Put Yourself First

Kat Horrocks
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Calling all high achieving and ambitious girls - it's time to put yourself first. Stop overfunctioning at work and at home, feel cherished in your relationship and create a life that turns you on. 🌶️ Hosted by Women's Empowerment and Relationship Coach - Kat Horrocks Tune in every Monday for your weekly dose of no-BS coaching, advice for real women and the tools that have helped 500+ women change their lives.

  1. 1d ago

    What Season Are You In? Real Women's Takeaways From Put Yourself First Live

    In September, I hosted my 5th annual Put Yourself First Live, and this week I'm sharing the 3 biggest takeaways from the women in the room. In this episode, I cover: Knowing your season: why the season you're in (growth, rest, recovery, whatever it is) determines your capacity, your boundaries, and what you can realistically expect from yourself right nowThe power of guided reflection: why I'll keep banging on about looking back and celebrating how far you've come for decades to come, and how you can create that space for yourself even without an event to go toThe value of real community: what it means to be in a room (or an online space) full of women who just get it, and why putting yourself out there into new communities, even when it's uncomfortable, is so worth itI also share a little hint about something new coming in my world in 2027. Head to Instagram to be the first to know more. Connect with me:https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/

  2. Sep 28

    You've Had the Lightbulb Moment. Now Do Something About It.

    This week I'm talking about the gap between understanding something and living it. Why that lightbulb moment feels so good, why it can leave you more frustrated when nothing changes, and the question I'm happy to be unpopular for asking every client. In this episode Why awareness feels so good (hello, dopamine) and why it's not the same as a shiftMy teacher's pet confession, and why even I'm not immuneHow the hardest working women can still get caught in thisWhy understanding your patterns can leave you more resentful and more stuckThe difference between knowing you're a people pleaser and embodying a woman who puts herself firstWhat a client told me about why she keeps coming back to work with meWhat women need instead of more to consumeWhy even I block out study days a month in advanceHow your habits decide what your life looks like in six monthsThe question to sit with Once you've had the reflection and the understanding, ask yourself: and now what are you going to do about it? Something big is coming I'm building something new, and it comes straight from everything in this episode. Sisterhood members will hear first. Everyone else, I'll announce it here at the end of October. Instagram is where you'll see it in real time, so make sure we're connected on there - https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/

  3. Sep 21

    Rebuilding Your Life When Everything's Changed

    This one's for the woman rebuilding herself right now. Maybe you're coming out the other side of grief, a breakup, a job loss, or just a proper existential "what the hell am I doing" moment. Maybe it's not an ending at all, maybe it's a beginning: a new place, a new job, a new chapter you didn't see coming. I'm sharing this from the middle of my own rebuild. Adam's mum passed away this summer after a short and brutal battle with cancer, and life has looked nothing like what we thought this year would be. I've been in proper survival mode. But I've turned a corner, and I'm ready to get my spark back. In this episode I'm talking about: Why the instinct to fill your diary with admin and plans isn't actually rebuilding anythingThe one question I asked myself (and Adam asked me) that cut straight through the overwhelmWhy trying to be everything to everyone right now is keeping you stuckThe two simple rituals I've gone back to that ground me before I even open my laptopWhy your alone time deserves the same reverence you'd give your closest relationship, and what happens when you skip itThe "f**k it" permission slip I'm giving you to be a bit more selfish for a whileIf you've been the one doing the most, the over-giver, the over-functioner, this episode is your nudge to put yourself first and fill your own cup back up. Comment on Spotify or DM me @kat_horrocks and tell me what you're taking into your own rebuild. - https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/

  4. Sep 14

    Stop Absorbing Everyone Else's Comfort

    Here's something I say to almost every client I work with: you are so much more comfortable with your own discomfort than you are with someone else's. You'll stay late at work instead of protecting your evening. You'll hold space for a friend when you've got nothing left to give. You'll bite your tongue with your partner instead of rocking the boat. All so someone else never has to feel even a flicker of inconvenience. In this episode, I'm naming that pattern and asking the question that flips it on its head: can you get comfortable with someone else's discomfort for once, instead of always absorbing it yourself? What I cover in this episode: The pattern itself, and the three places I see it show up most: at work (staying late instead of holding your boundary), in friendship (holding space when you've got no capacity left), and in relationships (biting your tongue to avoid an argument, instead of saying the true thing). Why this isn't noble. It's self-abandonment. You're not being kind, you're managing everyone else's comfort at the expense of your own needs, your yes, your no, your truth. Why boundaries feel so hard to hold. At the root of it, a boundary asks someone else to inconvenience themselves in some way, and most women would rather sit in their own exhaustion than let someone else sit in that discomfort, even briefly. The reframe I want you to sit with: inconvenience is the price of community. Reciprocal relationships need both people to be inconvenienced sometimes. If you're always the one absorbing it, that's not community, that's imbalance, and it will eventually break. The question I leave you with: why do you let others receive that ease and reliability from you constantly, but won't let yourself receive it back from them when you genuinely need it? My challenge for you this week: find the one relationship in your life where you're always the one absorbing the discomfort, and get curious about what it would feel like to let someone else carry a bit of it instead. If this episode stirred something up in you, or felt like a bit of a call-out, DM me on Instagram and let me know - https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/ And if you're ready to look at this pattern inside your own relationship specifically, doors to Cherished are open now. Twelve weeks to feel more supported, more seen, and more like yourself again. - https://www.khorrocks.com/cherished

  5. Sep 7

    Become the Cherished Woman: Feel Sexy, Confident, and Turned On by Your Life

    If you're an ambitious woman carrying a huge amount of your life yourself, and lately you've been feeling more like the manager of your relationship than his lover, this episode is your 12 week roadmap. In this episode: The 3 patterns keeping capable, high achieving women stuck: the mental load that never switches off, the rage you didn't know you were carrying, and the slow fade from lover to roommate. Why the relationship you have with yourself changes everything else. The 3 Cherished Woman Codes I teach inside Cherished: Self-Devotion, Heart-Led Communication and Magnetic Intimacy. Doors are open for Cherished's second cohort. I share the key dates, what's included, and how to join. Ready to join Cherished? Doors close Friday 25th September. Cherished begins Monday 28th September. Link to join and see everything included - https://www.khorrocks.com/cherished Want to talk it through first? DM me the word CALL on Instagram to book a free Cherished Clarity Call. - https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/

  6. Aug 31

    Roommate Energy: The Secret Relationship Killer (And What's Really Underneath It)

    Free Workshop Signup Here > https://www.khorrocks.com/workshop You know the caveat by heart. "My partner's amazing, he does so much, he never says no when I ask." And yet I still feel like the manager of my household, still feel more like his mum than his lover, still feel like nothing gets done unless I remind him. In this episode, I'm unpacking roommate energy, one of the quietest, most common relationship killers, and why it has nothing to do with how good your partner is. In this episode, I cover: Why "he always says yes when I ask" is masking the real issue, the invisible weight of noticing, delegating, reminding, and following up on everythingThe difference between the practical mental load and the emotional load, and why so many high-achieving, self-aware women (therapy, podcasts, attachment work, the lot) still feel stuck in the same dynamicThe "awareness trap": why understanding your patterns isn't the same as changing them, and why insight alone hasn't shifted my relationship, or maybe yoursThe uncomfortable truth that frustration isn't only directed at your partner, it's often directed at yourself, for tolerating what you said you wouldn'tWhy intimacy quietly disappears under roommate energy, and what it actually takes to get the spark, the connection, and the "life partners again" feeling backPractical permission slips: what it can look like to stop asking permission, let him figure it out, and reclaim your time and energy, starting todayWhy this work always starts with your relationship with yourself first, not with fixing him or the relationship directly FREE LIVE WORKSHOP THIS THURSDAY! Resentful to Radiant: How to Go From Feeling Like Roommates to Feeling Like the Hottest Woman in the Room, Thursday 3rd September, 8PM UK time I'll be sharing the 3 Cherished Woman Codes I walk every client through to help her put herself first, shift out of roommate energy, deepen connection with her partner, and start feeling cherished again. Sign up here - https://www.khorrocks.com/workshop

  7. Aug 24

    Why Decentring Men Will Strengthen Your Relationship (Not End It)

    Register for the workshop - https://www.khorrocks.com/workshop Say "decentring men" and most people picture single women, healing, done with dating. But what happens when you're married? When you're in it, and you love him, and he's a genuinely good one? This week I'm making the case that decentring men matters more once you're partnered - not less. Because the sneaky version isn't the dramatic breakup. It's the quiet, years-long slide into building a whole life around him without ever noticing you did it. I'm talking through why this hits hardest for women carrying shared responsibility - the joint mortgage, the joint calendar, the "who's picking up the kids" of it all - and the exact ways it shows up: the permission-asking, the disappearing hobbies, the vision board you stopped updating for yourself. I'll walk you through what I actually do in my own relationship, what I've watched clients do, and I've got some reflection prompts for you at the end if you want to sit with this properly. Fair warning - if you've been playing the cool, low-maintenance girlfriend, or the devoted wife who puts everyone else first, this one might sting a bit. That's alright. Stay with it. Mentioned in this episode: My free live workshop, Resentful to Radiant - for women ready to stop feeling like his roommate and start feeling like the hottest woman in the room again. Thursday 3rd September, 8pm UK time, live on Zoom. 👉 Register here - https://www.khorrocks.com/workshop If you sign up after listening, drop me a DM on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/] and say hi - I want to know you're coming!

  8. Aug 17

    Stop Analysing Why They Did It (Focus On This Instead)

    You know the spiral. Something happens with your partner, your mate, your sister, and instead of feeling it, you're straight into detective mode. Why did they say that? What's going on for them? Is it their attachment style, their childhood, a bad day? Sound familiar, sister? If you've done any personal development at all, you've got a library of explanations on tap for other people's behaviour. And that's exactly the problem. In this short and sweet one, I'm calling out a pattern I see constantly in over-functioning, over-giving women: using your self-awareness and compassion on everyone except yourself. The ruminating, the theorising, the endless "well maybe it's because..." isn't understanding. It's another way of over-functioning. Another way of making yourself responsible for someone else's behaviour instead of your own response to it. I walk through why this happens (hello, sense of control), what it actually costs you, and the one phrase that's changed how I handle conflict for good: impact is more important than intent. In this episode: Why over-functioning women default to analysing other people instead of themselvesThe real cost of ruminating on someone else's behaviourA live example of shifting from "why are they like this" to "what do I want"The phrase that'll change how you handle every hard conversation from here onFeeling hurt by someone who isn't showing up the way you need them to? Stop trying to get inside their head. Come find out what putting yourself first actually looks like in the Sisterhood. LINKS Connect on Instagram Join the Sisterhood

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Calling all high achieving and ambitious girls - it's time to put yourself first. Stop overfunctioning at work and at home, feel cherished in your relationship and create a life that turns you on. 🌶️ Hosted by Women's Empowerment and Relationship Coach - Kat Horrocks Tune in every Monday for your weekly dose of no-BS coaching, advice for real women and the tools that have helped 500+ women change their lives.

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  • Creator
    Kat Horrocks
  • Years Active
    2017 - 2026
  • Episodes
    537
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Kat Horrocks
  • Show Website
    Put Yourself First

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