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Robert Siegers
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► Hi, my name is Robert! For a long time, I wondered why relationships felt so much harder for me than for others. Over the past years, I had the privilege of spending thousands of dollars and countless hours working with four different therapists, exploring what actually creates emotional safety ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions. I am not a health professional. My content is based on research & my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for 3 years.

  1. E330 - 10 Trauma Behaviors That Secretly Ruin Your Relationship

    1日前

    E330 - 10 Trauma Behaviors That Secretly Ruin Your Relationship

    ► Free Relationship Masterclass: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/masterclass⁠⁠ (Ad) ► Access My Premium Course: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠ ⁠(Ad) Links & Resources: 10 Signs of Complex PTSD: https://youtu.be/rc4NqZQV5hA?si=wSuXmBqKgsOCukBi Reddit Stonewalling: https://www.reddit.com/r/coolguides/comments/1hw6a4a/a_cool_guide_on_stonewalling_and_how_to_deal_with/ Dissociation: https://growththruchange.com/blog/why-dissociation-happens-and-steps-toward-healing/ ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠ Spotify: ⁠ ⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:05 Weakness Zoom (Deactivating Strategies) 06:18 Isolation/Avoidance 11:22 People Pleasing 15:40 Anger/Rage 19:08 Stonewalling 22:26 Emotional Numbing 27:28 Withholding Affirmations 29:30 Romanticizing The Past 31:54 Hyper-Independence 34:40 Privacy As A Shield ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

    37分
  2. E329 - Commitment Fears or The Wrong Person: 5 Signs You're Just Afraid to Commit

    4日前

    E329 - Commitment Fears or The Wrong Person: 5 Signs You're Just Afraid to Commit

    ► Free Relationship Masterclass: ⁠https://understandable.net/masterclass⁠ (Ad) ► Access My Premium Course: ⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠ (Ad) Links & Resources: Why You’re So Sensitive To Criticism: https://youtu.be/e8FKISPF__0?si=FP2qWIwIUzUp79CQ Trauma Bond: https://youtu.be/J70RwIER2BQ?si=5JMBZGVwgKUW1gY- ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠ ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:11 What Is Fear of Commitment Again? 04:24 Sign 1: You Have Unrealistic, Not High Just Standards 08:31 Sign 2: You Focus On Their Flaws, Instead Of Their Good Sides 12:01 Sign 3: Doubts And Insecurities Appear, When Everything Goes Well 16:44 Sign 4: There Is Conflict, But Not “War” 19:45 Sign 5: You Sabotage The Relationship, But Not Because Of Incompatibility ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

    25分
  3. E328 - 5 Habits to Stop Letting Other People’s Mood Control You

    4月5日

    E328 - 5 Habits to Stop Letting Other People’s Mood Control You

    ► Free Relationship Masterclass: https://understandable.net/masterclass (Ad) ► Access My Premium Course: https://understandable.net/course/ (Ad) Here are 5 Habits To Stop Letting Other People's Mood Control You. No Fluff, just practical habits that strengthen your boundaries. Why The Smallest Criticism Breaks You Episode: https://youtu.be/e8FKISPF__0?si=rLYl-PuiMEVV4K_u ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠ https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:56 Why Other People’s Mood Control You 10:36 Habit 1: Pause Before You React 13:50 Habit 2: Walk With a Better Posture 17:07 Habit 3: Having a Routine 20:16 Habit 4: Do More, of What You Need 24:10 Habit 5: Reconnect With Your Own State ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

    29分
  4. E327 - How to Stop Sabotaging Healthy Love

    4月3日

    E327 - How to Stop Sabotaging Healthy Love

    ► Free Relationship Masterclass: https://understandable.net/masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad) ► Access My Premium Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Ad) ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ► Links and Resources: Why You Don’t Feel Seen Video: ⁠https://youtu.be/6g6IiIwnPWA?si=BWVNopJCfPlRKFuI⁠ Resolve Conflict With Compassion Video: ⁠https://youtu.be/xDgdKnCC1HM?si=-33iPJdOqOsvRgax ⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro - How To Stop Sabotaging Healthy Love And Relationships 00:03 Step 1: Be Aware That You’re Sabotaging 02:37 Step 2: Understand The Pattern And It’s Purpose 05:25 Step 3: Catch Yourself When The Pattern Is Triggered 07:21 Step 4: Pause: Stop Reacting 08:36 Step 5: Ground Yourself (Create Safety) 11:14 Step 6: Communicate Honestly And Openly (Practise Vulnerability) 14:06 Step 7: Address, What You Actually Need Or Want 16:21 Step 8: Practice Self-care & Compassion For Yourself 18:17 Step 9: Build Self-Worth 20:06 Step 10: Replace Relationship Sabotage With Self-Leadership ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

    22分
  5. E326 - Why We Sabotage Great Relationships

    4月1日

    E326 - Why We Sabotage Great Relationships

    ► Free Relationship Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad) ► Access My Premium Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Ad) ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ► Links and Resources: Why You Don’t Feel Seen Video: https://youtu.be/6g6IiIwnPWA?si=BWVNopJCfPlRKFuI Resolve Conflict With Compassion Video: https://youtu.be/xDgdKnCC1HM?si=-33iPJdOqOsvRgax ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Why We Sabotage Great Relationships? 02:56 What Is Triggering The Pattern? 05:42 Why Relationships Feel Like a Loss of Control? 11:58 Why Is It So Hard To Stop Sabotaging Love? 15:49 Is There a Better Way Instead of Sabotaging Love? ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

    19分
  6. E325 - The Ultimate Guide To Get Over Avoidant Attachment

    3月27日

    E325 - The Ultimate Guide To Get Over Avoidant Attachment

    ► Free Relationship Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad) ► Access My Premium Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Ad) In the past decade, I ended 5 long term relationships because of my commitment issues. When I met my current partner, I decided to break this pattern. In this video, I share everything I’ve learned on my journey of getting over avoidant attachment. I’ll take you through the 7 stages every avoidant goes through and give you some new perspectives to ponder on. If you follow along through all the steps, I’m nearly 100% sure you will leave this video with a huge aha and a ton of practical ideas how to start healing your avoidant attachment patterns. ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ ► Links and Resources: Limerence and Romantic Fantasies: https://youtu.be/ozIbtcDmNVA?si=_eJeTGlwFcBBCBaL You’re Not Your Emotions: https://youtu.be/67QybhTEUMM?si=NLaxhT9KjecfupoC ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:51 What Avoidant Attachment Feels Like 03:59 How Secure Attachment Feels Like 07:45 Stage 1: Avoidant Beliefs and Values 12:37 Stage 2: Deep Desire for Conflict Free Love 15:26 Stage 3: Dating and Limerence 21:39 Stage 4: The Shift 25:58 Stage 5: Pulling Back 32:06 Stage 6: The Breakup 39:39 Stage 7: Recover and Reset ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

    41分
  7. E324 - The #1 Reason You Push People Away (Even If You Want Love)

    3月16日

    E324 - The #1 Reason You Push People Away (Even If You Want Love)

    ► Free Relationship Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/masterclass⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad) ► Access My Premium Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Ad) Why do you always push away the people you love? Especially when things get close and serious? If you clicked on this video, there are probably two possibilities why you’re here: 1) You are currently dating someone or are in a relationship that asks for more commitment, and you started to push the other person that you really like away. 2) You know someone, maybe your friend, brother, sister, or the person you’re dating, who is suddenly turning cold and pulling away. Either way, it’s very honest and brave of you, that you care and want to figure out, why the reactions happen. You don’t just judge yourself or the other person, and want to look for support and real answers. The reason why you or the person you love pushed someone away is in both scenarios definitely the same. And in this episode, we first of all answer the question, what’s the main reason for this. But more importantly, afterwards we’ll also explore if there is an actual solution for this And if so, how you can practically stop to push away the people you love to finally be in a stable, secure relationship. ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:22 #1 Reason You Push Away The People You Love 07:17 You’re Not Broken 10:16 How Can You Stop Pushing Away the People You Love? 11:16 Step 1: Strengthen Your Sense Of Self 16:20 Step 2: Practice to Sense and Express Your Emotions, Needs, and Boundaries 21:30 Step 3: Learn to Stay In Relationships Without Losing Yourself ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

    24分
  8. E323 - 7 Habits That Saved My Anxious-Avoidant Relationship

    3月9日

    E323 - 7 Habits That Saved My Anxious-Avoidant Relationship

    ► Free Relationship Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/masterclass⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠(Ad) ► Access My Premium Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Ad) For most of my life, I deeply longed for a warm, stable, loving relationship. But instead of feeling safe and connected, I was constantly triggered in my relationships. First being needy in the beginning, then panicking when things got too close. In fact, I broke up five times, leaving behind a lot of heartbreak. And I didn’t understand back then that I wasn’t “just needing space.” I was avoidantly attached and scared of commitment. But after working with four different therapists…after years of uncomfortable self-work… Today, I finally live together with my current partner, and I feel like I've arrived in a safe relationship where I don’t want to run away anymore for the first time in my life. And if I could move from attachment wounds… to building real emotional safety… Then I want to show you exactly how. ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:16 Habit 1: Make Emotions And Needs Visible 05:26 Habit 2: Stop Trying To Fix Each Other 07:53 Habit 3: Name Patterns In Real Time 10:38: Habit 4: Listen And Pause During Conflict 14:02 Habit 5: Practice Vulnerability Instead Of Protest 16:34 Habit 6: Stay True to Yourself, Even If It Feels Wrong 19:42 Habit 7: Prioritize Love Over Perfection ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

    22分
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► Hi, my name is Robert! For a long time, I wondered why relationships felt so much harder for me than for others. Over the past years, I had the privilege of spending thousands of dollars and countless hours working with four different therapists, exploring what actually creates emotional safety ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions. I am not a health professional. My content is based on research & my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for 3 years.

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  • クリエイター
    Robert Siegers
  • 配信期間
    18年 - 26年
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    345
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    不適切な内容を含む
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    © Robert Siegers
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    UNDERSTANDABLE

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