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Gabrielle Treanor
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Gabrielle Treanor, coach and author, helps quiet, introverted, sensitive women with ADHD to understand their brains and build inner calm and confidence to be their true selves. Support for the quiet ADHDer – find free resources, the Quiet ADHD Club and coaching at https://gabrielletreanor.com. Transcripts for all episodes are available in the episode show notes at https://gabrielletreanor.com/podcast. gabrielletreanor.substack.com

  1. 2 DAYS AGO

    #165 – Think you’re flaky for quitting a hobby or dropping an interest? Think again

    Because we’ve been taught that we need to pick a thing and stick to it, that consistency is next to goodliness, we've taken on the message that to get bored of an interest or hobby and drop it shows we’re flaky, faddish, and can’t commit. Which means we feel shame for the stash of supplies gathering dust, we’re embarrassed about our excitement over a new interest that turned to boredom and we stop ourselves from trying new things, from following our curiosity in case it becomes yet more proof that we’re incapable of consistency. In this episode I share my own shame struggles and argue the value of allowing ourselves to explore our curiosity and play, what there is to be gained and where it could lead. If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too. Resources: * Get your ticket to Better Read Book Fest when the first Early Bird special offer tickets go on sale Saturday 9 May or get access a day earlier by signing up here. Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here. * If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com. * Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here. * Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here. * You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit gabrielletreanor.substack.com

    10 min

  2. 22 APR

    #164 – Breaking the rules when you’ve been raised a rule-follower

    As introverted, sensitive women who spent most of our lives oblivious to our neurodivergence, as did everyone around us, we find it SO hard to believe or feel that we have permission, that it’s okay, that we’re allowed to do, say, be, ask for, or take what we want or need. After decades of taking on board the message that we need to live by others’ rules and expectations, that someone ‘better’ than us needs to signal their approval, we find it incredibly difficult to give ourselves permission. To allow ourselves to state what we need or want, what we like or don’t like. To show our enthusiasm and excitement. To take time for solitude and rest. To permit ourselves to move on from what no longer interests us. To say no when we want or need. To be ourselves. The result of defaulting to others for approval and permission means a lack of trust in ourselves as well as a cocktail of exhaustion, resentment and overwhelm. Learning that you can give yourself permission, that your own approval is the most important of all, is a tricky process but incredibly worthwhile. Because without it how can we hope to find the peace, ease and joy in our daily lives that we crave? In this episode I share five ways I give myself permission to do things in ways that work for me, even if it means not following society’s rules… If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too. Resources: * If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com. * Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here. * Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here. * You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit gabrielletreanor.substack.com

    12 min

  3. 8 APR

    #163 – When you’ve masked your unrecognised ADHD all your life what does unmasking even look like?

    Back when I was considering that perhaps ADHD could explain – well, me – I started a document called ‘Reverse engineering my life’ where I wrote all the different ways I did not display obvious ADHD traits. With this list I was trying to prove to myself that ADHD couldn’t be the explanation for what I found difficult, for what I had been criticised for or made to feel was disappointing about myself, because the real explanation was that it was a failing on my part, I was just a bit crap. Instead the document revealed the many, many coping mechanisms I had been using for decades which took vast amounts of energy and left me regularly exhausted and overwhelmed. In this episode I’m sharing some of the ways that women, often sensitive, introverted, perfectionist people-pleasers, try to manage or hide their ADHD features for decades before realising their neurodivergence. If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too. Resources: * Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here and be the first to know when authors are announced and tickets go on sale by signing up here. * If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com. * Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here. * Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here. * You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit gabrielletreanor.substack.com

    7 min

  4. 25 MAR

    #162 How women manage or hide their ADHD for decades without knowing it

    Back when I was considering that perhaps ADHD could explain – well, me – I started a document called ‘Reverse engineering my life’ where I wrote all the different ways I did not display obvious ADHD traits. With this list I was trying to prove to myself that ADHD couldn’t be the explanation for what I found difficult, for what I had been criticised for or made to feel was disappointing about myself, because the real explanation was that it was a failing on my part, I was just a bit crap. Instead the document revealed the many, many coping mechanisms I had been using for decades which took vast amounts of energy and left me regularly exhausted and overwhelmed. In this episode I’m sharing some of the ways that women, often sensitive, introverted, perfectionist people-pleasers, try to manage or hide their ADHD features for decades before realising their neurodivergence. If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too. Resources: * Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here and be the first to know when authors are announced and tickets go on sale by signing up here. * If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com. * Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here. * Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here. * You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit gabrielletreanor.substack.com

    13 min

  5. 11 MAR

    #161 I’m back with BIG news!

    It’s been a little while since I was last here and I have something new and pretty exciting to tell you about. As well as coaching ADHD women one to one, and running the Quiet ADHD Club, I’m creating a book festival! Specifically the UK’s first literary festival dedicated solely to books on wellbeing – personal development, mental and emotional health. In this episode I’m sharing the huge impact wellbeing books have had on my life and why it’s driving me to create a literary festival, as well as details about the book fest itself. If what I share resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. Feel free to share the podcast on social media or with your friends or family so that more quiet ADHDers can know they’re not alone too. Resources: * Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here and be the first to know when authors are announced and tickets go on sale by signing up here. * If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com. * Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here. * Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here. * You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit gabrielletreanor.substack.com

    9 min

  6. 26/11/2025

    #160 A formula for managing your own inconsistency

    Something I hear ADHDers talking about a lot is how frustrating they find their own inconsistency. How one day, or week, you’re focused, productive, you’re ticking things off, making great progress, firing on all cylinders, getting things done. But then the next day, seemingly out of the blue, you’re completely unfocused, you don’t know what to do next, you can’t summon the energy or motivation or brain power to do any of the things you were doing and generally just faff around not getting anywhere. It’s infuriating and feeds into an old story we’ve taken on that we can’t be relied upon, that we can’t rely on ourselves because of our inconsistency. In this episode I share what’s really going on here and a three-step formula for how to deal with what is seen as inconsistency and erratic energy. If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too. Resources: * Take a look at the Quiet ADHDer’s Guide to Thriving (not just surviving) this Christmas here * If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com. * Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here. * Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here. * You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit gabrielletreanor.substack.com

    11 min

  7. 12/11/2025

    #159 ADHD – what's in a label?

    A question that can be asked when you’re talking with someone about your ADHD suspicions or suggesting you might pursue a diagnosis is: “What do you need a label for?” That one question can feel like a shut down of this new, fragile and seismic realisation about yourself and your life to date. The real question is, what other labels have you been carrying around with you for decades and what’s been their impact on you? If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too. Resources: * Listen to Episode 146 The fear of your ADHD not being believed here. * If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com. * Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here. * Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here. * You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit gabrielletreanor.substack.com

    6 min

  8. 29/10/2025

    #158 October is ADHD Awareness Month: Myths and misunderstandings about ADHD

    During this ADHD Awareness Month I have been revisiting past episodes and sharing one a week to give more explanation and hopefully create more understanding about ADHD experienced by late-discovered, more introverted and sensitive women. I’ve shared what ADHD looks like for women who have made it through decades of their lives with no idea they have ADHD, why there seems to be a tsunami of women in midlife getting diagnoses, what an ADHD brain can really feel like, and this time I’m addressing some of the common myths and misunderstandings about ADHD that get in the way of people really getting what it is. If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too. Resources: * If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com. * Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here. * Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here. * You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit gabrielletreanor.substack.com

    12 min
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Gabrielle Treanor, coach and author, helps quiet, introverted, sensitive women with ADHD to understand their brains and build inner calm and confidence to be their true selves. Support for the quiet ADHDer – find free resources, the Quiet ADHD Club and coaching at https://gabrielletreanor.com. Transcripts for all episodes are available in the episode show notes at https://gabrielletreanor.com/podcast. gabrielletreanor.substack.com

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  • Creator
    Gabrielle Treanor
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2026
  • Episodes
    166
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Gabrielle Treanor
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