It’s Not Normal It’s Toxic: Rid Your Life of Toxic People

Dr. Heidi
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As a toxic relationship specialist my mission is to bring hope, healing, and FREEDOM to those whose lives have been affected by toxic relationships, emotional abuse, and narcissistic behaviors. Living and being in relationships that are not healthy for us can cause this type of abuse to be accepted as “normal”. TRUTH IS...ITS NOT NORMAL... ITS TOXIC! Having been in toxic relationships myself, I am now able to use my experience to guide those walking a similar path to my own. This podcast is dedicated to YOU so that you too can find peace & be free of relationships that are not healthy for you.

  1. 5D AGO

    Bonus Episode

    As you know I began a second podcast a few months ago so each of my shows can have a focused perspective. This podcast, It’s not normal it’s toxic is an educational resource for you to better understand the toxic relationships in your life through the experiences I had while in mine. Fak’n Tired my other podcast was also inspired by events in my life. Managing the ups and downs, managing my emotions, as well as managing the other relationships in my life did not go as I thought it would. There was so much shrapnel, so many residual effects from the toxic relationship I had been in that I was for a time completely unaware of. Avoiding and ignoring the need for healing became so overwhelming for me I wanted to disappear. So as I write the episodes for Fak’n Tired I often wonder if it would have been different if I had known all this before it did. The bonus episodes you hear are the Fak’n Tired episodes that I believe could possibly make your journey go a little smoother than mine did.  In this episode of "Fake and Tired," Dr. Heidi delves into the complexities of recovering from toxic relationships and the lasting effects they can have on one's mental and emotional well-being. She shares her personal journey, highlighting the confusion and exhaustion that often accompany the aftermath of such relationships. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of understanding one's own behaviors and reactions, which may have been shaped by past events, and how they show up in everyday life, even in safe environments. The episode serves as a call to action for listeners to recognize these behaviors in themselves and begin the journey toward healing and self-acceptance. Whether you are presently in a toxic relationship or you are trying to rebuild after a toxic relationship it can feel impossible to take the steps you desire. Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Because she has been where you are now, she gets it so her service offerings focus on your needs. Start by taking the Toxicity Profile Analysis for validation or the Survival Mode Assessment for understanding.  https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

    40 min

  2. FEB 10

    #254 The Dry Erase Board

    Dr Heidi knows it can feel overwhelming to ask for help, at least it did for her. As one who has been where you are now, perhaps one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon. https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/  In this episode Dr. Heidi discusses the complexities of toxic relationships, focusing on the Toxicity Profile Analysis (TPA) as a tool for understanding personal situations. She elaborates on manipulative tactics used by toxic individuals, particularly the 'dry erase board' technique, where they alter past events to fit the story line that betters the part they played. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of self-validation and maintaining one's own memory as a defense against emotional manipulation. TPA (Toxicity Profile Analysis):  https://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/ToxicityProfileAnalysis SMA (Survival Mode Assessment):  https://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/SurvivalModeAssessment

    15 min

  3. JAN 27

    #253 The Magic Drama Wand

    Take the Toxicity Profile Analysis  https://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/ToxicityProfileAnalysis Apply to become an exclusive “Freedom…Me!” Client: https://drheidischeduleme.as.me/schedule/dddd1d6e Continuing in her series of highlighting the toxic personalities predictability,  Dr. Heidi”s focus in this episode is on how certain personalities thrive on chaos and drama. She explains the mechanisms behind their need for attention and control, and offers insights on how individuals can reclaim their peace and stability. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and the ability to disengage from the emotional turmoil created by toxic individuals. Here is the link to Dr Heidi’s other podcast: Fak’n Tired https://open.spotify.com/show/0IGMxKcGNPOPDQMrCmfs8a?si=pYah9QsXTduaaGOEUzsCTA Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon. https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

    10 min

  4. JAN 19

    **BONUS EPISODE**

    Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. As one who has been where you are now, perhaps one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon. https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/ In this episode of "Fake and Tired," Dr. Heidi engages in a heartfelt conversation with her client Christine, who shares her transformative journey through the Freedom Me program. The discussion revolves around the emotional toll of toxic relationships and the importance of self-awareness and healing. Christine reflects on her past experiences, revealing how she felt trapped in unhealthy dynamics and the steps she took to reclaim her life. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the significance of recognizing toxic behaviors and the power of self-validation, encouraging listeners to confront their own struggles with authenticity and self-acceptance. The episode also highlights the practical tools and insights gained from the program, including the use of a flowchart to identify toxic behaviors and the importance of setting boundaries. Christine's candid reflections on her progress serve as a beacon of hope for those feeling lost in similar situations. The conversation culminates in a powerful reminder that healing is a journey, and it's essential to prioritize oneself in the process of recovery from emotional exhaustion and toxicity. Apply to be the next Exclusive Freedom…Me! Private client:https://drheidischeduleme.as.me/freedom

    1h 3m

  5. JAN 13

    #252 The Vending Machine

    Take the Toxicity Profile Analysis https://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/ToxicityProfileAnalysis  Apply to become an exclusive “Freedom…Me!” Client: https://drheidischeduleme.as.me/schedule/dddd1d6e Today, Dr. Heidi continues to explore the dynamics of toxic relationships, particularly focusing on how individuals with toxic personalities view others as mere resources for emotional support. She introduces the concept of the 'vending machine' dynamic, where the toxic person only engages when they need something, leading to emotional abuse and control. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of recognizing these patterns and taking steps to protect oneself from falling into the vending machine trap.  Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon. https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

    14 min

  6. 12/30/2025

    #251 The Glass House

    Take the Toxicity Profile Analysis  https://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/ToxicityProfileAnalysis Apply to become an exclusive “Freedom…Me!” Client: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/freedom-me-exclusive-private-coaching In this episode, Dr. Heidi explores the concept of the 'glass house' as a metaphor for the toxic personality's fragile self-image. She discusses the role of the 'chief editor' who manages the narrative to protect this image, the unpredictability of toxic behaviors, and the intense need to be right that drives these individuals. The conversation emphasizes understanding these dynamics to regain personal power and clarity in relationships with toxic individuals. Here is the link to Dr Heidi’s other podcast: Fak’n Tired https://open.spotify.com/show/0IGMxKcGNPOPDQMrCmfs8a?si=pYah9QsXTduaaGOEUzsCTA

    16 min

  7. 12/16/2025

    #250 The Broken Calculator

    Take the Toxicity Profile Analysis  https://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/ToxicityProfileAnalysis  In this conversation, Dr. Heidi explores the concept of emotional math in toxic relationships, where positive experiences are often met with negativity. She explains how the toxic individuals in these relationships operate under a scarcity mindset, leading to insecurity and competition over emotional resources. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's own successes and not minimizing them due to the reactions of others. The discussion also highlights the predictability of toxic behaviors, allowing individuals to better navigate their relationships and own their happiness. Also check out her sister podcast, 'Fak'n Tired' where she talks all about the after affects and emotional wreckage that is left over after the toxic relationship has ended. Here is the link to Dr Heidi’s other podcast: Fak’n Tired https://open.spotify.com/show/0IGMxKcGNPOPDQMrCmfs8a?si=pYah9QsXTduaaGOEUzsCTA Apply to become an exclusive “Freedom…Me!” Client: https://drheidischeduleme.as.me/schedule/dddd1d6e

    14 min

  8. 12/02/2025

    #249 Unpredictable Yet Predictable

    Take the Toxicity Profile Analysis  https://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/ToxicityProfileAnalysis In this episode, Dr. Heidi discusses the complexities of toxic relationships, and how we often second guess ourselves when attempting to find answers. She emphasizes how important both validation and understanding are in moving forward . She shares her personal experiences and insights on recognizing toxic behaviors, the predictability of such patterns, and the necessity of observing and documenting these behaviors for personal growth. The conversation aims to empower listeners to differentiate between normal and toxic dynamics in relationships, ultimately guiding them towards healing and self-awareness. Apply to become an exclusive “Freedom…Me!” Client: https://drheidischeduleme.as.me/schedule/dddd1d6e

    29 min
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As a toxic relationship specialist my mission is to bring hope, healing, and FREEDOM to those whose lives have been affected by toxic relationships, emotional abuse, and narcissistic behaviors. Living and being in relationships that are not healthy for us can cause this type of abuse to be accepted as “normal”. TRUTH IS...ITS NOT NORMAL... ITS TOXIC! Having been in toxic relationships myself, I am now able to use my experience to guide those walking a similar path to my own. This podcast is dedicated to YOU so that you too can find peace & be free of relationships that are not healthy for you.

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