Unashamed Unafraid

Unashamed Unafraid
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Unashamed Unafraid is a show dedicated to being unashamed about sexual addiction recovery and unafraid of coming unto Christ for healing. Pornography and sexual addiction are not something you are stuck with to manage your whole life. We share real stories of recovery, the best resources, information from experts, and answer anonymous questions with those who know. All to help you on the path of being 100% healed from pornography and sexual addiction.

  1. 1d ago

    EP 223: Live Unashamed - Recovery Check-in

    In this episode, James, Sam, Joshua, and Mason sit down for a follow-up on the commitments they made in past episodes (EP 151: Filling the Void of Addiction and EP 193: How Can I Trust God?). They dive open-honestly into what accountability actually looks like in practice—from putting software on phones to actively battling for true brotherhood and moving away from transactional faith to find God directly in the present moment and pain. Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps:01:29 – James’s update (Revisiting EP 151): Putting Ever Accountable on his phone and achieving over a year of sobriety03:20 – Healthy accountability vs. using tools to bypass inner healing05:10 – Proud of the journey: Overcoming the nonchalance and habit of slip-ups after 13 years06:50 – Sam’s update (EP 151): Overcoming father wounds and learning how to cultivate authentic brotherhood09:15 – Battling for your brothers: Second chances, slumber parties, and overcoming codependency11:20 – Joshua’s update (EP 151): Moving past checking religious boxes and learning to trust God with hard conversations14:30 – Facing the fear of outcomes: Asking God for direction instead of avoiding conflict15:30 – Mason’s update (Revisiting EP 193): Shifting away from black-and-white thinking and learning to feel pain16:15 – Redefining recovery: Finding a true relationship with God beyond just quitting pornography18:15 – Psalm 23: How God prepares a table for us in the presence of difficulty, not just comfort20:20 – Finding God in the "Now": Moving past prayers focused only on the past or future22:15 – Closing commitments: Bringing Jesus into the center of brotherhood23:10 – How to reach out and wrap-up

    EP 223: Live Unashamed - Recovery Check-in

  2. Jul 21

    EP 222: Mike's Story

    Mike recounts early exposure to pornography, shame shaped by church messaging, family dynamics, and later learning his biological father’s sexual addiction, then baptizing him before his mission. He describes a canceled temple wedding due to church discipline, continued struggles after marriage, and his shift toward inner work, self-compassion, and a reframe of repentance as metanoia—a fresh view of self, God, and the world—emphasizing wholeness over perfection and connection as the antidote. He recommends “Lean on Me” as his recovery song. He discusses his pivot from branding and graphic design into men’s work, retreats, and breathwork, including co-founding the HEARE Brotherhood. Connect with Mike and get resources here: - www.thelightinus.org- www.hearebros.com- LinkedIn Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.comTimestamps:01:11 Making Repair Story03:05 Meet Mike Allen03:20 Career Pivot and Purpose06:32 Family Crest Breakthrough07:41 First Mens Retreat Leap10:05 Breathwork Heart Opening12:22 HearBrotherhood Origin13:46 Early Porn Exposure14:39 Family Context and Masculinity17:28 Shame and Church Messages20:43 Bio Dad Addiction Reveal23:11 Baptizing His Dad23:48 Engagement Secrets25:02 Recommend Taken Away27:40 Wedding Canceled30:28 Marriage Did Not Fix It31:24 Beyond Twelve Steps34:51 Metanoia Not Shame37:30 Opposition And Shadow40:04 Golden Nuggets45:06 Find Mike Online45:47 Lean On Me Finale

    EP 222: Mike's Story

  3. Jul 14

    EP 221: Live Unashamed - Fire the Old God

    Sam, Mason, James, and Austin discuss “firing the old God and hiring the new one.” They define the “old God” as transactional, shaming, distant, perpetually disappointed, and often rooted in childhood, family-of-origin dynamics. The "old God" is a false God that uses reward systems, shame, and sometimes spiritual manipulation. To embrace a new God, you can: 1. Explicitly name false beliefs about God, 2. Identify their impact on relationships, nervous system3. Reality-test beliefs through scripture and Christ’s character4. Examine how the belief once protected parts of the self5. Grieve the loss of the familiar but harmful God-image, and 6. Use rituals (termination letter, speaking aloud, burning notes) to “fire” it. To close, Austin recommends John Eldredge’s One Minute Pause App feature "20 Days to Experience Jesus.” Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps: 01:19 Meet the Old God03:27 Where Shame Begins05:38 Why Fire Him08:29 Dismantle the Belief10:45 Grieve the Old Image12:03 Steps and Rituals14:52 Hire the New God16:47 Relational Exposure Practice17:47 Relapse and Rework20:30 Resources and Reflections22:05 Listener Challenge Outro

    EP 221: Live Unashamed - Fire the Old God

  4. Jul 7

    EP 220: Austin and Becca's Story

    In this episode of Unashamed, Unafraid, Austin and his wife Becca share how traumatic sexual experiences shaped their views of sexuality, secrecy, and control, and how that led Austin to pornography addiction. Austin describes hiding his compulsive porn use and masturbation due to fear and shame reinforced by religious shame, then later relapsing on his mission, engaging in digital relationships and sexting, and facing a highly shaming disciplinary process, including being labeled a “sexual predator,” disfellowshipped, and shamed by a therapist. Becca recounts being excluded from the process while engaged to be married, not learning full details years into marriage, while also navigating her own trauma and intimacy struggles. Through supportive therapy, Warrior Heart Boot Camp and Heart of a Woman Retreat, vulnerability, and surrendering to God, the two begin healing, rebuilding trust. Austin reaches nearly six months sobriety; they emphasize shared recovery, communication, and “Broken Together” as their song. Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps: 00:43 Meet Austin and Becca 01:53 Austin's Childhood Sexual Grooming 03:25 Porn Exposure and Control 05:23 Shame Culture and Secrecy 08:02 Becca’s Sexual Abuse 14:10 How Trauma Shaped Sexuality 15:37 Vulnerability and Early Disclosure 19:08 Mission Struggles and iPad Temptation 24:34 Confession and Church Discipline 28:29 Disfellowshipped and Silenced 29:03 Therapy That Shamed 30:41 Becca Left Outside 35:34 Marriage Under Pressure 39:28 A Bishop Who Got It 41:15 Finding Real Therapy 43:44 Warrior Heart Breakthrough 47:26 Healing as a Team 50:55 Rock Bottom to Surrender 56:40 Broken Together

    EP 220: Austin and Becca's Story

  5. Jun 30

    EP 219: Live Unashamed - Talking to Strangers About My Porn Addiction

    In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Austin shares how keeping a small journal of unfiltered “Dear God” letters for six months became a record of his recovery, transformed his relationship with God, improved communication with his wife, and supported about four months of sobriety. He describes feeling prompted to write “I’m a porn addict in recovery. Ask me anything.” on a poster board and sit at Utah Valley University; after three hours, one student approached, discussed shame and feeling unlovable, and later asked to keep talking. Sam connects this to his own prayer for guidance to expand the platform, then joins Austin in Salt Lake City near City Creek Mall to hold the sign with Austin, where several strangers engage in meaningful conversations. They discuss de-shaming addiction, the most common question they received, and invite listeners to try writing letters to God and email Sam to get involved. Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com01:17 Letters to God04:00 Sobriety Breakthrough04:36 Share About Your Porn Addiction07:30 Finding The One08:40 Why Vulnerability Matters11:04 Taking It to Salt Lake12:06 De-Shaming Porn Addiction14:50 Hard Questions Real Answers16:30 Hope Without Pressure

    EP 219: Live Unashamed - Talking to Strangers About My Porn Addiction

  6. Jun 23

    EP 218: Live Therapy with Jason Dausses

    In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Sam and Mason discuss sexual addiction recovery with their shared therapist, Jason Dausses of Accepted Therapy. Sam opens up about longstanding self-judgment rooted in verbally abusive coaches and bosses, and Jason frames healing as both rescuing past wounds and then empowering oneself to live from “zero to ten” through real-time choices, community, and effective communication of needs. They explore why “95% honesty” still leaves a hidden 5% that fuels shame, how to ask others for specific support to create safety, and how boundaries relate to unmet needs and validation-seeking. Jason emphasizes grieving lost time, widening one’s window of tolerance for discomfort, accepting God’s unchanging acceptance even during acting out, and using mindfulness and inner-monologue journaling/parts work to observe thoughts non-judgmentally and reduce shame. Schedule an appointment with Jason  Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps: 00:00 Raw Check In01:15 Shame Spiral Confession02:08 Inner Critic Origins03:07 Meet The Therapist05:36 Rescue Then Empower07:42 The Hidden Five Percent12:55 Asking For What You Need15:07 Safety And Self Rescue16:25 Boundaries Or Validation18:35 Grief Stage In Recovery20:46 Grieving Unmet Progress21:59 Widening Tolerance Window23:03 God Accepts You Always24:43 Reintegrating Prayer Life28:01 Mindfulness After Acting Out29:47 Inner Monologue Journaling31:11 Applying Skills Beyond Sex35:03 No Silver Bullet Recovery39:03 Living in the Gray40:33 Wrap Up and Next Steps

    EP 218: Live Therapy with Jason Dausses

  7. Jun 16

    EP 217: Live Unashamed - Warrior Heart, The Best Resource in Recovery

    In this episode, Sam and James are joined by Dan Ostler to discuss their recent experiences at Warrior Heart Boot Camp. Sam shares a powerful, God-orchestrated moment of healing where confronting shame led to emotional breakthrough and support from God and his brothers. The trio highlight Warrior Heart Boot Camp, the best resource for sexual addiction recovery, and how unplugging in the mountains for three days with Christ fosters healing. They also mention Glory and Heart of a Woman as equivalent programs for women. First time attending Warrior Heart? Use the code UNASHAMED100 for $100 off. WARRIOR HEART- Register for Warrior Heart - Request a scholarship through Unashamed Unafraid Heart of a Woman Retreat- Register for Heart of a Woman- Request a scholarship through Unashamed Unafraid The GLORY Retreat- Register for GLORY - Request a scholarship through Unashamed Unafraid Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps: 01:25 Why Warrior Heart Matters 01:53 Divine Masculinity Breakdown 04:19 God Orchestrates the Prayer 07:12 Boot Camp Changes Recovery 08:28 Dan’s Boot Camp Journey 09:53 How Dan Invites Men 13:51 Why We Share What Heals 15:35 What Makes It Safe 18:53 Sam’s Prayer and Marriage Struggles 20:34 Call to Action Scholarships 21:49 Final Testimonies and Offer

    EP 217: Live Unashamed - Warrior Heart, The Best Resource in Recovery

  8. Jun 9

    EP 216: Mike's Story

    In this episode of Unashamed, Unafraid, Mason and Sam welcome Mike Farr, a rock photographer, Spartan racer, husband to Jenny, and father to Wesley. Mike shares how his father leaving early, conflict with a stepfather, and feeling unlovable fueled a “character” that chased acceptance through music, drugs, escalating sexual behavior, and crime. He describes immersion in the late ’60s–’80s music scene, cocaine dealing, and eventual heroin addiction, repeated arrests, rehab attempts, and a Salvation Army program that helped him rebuild sobriety and career. After a six-year relapse, an overdose coma, and another arrest, he surrendered, returned to meetings, and found sustained recovery and service, including coaching sobriety on the Vans Warped Tour, framing God as his Father and a source of healing. Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com00:43 Recovery Check In02:34 Introducing Mike Farr04:03 How We Met05:23 Childhood Wounds07:49 Music And Drugs12:08 Sex Addiction Escalates15:54 God And Fatherhood19:40 Tahoe Marriage Fallout20:19 Stevie Ray Vaughan Wakeup21:52 Wicked Wanda22:34 Heroin Hooked and Sick24:07 Intervention and Jail26:00 Rehab Fail and Rick28:02 Tank Talk and Release Mistake30:33 Salvation Army Turnaround32:35 Relapse33:45 Overdose and Two Week Coma37:23 Surrender39:30 God's Tender Mercy43:06 Service Life and Father God45:14 Closing Song

    EP 216: Mike's Story
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Unashamed Unafraid is a show dedicated to being unashamed about sexual addiction recovery and unafraid of coming unto Christ for healing. Pornography and sexual addiction are not something you are stuck with to manage your whole life. We share real stories of recovery, the best resources, information from experts, and answer anonymous questions with those who know. All to help you on the path of being 100% healed from pornography and sexual addiction.

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  • Creator
    Unashamed Unafraid
  • Years Active
    2016 - 2026
  • Episodes
    219
  • Rating
    Explicit
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