🧠 Stay ahead with the latest in science, nutrition, and wellness by subscribing to Dr. Perlmutter's newsletter at: https://www.drperlmutter.com Sponsors & Special Offers EVY – Go to https://www.optoceutics.com/perlmutter to get 10% off & free shipping (90 days risk-free). Memory Air – Go to https://www.memoryair.com and use code PERLMUTTER for 15% off, free shipping and a 60-day money back guarantee. Brain Defenders – Dr. Perlmutter's groundbreaking new book is now available! Discover how to protect your brain and future health: https://www.braindefenders.com About This Episode You can be successful, respected, and highly productive while still feeling invisible. In this episode of The Empowering Neurologist, Dr. David Perlmutter sits down with John R. Miles, bestselling author, behavioral change expert, and host of Passion Struck, to explore why achievement, recognition, and external success do not always create a lasting sense of self-worth. Drawing from his childhood brain injury, military service, and executive career, John explains the concept of human mattering: the fundamental need to feel seen, valued, and significant. They discuss the “mattering gap,” the “slow fade” that can happen when people become disconnected from themselves, and why belonging and mattering are not the same. John also introduces the MATTER framework, built around six conditions that help people feel valued and connected: meaning, autonomy, trust, time, energy, and reciprocity. They explore how parents, leaders, physicians, and communities can help others feel that they matter, and why separating personal worth from productivity and external approval can lead to more meaningful relationships and intentional living. You can continue pursuing success without making it the measure of your worth. Your value is not something you have to earn. Timestamps 00:00 – John Miles’ Childhood Brain Injury and Defining Moment 06:16 – What It Means to Matter vs. Belong 07:32 – The Slow Fade: When Success Makes You Feel Invisible 14:43 – Understanding the Mattering Gap 19:34 – Why Children Need to Feel Seen and Valued 27:20 – The MATTER Framework: Six Conditions for Feeling Valued 31:13 – Why Patients Need to Be Seen Beyond Their Diagnosis 36:11 – Creating a Workplace Where Employees Feel Valued 44:31 – Why Your Worth Is Already a Completed Fact 48:32 – The Difference Between Proving Yourself and Accomplishing Goals About John R. Miles John R. Miles is a bestselling author, keynote speaker, behavioral change expert, and host of the award-winning, top-ranked podcast Passion Struck®. A former U.S. Navy officer and Fortune 50 C-suite executive, John combines military discipline, corporate strategy, neuroscience, and psychology to help people and organizations reduce isolation, strengthen self-worth, and live with greater intention. He is the author of Passion Struck and The Mattering Effect. His work explores how people can separate their inherent worth from external achievement, build deeper relationships, and create a meaningful impact without losing themselves in the process. Through his books, podcast, speaking, and global community, John leads a growing movement centered on one essential message: every person deserves to feel seen, valued, and significant. Connect with John Website: https://johnrmiles.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/john_r_miles LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnmileshumanperformanceexpert Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/johnrmiles.c0m Podcast: https://passionstruck.com/passion-struck-podcast Connect with Dr. Perlmutter Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidperlmutter/ Website: https://www.drperlmutter.com/ Subscribe to our channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDRl_UAXxbHyOOjklnA0dxQ This podcast is produced by DrTalks.com http://drtalks.com/channel-growth
