UNDERSTANDABLE

Robert Siegers

► Hi, my name is Robert! For a long time, I wondered why relationships felt so much harder for me than for others. Over the past years, I had the privilege of spending thousands of dollars and countless hours working with four different therapists, exploring what actually creates emotional safety ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions. I am not a health professional. My content is based on research & my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for 3 years.

  1. 1 day ago

    Healed Avoidant Reveals the #1 Reason Avoidants Pull Away (Deactivating Strategies)

    ► Build secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (Ad) Welcome to today's episode! ► Links and Resources: Sex, Porn, Affairs Escape Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zLyK-Yi1QpE&t=28s&pp=0gcJCQQLAYcqIYzv ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro02:22 When Does The Pull Back Response Show Up?07:45 How Does The Avoidant Attachment Threat-Detection System Work?11:36 De-Activation Strategies That Sabotage Your Love Life21:22 How To Work Through The Deactivation Pattern ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

    30 min
  2. 5 days ago

    Healed Avoidant Explains Why Avoidants Always Come Back

    ► First Ever Avoidant Attachment AI: https://understandable.net (Ad) Welcome to today's episode! ► Links and Resources: My First Love Video: https://youtu.be/9eiwcLrGRxw?si=E14yIArh4l1NDhNt Limerence & Regulation Video: https://youtu.be/ozIbtcDmNVA?si=dAFc_v2YENhmq9sF ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction 01:35 Pathway 1: Genuine Desire 07:46 Pathway 2: Seeking Security 12:06 Pathway 3: Inner Confusion 16:22 Taking Responsibility and Healing ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

    19 min
  3. 7 Brutally Honest Lessons from a Healed Avoidant

    24 May

    7 Brutally Honest Lessons from a Healed Avoidant

    ► First Ever Avoidant Attachment AI: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net⁠⁠ (Ad) ► Links and Resources: Intuition vs. Trauma Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YTxfxZHD4v4&t=54s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ ⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 ⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠ ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro - 7 Brutally Honest Lessons From A Healed Avoidant 00:52 Lesson 1: When You Go Cold, You Don’t Lose Feelings, You Deactivate 02:42 Lesson 2: In Dating, Healthy Love Will Feel Boring 06:00 Lesson 3: Your Partner Usually Isn’t Too Much, You’re Just Too Overwhelmed 08:35 Lesson 4: You Can’t Heal Your Avoidant Attachment Wounds Just By Understanding Them 11:35 Lesson 5: It’s Often Not The Wrong Partner, It’s Yor Fear Of Engulfment Giving You The Urge To Escape 14:49 Lesson 6: Freedom Isn’t Your Highest Value Or Your Truth, You Just Build Your Identity On Your Coping Mechanisms 18:44 Lesson 7: You Aren’t “Not Made For A Relationship”, You Are Just Afraid What Happens When You Show Your Real Self In Connection ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

    22 min
  4. No Contact WON'T Save Your Relationship (Here's What Will)

    21 May

    No Contact WON'T Save Your Relationship (Here's What Will)

    ► First Ever Avoidant Attachment AI: ⁠https://understandable.net⁠ (Ad) ► Links and Resources: Avoidant vs. Anxious Attachment Video: https://youtu.be/NyPH_lMp8yY Attachment Quiz: https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/ ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠ https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro - No Contact Won’t Save Your Relationship 00:42 What Is The No Contact Rule? 01:47 Goals Of The No Contact Rule 4:44 Can “No Contact” Work? 06:18 The Problem With No Contact 10:18 3 Better Techniques For Anxious-Avoidant Couples, That Can Actually Save Your Relationship ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

    21 min
  5. 20 May

    How To Know If You Should Commit

    ► First Ever Avoidant Attachment AI: https://understandable.net (Ad) ► Links and Resources: Limerence & Projecting Fantasies Video: https://youtu.be/LZ-IFevq90o?si=eaXGVlJdTCD6XV4V How To Overcome Avoidant Attachment Patterns: https://youtu.be/FQO-63UO7yI?si=C3Q6OGEBTl1dfWl_ ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction 00:35 The Power of Self-Reflection 01:57 The Avoidant Attachment Trap 04:45 Identifying the Source of Anxiety 05:18 Understanding Attachment with AI 09:01 Untangling Fear and Incompatibility 10:48 Moving Toward Secure Attachment ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

    14 min

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► Hi, my name is Robert! For a long time, I wondered why relationships felt so much harder for me than for others. Over the past years, I had the privilege of spending thousands of dollars and countless hours working with four different therapists, exploring what actually creates emotional safety ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions. I am not a health professional. My content is based on research & my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for 3 years.

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