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What’s the secret to a happy life? The research says it’s your relationships! But how do you create the connection, joy and ease you crave? You’ve got to think about your relationships in a whole new way. Armed with humor, a ton of research and over 30 years of hands-on experience Dr. Abby Medcalf will teach you simple, actionable tools and strategies that you can use today to make all your relationships the best they’ve ever been (including the one with yourself)! Abby’s a Relationship Maven, best-selling author and psychologist, who loves telling you what to do each week on her Relationships Made Easy Podcast. In her free time (what’s that?) Abby’s invested in loving up the people in her life whether that means cooking for them, spending quality time, or trying to control them (hey, she never said she was perfect). Learn more about Abby, sign up for the newsletter, read the blog, listen, take a course, or connect directly at www.abbymedcalf.com.
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Relationships Made Easy Dr. Abby Medcalf

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What’s the secret to a happy life? The research says it’s your relationships! But how do you create the connection, joy and ease you crave? You’ve got to think about your relationships in a whole new way. Armed with humor, a ton of research and over 30 years of hands-on experience Dr. Abby Medcalf will teach you simple, actionable tools and strategies that you can use today to make all your relationships the best they’ve ever been (including the one with yourself)! Abby’s a Relationship Maven, best-selling author and psychologist, who loves telling you what to do each week on her Relationships Made Easy Podcast. In her free time (what’s that?) Abby’s invested in loving up the people in her life whether that means cooking for them, spending quality time, or trying to control them (hey, she never said she was perfect). Learn more about Abby, sign up for the newsletter, read the blog, listen, take a course, or connect directly at www.abbymedcalf.com.
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    284. What To Do (and Not Do) if Your Partner is Jealous

    284. What To Do (and Not Do) if Your Partner is Jealous

    Jealousy has no place in a love relationship because jealousy is about fear, not love. But, it continues to be a huge issue in many relationships (I know this because you all keep asking me about it)! Today we’ll discuss the many ways jealousy might be showing up in your relationship, the eight things not to do if your partner is jealous, and the three ways to help move from jealousy to connection. 
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    Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/what-to-do-and-not-do-if-your-partner-is-jealous
    Grab my FREE list of Collaborative Questions: https://abbymedcalf.com/collabques
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    Learn how to create and hold healthy, loving boundaries. Buy my newest book on Amazon, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries
    Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book
    Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast and https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes.
    Subscribe today to get my love letter to you! This biweekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com
    For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube
    Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop
    A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop
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    • 54 min
    283. How to Forgive Yourself: Five Tips to Let Go of Guilt, Shame and Past Regrets

    283. How to Forgive Yourself: Five Tips to Let Go of Guilt, Shame and Past Regrets

    You messed up, or at least you think you did. Maybe it was a job you quit in the heat of the moment, not finishing your education ten years ago or cheating on your spouse. We can perceive big or little things as crimes that need to be punished in perpetuity. Many of us can easily forgive others, but when it comes to forgiving ourselves, we’re not so generous. But learning to forgive ourselves is crucial to creating balanced, healthy relationships with others as well as leading a life of serenity and satisfaction. Forgiving yourself won’t change your past, but it will absolutely make your future brighter. Today I’m covering my top five tips for forgiving yourself and letting go of guilt, shame and past regrets.
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    Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcal.com/how-to-forgive-yourself-five-tips-to-let-go-of-guilt-shame-regret
     
    Grab my FREE RET tool: https://abbymedcalf.com/ret
    Grab my FREE Mindfulness Starter Kit: https://abbymedcalf.com/product/mindfulness-starter-kit/
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    Learn how to create and hold healthy, loving boundaries. Buy my newest book on Amazon, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries
    Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book
    Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes.
    Subscribe today to get my love letter to you! This biweekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com
    Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop
    A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop
    Say hello on social:
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    YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube

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    • 47 min
    282. The Five Steps to Know if an Open Relationship is Right for You

    282. The Five Steps to Know if an Open Relationship is Right for You

    Whether you call it a consensually non-monogamous relationship or ethical nonmonogamy, open relationships can be hard to define. It’s not cheating or swinging, and it’s not polyamory. So, what are open relationships and do you want to consider it? Today I’m sharing my five-step process for knowing if an open relationship is right for you.
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    Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/the-five-steps-to-know-if-an-open-relationship-is-right-for-you
     
    Grab my FREE list of Collaborative Questions: https://abbymedcalf.com/collabques
    Learn how to create and hold healthy, loving boundaries. Buy my newest book on Amazon, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries
    Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book
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    Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to  https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast and https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives to access past episodes.
    Subscribe today to get my love letter to you! This biweekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com/
    For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube
    Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop
    A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop
    Say hello on social:
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    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving
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    YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube

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    • 34 min
    281. How to Take a Healthy Relationship Break: The Three Questions You Need to Ask

    281. How to Take a Healthy Relationship Break: The Three Questions You Need to Ask

    If you’re like me, when you think of a relationship break, you’re remembering Ross Gellar on the show Friends, screaming, “We were on a break!” Well, let me tell you, that was not the right way to take a relationship break. But there is a healthy way to take a relationship break and you do it by asking (and answering) three important questions.
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    Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-take-a-healthy-relationship-break-the-three-questions-you-need-to-ask
     
    Figure out the Love Relationship You REALLY want: https://abbymedcalf.com/love-worksheet
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    Learn how to create and hold healthy, loving boundaries. Buy my newest book on Amazon, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries
    Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book
    Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to  https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast and https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives to access past episodes.
    Subscribe today to get my love letter to you! This biweekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com
     
    For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube
    Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop
     
    A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop
     
    Say hello on social:
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    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving
    LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving
    YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube

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    • 52 min
    280. How to Effectively Deal with Triggers in Your Relationships

    280. How to Effectively Deal with Triggers in Your Relationships

    Does your mother make a comment about your haircut, and you blow up? Does your partner casually mention that they’re going out with friends after work, and you get upset and withdraw? When you’re triggered, you have a strong emotional reaction to something that isn’t equal to the situation. Today you’ll learn how to identify when you’re having a trigger and my top tools to effectively deal with triggers in your relationships.
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    Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-effectively-deal-with-triggers-in-your-relationships
    Download the Grounding Exercises: https://abbymedcalf.com/grounding
    Learn how to create and hold healthy, loving boundaries. Buy my newest book on Amazon, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries
    ____________________________
    Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book
    Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast and https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find every single episode.
    Subscribe today to get my love letter to you! This biweekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com
    For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube
    Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop
    A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop
    Say hello on social:
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving
    LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving
    YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube


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    • 52 min
    279. Do You Have an Adjustment Disorder and Don’t Know It?

    279. Do You Have an Adjustment Disorder and Don’t Know It?

    Adjustment disorders are basically having excessive reactions to some stress (or stressors) in your life that result in overly strong emotions, increased negative thinking and some sort of change in behavior. The key is that the reaction to this event is way more intense than would typically be expected. As you might imagine, this can cause a lot of problems in your relationships, work or school. Today I’ll teach you what adjustment disorders are, the signs you might have one, and how to treat them (including an amazing free tool you can download).
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    Full blog and show notes: : https://abbymedcalf.com/do-you-have-an-adjustment-disorder-and-dont-know-it
    Grab my FREE RET Tool: https://abbymedcalf.com/ret
    Learn how to create and hold healthy, loving boundaries. Buy my newest book on Amazon, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries
     
    Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book
    ____________________________
    Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to  https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast and https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find every single episode.
     
    Subscribe today to get my love letter to you! This biweekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com
     
    For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube
     
    Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop
     
    A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop
     
    Say hello on social:
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving
    LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving
    YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube

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    • 38 min

Customer Reviews

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372 Ratings

372 Ratings

Fonshea ,

Valuable information!!

I wish I could rate more than five stars! I’ve only listened to 3 podcast so far & I already love Abby!!! The podcast I listened to really explained a lot of my haunting behaviors!!! It’s one thing to have good, valuable information on hand, but when it’s also backed up by research & a licensed professional..it makes it even better! Abby, you are truly a kind soul to offer such valuable advice free of charge! (Don’t start charging btw lol ) & I pray that you are blessed with longevity & happiness! Much love ❤️

mego9333 ,

Love listening!!

I’ve been listening to you for months now and just now I am getting to a review. Really the only podcast I listen to. Love what you’re doing and all your free downloads and weekly love letter. Can’t say any more great things about it I just really appreciate what Abby does. Thank you!

Hallowsboys ,

Bad A Real and Raw!!!

Every time I listen to this podcast, I walk away with so much knowledge even though I have been doing self improvement work for over 30 years. You never cease to give me another little gem, keep it up you’re amazing!!!!

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