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Leaders aren't born, they're made. This Monday show helps you discover leadership wisdom through insightful conversations. Independently produced weekly since 2011, Dr. Dave Stachowiak brings perspective from a thriving, global leadership academy, plus more than 15 years of leadership at Dale Carnegie. Bestselling authors, expert researchers, deep conversation, and regular dialogue with listeners have attracted 25 million downloads and the #1 search result for management on Apple Podcasts. Activate your FREE membership to search the entire episode library by topic at CoachingforLeaders.com

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Leaders aren't born, they're made. This Monday show helps you discover leadership wisdom through insightful conversations. Independently produced weekly since 2011, Dr. Dave Stachowiak brings perspective from a thriving, global leadership academy, plus more than 15 years of leadership at Dale Carnegie. Bestselling authors, expert researchers, deep conversation, and regular dialogue with listeners have attracted 25 million downloads and the #1 search result for management on Apple Podcasts. Activate your FREE membership to search the entire episode library by topic at CoachingforLeaders.com

    The Ways Leadership Can Derail Us, with Bill George

    The Ways Leadership Can Derail Us, with Bill George

    Bill George: True North

    Bill George is executive fellow at Harvard Business School, where he has taught leadership since 2004. He is the author of four best-selling books: Authentic Leadership, True North, Discover Your True North, and 7 Lessons for Leading in Crisis.



    He was chair and CEO of Medtronic, the world’s leading medical technology company. Under his leadership, Medtronic’s market capitalization grew from $1.1 billion to $60 billion, averaging 35 percent a year. Bill has served as a director of Goldman Sachs, ExxonMobil, Novartis, Target, the Mayo Clinic, and World Economic Forum USA. He has been named one of the Top 25 Business Leaders of the Past 25 Years by PBS, Executive of the Year by Academy of Management, and Director of the Year by National Association of Corporate Directors. He is the author with Zach Clayton of True North: Leading Authentically in Today's Workplace, Emerging Leader Edition*.



    We’ve all seen leadership go badly and most of us struggle with tendencies to get pulled off course. In this conversation, Bill and I explore the five most common archetypes that tend to derail leaders and the antidote that prevents them. We also discuss how we can recognize these tendencies in ourselves so that we can do better for others.

    Key Points

    Five archetypes of leadership derailment:



    Imposters: political animals who figure out who their competitors and then eliminate them.

    Rationalizers: masters of denial who don’t take responsibility themselves.

    Glory seekers: motivated by the acclaim of the world.

    Loners: they believe they can make it on their own and reject feedback.

    Shooting stars: they build shallow foundations and move on quickly to the next things, often avoiding commitment.



    Antidotes to leadership derailment:

    Write down the most difficult ethical dilemma you are currently facing and chronicle the “least generous” interpretation of your actions.

    Project forward a decade and assume the worst: you have derailed in a major failure. Envision the situation in which you could lose your way.

    Resources Mentioned



    True North: Leading Authentically in Today's Workplace, Emerging Leader Edition* by Bill George and Zach Clayton



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    Related Episodes



    Discover Your True North, with Bill George (episode 225)

    Leadership Lies We Tell Ourselves, with Emily Leathers (episode 479)

    How to Help Your Manager Shine, with David Gergen (episode 588)



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    • 34 min
    How to Deal With Passive Aggressive Behavior, Amy Gallo

    How to Deal With Passive Aggressive Behavior, Amy Gallo

    Amy Gallo: Getting Along

    Amy Gallo is an expert in conflict, communication, and workplace dynamics. She combines the latest management research with practical advice to deliver evidence-based ideas on how to improve relationships and excel at work. In her role as a contributing editor at Harvard Business Review, Amy writes about interpersonal dynamics, communicating ideas, leading and influencing people, and building your career.



    Amy is co-host of HBR's Women at Work podcast and author of both the HBR Guide to Dealing with Conflict and Getting Along: How to Work with Anyone (Even Difficult People)*.



    In this conversation, Amy and I discuss one of the most common questions she receives from leaders: how do I handle a colleague who’s passive aggressive? We examine what causes this behavior, how to respond to it, and what to avoid that could worsen the relationship. Plus, we discuss the intention that leaders can bring in responding to passive-aggressive behavior that will help everybody move forward.

    Key Points



    Don’t use the “passive-aggressive behavior” to label someone. It rarely helps and often results in more defensiveness.

    Focus on the other person’s underlying concern or question rather than how they are expressing it. Not everyone is able to discuss thoughts and feelings openly.

    Consider doing hypothesis testing to determine what’s next. Language like, “Here’s the story I’m telling myself…” can help everyone move forward without assigning blame.

    When making a direct request, stick to the facts. Review past behavior like you’re a referee vs. a fan.

    Artificial harmony is a danger spot for teams and leaders. Setting norms can help to reduce passive-aggressive behavior.



    Resources Mentioned



    Getting Along: How to Work with Anyone (Even Difficult People)* by Amy Gallo



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    The Way to Have Conversations That Matter, with Celeste Headlee (episode 344)

    Four Habits That Derail Listening, with Oscar Trimboli (episode 500)

    How to Prepare for Conflict, with Amy Gallo (episode 530)

    The Way to Get People Talking, with Andrew Warner (episode 560)



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    • 39 min
    How to Start Difficult Conversations About Race, with Kwame Christian

    How to Start Difficult Conversations About Race, with Kwame Christian

    Kwame Christian: How to Have Difficult Conversations About Race

    Kwame Christian is a best-selling author, lawyer, professor, and the Managing Director of the American Negotiation Institute. He has conducted countless specialized trainings worldwide and is a highly sought after keynote speaker. His best-selling book, Finding Confidence in Conflict has helped countless individuals overcome the fear, anxiety, and emotion associated with difficult conversations. The book was inspired by Kwame’s TED Talk with the same name that has over 250,000 views. He’s also host of the Negotiate Anything Podcast, the most popular negotiation podcast in the world.



    Kwame was the recipient of the John Glenn College of Public Affairs Young Alumni Achievement Award in 2020 and the Moritz College of Law Outstanding Recent Alumnus Award 2021. Additionally, Kwame is a business lawyer at Carlile, Patchen & Murphy LLP and serves a professor for The Ohio State University’s Moritz College of Law in its top-ranked dispute resolution program and Otterbein University’s MBA program. He is also a Contributor for Forbes and his LinkedIn Learning course, How to Be Both Likable And Assertive, was the most popular course on the platform in July of 2021. He is the author of How to Have Difficult Conversations About Race: Practical Tools for Necessary Change in the Workplace and Beyond*.



    In this conversation, Kwame and I discuss how to begin a difficult conversation about race. We explore the key questions that each of us should ask ourselves so that we can determine in advance what we want to gain from a tough conversation. Finally, we look at the three critical things to say in the first 30 seconds that will help you start an important conversation that helps everybody move forward.

    Key Points



    It's hard for someone else to appreciate how much of a person's identity affects every other area of their lives until you've lived it.

    People explain away racism because they don’t like it and don’t want it to be true.

    Whether you think a conversation is about race or not, if it’s about race for the other person then you’re having a conversation about race.



    There questions to ask yourself before a conversation:



    What do I hope to accomplish in this conversation?

    Given what I know about them and the situation, what is likely to be their goal?

    What are three questions I can ask them that will help me to understand their position?





    Use situation, impact, and invitation as the starting point for a difficult conversation. Usually this is less than 30 seconds.

    “Naked facts” reduce the likelihood that someone will dispute the premise of what you are addressing.



    Resources Mentioned



    How to Have Difficult Conversations About Race: Practical Tools for Necessary Change in the Workplace and Beyond* by Kwame Christian

    Negotiate Anything podcast



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    Related Episodes



    The Way Into Difficult Conversations, with Kwame Christian (episode 497)

    How to Reduce Bias in Feedback, with Therese Huston (episode 510)

    The Way Managers Can be Champions for Justice, with Minda Harts (episode 552)



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    • 39 min
    How to Start Finding Useful Stories, with David Hutchens

    How to Start Finding Useful Stories, with David Hutchens

    David Hutchens: Story Dash

    David Hutchens helps leaders find and tell their stories. He works with leaders around the world to find, craft, and tell their most urgent stories for the purpose of creating shared meaning, preserving culture, disseminating learning, and speeding change in organizations.



    He has taught the Storytelling Leader program at some of the most influential organizations — and he’s written many books, including the Circle of the 9 Muses and The Leadership Story Deck. He is the co-creator with longtime friend of the show Susan Gerke of the GO Team program. He's also the author of the new book, Story Dash: Find, Develop, and Activate Your Most Valuable Business Stories…In Just a Few Hours.



    In this conversation, David and I discuss how to find stories that you can use in your organization. We reflect on the reality that we both hear many leaders say to us: “How do I find the right stories?” David then shares the key principles and steps that every leader can take to surface and curate the best stories.

    Key Points



    The “Us At Our Best” taxonomy is what it looks like when are are delivering with energy and excellence. A recent Southwest Airlines story is an example of this.

    Find the area the area of your work where you need to influence the emotional system.

    Trust stories about small moments. Don’t attempt to create an epic drama of huge importance. The best stories are individual incidents that send a bigger message.

    Formal story mining can be done alone or as team building. Institutionalizing practices like story sharing can help this happen regularly and naturally.

    When informally collecting stories, listen for time, place, and person as signals that a story is beginning.



    Resources Mentioned



    Download a free set of Story Deck cards or…

    Reach out to David directly at david@davidhutchens.com for more free resources

    Purchase the full set of Leadership Story Deck by David Hutchens



    Related Episodes



    How to Create an Unstoppable Culture, with Ginger Hardage (episode 350)

    Three Stories to Tell During Uncertainty, with David Hutchens (episode 486)

    The Way to Earn Attention, with Raja Rajamannar (episode 521)



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    • 40 min
    How to Change the Way You Think, with Ari Weinzweig

    How to Change the Way You Think, with Ari Weinzweig

    Ari Weinzweig: A Lapsed Anarchist’s Approach to The Power of Beliefs in Business

    In 1982, Ari, along with his partner Paul Saginaw, founded Zingerman’s Delicatessen with a $20,000 bank loan, a Russian History degree from the University of Michigan, 4 years of experience washing dishes, cooking, and managing in restaurant kitchens and chutzpah from his hometown of Chicago. Today, Zingerman’s Delicatessen is a nationally renowned food icon and the Zingerman’s Community of Businesses has grown to 10 businesses with over 750 employees and over $55 million in annual revenue.



    Besides being the Co-Founding Partner and being actively engaged in some aspect of the day-to-day operations and governance of nearly every business in the Zingerman’s Community, Ari is also a prolific writer. His most recent publications are the first 4 of his 6 book series Zingerman’s Guide to Good Leading, including A Lapsed Anarchist’s Approach to The Power of Beliefs in Business.



    In this conversation, Ari and I explore how the power of our beliefs show up in virtually every one of our daily actions. We examine how to begin looking at what isn’t working and how to start examining our beliefs. When those beliefs aren’t working, Ari shares several, critical steps we can take to begin to change our thinking.

    Key Points



    Our beliefs, many of which we may not be consciously aware of, are often calling the shots in our daily actions and behaviors.

    Start examining a belief by picking a current problem to address.

    Listen carefully to your internal voices to identify the language showing up. Notice places especially where you frame things as facts, certitudes, thoughts, theories, norms, shoulds, and should nots.

    Examine how you came to the beliefs that you uncover. Then, confront your cannons.

    Change now, find facts later. Most people do that the opposite way.



    Resources Mentioned



    A Lapsed Anarchist's Approach to the Power of Beliefs in Business by Ari Weinzweig

    Humility: A Humble, Anarchistic Inquiry by Ari Weinzweig

    Schein On, You Crazy Diamond by Ari Weinzweig



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    The Path of Humble Leadership, with Edgar Schein and Peter Schein (episode 363)

    How to Help People Engage in Growth, with Whitney Johnson (episode 576)

    Help People Show Up as Themselves, with Frederic Laloux (episode 580)



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    • 35 min
    How to Build a Network While Still Doing Everything Else, with Ruth Gotian

    How to Build a Network While Still Doing Everything Else, with Ruth Gotian

    Ruth Gotian: The Success Factor

    Ruth Gotian has been hailed by the journal Nature and Columbia University as an expert in mentorship and leadership development. Recently, she was named as the #1 emerging management thinker in the world by Thinkers50. She was a semi-finalist for the Forbes 50 Over 50 list and has coached and mentored hundreds of people throughout her career.



    In addition to being published in academic journals, she is a contributor to Forbes and Psychology Today, where she writes about optimizing success. She is the Chief Learning Officer in Anesthesiology and former Assistant Dean of Mentoring and Executive Director of the Mentoring Academy at Weill Cornell Medicine, where she is a faculty member. She is the author of The Success Factor: Developing the Mindset and Skillset for Peak Business Performance*.



    In this conversation, Ruth and I explore her research on how high achievers build their networks — and also what works for us both in our personal practices. We discuss several tactics that most leaders can use to strengthen existing networks. Plus, we examine the mindsets that tend to lead to success in professional relationships, in spite of busy schedules.

    Key Points



    High achievers are always seeking perspective, insight, and inspiration from people in many different career stages and disciplines.

    Use the 24/7/30 rule when making new connections. Reach out within 24 hours, again in 7 days, and also at 30 days.

    Almost always there is a way you can add value to another person, even if they are at the top of professional game. Find that way to help.

    When you create content on social media, you emerge as one of the 1% of professionals who choose to do this.

    Give without expectation of anything in return.



    Resources Mentioned



    The Success Factor: Developing the Mindset and Skillset for Peak Business Performance* by Ruth Gotian

    How Do You Find a Decent Mentor When You’re Stuck at Home? by Ruth Gotian

    Networking for Introverted Scientists by Ruth Gotian

    Conversation Starters by Ruth Gotian



    Related Episodes



    The Power of Weak Connections, with David Burkus (episode 347)

    How to Strengthen Your Network, with Marissa King (episode 425)

    How to Get Noticed on LinkedIn, with Stephen Hart (episode 495)

    How to Lead and Retain High Performers, with Ruth Gotian (episode 567)



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    • 38 min

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