Long time Christian, mom of 3, and this podcast is wreaking with generational privilege of happily married couples. I wanted to listen to learn but it’s a no. It would be tolerable to learn from if the duo would acknowledge the affect of chronic family trauma, which has decimated so many families, probably many within a mile of their recording location. Producers, remind your listeners that not all of us have had such a soft start and righteous path to follow: some believers are cycle breakers, healing ourselves and fighting so hard to NOT repeat the damaging patterns given to us. The house of eggshells we came home to, and constant fear. If you’re a listener in that category, this podcast may not a safe place to land.
I hope their team may see this comment. Please take time to learn about cPTSD, so this family can acknowledge the vast privilege they walk in from the generation of Christ-followers (and safe, regulated people who were imperfect, yes, but not addicts, abusers, or narcissistic manipulators, but generally left them with fond memories, sage advice and good hugs). Those families have you mentors, interpersonal skills, social resources and self-regulation and secure attachment. The Bible acknowledges the sin of one will affect their children for generations! How can you counsel women and families without touching that stone of reality in each episode? A holy familial inheritance is one many lack entirely, so these stories are not only surreal, but wholly painful to witness how blind a multitude of Christians are to their own privilege. You reap from fields you did not sew; acknowledge the difference it would make - in every episode - had you been instead forced to build your family from a childhood of shame, abuse, poverty, and worse. Cycle breakers have siblings who are estranged, they go through child rearing in the tribe they create or none at all. Your listeners of peaceful childhoods need to hear experts give witness and acknowledgment to the battle others have suffered, and to understand a lack of social skill in a neighbor may not be a spiritual shortcoming or moral failure, but rather a characteristic of vast difference in childhood experiences.
