The Loving Truth

Sharon Pope
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As a Relationship Expert & Certified Master Life Coach, Sharon Pope has helped thousands of women gain the confidence and clarity they need to either fix their struggling marriages or move forward without regret. On The Loving Truth Podcast, she shares advice on how to navigate deep marriage hardships, challenging common beliefs about what love and relationships “should be” and providing realistic steps towards peace and happiness. If you can’t decide whether to stay or go in your marriage… you’re facing infidelity… you’re terrified of hurting your kids… you can’t bring yourself to leave your marriage, even though you want to… or you’re wondering whether it’s possible to respark the desire between you… tune in to the weekly episodes.

  1. Episode 209: The In-Between: Why So Many Women Feel Stuck in Their Marriage

    10 uur geleden

    Episode 209: The In-Between: Why So Many Women Feel Stuck in Their Marriage

    The most dangerous place in a struggling marriage isn't constant conflict. It's the place where nothing changes. You stop arguing because you've stopped expecting anything different. You go through the motions. You raise the kids. You pay the bills. From the outside, everything looks fine. But inside, you keep asking yourself: Is this all there is? In this episode, Sharon explores what she calls the In-Between. That place where you're no longer fulfilled in your marriage, but you're not ready to leave either. It's where many women spend years. Sometimes decades. Not repairing the marriage. Not ending it. Just waiting... hoping clarity will somehow arrive on its own. Through the story of Julie, a woman who spent nearly ten years questioning her marriage, Sharon unpacks why we stay stuck, why "comfortable discomfort" can quietly steal years of our lives, and why the clarity you're searching for isn't found by thinking harder. It's found by having the conversations you've been avoiding. Because courage doesn't come after confidence. It comes before it. If you've been asking yourself whether to stay or go, this episode will challenge you to stop waiting for certainty and start taking the small, courageous steps that lead to the truth. In this episode, you'll learn: Why the most dangerous marriages aren't always the ones filled with conflict. What "the In-Between" is and why so many women get stuck there. Why waiting for clarity often keeps you from ever finding it. How fear disguises itself as confusion. Why courage always comes before confidence. The conversations that create clarity, whether your marriage ultimately survives or not. Reflection Question: What courageous conversation or action have you been avoiding that might finally give you the clarity you say you want?

    23 min.
  2. Episode 208: Avoidance is Killing More Marriages Than Conflict

    5 jul

    Episode 208: Avoidance is Killing More Marriages Than Conflict

    Every time you try to have an honest conversation about your marriage, something happens. He gets defensive. He changes the subject. He tells you you're overreacting. He starts arguing about something else. Or he shuts down altogether. After a while, you stop bringing things up because it feels easier than hitting the same brick wall over and over again. But here's the problem. What goes unspoken doesn't disappear. It simply grows into distance. In this episode, Sharon explores why so many people avoid difficult conversations, what's really happening underneath defensiveness and shutdown, and why avoidance slowly erodes even the strongest relationships. Because avoidance isn't usually about not caring. It's about not knowing how to stay present when something feels painful, threatening, or like failure. You'll learn why defensiveness, blame, angry outbursts, and stonewalling are all different ways we protect ourselves from discomfort, and why those protective strategies come at such a high cost to our marriages. Sharon also shares practical ways to change the conversation, including how to talk about how you communicate, the language that invites greater engagement, and how to stop chasing someone who isn't willing to meet you halfway. If you've spent years wondering how to get your partner to open up, this conversation will help you understand what's happening beneath the surface while also helping you decide what healthy participation in a marriage really looks like. Because intimacy doesn't require perfection. It requires two people who are willing to stay in the conversation. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why avoidance is often more damaging than conflict in a marriage • What's really happening when your partner gets defensive, shuts down, or walks away • Why many men experience feedback as failure and how that shapes difficult conversations • The fear underneath avoidance and how past experiences influence our reactions today • How to have a conversation about how the two of you communicate • Why pursuing a withdrawing partner often creates even more distance • What to say when your spouse refuses to engage or continually avoids difficult conversations • How to balance compassion with accountability without abandoning yourself • The conversation every couple needs before deciding whether it's time to stay or go Reflective Question What conversations have been avoided in your marriage for so long that the silence itself is now damaging the relationship?

    25 min.
  3. Episode 207: When She Finally Left… Everything Fell Apart

    28 jun

    Episode 207: When She Finally Left… Everything Fell Apart

    Audrey was married for 23 years. For most of those years, there was always another woman. Sometimes it was someone from high school. Sometimes it was a coworker. Sometimes it was inappropriate messages, emotional affairs, or naked photos exchanged online. Every time Audrey discovered something, the same cycle played out. She confronted him. He apologized. She hoped. And then it happened again. She stayed because she loved him. She stayed because they had four children together. She stayed because she believed this time would be different. Until one day, she realized it wouldn't. In this episode, Sharon explores the moment Audrey finally stopped asking whether her husband would change and started asking herself a different question: At what point does staying become self-abandonment? Together, you'll unpack why so many of us stay loyal to relationships that have stopped being loyal to us, why hope can quietly become the thing that keeps us stuck, and why patterns don't end simply because we recognize them. They end when we stop participating in them. If you've ever found yourself waiting for someone to become the person you know they're capable of being... if you've left before only to come back... if you've wondered whether you're staying because of love or because of fear... this conversation is for you. Because there comes a moment when the question isn't whether they'll change. It's whether you're finally ready to. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why repeated betrayal slowly becomes self-abandonment. • The difference between hope and denial, and why confusing the two keeps you stuck. • Why leaving isn't usually one decision, but hundreds of small ones that lead to one final moment. • How waiting for someone else to change keeps you from changing your own life. • Why breaking a pattern requires more than awareness. It requires different choices. Reflective Question: Are you staying out of love… or out of fear of what happens if you leave?

    25 min.
  4. Episode 206: Desire is Built, Not Found

    21 jun

    Episode 206: Desire is Built, Not Found

    Most people believe desire is something you either have or you don't. You meet the right person and it's there. Or life gets busy, years pass, and it fades away. But what if that's not true? In this episode, Sharon covers one of the biggest myths about long-term relationships: desire doesn't disappear on its own. It dies from neglect. And if you're not paying attention to it, it may be the very thing that's quietly eroding your marriage. This isn't an episode about getting back to how things used to be. You can't go backward. You're not the same person you were before kids, careers, responsibilities, and life happened. And, trying to recreate the past isn't the answer anyway. The question is: How do you create desire from where you are right now? Whether desire has faded over time, feels completely absent, or was never really there to begin with, Sharon shares what it actually takes to cultivate it. You'll learn why desire is something we build, not something we find, and why the emotional environment you create every day matters more than you think. From appreciation and kindness to communication, trust, novelty, and touch, Sharon breaks down the foundational ingredients that allow desire to grow. She also explores why predictability can quietly drain the life from a relationship, why spontaneity often requires intention, and why non-sexual touch may be one of the most overlooked tools for rebuilding connection. If you've been waiting to feel desire again before taking action, this episode offers a different path: Stop waiting. Start building. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why desire rarely disappears overnight and what slowly causes it to fade • The difference between reigniting desire and cultivating it for the first time • How predictability creates safety but can diminish aliveness • How to create the conditions where desire can grow again Reflective Question: What kind of emotional environment are you creating in your marriage, one where desire can thrive, or one where it slowly disappears?

    31 min.
  5. Episode 205: Why Desire Fades In A Long-Term Marriage (And What Most Couples Get Wrong)

    14 jun

    Episode 205: Why Desire Fades In A Long-Term Marriage (And What Most Couples Get Wrong)

    In this episode, Sharon explores one of the most misunderstood aspects of a long-term relationship: desire. Most of us were never taught how desire actually works. We weren't taught where it comes from, what impacts it, or how to nurture it over the years. So when desire fades, we often assume something is wrong with us, our partner, or the relationship itself. But desire isn't something you fix. It's something you understand. In this episode, Sharon shares a different way of looking at desire and intimacy in marriage. She unpacks why so many couples feel disconnected, why desire often feels impossible to get back once it's gone, and why understanding what's really happening beneath the surface is the first step toward creating the connection you're longing for. If you've found yourself wondering, "Is this just what happens after being together for so many years?" this conversation is for you. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why desire naturally changes in long-term relationships • How we've been taught to misunderstand desire • Why blaming yourself or your partner only creates more distance • The difference between trying to fix desire and learning to understand it • Why understanding desire is the foundation for creating deeper intimacy and connection

    27 min.
  6. Episode 204: Men Are Struggling in Marriage (And Most People Aren’t Talking About It)

    7 jun

    Episode 204: Men Are Struggling in Marriage (And Most People Aren’t Talking About It)

    In today's episode, we're talking about something that doesn't get nearly enough attention: the growing number of men who feel blindsided when their marriages end. At a recent mastermind event, I heard story after story from successful husbands and fathers whose wives decided to leave, often after years of silently struggling. It sparked a deeper conversation about what's really happening in modern marriages and why so many couples find themselves disconnected, resentful, and confused about how they got there. This isn't about taking sides. It's not about blaming men or women. It's about understanding how dramatically marriage has changed in just one generation, while most of us are still operating with outdated expectations and very little education about what it actually takes to build a healthy, lasting partnership. We explore why women initiate the majority of divorces, why men are often shocked when their wives are ready to walk away, and how the expectations we place on marriage today may be setting many couples up for disappointment. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why women initiate nearly two-thirds of divorces and what's driving that trend • Why so many men feel blindsided when their marriages end • How the expectations of marriage have expanded dramatically over the last several decades • The mistake both men and women make when they approach love as a transaction • What modern relationships require that previous generations never had to learn • Why lasting love is less about finding the right partner and more about learning how to show up differently The truth is, most people were never taught how to create a thriving relationship. We learned how to fall in love. We didn't learn how to sustain it. Whether you're struggling in your marriage, questioning your future, or simply trying to make sense of why so many relationships are falling apart, this conversation offers a thoughtful and honest look at what's happening beneath the surface. Reflective Question: Are you showing up in your relationship focused on what you can get, or on what you can give?

    36 min.
  7. Episode 203: How AI Is Secretly Making Your Relationship Conflicts Worse (And What to Do Instead)

    31 mei

    Episode 203: How AI Is Secretly Making Your Relationship Conflicts Worse (And What to Do Instead)

    Is AI helping your marriage or making your conflicts worse? In this episode, we unpack the growing trend of using ChatGPT and AI tools for relationship advice and the hidden dangers that come with it.  From emotional validation loops to confirmation bias and overanalyzing your partner, we explore how AI can intensify marriage problems, increase resentment, and create even more disconnection between couples. You’ll learn: How AI can unintentionally reinforce resentment and emotional reactivity Why confirmation bias can make marriage problems feel worse The difference between healthy support and emotional dependency on AI The importance of direct communication, boundaries, and emotional maturity How to use AI as a tool without letting it shape your reality or decisions Whether you’re curious about AI relationship advice, struggling with ongoing conflict, or simply trying to protect the health of your marriage in a digital world, this conversation will challenge you to think differently about where you seek clarity, comfort, and connection.

    34 min.
  8. Episode 202: Why You Keep Trying to Change Him (Even Though It’s Hurting You)

    23 mei

    Episode 202: Why You Keep Trying to Change Him (Even Though It’s Hurting You)

    In this episode, we explore this question: Why do so many people stay stuck in relationships that are clearly hurting them? In this deeply honest and emotionally charged episode, we unpack one of the most painful dynamics in marriage: the exhausting cycle of trying to change a partner who has no intention of changing. Using the powerful story of “Annie,” we explore how addiction in marriage doesn’t only show up through alcohol, gambling, or pornography—but also through the desperate hope that love, patience, reasoning, or sacrifice will eventually make someone become the partner we need them to be. This episode dives into the emotional toll of living in chronic disappointment, the hidden cost of abandoning yourself to keep a relationship intact, and the uncomfortable truth many people already know deep down: sometimes the suffering continues because we refuse to accept reality. We also discuss the concept of “relational addictions,” including the addiction to fixing, managing, rescuing, and emotionally controlling a spouse in order to preserve peace or avoid loss. Drawing from Byron Katie’s framework of “My Business, Your Business, and God’s Business,” this conversation offers listeners a transformative lens for understanding boundaries, emotional responsibility, self-abandonment, and personal power. If you’ve ever found yourself pleading with a partner to stop drinking, stop lying, stop watching porn, stop gambling, stop shutting down emotionally—or simply become the version of themselves you know they could be—this episode will hit hard. But more importantly, it may help you finally shift the focus away from controlling them and back toward reclaiming yourself. This episode is for anyone navigating marriage problems, emotional exhaustion, codependency, toxic relationship cycles, addiction recovery dynamics, or the painful realization that love alone cannot force transformation. Expect honest insights, hard truths, compassionate perspective, and practical reflection questions that challenge you to examine what you’re tolerating, why you’re tolerating it, and what it’s costing you. Whether you’re struggling in your marriage, questioning your relationship, or trying to understand why you keep holding on despite the pain, this conversation will help you get clearer on what’s actually happening—and what healing might truly require. Key Takeaways Why trying to change your spouse often keeps you trapped in suffering The hidden “relational addictions” many people develop in unhealthy marriages Why high-achieving, driven people often stay stuck in toxic relationship dynamics How self-abandonment slowly becomes normalized in long-term relationships Why clarity is often more powerful than hope How to stop managing your partner’s emotions and start reconnecting with yourself

    18 min.
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As a Relationship Expert & Certified Master Life Coach, Sharon Pope has helped thousands of women gain the confidence and clarity they need to either fix their struggling marriages or move forward without regret. On The Loving Truth Podcast, she shares advice on how to navigate deep marriage hardships, challenging common beliefs about what love and relationships “should be” and providing realistic steps towards peace and happiness. If you can’t decide whether to stay or go in your marriage… you’re facing infidelity… you’re terrified of hurting your kids… you can’t bring yourself to leave your marriage, even though you want to… or you’re wondering whether it’s possible to respark the desire between you… tune in to the weekly episodes.

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    Sharon Pope
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    2023 - 2026
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