Thanks for Sharing

Jackie Pack
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This is the place for all things recovery, healing, and relationships. We explore a variety of topics with people in recovery and the professionals who help them through personal stories. This podcast will give you a broad look at the aspects of recovery that make a difference.

  1. 6d ago

    Episode 384: The in-between: "I don't even think I'm angry. I think I just need it to be bad enough that I feel okay about going.

    A client said that to me a few weeks ago — she was leaving a job she had chosen to leave, and she couldn't stop rehearsing every grievance, every frustration, every way the place had failed her. She wasn't actually angry. She was trying to make the grief feel like certainty, because certainty is more comfortable than grief. This episode is about what happens in transitions — even the ones we chose, even the ones we wanted. Why we fight at airports. Why couples who just returned from a vacation they saved for find themselves arguing about laundry and boarding passes. Why someone might make an ending messier than it needed to be. Why the flight home can be one of the most predictable vulnerability points in a recovery plan. The concept at the center of all of it: liminal space. The threshold. The in-between. The period where the old structure has loosened and the new one hasn't yet taken hold. It's not empty. It's one of the most psychologically active places we can be. And when we don't know how to tolerate it, we tend to do things in it that we later have to account for. New episode out now. Link in bio. Have a question or something you’d like me to talk about in a future episode? You can call the show and leave a voicemail or send me an email — I love hearing from you, and your feedback helps shape these conversations.  https://thanksforsharingpodcast.my.canva.site/thanks-for-sharing-links #therapy #psychologypodcast #transitions #lifechange #liminalspace #mentalhealth #selfawareness #relationships #emotionalhealth #solopodcast

  2. Sep 23

    Episode 383: Inside the Therapy Room

    A Conversation With Rupture Ever After:  here are things we can understand for years before they actually change us. We can know where a pattern came from. We can explain our childhood. We can recognize our attachment strategies. We can even know that something that happened to us wasn’t our fault. And still respond as though the old story is true. One of the things I love about therapy is watching the moment when something moves from “I understand this” to “I know this differently now.” That’s part of why I enjoyed this conversation with Monte and Mechelle of Rupture Ever After. We’ve spent years together in the therapy room, which means this wasn’t simply an interview about my ideas as a therapist. They could talk about what it was actually like to be on the receiving end of the work—and sometimes what they experienced wasn’t exactly what I remembered. I think there’s something important in that, too. Therapy happens in relationship. So does healing. This week I’m sharing our conversation here on Thanks for Sharing as Rupture Ever After begins its second season. Give it a listen—and then go subscribe to Rupture Ever After. I think many of you will appreciate the conversations they’re willing to have.    Have a question or something you’d like me to talk about in a future episode? You can call the show and leave a voicemail or send me an email — I love hearing from you, and your feedback helps shape these conversations.  https://thanksforsharingpodcast.my.canva.site/thanks-for-sharing-links

  3. Sep 16

    Episode 382: What You Can’t See About Yourself

    How well can we really know ourselves if we’re only willing to rely on our own perspective? We all have blind spots—not because we lack self-awareness, but because there are things we simply can’t see from where we’re standing. And sometimes the people who know us well can see patterns we’ve normalized, adapted to, or never recognized in ourselves. In this episode of Thanks for Sharing, I revisit the Johari Window and connect it to validation, accepting influence, family roles, the adaptive self, and why feedback can hurt without necessarily being wrong. Because accepting influence isn’t saying, “You’re right about me.” It’s saying, “You may have information I don’t have. I’m willing to look.” For a deeper introduction to the Johari Window itself, go back to Episode 135. Have a question or something you’d like me to talk about in a future episode? You can call the show and leave a voicemail or send me an email — I love hearing from you, and your feedback helps shape these conversations.  https://thanksforsharingpodcast.my.canva.site/thanks-for-sharing-links   #JohariWindow #SelfAwareness #Relationships #AcceptingInfluence #Validation #PersonalGrowth #Therapy #ThanksForSharingPodcast

  4. Aug 26

    Episode 381: When There Is No Redo: Grieving What We Can’t Get Back

    Some losses don’t come with a funeral. Sometimes we’re grieving what didn’t happen—the nurturing we didn’t receive, the childhood there wasn’t room to have, or the adults who couldn’t be adults. We can build something different now. But healing doesn’t erase the impact of the wound, and making meaning from suffering doesn’t mean the suffering was necessary. Sometimes grief says, That mattered. And sometimes it asks, Can you play now? This week on Thanks for Sharing, we’re talking about living not after grief, but alongside it.    Have a question or something you’d like me to talk about in a future episode? You can call the show and leave a voicemail or send me an email — I love hearing from you, and your feedback helps shape these conversations.  https://thanksforsharingpodcast.my.canva.site/thanks-for-sharing-links #Grief #DisenfranchisedGrief #TraumaRecovery #Attachment #ThanksForSharingPodcast

  5. Aug 19

    Episode 380: Validation vs Agreement: “I understand why that hurt you” is not the same as “I agree with everything you believe about what happened.”

    In this episode, we explore three relational skills that often get confused: Validation says, “If I am you—with your history, family of origin, and the meaning this held for you—I understand how you got there.” Agreement says, “I reached essentially the same conclusion.” Accepting influence says, “Because you matter to me, what you shared is allowed to affect my understanding or what I do next.” We also talk about epistemic humility: trusting what we know without assuming we know everything. We may be wrong. We may have forgotten something. We may not have communicated as clearly as we thought. If we haven’t asked for another perspective, we can’t assume there isn’t one. Drawing from John Gottman’s work, we look at why men in heterosexual relationships may be less likely to recognize when they are resisting their partner’s influence—especially when their own perspective begins as “right” and she has to prove it wrong. And we name an important limit: good relational skills can become harmful in relationships without safety, accountability, and mutuality. You don’t have to abandon what you see to become capable of seeing more. Listen to the full episode of Thanks for Sharing.  Have a question or something you’d like me to talk about in a future episode? https://thanksforsharingpodcast.my.canva.site/thanks-for-sharing-links   #Validation #AcceptingInfluence #CouplesTherapy #Relationships #EpistemicHumility #GottmanMethod #RelationshipSkills #ThanksForSharingPodcast

  6. Aug 12

    Episode 379: What do you need? What do you want?

    For a lot of people, those are surprisingly difficult questions to answer. Sometimes we genuinely don't know. Sometimes we know, but we've learned to keep parts of ourselves private. Sometimes we've gotten very good at figuring out what's practical, reasonable, available, or best for everyone else before we consider what we actually want. And sometimes "be grateful" quietly became "don't want more." In this episode of Thanks for Sharing, I'm talking about how we can become wantless and needless—and the different ways that can show up. We talk about needs versus wants, gratitude, entitlement, vulnerability, the unshared self, and why knowing what you want doesn't mean you expect to get it. Because our wants aren't just about getting things. They're often clues to who we are.  When You Don’t Know What You Want: Becoming Wantless and Needless    Have a question or something you’d like me to talk about in a future episode? You can call the show and leave a voicemail or send me an email — I love hearing from you, and your feedback helps shape these conversations.  https://thanksforsharingpodcast.my.canva.site/thanks-for-sharing-links #ThanksForSharingPodcast #SelfAbandonment #SelfAwareness #EmotionalHealth #Relationships #Healing

  7. Aug 5

    Episode 378:  "I Know It's Best to Just Move On":

    There's a moment almost everyone knows: someone says something, and before you've even processed it, you're already deciding not to react. You smile. You let it go. And somewhere in that quiet moment, you might be abandoning yourself. In this episode, I talk about the difference between self-abandonment (the pattern) and self-betrayal (the moment-by-moment choice that builds it) — and why understanding that difference matters more than most people realize. We get into: → Why "it's best to just move on" is sometimes wisdom, and sometimes a trauma response wearing wisdom's clothes → The beliefs running underneath this pattern — not lovable, don't matter, too much, stay small, won't be accepted if truly known → What your body already knows before your mind catches up → A real client story that shows what this looks like even inside a good, functioning relationship → And a small story from my own dinner table about catching yourself mid-betrayal — and going back to fix it This isn't about always speaking up. It's about knowing the difference between a real choice and an old belief making the decision for you. New episode is live — link in bio. Have a question or something you’d like me to talk about in a future episode? You can call the show and leave a voicemail or send me an email — I love hearing from you, and your feedback helps shape these conversations.  https://thanksforsharingpodcast.my.canva.site/thanks-for-sharing-links   #selfabandonment #selfbetrayal #therapy #mentalhealth #relationships #differentiation #authenticity #innerchild #podcastepisode #healingjourney

  8. Jul 29

    Episode 377: Who Am I?  Why We Lose Ourselves and How We Find Our Way Back

    Your "difficult" child might just be determined. Your "too much" might just be someone who hasn't finished growing into her enthusiasm yet. In this episode, I talk about the difference between adaptation and development,  why the traits that got labeled as problems in childhood (stubborn, dramatic, bossy, shy) were often never the problem at all. They just hadn't matured yet. We go deep: reparenting, the functional adult, why insight alone doesn't change us, and why healing was never about becoming someone new, but about continuing to grow into who you already were. New episode is live   link in bio https://healingpathsrecovery.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/Helping-the-Authentic-Self-Mature.pdf   Have a question or something you’d like me to talk about in a future episode? You can call the show and leave a voicemail or send me an email — I love hearing from you, and your feedback helps shape these conversations.  https://thanksforsharingpodcast.my.canva.site/thanks-for-sharing-links   #therapy #reparenting #authenticself #innerchildwork #mentalhealthawareness #healingjourney #familytherapy #podcastepisode

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This is the place for all things recovery, healing, and relationships. We explore a variety of topics with people in recovery and the professionals who help them through personal stories. This podcast will give you a broad look at the aspects of recovery that make a difference.

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  • Creator
    Jackie Pack
  • Years Active
    2016 - 2026
  • Episodes
    199
  • Rating
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