How Not To Suck At Divorce

Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport
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Most people make expensive divorce mistakes before they even understand the process. Get expert divorce advice, practical divorce help, and cost-effective divorce strategies to avoid costly mistakes, reduce legal fees, and navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and control. Most people spend thousands learning this the hard way. Don’t be one of them. The Divorce Crash Course (a $150 value, available for $50) shows you exactly how to prepare for divorce, avoid costly legal mistakes, and protect your finances before you even hire a lawyer. How Not to Suck at Divorce is the divorce podcast for people who want real answers, smart strategy, and emotional clarity during one of the most stressful times of life. This isn’t surface-level advice or generic legal talk. It’s honest, practical divorce guidance designed to help you make better decisions from the very beginning. Hosted by powerhouse family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill, head of family law at one of the largest firms in the country, and comedian-turned-marketing expert Andrea Rappaport, the show combines legal expertise with real-life experience. Together, they break down what actually matters in divorce and what too many people get wrong. Each episode focuses on the decisions that can cost you the most if you’re not prepared, from custody and co-parenting to negotiations, communication, and financial strategy. You’ll learn what to say to your lawyer, how to prepare for divorce before you file, and how to manage emotions without letting them derail your case. If you want a clear, step-by-step plan instead of figuring this out on your own, The Divorce Crash Course walks you through exactly what to do before, during, and after divorce so you can make smarter decisions with less stress. This podcast is built for every stage of the process. Whether you’re thinking about divorce, in the middle of it, or rebuilding your life after, you’ll find clear divorce planning strategies, practical tools, and real-world guidance you can actually use. It’s about protecting your kids, your finances, and your future while staying grounded through a process that can easily feel overwhelming. What makes this show different is the combination of expert insight, real-world scenarios, and a tone that doesn’t feel heavy or intimidating. You’ll hear conversations with leading experts in law, psychology, finance, and safety, alongside honest discussions about the emotional side of divorce, including stress, conflict, and starting over. 💡 WHAT YOU’LL LEARN How to avoid costly divorce mistakes and reduce legal fees Divorce strategy, planning, and decision-making frameworks How to prepare for divorce before hiring a lawyer (and avoid expensive legal missteps) Co-parenting strategies and managing high-conflict personalities Communication tools to protect your case and reduce stress Financial planning, asset protection, and negotiation strategies Mindset tools to stay clear, calm, and in control From high-conflict communication strategies like the BIFF method to understanding financial transparency, custody dynamics, and digital safety, each episode is designed to give you clarity on what matters most. You’ll also hear from experts like Bill Eddy on managing conflict, Steven Bradley on tech and digital safety, and Dr. Nadine Macaluso on trauma, healing, and emotional resilience. At its core, this podcast is about helping you make smarter decisions during one of the most important transitions of your life. It’s practical, strategic, and grounded in real experience. And if you’re ready for a more structured approach, The Divorce Crash Course is there to guide you every step of the way. You’ll get through this. And you’ll do it better than you think.

  1. hace 23 h

    Divorce: How to Stay Grounded When Everything Feels Unsteady

    Divorce: How to Stay Grounded When Everything Feels Unsteady Divorce Crash Course: Don’t make expensive divorce mistakes. Our Divorce Crash Course walks you through the biggest legal, financial, emotional, and co-parenting mistakes people make during divorce — and how to avoid them. Typically priced at $150, available now for just $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink. Start the course here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course Divorce can make everything feel unstable. Your home, your routines, your finances, your parenting schedule, your future — all of it can feel like it’s shifting under your feet. So how do you stay grounded when the divorce process feels anything but steady? In this mini episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport shares a simple but powerful grounding reminder from her own backyard: be like the tree. Yes, really. After staring up at the big, mature trees in her yard, Andrea reflects on how trees survive season after season. They lose leaves. They lose branches. They weather storms. But because their roots run deep, they remain standing. And honestly? That is a pretty perfect divorce metaphor. This episode is a calming reminder for anyone going through divorce, considering divorce, or recovering from divorce anxiety. You may feel overwhelmed, reactive, scared, or completely unsteady right now — but that does not mean you are going to be taken down by this process. You may lose some leaves. You may lose a branch. You may look and feel different on the other side. But you will still be here. You will still be strong. You will still be you. Andrea also talks about how spending time outside, planting flowers, caring for something living, and reconnecting with nature can be a surprisingly grounding way to manage divorce stress and anxiety. No, you do not need to become a full horticulture goddess. You do not even need to know if “horticultury” is a word. But you may need a plant. Or a pot. Or a tree to stare at for a minute while you remind yourself that you are more rooted than this moment feels. In this episode, Andrea talks about:How to stay grounded during divorceWhy divorce can make you feel emotionally reactiveHow nature can help regulate stress and anxietyWhy trees are the perfect metaphor for surviving divorceHow to calm your nervous system when life feels unstableWhy divorce is a marathon, not a sprintHow small grounding practices can help you through hard daysWhy you will still be standing after this storm passes This episode is for you if:You are feeling overwhelmed by divorceYou are struggling with divorce anxietyYou feel emotionally reactive or unsteadyYou need a quick grounding reminderYou are trying to get through a hard divorce dayYou need reassurance that you will survive this processYou want a calming mini episode that does not feel overly woo-woo Divorce is unsettling. It is emotional. It can feel completely unhinged. But you do not have to become unhinged with it. When in doubt, be like the tree. Stay rooted in who you are. Stay grounded in what you know. And remember: you are going to get through this. You’ve got this. And we’ve got you. Listen to How Not to Suck at DivorceWebsite: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/ Podcast: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/podcast Divorce Crash Course: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course SEO Keywordsdivorce anxiety, divorce stress, how to stay grounded during divorce, grounding during divorce, divorce meditation, divorce mini episode, coping with divorce, emotional regulation during divorce, divorce support, divorce podcast, divorce advice, how to get through divorce, divorce healing, divorce overwhelm, divorce nervous system, stress during divorce, nature and anxiety, How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport, Morgan Stogsdill Mentioned in this episode: Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

    9 min

  2. hace 5 días

    Divorce SOS: What to Do When You’re Panicking

    Divorce issue:When you don't agree with your attorney and Why Going Rogue Can Cost You Thousands 🎧 Before You Listen...Don't make expensive divorce mistakes. Our FREE guide, The 5 Divorce Mistakes That Cost People Thousands, will help you avoid some of the biggest legal, financial, and emotional mistakes people make before, during, and after divorce. 👉 Download it FREE here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com If you're ready for a deeper roadmap, our Divorce Crash Course walks you through the entire divorce process—from choosing the right attorney to protecting your finances and avoiding costly mistakes. Typically priced at $150, available now for just $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink. 👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course Episode DescriptionEvery person going through divorce eventually reaches the same breaking point. You become convinced your attorney is wrong. The judge doesn't get it. The legal system is broken. And your brain starts whispering... "Forget it. I'll just handle this myself." Unfortunately, that's often the exact moment people make the most expensive mistake of their entire divorce. In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill are joined by Atlanta family law attorney Daniel Bloom to discuss why otherwise smart people make impulsive decisions during divorce, what "going rogue" really looks like, and how one emotional decision can cost you tens of thousands of dollars. From firing off an angry email to texting your ex after one too many drinks, this episode explains why patience, strategy, and emotional regulation can ultimately save your case—and your wallet. In This Episode You'll Learn:✔ Why divorce makes even intelligent people act impulsively ✔ What "going rogue" actually means in a divorce case ✔ The hidden financial cost of ignoring your attorney's advice ✔ Why waiting during divorce feels unbearable—and what's really happening behind the scenes ✔ What your attorney is doing while you think "nothing is happening" ✔ When it makes sense to seek a second legal opinion ✔ Why therapy can be one of the smartest investments during divorce ✔ Three simple steps to stop yourself before making an emotional decision you'll regret ✔ Why divorce is a marathon—not a sprint One Email Can Change EverythingDaniel shares real-life examples of clients who ignored legal advice, sent one emotional email, and watched their entire case unravel. Sometimes the cost isn't just financial. It's your credibility. Your settlement. Your co-parenting relationship. Or even your relationship with your children. Feeling Like Your Attorney Isn't Listening?Many people mistake silence for inaction. In reality, experienced divorce attorneys are often developing strategy, gathering information, and protecting your long-term interests—even when it feels like nothing is happening. Learn why the waiting process is often one of the hardest—and most important—parts of divorce. Thinking About Going Rogue?Before you send the email... Before you post on social media... Before you text your ex... Ask yourself one question: "How will this affect my case six months from now?" That one pause could save you thousands of dollars. Resources Mentioned📘 FREE Divorce GuideThe 5 Divorce Mistakes That Cost People Thousands 👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com 💛 Divorce Crash CourseAvoid expensive legal mistakes before they happen. 👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course 👥 Join Our Free Private CommunityConnect with thousands of people navigating divorce who truly understand what you're going through. 👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com Reach out to Daniel Bloom (Atlanta Family Law Attorney and Guardian ad Lietum) https://bloomlineslaw.com/our-team/daniel-bloom/ Subscribe & ConnectIf this episode helped you: ⭐ Follow How Not to Suck at Divorce @hownottosuckatdivorce ⭐ Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify www.ratethispodcast.com/notsuck ⭐ Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it Every review helps us reach more people before they make expensive divorce mistakes. SEO Keywordsdivorce advice, divorce mistakes, divorce attorney, family law attorney, divorce podcast, custody case, Guardian ad Litem, divorce strategy, co-parenting, divorce lawyer advice, divorce communication, texting your ex during divorce, divorce settlement, high-conflict divorce, divorce emotions, divorce legal advice, Daniel Bloom, How Not to Suck at Divorce Mentioned in this episode: Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

    30 min

  3. 1 jul

    Divorce Custody: What a Guardian ad Litem Is Really Looking For

    Divorce: How to Talk to a Guardian ad Litem Without Hurting Your Custody Case 🎧 Before You Listen...Don't make expensive divorce mistakes. If you're navigating divorce, custody, or co-parenting, our Divorce Crash Course can help you avoid the mistakes that cost people thousands of dollars—and months of unnecessary stress. Typically priced at $150, it's available now for just $50 thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink. 👉 Enroll here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course Click here to get our free guide on avoiding the biggest divorce mistakes! Episode Description If a Guardian ad Litem (GAL) has been appointed in your divorce or custody case, every conversation matters more than you probably realize. Many parents unintentionally damage their credibility by focusing on the wrong things, oversharing, attacking the other parent, or getting caught up in petty conflicts. In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill sit down with Atlanta family law attorney Daniel Bloom to discuss exactly what Guardians ad Litem look for—and the mistakes that can quietly hurt your custody case. You'll learn why your words matter, how to communicate effectively with a Guardian ad Litem, and why keeping your child's best interests front and center is always the winning strategy. Whether you're currently working with a GAL or simply want to better understand the custody process, this episode offers practical advice that could save you stress, money, and heartache. In This Episode You'll Learn:What a Guardian ad Litem actually doesThe biggest mistakes parents make during custody evaluationsWhy constantly criticizing your co-parent can backfireWhy saying "my child" instead of "our child" matters more than you thinkHow pettiness can damage your credibilityThe right way to communicate concerns to your Guardian ad LitemWhen email is better than textingWhy OurFamilyWizard can improve communication during divorceWhy quality parenting matters more than counting parenting daysHow humility often earns more credibility than trying to look like the "perfect" parent Key TakeawaysPut your child—not your ex—at the center of every conversation.A Guardian ad Litem wants to understand your child's needs, strengths, and challenges—not hear a list of complaints about your co-parent. Don't let small battles cost you the bigger war.Arguments over jackets, forgotten shoes, or missing hockey sticks may feel important in the moment, but repeatedly escalating minor issues can make you appear unreasonable. Be honest. Not perfect.No parent gets everything right. Guardians ad Litem appreciate parents who acknowledge mistakes, ask thoughtful questions, and demonstrate a willingness to learn. Communication matters.Text messages sent in anger often become evidence later. Daniel explains why thoughtful emails and structured communication tools can make a significant difference. Focus on influence—not percentages.Great parenting isn't measured only by the number of overnight visits. What matters most is the quality of your relationship with your children. Resources MentionedDivorce Crash CourseAvoid the biggest mistakes people make before, during, and after divorce. 👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course Get in touch with Daniel Bloom https://bloomlineslaw.com/our-team/daniel-bloom/ OurFamilyWizardThe co-parenting communication tool trusted by attorneys, judges, and mental health professionals. Use our exclusive discount and save 20% on your first year. www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck20 Free Divorce GuideDownload our FREE guide: The 5 Divorce Mistakes That Cost People Thousands 👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com Subscribe & ConnectIf this episode helped you, please: ⭐ Leave a review 🎧 Follow How Not to Suck at Divorce 👥 Join our free private Facebook Community 📱 Follow us on social media for daily divorce tips, expert interviews, and practical advice. SEO KeywordsGuardian ad Litem, GAL, Guardian ad Litem divorce, custody evaluator, child custody, custody battle, divorce advice, divorce podcast, co-parenting, OurFamilyWizard, family court, custody evaluation, parenting plan, divorce attorney, family law, divorce support, custody tips, child custody attorney, high-conflict divorce, divorce help. Divorce: How to Talk to a Guardian ad Litem Without Hurting Your Custody Case🎧 Before You Listen...Don't make expensive divorce mistakes. If you're navigating divorce, custody, or co-parenting, our Divorce Crash Course can help you avoid the mistakes that cost people thousands of dollars—and months of unnecessary stress. Typically priced at $150, it's available now for just $50 thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink. 👉 Enroll here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course Episode DescriptionIf a Guardian ad Litem (GAL) has been appointed in your divorce or custody case, every conversation matters more than you probably realize. Many parents unintentionally damage their credibility by focusing on the wrong things, oversharing, attacking the other parent, or getting caught up in petty conflicts. In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill sit down with Atlanta family law attorney Daniel Bloom to discuss exactly what Guardians ad Litem look for—and the mistakes that can quietly hurt your custody case. You'll learn why your words matter, how to communicate effectively with a Guardian ad Litem, and why keeping your child's best interests front and center is always the winning strategy. Whether you're currently working with a GAL or simply want to better understand the custody process, this episode offers practical advice that could save you stress, money, and heartache. In This Episode You'll Learn:What a Guardian ad Litem actually doesThe biggest mistakes parents make during custody evaluationsWhy constantly criticizing your co-parent can backfireWhy saying "my child" instead of "our child" matters more than you thinkHow pettiness can damage your credibilityThe right way to communicate concerns to your Guardian ad LitemWhen email is better than textingWhy OurFamilyWizard can improve communication during divorceWhy quality parenting matters more than counting parenting daysHow humility often earns more credibility than trying to look like the "perfect" parent Key TakeawaysPut your child—not your ex—at the center of every conversation.A Guardian ad Litem wants to understand your child's needs, strengths, and challenges—not hear a list of complaints about your co-parent. Don't let small battles cost you the bigger war.Arguments over jackets, forgotten shoes, or missing hockey sticks may feel important in the moment, but repeatedly escalating minor issues can make you appear unreasonable. Be honest. Not perfect.No parent gets everything right. Guardians ad Litem appreciate parents who acknowledge mistakes, ask thoughtful questions, and demonstrate a willingness to learn. Communication matters.Text messages sent in anger often become evidence later. Daniel explains why thoughtful emails and structured communication tools can make a significant difference. Focus on influence—not percentages.Great parenting isn't measured only by the number of overnight visits. What matters most is the quality of your relationship with your children. Resources MentionedDivorce Crash CourseAvoid the biggest mistakes people make before, during, and after divorce. 👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course OurFamilyWizardThe co-parenting communication tool trusted by attorneys, judges, and mental health professionals. Use our exclusive discount and save 20% on your first year. (Direct link in the show notes.) Free Divorce GuideDownload our FREE guide: The 5 Divorce Mistakes That...

    18 min

  4. 26 jun

    Divorce and Children: The Parenting Mistakes That Can Increase Your Child's Anxiety

    Divorce and Children: The Parenting Mistakes That Can Increase Your Child's Anxiety | Featuring Retired Judge Michele Lowrance 🎧 Divorce Crash Course – Save Thousands Before You Make a Costly Mistake Before you spend thousands on attorney's fees or make decisions you'll regret, check out our Divorce Crash Course. Learn how to: Avoid the biggest divorce mistakesSave money on attorney's feesUnderstand the divorce processProtect your childrenMake smarter legal and financial decisions Typically priced at $150, available now for just $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink. 👉 Get instant access: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course Episode DescriptionCan one decision during your divorce impact your child's anxiety for years? According to retired Cook County Judge, mediator, and family law pioneer Michele Lowrance, the answer is yes. In this powerful episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and Morgan Stogsdill sit down with Judge Lowrance to discuss the divorce behaviors that can unintentionally hurt children, why high-conflict litigation can have lasting emotional consequences, and how parents can begin making more child-centered decisions—even when divorce feels impossible. Andrea also shares something deeply personal: the parenting mistakes she made during her own divorce, what she wishes she had done differently, and why perfection isn't the goal—awareness is. Whether you're in the middle of a custody dispute, considering mediation, or simply trying to protect your children through divorce, this episode offers practical perspective and hope. In This Episode You'll Learn:The biggest divorce behaviors that increase children's anxietyWhy fighting over parenting time isn't always about the scheduleWhat "Heroic Parenting" actually meansHow parental conflict affects children long after the divorce is finalizedWhy mediation can protect your children in ways court often cannotThe difference between putting your children first and protecting your own egoWhy learning to let go benefits both you and your childrenHow one parent can begin changing the family dynamic—even if the other parent won't About Michele LowranceMichele Lowrance is a retired Cook County Domestic Relations Judge, mediator, author of The Good Karma Divorce, and one of the nation's leading voices on family-centered divorce and mediation. After decades practicing family law and serving on the bench, she continues helping families navigate divorce with less conflict and more compassion. Resources MentionedThe Good Karma Divorce by Michele LowranceDivorce Crash CourseOur Family Wizard- Click here to save 20%! Connect With Us🌐 Website: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com 📱 Follow us on social media for daily divorce support, legal tips, and encouragement. @hownottosuckatdivorce 💬 Join our free private divorce community for support from thousands of people navigating divorce. join here! ⭐ If this episode helped you, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your review helps other people find support during one of the hardest seasons of their lives. Rate us here! Keywordsdivorce podcast, divorce and children, child custody, co-parenting, divorce mediation, parenting after divorce, protecting children during divorce, high conflict divorce, family law, child anxiety after divorce, divorce advice, custody disputes, Michele Lowrance, divorce help, divorce support, parenting through divorce Mentioned in this episode: Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

    20 min

  5. 24 jun

    Divorce: What to Do When Your Entire Life Feels Out of Control

    The Divorce "to do" list will kill you. 🎧 Divorce Crash Course: Avoid Costly Mistakes Before They Happen Link to the Divorce Meditations waitlist: click me! Thinking about divorce? Already in the middle of one? Our Divorce Crash Course gives you the information we wish everyone had before they started the process. Learn how to: Avoid expensive legal mistakesProtect yourself financiallyCreate better custody agreementsNavigate the divorce process with more confidenceMake informed decisions instead of emotional ones Typically priced at $150, available now for $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and SoberLink. Get instant access here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course When you're going through a divorce, people love to tell you to "take it one day at a time." Helpful? Maybe. Annoying? Absolutely. Because when you're hurting, you don't want to take it one day at a time. You want answers. You want certainty. You want to know how this ends, whether your kids will be okay, whether you're making the right decisions, and when you'll finally feel like yourself again. In this mini episode, Andrea talks about why the urge to solve everything immediately is completely normal—and why trying to predict every possible outcome may actually be making your anxiety worse. She also shares a simple exercise you can use today to help quiet the mental chaos and focus on what actually matters right now. In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why uncertainty feels so unbearable during divorceThe difference between being informed and obsessing over every possible outcomeWhy you don't need your entire future figured out todayHow trying to predict every legal scenario can fuel anxietyThe three things you can stop trying to solve right nowA simple exercise to help you regain a sense of controlWhy surviving today is sometimes enough Andrea's Three-Thing ExerciseWhen everything feels overwhelming, write down: ✔ One thing for your divorce ✔ One thing for your life ✔ One thing for yourself That's it. Not twenty things. Not fifty things. Just three manageable actions that help you move forward without carrying the weight of every possible future all at once. Divorce Meditation Series – Join the Priority Access ListWe're putting the finishing touches on a guided meditation series created specifically for people navigating divorce, anxiety, uncertainty, custody stress, and emotional overwhelm. These short, practical meditations are designed to help calm your nervous system, quiet racing thoughts, and get through the hardest moments of divorce. Join the Priority Access List and be the first to know when they're released. Link to the Divorce Meditations waitlist: click me! Connect With UsWebsite: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com Facebook Group: How Not to Suck at Divorce Instagram: www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce If This Episode Helped You...Please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. Your support helps more people find the information, resources, and encouragement they need during one of the most difficult seasons of their lives. www.ratethispodcast.com/notsuck Remember: Divorce is a marathon, not a sprint. You don't have to solve your entire future today. Link to the Divorce Meditations waitlist: click me! divorce anxiety, divorce stress, divorce overwhelm, coping with divorce, divorce emotional support, divorce uncertainty, divorce mindset, surviving divorce, divorce tips, divorce podcast, custody stress, divorce help, divorce recovery. Mentioned in this episode: Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

    11 min

  6. 19 jun

    Divorce and the Stay-at-Home Parent: How to Leave an Unhappy Marriage When You Don't Have Your Own Income

    Stay-at-Home Parent and Divorce: How to Leave an Unhappy Marriage When You Don't Have Your Own Income Thinking about divorce is hard. Thinking about divorce when you're a stay-at-home parent can feel impossible. How do you afford an attorney? What happens if your spouse controls the finances? Will you have to go back to work immediately? What if you've been out of the workforce for years? First, get your hands on the $50 Divorce Crash Course to save money on your divorce process. In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and top family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill tackle one of the most common concerns we hear in our community: how stay-at-home parents can prepare for divorce without letting fear take over. Whether you're a stay-at-home mom, stay-at-home dad, or the primary parent managing the household, this episode will help you understand your options, your value, and the practical steps you can take right now to prepare for your next chapter. In This EpisodeWhy stay-at-home parents often feel trapped in unhappy marriagesThe biggest misconceptions about divorce and stay-at-home parentingHow to afford a divorce attorney when you don't have your own incomeWhy gathering financial documents is one of the most important first stepsWhat attorneys look at when evaluating maintenance and alimonyHow education, training, and work history impact divorce outcomesWhether you should go back to work before filing for divorceWhat to do if your spouse controls the financesHow fear causes stay-at-home parents to underestimate their valueWhy information is the key to making better divorce decisionsWays to start generating income before and during divorceHow OurFamilyWizard can help co-parents stay organized Key Takeaways✔️ Being a stay-at-home parent does not make you less valuable in a divorce. ✔️ The work you do inside the home has real value, even if it doesn't come with a paycheck. ✔️ Every divorce case is different, which is why getting legal advice early is critical. ✔️ Gathering financial documents now can save you time, money, and stress later. ✔️ Fear often makes stay-at-home parents feel powerless—but information creates confidence. ✔️ There are often more options available than you realize. ✔️ Divorce is a marathon, not a sprint. ✔️ You do not have to have everything figured out before taking the next step. If You're Thinking About DivorceOne of the biggest mistakes people make is assuming they need to have a complete plan before speaking with an attorney. You don't. You simply need enough information to understand your options. The sooner you start learning about the divorce process, your finances, and your legal rights, the sooner you'll be able to make decisions from a place of confidence instead of fear. Our Family WizardCheck them out- they are a resource that is here to help you make coparenting easier. You can save 20% on your essentials package here: www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck20 Divorce Crash CourseIf you're considering divorce—or you're already in the middle of one—the Divorce Crash Course was created for you. Learn how divorce works, what mistakes to avoid, how to save money on attorney fees, how to protect your finances, and how to make smarter decisions throughout the process. Typically priced at $150, available now for just $50 thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and SoberLink. 👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course Connect With UsWebsite: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com Join Our Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hownottosuckatdivorce Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce Subscribe for new episodes every week covering divorce, co-parenting, child custody, mediation, family law, emotional healing, high-conflict relationships, and practical strategies to help you get through divorce with less stress, less fear, and more confidence. #DivorcePodcast #StayAtHomeMomDivorce #StayAtHomeDadDivorce #DivorceAdvice #ChildCustody #Alimony #Maintenance #DivorceSupport #CoParenting #HowNotToSuckAtDivorce Mentioned in this episode: Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

    32 min

  7. 17 jun

    Divorce: The Fear Keeping You Stuck (And How to Break Free)

    Fear Is the Quiet Devil in Divorce (Here's How to Stop Letting It Run the Show) Divorce is scary. Not because every fear is true, but because fear has a way of convincing us that the worst-case scenario is right around the corner. In this mini episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport explores why fear becomes one of the most powerful forces during the divorce process—and how you can stop it from controlling your decisions. Get The $50 Divorce Crash Course. Drawing on insights about nervous system regulation, anxiety, and personal experience, Andrea explains why confidence doesn't come from feeling fearless. It comes from collecting evidence that you can do hard things and survive them. If you're feeling overwhelmed by attorney consultations, difficult conversations, legal decisions, or uncertainty about the future, this episode will help you understand how fear works—and how to move forward anyway. In This EpisodeWhy fear becomes so powerful during divorceHow your nervous system learns through evidence, not reassuranceThe connection between confidence and small winsWhy tackling smaller fears helps prepare you for bigger challengesHow knowledge and information reduce anxietyThe role of curiosity in overcoming fearWhy waiting is one of the hardest parts of divorceHow catastrophic thinking keeps you stuckThe surprising benefits of positive daydreamingHow to calm your brain before making important decisions Key Takeaways✔️ Fear loses power when you gather evidence that you can handle difficult situations. ✔️ Confidence is built through action, not certainty. ✔️ Small challenges train your nervous system to tolerate bigger ones. ✔️ Knowledge reduces fear because uncertainty fuels anxiety. ✔️ Divorce decisions are easier when your nervous system is regulated. ✔️ Catastrophizing is a habit—not a prediction. ✔️ You are allowed to imagine positive outcomes too. ✔️ Calm first. Then apply the tools. A Practical ExerciseThink about one thing you're afraid of during your divorce. Now don't tackle that thing first. Instead, ask yourself: What's one smaller thing I can do today that feels slightly uncomfortable but manageable? Maybe it's: Scheduling an attorney consultationPosting in a support groupAsking a question you've been avoidingCompleting paperwork you've been putting offSetting a small boundary Every action becomes evidence. And evidence creates confidence. Divorce Doesn't Require FearlessnessYou do not have to become fearless to get through divorce. You only need enough evidence to remind yourself: "I've survived 100% of the difficult things I've faced so far." You can survive this too. Divorce Crash CourseLooking for practical guidance, legal insights, and emotional support during divorce? Our Divorce Crash Course walks you through the biggest mistakes people make during divorce, how to save money on attorney fees, what to expect during the process, and how to make smarter decisions when emotions are running high. Typically priced at $150, available now for $50 thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and SoberLink. 👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course Connect With UsWebsite: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hownottosuckatdivorce Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce Subscribe for new episodes every week covering divorce, co-parenting, family law, emotional healing, high-conflict relationships, mediation, custody, and practical strategies to help you survive—and thrive—through divorce. #DivorceSupport #DivorcePodcast #DivorceRecovery #FearAndAnxiety #NervousSystemRegulation #DivorceHelp #CoParenting #EmotionalHealing #HowNotToSuckAtDivorce #DivorceAdvice Mentioned in this episode: Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

    12 min

  8. 12 jun

    Divorce and The Biggest Mediation Mistakes to Avoid with Mediator and Former Judge Hon. Michele Lowrance

    Biggest Mediation Mistakes to Avoid:After decades on the bench, retired Judge Michele Lowrance has seen firsthand what truly destroys families during divorce—and it isn't always what you think. Don't miss out on the $50 Divorce Crash Course In this powerful episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and Morgan L. Stogsdill sit down with the Honorable Michele Lowrance, retired domestic relations judge, nationally recognized mediator, author of The Good Karma Divorce, and one of the leading voices in family law and divorce mediation. Together, they explore why mediation is often a better path than litigation, what happens to families when conflict escalates into court battles, and how parents can protect their children while navigating one of life's most painful transitions. Judge Lowrance shares the science behind emotional decision-making, the impact of divorce conflict on children, why the right mediator can make or break your case, and how even high-conflict couples can find a path toward resolution. If you're preparing for mediation, considering litigation, or simply trying to make better decisions during your divorce, this episode is a must-listen. In This Episode, We Discuss:Why mediation is often a better alternative to courtroom litigationWhat happens to children when parents remain locked in conflictThe emotional and neurological impact of divorceHow fear, anger, and grief affect decision-makingWhy good people struggle during mediationThe critical role of the mediatorHow to choose the right mediator for your divorceWhat to expect from the first mediation sessionWhy high-conflict divorces can still benefit from mediationHow to move from emotional reactions to thoughtful decisionsThe concept behind The Good Karma Divorce Key Takeaways✔️ Divorce decisions made from anger often create long-term damage ✔️ Mediation allows families to move toward acceptance rather than remaining stuck in conflict ✔️ The right mediator should challenge, guide, and creatively problem-solve—not simply carry offers back and forth ✔️ Children are deeply affected by ongoing parental conflict ✔️ Emotional regulation is one of the most important skills during divorce ✔️ The first mediation offers are often difficult—but that doesn't mean mediation isn't working ✔️ You won't always feel the same way about your ex that you do today ✔️ Keeping your focus on the future can help you make better decisions now Three Action Steps from Michele Lowrance1. Don't Impose Your AgendaBefore discussing a difficult topic with your co-parent, ask whether it's a good time for the conversation. Respect timing and create rules of engagement that reduce conflict. 2. Remember You Won't Always Feel This WayThe emotions you're experiencing right now are real—but they won't last forever. Make decisions based on your future, not just your current pain. 3. Keep Your Eye on the TargetFocus on healing, protecting your children, and moving forward. Don't try to navigate divorce alone—get the support you need. About Michele LowranceMichele Lowrance is a retired Cook County Domestic Relations Judge, nationally recognized divorce mediator, author, and family law thought leader. She practiced family law for more than two decades before serving nearly twenty years on the bench and has dedicated her career to helping families resolve conflict with less trauma and more humanity. Her book, The Good Karma Divorce, explores how individuals can emerge from divorce with dignity, healing, and purpose. Divorce Crash CourseThinking about divorce? Currently going through one? Our Divorce Crash Course walks you through the biggest mistakes people make during divorce, how to save money on attorney fees, what to expect during the process, and how to protect yourself legally and financially. Typically priced at $150, available now for $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink. 👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course Resources📘 The Good Karma Divorce by Michele Lowrance 👉 Our Family Wizard: https://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck 👉 Soberlink: https://www.soberlink.com Connect With UsWebsite: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hownottosuckatdivorce Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce Keywords: divorce mediation, Michele Lowrance, family law mediation, high conflict divorce, divorce and children, child-centered divorce, mediation vs litigation, divorce attorney advice, co-parenting, divorce support, family court, divorce podcast, divorce recovery, mediation tips, divorce strategy #DivorceMediation #MicheleLowrance #FamilyLaw #CoParenting #DivorcePodcast #DivorceSupport #HowNotToSuckAtDivorce #ChildCenteredDivorce #DivorceAdvice #FamilyCourt Mentioned in this episode: Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

    33 min
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Most people make expensive divorce mistakes before they even understand the process. Get expert divorce advice, practical divorce help, and cost-effective divorce strategies to avoid costly mistakes, reduce legal fees, and navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and control. Most people spend thousands learning this the hard way. Don’t be one of them. The Divorce Crash Course (a $150 value, available for $50) shows you exactly how to prepare for divorce, avoid costly legal mistakes, and protect your finances before you even hire a lawyer. How Not to Suck at Divorce is the divorce podcast for people who want real answers, smart strategy, and emotional clarity during one of the most stressful times of life. This isn’t surface-level advice or generic legal talk. It’s honest, practical divorce guidance designed to help you make better decisions from the very beginning. Hosted by powerhouse family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill, head of family law at one of the largest firms in the country, and comedian-turned-marketing expert Andrea Rappaport, the show combines legal expertise with real-life experience. Together, they break down what actually matters in divorce and what too many people get wrong. Each episode focuses on the decisions that can cost you the most if you’re not prepared, from custody and co-parenting to negotiations, communication, and financial strategy. You’ll learn what to say to your lawyer, how to prepare for divorce before you file, and how to manage emotions without letting them derail your case. If you want a clear, step-by-step plan instead of figuring this out on your own, The Divorce Crash Course walks you through exactly what to do before, during, and after divorce so you can make smarter decisions with less stress. This podcast is built for every stage of the process. Whether you’re thinking about divorce, in the middle of it, or rebuilding your life after, you’ll find clear divorce planning strategies, practical tools, and real-world guidance you can actually use. It’s about protecting your kids, your finances, and your future while staying grounded through a process that can easily feel overwhelming. What makes this show different is the combination of expert insight, real-world scenarios, and a tone that doesn’t feel heavy or intimidating. You’ll hear conversations with leading experts in law, psychology, finance, and safety, alongside honest discussions about the emotional side of divorce, including stress, conflict, and starting over. 💡 WHAT YOU’LL LEARN How to avoid costly divorce mistakes and reduce legal fees Divorce strategy, planning, and decision-making frameworks How to prepare for divorce before hiring a lawyer (and avoid expensive legal missteps) Co-parenting strategies and managing high-conflict personalities Communication tools to protect your case and reduce stress Financial planning, asset protection, and negotiation strategies Mindset tools to stay clear, calm, and in control From high-conflict communication strategies like the BIFF method to understanding financial transparency, custody dynamics, and digital safety, each episode is designed to give you clarity on what matters most. You’ll also hear from experts like Bill Eddy on managing conflict, Steven Bradley on tech and digital safety, and Dr. Nadine Macaluso on trauma, healing, and emotional resilience. At its core, this podcast is about helping you make smarter decisions during one of the most important transitions of your life. It’s practical, strategic, and grounded in real experience. And if you’re ready for a more structured approach, The Divorce Crash Course is there to guide you every step of the way. You’ll get through this. And you’ll do it better than you think.

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  • Creador
    Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport
  • Años de actividad
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodios
    229
  • Clasificación
    Explícito
  • Copyright
    © Morgan L. Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport 2021-2025
  • Mostrar sitio web
    How Not To Suck At Divorce

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