Unashamed Unafraid

Unashamed Unafraid
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Unashamed Unafraid is a show dedicated to being unashamed about sexual addiction recovery and unafraid of coming unto Christ for healing. Pornography and sexual addiction are not something you are stuck with to manage your whole life. We share real stories of recovery, the best resources, information from experts, and answer anonymous questions with those who know. All to help you on the path of being 100% healed from pornography and sexual addiction.

  1. 21h ago

    EP 233: Live Unashamed - Sex Is Not the Problem

    In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, the hosts discuss healthy, non-compulsive sexuality in recovery and emphasize that sex isn’t the problem—shame is. They share experiences of growing up with little guidance, early sexual curiosity and experimentation, exposure to pornography in the internet age, and how silence and shame intensified addiction. The conversation reframes sexuality as sacred and God-given, meant for connection and creation, while warning that misuse can damage relationships with God and others. They stress normalizing frank, respectful conversations, creating safety and boundaries in marriage, and seeking help through therapy and resources like Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. They explore six types of intimacy, explain how unmet emotional needs become sexualized, and challenge listeners to ask what sex means to them and if married, what their spouse hears when they request sex. Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.comTimestamps: 00:43 Is Sex The Problem?01:04 Early Shame And Silence03:46 Internet Porn And Shame06:10 Talking With Kids08:14 Sex Sacred Not Secret11:23 Healthy Sex And Humor13:32 How To Start The Conversation15:22 Resources And Cultural Shame17:25 Utah OnlyFans Joke17:49 Therapy Reframes Sex18:56 Five Month Reset20:29 Asking Without Shame22:58 Six Types of Intimacy26:06 Needs Behind Desire31:11 Safety and Boundaries34:27 Receiving Pleasure35:23 Sex Reveals Healing36:52 Challenges and Wrap Up

    EP 233: Live Unashamed - Sex Is Not the Problem

  2. Sep 30

    EP 232: Reuben's Story - Arise and Heal

    In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, the hosts welcome Reuben Aiton, founder of Arise & Heal Recovery, who shares his background in addiction recovery coaching and his focus on helping teens and LDS clients move from external “kindling” motivations to internal, heart-based reasons for change. Reuben discusses his own story, including a pituitary tumor that delayed puberty, later struggles with pornography, and learning that sobriety can exist without true healing. He explains addiction as a disconnection issue where pornography is a “medication,” emphasizing connection with God, self, and others to raise awareness rather than fighting thoughts with more thoughts. Reuben describes a panic and claustrophobia crisis on a plane that led to new insights about stillness, surrender, and processing emotions without fixing them, and he outlines practical “primal” movement drills and daily habits to reboot the frontal lobe and reduce shame-driven relapse cycles. Take advantage of Reuben's resources here at https://ariseheal.org/ Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com01:56 Meet Reuben Aiton04:05 Why Teens Are Hard06:06 Kindling Versus Log08:24 Porn Is Not Problem10:43 Reuben's Recovery Story16:49 Panic Attack Flight20:46 Alligator Thought Spin22:53 Turning On The Light25:21 Shame And God27:44 The Atonement Is For You29:04 Breaking Shame Goggles30:20 Identity And Limiting Beliefs32:34 Integrating Parts And Resistance34:51 Process Emotions To Heal Beliefs36:22 Urges As Pain Signals43:46 Surrender Not Willpower49:35 Resources And Contact Info50:33 Eye Of The Tiger Wrap

    EP 232: Reuben's Story - Arise and Heal

  3. Sep 23

    EP 231: Live Unashamed - The "Noble Lie"

    In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Sam, Chris, Joshua, and Austin discuss sexual addiction recovery and why healing requires honesty, transparency, and coming unto Christ rather than hiding behind a so-called “noble lie” that hiding the truth somehow protects others. They praise Austin’s courage for disclosing a relapse after seven months and explore how lying creates unmanageable pain, escalates into a destructive web, and erodes trust in marriage by forcing a spouse to live in an untrue reality.  They emphasize that sobriety without transparency becomes “white knuckling,” recommend reaching out to brotherhood first after relapse to manage shame and take accountability without excuses, and note rare cases where disclosure may require professional guidance. They challenge listeners to identify where they don’t feel safe and take responsibility for creating safety rather than continuing to lie. Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.comTimestamps:00:43 Podcast Welcome and Banter01:21 Relapse Courage and Noble Lie02:08 VeggieTales and Pinocchio Lies04:39 Why Lying Feels Safe But Isn't05:50 Transparency Builds Recovery06:32 Spouse Reality and Betrayal10:31 Accountability and Brotherhood12:34 Disclosure Safety and Coaching14:22 Shame Versus Shaming Quote16:35 Create Safety and Challenge18:21 Call to Action and Wrap Up

    EP 231: Live Unashamed - The "Noble Lie"

  4. Sep 17

    EP 230: Paul's Story

    In this story episode of Unashamed, Unafraid, guest Paul Claverie opens up about navigating profound life crises, career shifts, personal accountability, and emotional healing. From managing his daughter’s cancer diagnosis to dealing with an unaddressed congenital deformity and performance-driven shame, Paul shares how pornography became an isolated coping mechanism—and how taking ownership of his health, finances, and personal agency ultimately helped him rebuild his life on solid ground. Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.comTimestamps: 00:00 – Podcast intro and mission02:10 – Early career and background06:15 – Overwhelming work and school08:30 – Daughter's cancer diagnosis10:45 – Losing heavy equipment job16:20 – Pressure in aviation career23:34 – Marital intimacy struggles25:10 – Corrective surgery for deformity28:30 – Overcoming pornography dependency31:15 – Physical fitness in recovery36:42 – Miscommunication regarding spiritual advice38:50 – Accidental discovery of email44:20 – Financial overhaul and independence48:30 – Deciding to pursue divorce52:08 – Song: Love Me At My Lowest by Nash Blackwood

    EP 230: Paul's Story

  5. Sep 9

    EP 229: Live Unashamed - A Recovery Lifestyle

    In this episode of Unashamed, the hosts welcome back Austin and discuss sexual addiction recovery while working away from home. Austin shares that directing a demanding summer camp for 12–15-year-olds led to multiple relapses because he had no personal space, minimal sleep, and struggled to maintain safety and connection with God, while he stayed sober once home. The conversation explores why travel and high-pressure work often trigger acting out, the need to build a recovery lifestyle through structural changes, boundaries, and meeting basic needs like rest, food, and water. They reframe relapse as information rather than shame, discuss disciplined ways to “check out” safely, and emphasize listening to the body’s warning signals. Josh adds how losing 80 pounds and fitness improved his mental health and recovery. The episode ends with questions for listeners and a personal example of acting out due to lacking a plan at a family reunion. Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.comTimestamps:00:43 Austin Returns to Unashamed01:04 Inside the Summer Camp Mission03:05 Recovery Update After Summer05:56 Why Travel Triggers Acting Out08:30 Building Boundaries and Alone Time13:06 Relapse as Data Not Shame14:34 Numbing Out and Healthy Rest17:13 Listening to Your Body Needs19:57 Fitness, Dopamine, and Discipline22:45 Listener Questions and Takeaways23:22 Closing Story and Wrap Up

    EP 229: Live Unashamed - A Recovery Lifestyle

  6. Sep 2

    EP 228: Curtis' Story - Counterfeit Emotions

    In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Sam interviews Curtis Morley, who shifted from tech CEO and entrepreneur to “Emotionologist” after personal upheaval and a difficult divorce. Curtis explains his framework of “counterfeit emotions,” including shame as the counterfeit of guilt, misery as the counterfeit of pain, and sobriety as the counterfeit of recovery, emphasizing that recovery measures “how deep” rather than “how long.” He discusses dopamine dependence, why the problem is the need for pornography rather than pornography itself, and a bus metaphor for witnessing emotions and choosing authentic counterparts. Curtis outlines additional dyads (love/lust, kind/nice, excellence/perfectionism, joy/pleasure) and offers hope through his Be Whole method, plus shares the origin of his song “Whole Again,” inspired by his daughter’s healing after a rare blood disease. - - - Sign up or book a call with Curtis! www.counterfeitemotions.com/recovery- - -  In the sobriety world you often hear the saying it’s only a matter of time until… you have another relapse. In the recovery world it’s only a matter of time until… you overcome this for good.  Sobriety from pornography is only the first step, but most programs end there. It turns out that sobriety is actually the counterfeit of recovery. A false sense of security with blockers and filters but without curing the underlying issues. People have believed for decades that willpower and white knuckling is enough. That’s where the trap is. Sobriety is a life of fear and misery whereas recovery is full of joy and refined. There is so much hope for full recovery. Is possible. People are overcoming the struggle for good.  Freedom from the grind feels amazing to wake up every day with peace and hope.  Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.comTimestamps: 00:43 Sam's Recovery Check-In 02:00 Meet Curtis Morley - Emotionologist 02:59 Entrepreneur Dream Life 04:45 Divorce And Counterfeits 08:14 Pain Joy Breakthrough 10:47 Sobriety Versus Recovery 17:04 Digging Up The Demons 22:25 Lapse As A Gift 25:54 Identity Trap And Hope 28:39 Four Drivers Of Urges 30:58 What Recovery Really Means 32:38 Dopamine Cycle Explained 35:38 Rewriting Triggers for Peace 38:29 Emotional Bus Metaphor 39:28 Guilt vs Shame Research 43:20 Counterfeit Emotion Dyads 46:41 Authenticity and Peace 47:56 Hope and Be Whole Method 52:44 Whole Again Song Story

    EP 228: Curtis' Story - Counterfeit Emotions

  7. Aug 26

    EP 227: Live Unashamed - Breaking Isolation

    In this episode of Unashamed, Unafraid, Sam, Chris and Joshua discuss how isolation fuels relapse and undermines recovery from sexual addiction. Sam shares relapsing while his wife was away, connecting it to unprocessed emotions, blaming his spouse, and failing to plan for connection; the group emphasizes ownership, accountability, and reaching out in temptation as a key recovery skill. Joshua describes months of isolation amid financial strain, work instability, and possible re-injury that removed fitness as a coping tool, plus feeling distant from God; a child’s spontaneous hug prompts him to recognize repeated “love notes” through people reaching out. They reject isolation as ineffective, commit to renewed community and group support, and invite listeners to email their plans to get connected. Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.comTimestamps: 01:31 Relapse and Heavy Heart02:25 Isolation Triggers04:48 Ownership Over Blame06:52 Make the Call09:08 Sobriety vs Recovery10:44 Refusing to Isolate13:29 Stressors Behind Isolation17:40 God Reaching Out21:20 Affirmations and Identity23:33 System for Temptation27:04 Commitments and Next Steps29:33 Audience Challenge and Wrap

    EP 227: Live Unashamed - Breaking Isolation

  8. Aug 19

    EP 226: Hypnotherapy and Porn Addiction

    In this episode of Unashamed, Unafraid, Sam and Austin welcome clinical hypnotherapist and master hypnotist Erin from familiesgettinghelp.com. Together, they explore how hypnotherapy functions as a powerful, non-traditional tool in sexual addiction recovery. Erin dispels common pop-culture myths surrounding hypnosis, breaks down the neurochemistry of shame, and demonstrates how tapping into theta brain waves allows clients to rewrite subconscious beliefs formed in childhood. The conversation dives deep into both bottom-up approaches—like shifting core identity and future pacing—and top-down somatic tools you can use in real-time to manage temptation. Whether you are struggling with unwanted behaviors or supporting someone who is, this episode offers actionable insights on integration, emotional regulation, and step-by-step healing. --- Families Getting Help helps people break free from the subconscious patterns that drive pornography use, rebuild trust and stronger relationships, and change the inner dialogue that keeps them stuck in unwanted patterns. Learn More: FamiliesGettingHelp.com Book Your Introduction Call Now: https://familiesgettinghelp.com/#ghl-calendar. Discount code: UNASHAMED Free Automatic Impulse Control Video: Want the free workshop where you learn how to automatically turn down a temptation? Go here - https://help.familiesgettinghelp.com/turndowntemptationsnow  ---- Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps03:40 - Introducing Guest Erin & Demystifying Hypnotherapy Basics08:33 - The Role of Shame, Dopamine Loops, & Neurochemistry in Addiction12:00 - Brain Waves, Subconscious Memories, & Rewiring Neural Pathways17:15 - Comparing Hypnotherapy to EMDR & Sam/Austin's Personal Experiences24:20 - Bottom-Up Identity Shift vs. Top-Down Somatic Recovery Tools27:50 - Automatic Impulse Control Demonstration: Using Somatic Tools for Urges32:55 - Connecting with Erin (FamiliesGettingHelp.com) & St. George/Zoom Services36:30 - Personal Readiness, Emotional Maturity, & Taking Recovery Ownership41:15 - Advice for Families, Final Takeaways on Identity, & Episode Sign-Off

    EP 226: Hypnotherapy and Porn Addiction
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Unashamed Unafraid is a show dedicated to being unashamed about sexual addiction recovery and unafraid of coming unto Christ for healing. Pornography and sexual addiction are not something you are stuck with to manage your whole life. We share real stories of recovery, the best resources, information from experts, and answer anonymous questions with those who know. All to help you on the path of being 100% healed from pornography and sexual addiction.

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  • Creator
    Unashamed Unafraid
  • Years Active
    2016 - 2026
  • Episodes
    229
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
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    Unashamed Unafraid

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