What happens when you become the coach of an NCAA Division I college golf team with no coaching experience, only two golfers, and a season that has to be completed? For Harry Stokes, the answer was to recruit a triple jumper, a cheerleader and a football team manager, none of whom had ever swung a golf club, give them a crash course in the game and somehow get them through a college golf season. What followed is one of the funniest — and ultimately most uplifting — stories we’ve featured on This Golfing Life. A fourth-generation golf professional from Florida, Harry Stokes had become disillusioned with the game and stepped away from the golf industry altogether when an unlikely opportunity arrived: coaching the struggling women’s golf programme at Bethune-Cookman University, a historically black university in Daytona Beach, Florida. Harry recalls the team's first match that took seven-and-a-half hours to complete, a player taking over 20 shots on a hole, another becoming stranded in a bunker, and Renijah Howard hitting the opposition coach’s pushchair (with her toddler in it) with her opening tee shot — before later being forced to withdraw from the Conference Championship because she ran out of golf balls. But underneath the comedy is a remarkable story about perseverance, perspective and what sport is actually for. Harry explains how players who could barely hit a golf ball learned to celebrate tiny victories, how he became determined that Bethune-Cookman would be remembered for its attitude rather than its scores, and why getting one of his players around the end-of-season Conference Championship in four-and-a-half hours while shooting 287 for 18 holes remains one of his proudest achievements as a coach. The experience changed Harry, too. Once a player who allowed his score to define his relationship with golf, coaching beginners gave him a completely different understanding of the game. Golf stopped being something that validated him and became something to be enjoyed, shared and used to bring people together. He also reveals just how important that seemingly hopeless first season was: Bethune-Cookman needed the women’s team to complete its eight events to help the university maintain NCAA sports sponsorship. And, having initially wondered whether the experience had “broken” him, Harry stayed. He began rebuilding the programme, saw Bethune-Cookman start competing again and discovered that his real ambition as a coach was about far more than producing professional golfers or winning trophies. For Harry, success is creating a team whose players will still be friends decades from now — connected by the experience of having worked, struggled and competed together. This is a conversation about one of the worst teams in college golf — and why being terrible at golf might have taught their coach more about the game than being good at it ever did. Chapters 00:00 Introducing this week’s guest, Harry Stokes 01:28 Two golfers in a team requiring five players to complete the season 04:14 Building a golf team overnight. A triple jumper, a cheerleader and a football coach 07:54 The first tournament: “I had no idea what was coming” 11:30 A first tee shot into the opposition coach’s pushchair 15:30 “Maybe we should set a limit here” 17:12 Huge scores, swarms of bugs and an ordeal the opposition had not anticipated. 19:20 Did somebody shoot 360? 21:41 Learning how to be bad at golf 23:08 The SWAC Championship. The team’s first proper multi-school championship. 25:00 Shooting 287 in four-and-a-half hours27:45 “I ran out of balls”. Renijah’s SWAC Championship comes to a premature end 29:03 “We were bad and had a great time”31:32 Celebrating the smallest improvements. 34:06 Get 20% of your next purchase at Sounder Golf 34:24 The toll on Harry 36:42 Rediscovering his love of golf 38:30 “You might have broken me”. Why Harry almost walked away 40:00 The conversation that changed everything 41:00 Another novice arrives but Bethune-Cookman at last has foundations 44:21 Why the team embraced its weakest player 46:34 What terrible golfers taught Harry about golf 47:33 Falling back in love with the game. How coaching beginners changed Harry’s relationship with golf. 51:57 “We’re really not a bad team. ”The moment Bethune-Cookman begins to compete 54:30 The season that helped save Bethune-Cookman athletics 55:07 Rebuilding a university and a team56:30 What success really looks like — friendships and memories that last longer than scores. 58:58 Harry and Dan reflect on what this extraordinary team ultimately reveals about golf, coaching and belonging. Links Bethune-Cookman's women's golf team Dan Davies on Substack RNGC, Dan Davies' backyard golf course Get 20% of your next purchase at Sounder Golf using code POD20 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
