core NVC skills (self-empathy, empathy, and self-expression), the four-step framework (observation, feeling, need, request), and how to have connecting and productive conversations about parenting instead of it turning into yet another argument. Learn how to stay connected to each other even when you disagree about something so important.  Connect with your host, Ali Miller: NVC Training + Coaching Check out my updated Love Each Other Better Private Programs: The Essentials + The Deep Dive: https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com/privateprograms Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In https://www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

  5. 19 Jun

    49: The One Question That Transforms Every Conflict Into Connection

    There's a powerful question I come back to again and again in my own relationships and in my work with couples because it is the single most effective way to transform conflict into connection: "What need is this person trying to meet?" In this episode, I explore why I believe this inquiry is THE most impactful shift we can make when we want someone to change their behavior. While NVC is often taught as a set of communication skills, its truly transformative power lies in the way it changes how we see ourselves and others. We'll look at why understanding the needs underneath behavior can help us move beyond blame, reduce defensiveness, and create more productive conversations — even when we strongly disagree. I'll also address a common misconception: that understanding someone's needs means excusing their behavior. If you've ever found yourself frustrated with your partner's behavior or discouraged that the same conflicts keep repeating, this episode will help you address your relationship struggles in a clearer, more compassionate, and way more effective way.    Connect with your host, Ali Miller: NVC Training + Coaching Check out my updated Love Each Other Better Private Programs: The Essentials + The Deep Dive: https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com/privateprograms Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In https://www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

  6. 5 Jun

    48: What a Kindergartener Can Teach Us About Love: The Power of Presence

    What if one of the most powerful relationship skills could be learned from a kindergartner? In this episode, I share a story about my daughter that sparked a reminder we all need: when someone we love is struggling, they often need our presence more than our solutions. I explore why we instinctively jump into "fix-it mode," how that can create disconnection, and what to do instead. You'll learn a simple Nonviolent Communication (NVC) practice that can help turn conflict into deeper understanding and connection. If you've ever felt frustrated when your attempts to help don't land, this episode is for you. Connect with your host, Ali Miller: NVC Training + Coaching Check out my updated Love Each Other Better Private Programs: The Essentials + The Deep Dive: https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com/privateprograms Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In https://www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

  7. 30 Apr

    47: Is this the right relationship for me? Using NVC to Navigate Ambivalence, Uncertainty, and Hard Decisions

    Do you struggle with relationship anxiety, constant doubt, or the feeling of being stuck in an on-again, off-again relationship cycle? Are you asking yourself "Should I break up or stay?" and unable to find clarity? In this episode, I explore relationship ambivalence through the lens of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and how to navigate breakup decisions, uncertainty, and doubt in relationships. I cover: Why relationship ambivalence and indecision are often signs of important needs Why you may feel stuck in "should I stay or should I go" thinking How to navigate uncertainty without rushing into a decision or forcing clarity How to make a conscious choice even when you don't feel sure If you're struggling with relationship doubt, ambivalence, or an on-again off-again dynamic, this episode will help you relate to your experience in a more grounded and self-compassionate way. And if you're navigating this in your own relationship, I support individuals and couples in this exact space. You can schedule a free 45-minute consultation with me at https://www.calendly.com/alimillercoaching/45 Connect with your host, Ali Miller: NVC Training + Coaching Check out my updated Love Each Other Better Private Programs: The Essentials + The Deep Dive: https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com/privateprograms Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In https://www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

  8. 9 Mar

    46: Two Paths to Love Each Other Better

    Whether you're looking for a fast track to more peace and understanding or a deeper, guided journey toward lasting change, Love Each Other Better private programs offer two paths to help you and your partner stop fighting and feel closer than ever. In this episode, you'll hear how both The Essentials and The Deep Dive can help you and your partner create the kind of relationship you actually want to be in. Connect with your host, Ali Miller: NVC Training + Coaching Check out my updated Love Each Other Better Private Programs: The Essentials + The Deep Dive: https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com/privateprograms Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In https://www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

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Did you know that too much conflict and arguing is one of the top 3 reasons couples get divorced? According to Forbes, 58% of divorcing couples cited this as their #1 reason for splitting up. When I read this 2024 statistic, my first thought was: It doesn't have to be this way! Hi, I'm Ali Miller, and I created the Love Each Other Better Podcast to share relationship-saving tools and principles that will help you and your partner spend less time fighting and more time doing what you do best: loving each other. I'm a longtime Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and a Certified Coach specializing in couples communication and conflict resolution. I've worked with hundreds of couples over the past two decades, helping them work through their challenges and create thriving relationships. On the Love Each Other Better Podcast, I share transformational tools and inspiration from Nonviolent Communication to help couples find their happy again, tools I've only been sharing with my clients and students until now. I am overjoyed to be able to share them with you here on this podcast. Whether you're on the verge of divorce or just a tad bit dissatisfied in your relationship and know it can be so much better, you're in the right place if you want more fun, more ease, and more LOVE in your relationship. I'm so glad you're here.

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  • Creator
    Ali Miller
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    54
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2024
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    Love Each Other Better

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