Radical Self

Þórhildur Magnúsdóttir
  • 5.0 (3)
  • SEXUALITY
  • UPDATED WEEKLY

"Hey guys. Let me tell you what this is about. I really want to tell my story. As a polyamorous married woman, mother and relationship coach I've got more than a few things to share. My burning desire is for you to wake up to the wonderful options you have in this lifetime to experience love, happiness, adventure and eros! The path I've chosen has often led to some tough conversations with myself where I am facing the toggle between what society tells us and what my deep intuition is calling me to do. This is where I share this journey." Radical Self is a space for the parts of you that have been silenced, suppressed, or scattered — and are now ready to come alive. Hosted by Icelandic tantric somatic coach and truth-teller Thorhildur (Þórhildur), this podcast is an invitation to melt away illusions and meet yourself in the raw.  Expect deep conversations about love, relationships, non-monogamy, s¢x, spirituality and personal development. Sacred provocations, and the kind of honesty that cracks you open — gently, but completely.  Come say hi to me or ask me a question at:  https://www.instagram.com/rise.with.thorhildur/

  1. 1 MAY

    Your Sexual Self Doesn’t Care About Your Logic

    A deep conversation about the “sexual self” — the inner part of you that governs desire, turn-ons, boundaries, and truth — and what happens when you stop silencing it. What if the part of you that governs your sexuality doesn’t care about your self-image, your relationship rules, or what makes sense logically? In this episode, I explore the concept of the sexual self — the independent inner persona that holds your desires, turn-ons, boundaries, fantasies, and truth. I talk about: Why so many people feel conflicted in long-term relationships The disconnect between the logical self and the sexual self Why suppressing desire creates tension, numbness, and performance-based sex My own experience of silencing my bisexuality How conversations about non-monogamy often reveal a deeper issue: disconnection from desire itself The powerful shift that happens when you stop treating your sexuality like a problem to solve This is not really an episode about non-monogamy. It’s an episode about honesty. About listening to the part of you that has been whispering underneath the performance all along. PS. The movie I mention is called Golden Compass.  🎁 FREE gifts from Thorhildur if you are curious about Non-monogamy: {Video Coaching} 13 Questions to Ask Before You Redesign Your Love Life - that’ll save you years of struggle & confusion: https://risewiththorhildur.com/video-freebie-nonmonogamy {PDF Playbook} Tired of default monogamy? Grab this 24-page guide and broaden your horizon to what else could be possible for you: https://risewiththorhildur.com/pdf-freebie-nonmonogamy Ready to go deeper? 💃“Let’s Talk About It“ Mini Course - Learn the exact framework on how to have a Non-Monogamy conversation with your partner (even if you end up staying monogamous!). Join the Waitlist: https://risewiththorhildur.com/minicourse-waitlist 👑 Want to be coached by Thorhildur? Apply to be on the waitlist when spots open up. https://ed32n3rhwta.typeform.com/to/iiJrnwer

    15 min

  2. 16 APR

    The Courage to Question Your Life. Marcel Interviews Thorhildur

    What if the people around you are no longer helping you grow, but quietly keeping you small? My boyfriend interviewed me and asked me some deeply personal questions about growth, relationships, and polyamory. We talked about the moments in my life where I wish I had been challenged differently, how new people and fresh perspectives have shaped me, and why growth often comes in waves of expansion and integration. We also explored what I’ve learned from being polyamorous for eight years, whether I’ve ever wanted to go back, and what I would say to someone who is curious about non-monogamy. More than anything, this conversation is about freedom, self-trust, and what it means for me to choose a life and relationships that feel true. 🎁 FREE gifts from Thorhildur if you are curious about Non-monogamy: {Video Coaching} 13 Questions to Ask Before You Redesign Your Love Life - that’ll save you years of struggle & confusion: https://risewiththorhildur.com/video-freebie-nonmonogamy {PDF Playbook} Tired of default monogamy? Grab this 24-page guide and broaden your horizon to what else could be possible for you: https://risewiththorhildur.com/pdf-freebie-nonmonogamy Ready to go deeper? 💃“Let’s Talk About It“ Mini Course - Learn the exact framework on how to have a Non-Monogamy conversation with your partner (even if you end up staying monogamous!). Join the Waitlist: https://risewiththorhildur.com/minicourse-waitlist 👑 Want to be coached by Thorhildur? Apply to be on the waitlist when spots open up. https://ed32n3rhwta.typeform.com/to/iiJrnwer

    46 min

  3. 16/12/2025

    The Rejection Spiral: Why Sex Dies in Long-Term Relationships

    “This isn’t a relationship problem. It’s a cultural one.” In this episode of Radical Self, I’m joined by my partner Marcel for a raw, vulnerable, and deeply human conversation about desire, rejection, and what actually happens in long-term heterosexual relationships when sex becomes difficult. We talk about the quiet despair men feel when they are repeatedly rejected, the pressure women experience when desire feels like an obligation, and the cultural conditioning that traps couples in a painful loop of shame, withdrawal, and misunderstanding. This isn’t about blame. It’s about seeing the pattern clearly — and learning how to sit side by side instead of opposite each other. If you’ve ever felt undesired, pressured, lonely, or afraid to talk about sex with your partner, this conversation will name what you’ve been feeling and offer a new way forward. Got questions? Feedback? Want to inquire into coaching with me? DM me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rise.with.thorhildur/

    1hr 7min

  4. 05/12/2025

    Why Your Wife Doesn’t Tell You What She Really Wants in Bed

    Your wife isn’t rejecting you. She’s protecting herself (likely without knowing). And if her ‘no’ isn’t fully deeply safe with you, her ‘yes’ stopped being real a long time ago. In this episode of Radical Self, I speak directly to the men who are longing for more sexual freedom, play, and honesty with their partners — and aren’t getting it. I share vulnerably from my own 18-year relationship, including how opening my marriage revealed how deeply I’d internalised the belief that my body and sexuality “belonged” to my husband, even though he never asked for that. From there, we dive into the history and conditioning that have made women’s desire taboo for thousands of years, why cohabitation and emotional labor quietly kill female libido, and how so many couples end up in the heartbreaking loop of him feeling rejected and her abandoning herself just to keep emotional safety. You’ll learn why your wife (or longtime female partner) isn’t actually rejecting you, what she’s protecting inside herself, why your longing might be landing as pressure, and the three essential ingredients to rebuild erotic safety, novelty, and slow intimacy. If her desire feels far away and you feel starved for connection, this conversation will give you language, context, and a way forward. Feedback or coaching inquiries Message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rise.with.thorhildur/

    45 min

  5. 24/10/2025

    Your Overthinking Is Killing the Spark. Ask these 5 Questions to Bring It Back.

    When your relationship starts to feel like a puzzle you can’t solve… When your body feels the tension before your mind finds the words… That’s your invitation.   In this intimate solo episode, I share five questions that will help you shift from mental noise into emotional clarity — from looping thoughts to embodied truth. Get a notebook and pen and get ready because:  These are the questions that turned frustration into connection, and helped me remember what intimacy actually feels like.   You’ll walk away knowing how to: 🕊️ Meet tension with awareness, not avoidance 💞 Trace your triggers to their roots 🔥 Invite your partner into co-creation, not control   This is your permission to stop analyzing love — and start experiencing it again. Perfect for anyone who’s tired of analyzing and ready to feel their relationship again. If you loved this I would love to hear it! Send me a DM on Instagram @rise.with.thorhildur That's also the place to contact me if you want to inquire about coaching with me.

    37 min

  6. 10/09/2025

    Owning Your Erotic Aliveness: From Shame to Sovereignty

    What does it mean to own your erotic aliveness? And why do so many of us feel frozen, disconnected, or shamed out of our natural erotic essence?   In this episode of Radical Self, Thorhildur dives deep into the four words that can change everything: Owning Your Erotic Aliveness.   You’ll discover: 🔥 What “erotic” really means beyond sex — and how it’s the pulse of life moving through you. 🌱 Why society trains us to shut it down… and how that creates disconnection, shame, and performance-based intimacy. 💃 How to thaw out, reclaim your desires, and step into your erotic sovereignty. 🌹 Why your erotic life is your responsibility — and how embracing it opens doors to freedom, intimacy, and joy. ✨ Practical ways to bloom where you’re planted (and move environments when you need to). Thorhildur weaves stories from her own journey — from economics student to tantric teacher, from feeling like “property” in her marriage to stepping into full sovereignty — to show you what’s possible when you dare to embody your erotic aliveness.   This is a call to liberation. A reminder that your erotic essence is not something to be managed, hidden, or performed — it’s your birthright.   🌹 If you’re ready to release shame, reconnect with your body, and reclaim your erotic life, listen in. 🔮 Ready to go deeper? Join me inside Sovereign — a 3-month women’s group journey where we explore sexuality, shadow work, and inner child healing. This is where you’ll bloom into your full erotic aliveness, supported by powerful sisterhood. DM me on Instagram to apply Or, step into 1:1 coaching with me if you’re ready for deeply personal guidance in reclaiming your erotic sovereignty. Play with the application here and uncover what you truly want.

    28 min

  7. 18/08/2025

    My Partners Freedom Turns Me On: Polyamorous Couple Overheard

    I could have named this show “I Masturbated to the Thought of You With Someone Else…” In our third podcast episode together Marcel (my partner of 2 years) and I dive deep into topics like freedom, jealousy, tears, solo polyamory, sexual freedom, and maturity in open love. Recorded in a hammock in southern Spain, we explore: -How freedom can be both inspiring and terrifying in relationships. -If they could remove one pain from each other's lives, what it would be. -How fear can actually deepen love. -Honest stories about jealousy—including a frightening hotel room moment. -Why jealousy is often a mirror of our own unmet desires. -Crying for the first time in 10 years and redefining masculinity. -The difference between envy and jealousy. -Solo polyamory: loving without merging lives. -The unexpected way opening a relationship changes desire. -Myths about open love, and why it’s not a constant orgy. -The beauty of living relationships by conscious choice. -The most sovereign version of us in love. If this resonated I'd love to hear it! Want to dive deeper and grow with me?  Drop me a DM on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/rise.with.thorhildur/  Join the waitlist for upcoming courses on relationships, non-monogamy and more: https://sundurogsaman.me/waitlist  Explore coaching with me: https://sundurogsaman.me/coaching

    1hr 13min

  8. 02/06/2025

    The “Fuck It” Moment

    Have you ever felt the quiet nudge that says, “This isn’t it”? This episode is about the sacred moment we say “f**k it” and choose to stop waiting and start living.   I share why we stall, how fear disguises itself as logic, and what happens when we finally listen to our soul’s whisper. Plus, I’ll tell you how to work with me if you’re ready to rise.   🎧 Listen now — and if this sparks something in you, DM me on instagram and tell me about it.  Instagram page of Thorhildur, Sundur og saman

    23 min
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About

"Hey guys. Let me tell you what this is about. I really want to tell my story. As a polyamorous married woman, mother and relationship coach I've got more than a few things to share. My burning desire is for you to wake up to the wonderful options you have in this lifetime to experience love, happiness, adventure and eros! The path I've chosen has often led to some tough conversations with myself where I am facing the toggle between what society tells us and what my deep intuition is calling me to do. This is where I share this journey." Radical Self is a space for the parts of you that have been silenced, suppressed, or scattered — and are now ready to come alive. Hosted by Icelandic tantric somatic coach and truth-teller Thorhildur (Þórhildur), this podcast is an invitation to melt away illusions and meet yourself in the raw.  Expect deep conversations about love, relationships, non-monogamy, s¢x, spirituality and personal development. Sacred provocations, and the kind of honesty that cracks you open — gently, but completely.  Come say hi to me or ask me a question at:  https://www.instagram.com/rise.with.thorhildur/

Information

  • Creator
    Þórhildur Magnúsdóttir
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    19
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2024 Sundur & Saman
  • Show Website
    Radical Self

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