Thanks for Sharing

Jackie Pack
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This is the place for all things recovery, healing, and relationships. We explore a variety of topics with people in recovery and the professionals who help them through personal stories. This podcast will give you a broad look at the aspects of recovery that make a difference.

  1. 1d ago

    Episode 381: When There Is No Redo: Grieving What We Can’t Get Back

    Some losses don’t come with a funeral. Sometimes we’re grieving what didn’t happen—the nurturing we didn’t receive, the childhood there wasn’t room to have, or the adults who couldn’t be adults. We can build something different now. But healing doesn’t erase the impact of the wound, and making meaning from suffering doesn’t mean the suffering was necessary. Sometimes grief says, That mattered. And sometimes it asks, Can you play now? This week on Thanks for Sharing, we’re talking about living not after grief, but alongside it.    Have a question or something you’d like me to talk about in a future episode? You can call the show and leave a voicemail or send me an email — I love hearing from you, and your feedback helps shape these conversations.  https://thanksforsharingpodcast.my.canva.site/thanks-for-sharing-links #Grief #DisenfranchisedGrief #TraumaRecovery #Attachment #ThanksForSharingPodcast

  2. Aug 19

    Episode 380: Validation vs Agreement: “I understand why that hurt you” is not the same as “I agree with everything you believe about what happened.”

    In this episode, we explore three relational skills that often get confused: Validation says, “If I am you—with your history, family of origin, and the meaning this held for you—I understand how you got there.” Agreement says, “I reached essentially the same conclusion.” Accepting influence says, “Because you matter to me, what you shared is allowed to affect my understanding or what I do next.” We also talk about epistemic humility: trusting what we know without assuming we know everything. We may be wrong. We may have forgotten something. We may not have communicated as clearly as we thought. If we haven’t asked for another perspective, we can’t assume there isn’t one. Drawing from John Gottman’s work, we look at why men in heterosexual relationships may be less likely to recognize when they are resisting their partner’s influence—especially when their own perspective begins as “right” and she has to prove it wrong. And we name an important limit: good relational skills can become harmful in relationships without safety, accountability, and mutuality. You don’t have to abandon what you see to become capable of seeing more. Listen to the full episode of Thanks for Sharing.  Have a question or something you’d like me to talk about in a future episode? https://thanksforsharingpodcast.my.canva.site/thanks-for-sharing-links   #Validation #AcceptingInfluence #CouplesTherapy #Relationships #EpistemicHumility #GottmanMethod #RelationshipSkills #ThanksForSharingPodcast

  3. Aug 12

    Episode 379: What do you need? What do you want?

    For a lot of people, those are surprisingly difficult questions to answer. Sometimes we genuinely don't know. Sometimes we know, but we've learned to keep parts of ourselves private. Sometimes we've gotten very good at figuring out what's practical, reasonable, available, or best for everyone else before we consider what we actually want. And sometimes "be grateful" quietly became "don't want more." In this episode of Thanks for Sharing, I'm talking about how we can become wantless and needless—and the different ways that can show up. We talk about needs versus wants, gratitude, entitlement, vulnerability, the unshared self, and why knowing what you want doesn't mean you expect to get it. Because our wants aren't just about getting things. They're often clues to who we are.  When You Don’t Know What You Want: Becoming Wantless and Needless    Have a question or something you’d like me to talk about in a future episode? You can call the show and leave a voicemail or send me an email — I love hearing from you, and your feedback helps shape these conversations.  https://thanksforsharingpodcast.my.canva.site/thanks-for-sharing-links #ThanksForSharingPodcast #SelfAbandonment #SelfAwareness #EmotionalHealth #Relationships #Healing

  4. Aug 5

    Episode 378:  "I Know It's Best to Just Move On":

    There's a moment almost everyone knows: someone says something, and before you've even processed it, you're already deciding not to react. You smile. You let it go. And somewhere in that quiet moment, you might be abandoning yourself. In this episode, I talk about the difference between self-abandonment (the pattern) and self-betrayal (the moment-by-moment choice that builds it) — and why understanding that difference matters more than most people realize. We get into: → Why "it's best to just move on" is sometimes wisdom, and sometimes a trauma response wearing wisdom's clothes → The beliefs running underneath this pattern — not lovable, don't matter, too much, stay small, won't be accepted if truly known → What your body already knows before your mind catches up → A real client story that shows what this looks like even inside a good, functioning relationship → And a small story from my own dinner table about catching yourself mid-betrayal — and going back to fix it This isn't about always speaking up. It's about knowing the difference between a real choice and an old belief making the decision for you. New episode is live — link in bio. Have a question or something you’d like me to talk about in a future episode? You can call the show and leave a voicemail or send me an email — I love hearing from you, and your feedback helps shape these conversations.  https://thanksforsharingpodcast.my.canva.site/thanks-for-sharing-links   #selfabandonment #selfbetrayal #therapy #mentalhealth #relationships #differentiation #authenticity #innerchild #podcastepisode #healingjourney

  5. Jul 29

    Episode 377: Who Am I?  Why We Lose Ourselves and How We Find Our Way Back

    Your "difficult" child might just be determined. Your "too much" might just be someone who hasn't finished growing into her enthusiasm yet. In this episode, I talk about the difference between adaptation and development,  why the traits that got labeled as problems in childhood (stubborn, dramatic, bossy, shy) were often never the problem at all. They just hadn't matured yet. We go deep: reparenting, the functional adult, why insight alone doesn't change us, and why healing was never about becoming someone new, but about continuing to grow into who you already were. New episode is live   link in bio https://healingpathsrecovery.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/Helping-the-Authentic-Self-Mature.pdf   Have a question or something you’d like me to talk about in a future episode? You can call the show and leave a voicemail or send me an email — I love hearing from you, and your feedback helps shape these conversations.  https://thanksforsharingpodcast.my.canva.site/thanks-for-sharing-links   #therapy #reparenting #authenticself #innerchildwork #mentalhealthawareness #healingjourney #familytherapy #podcastepisode

  6. Jul 22

    Episode 376: Narcissistic Neglect

    The deepest injury of narcissistic neglect isn't what happened to you. It's what never consistently happened for you. Nobody wondering what you were thinking. Nobody asking what you felt. Nobody staying curious about who you were becoming. And when those thousands of small moments are largely absent, something else develops in their place. Not a self. An adaptation. An identity organized around keeping the peace, managing moods, and becoming whoever the room needed you to be. If you grew up wondering why you can't answer simple questions about yourself — what you want, what you like, what you feel,  this episode is for you. Today I'm talking about what narcissistic neglect actually does to a developing child, why it so often comes from mothers and goes unrecognized, what develops instead of a healthy sense of self, and why the conversation you want to have with your parent rarely gives you what you're hoping for. Development doesn't end in childhood. And healing isn't becoming someone different — it's finally uncovering the person who never had enough room to emerge.   Link in bio.   Have a question or something you’d like me to talk about in a future episode? You can call the show and leave a voicemail or send me an email — I love hearing from you, and your feedback helps shape these conversations.  https://thanksforsharingpodcast.my.canva.site/thanks-for-sharing-links #narcissisticneglect #adultchildrenofnarcissists #attachmenthealing #emotionalneglect #narcissisticmother #therapy #selfhealing #childhoodtrauma #mentalhealth #innerchild

  7. Jul 15

    Episode 375: The Basics of Recovery: A conversation on early recovery

    In this episode, Rachel joins Jackie as they dive into the intricacies of early recovery in therapy. In this episode, they discuss the foundational stages of addiction recovery, focusing on the challenges faced by individuals new to therapy.  From addressing justification and rationalization to the role of accountability, Jackie and Rachel offer insights into the vital components that set the stage for long-term sobriety and deep recovery. Whether you're a therapist or someone at the beginning of a recovery journey, this conversation serves as a reminder of the importance of revisiting the basics.  Tune in to explore how early steps pave the way for meaningful change and lasting growth.   Have a question or something you’d like me to talk about in a future episode? You can call the show and leave a voicemail or send me an email — I love hearing from you, and your feedback helps shape these conversations.  https://thanksforsharingpodcast.my.canva.site/thanks-for-sharing-links

  8. Jul 8

    Episode 374: What Did Touch Teach You?

    That question has been on my mind after two clients asked me to record this episode. For some of us, touch meant comfort and safety. For others, it meant obligation, manipulation, or even fear. Some of us grew up in families that hugged all the time. Others rarely experienced physical affection. And sometimes, it wasn't the presence or absence of touch that mattered most—it was what that touch came to mean. In this episode, I explore:  What our families teach us about touch  Why healthy relationships respect "not yet"  How our earliest experiences become our first map of relationships  Why our adaptations made sense—and why they don't have to define us  How healing happens one safe relationship at a time   One of the ideas I keep coming back to is this: Children don't just survive their families. They mistake their families for the whole world. The good news is that our first map doesn't have to be our final one. I'd love to hear from you: What did touch teach you about relationships growing up?  Have a question or something you’d like me to talk about in a future episode? You can call the show and leave a voicemail or send me an email — I love hearing from you, and your feedback helps shape these conversations.  https://thanksforsharingpodcast.my.canva.site/thanks-for-sharing-links   #Attachment #HealingJourney #TraumaRecovery #Relationships #EmotionalHealth #Therapy #MentalHealth #ChildhoodTrauma #Connection #Boundaries #PersonalGrowth #ThanksForSharingPodcast

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This is the place for all things recovery, healing, and relationships. We explore a variety of topics with people in recovery and the professionals who help them through personal stories. This podcast will give you a broad look at the aspects of recovery that make a difference.

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  • Creator
    Jackie Pack
  • Years Active
    2016 - 2026
  • Episodes
    199
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © Copyright 2017 . All rights reserved.
  • Show Website
    Thanks for Sharing

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