Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

Barb Nangle
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Tired of feeling fragmented and overwhelmed? Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12-Step Recovery is your guide to creating a life of wholeness, authenticity, and healthy boundaries. Join Barb Nangle, a boundaries  coach and speaker, as she shares raw and honest insights from her own journey and the principles of 12-step recovery. Discover how to set boundaries without guilt or shame, overcome people-pleasing tendencies, manage your emotions effectively, cultivate a stronger sense of self, and build healthier relationships. Barb's approach is raw, honest, and sometimes a little bit (okay, a lot) sweary.   Barb doesn't speak for or endorse any particular 12 step program of recovery. Though she's a huge fan of 12 step recovery, and a member of two 12 step fellowships, she cannot speak for them. If you're ready for real talk and practical tools for transformation, tune in! To learn more about Barb, go to https://higherpowercc.com/

  1. 3d ago

    What My Coaching Clients Taught Me About Internal Safety | Episode 353

    Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode 353 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing some of the biggest insights that emerged after analyzing 12 different coaching sessions with clients struggling with boundaries, self-care, guilt, resentment, and emotional overwhelm. What became clear is that most people do not actually need more information about boundaries. Many already know what healthy boundaries are intellectually. The deeper struggle is what happens internally when boundaries become emotionally real. I also share an important recovery resource called Survivors of Incest Anonymous (SIA) and why it’s so important that more people know this fellowship exists. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include: Why the real issue is often not boundary-setting, but staying connected to yourself during emotional discomfortHow people override their own needs, limits, and truth the moment guilt, anxiety, or tension appearThe difference between discomfort and actual dangerWhy over-giving and people-pleasing are often attempts to create emotional safetyWhat internal safety really means and why it’s one of the deepest forms of self-careThis episode explores how many people are not reacting to actual events, but to anticipated guilt, rejection, disappointment, or conflict. And how learning to tolerate emotional discomfort without abandoning yourself changes everything. Because real self-care is not about perfection, productivity, or keeping everyone happy. It’s about learning how to stay emotionally anchored in yourself when discomfort appears instead of automatically overriding your own feelings, needs, and limits. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole Podcast Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: Boundaries Drain Quiz CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb!  Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session

    19 min

  2. May 18

    Burnout, Compassion Fatigue, and Why Self-Care Is a Professional Responsibility | Episode 352

    Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode 352 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about burnout, compassion fatigue, and the deeper reason so many people struggle to consistently care for themselves—even when they know how important self-care is. This episode was inspired by a conversation I saw online about self-care in the helping professions, but the truth is, this applies far beyond therapists, coaches, or healthcare workers. If you’re responsible for other people in any capacity, your internal state matters. Your nervous system matters. And your ability to stay connected to yourself matters. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include: Why self-care is not optional, but a professional responsibilityThe difference between burnout and compassion fatigueHow burnout can be intensified by weak boundaries and chronic over-functioningWhy many people know self-care matters but still struggle to follow through on itThe role internal boundaries play in staying present with others without absorbing their painI also share personal experiences from my early internship work before recovery and compare that to the way I’m able to hold space for people today through the lens of recovery and boundaries work. This episode is a reminder that the issue is not simply knowing what to do. The deeper work is learning how to stay with yourself when guilt, anxiety, urgency, or discomfort show up the moment you try to take care of yourself. Because that’s what ultimately protects you from burnout, compassion fatigue, and the ongoing pattern of overriding yourself. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole Podcast Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: Boundaries Drain Quiz CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb!  Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session

    13 min

  3. May 11

    How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in the Name of Success and Goals | Episode 351

    Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode 351 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about a form of self-abandonment that many high-achieving people don’t recognize because it’s often disguised as ambition, productivity, or “doing it for yourself.” This episode explores the difference between genuinely caring for yourself and organizing your entire life around a future version of you while neglecting the person you are right now. I share a conversation with someone pursuing a long-held dream and the important realization that even meaningful goals can become harmful when they’re built on constant urgency, exhaustion, and disconnection from yourself. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include: Why a future goal is not self-care if it’s built on present-day self-abandonmentThe hidden ways self-abandonment shows up through urgency, over-functioning, and postponing your needsWhy “I’ll take care of myself later” keeps people disconnected from themselves in the presentHow internal boundaries help you stay connected to yourself during stressful or messy seasons of lifeA simple daily question that helps you begin including yourself again: “What do I need right now?”This episode is a reminder that self-care is not just about the outcome you’re working toward. It’s about the way you treat yourself along the way. Because you cannot build a life that feels good later if you are abandoning yourself now. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole Podcast Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: Boundaries Drain Quiz CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb!  Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session

    10 min
  4. Letting Go and Letting God: The Long Walk from Pleasing Others to Purpose with Guest Art Blanchford | Episode 350

    May 4

    Letting Go and Letting God: The Long Walk from Pleasing Others to Purpose with Guest Art Blanchford | Episode 350

    Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode 350 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m joined by guest Art Blanchford to explore the journey from workaholism and people-pleasing into recovery, purpose, and spiritual alignment. Art shares his experience as a high-achieving corporate executive who spent decades in constant motion—running multi-billion dollar companies and staying in a cycle of overwork. When the pandemic forced everything to stop, it exposed what was really going on underneath. Through Workaholics Anonymous, he began learning how to let go of control and reconnect with himself. Some of the talking points we go over in this episode include: How workaholism can be socially rewarded while quietly disconnecting you from yourselfWhat happens when constant busyness stops and you’re left with what’s underneathWhat recovery in Workaholics Anonymous looks like and why many people don’t recognize this patternThe shift from people-pleasing into a life guided by purpose and spiritualityWhat it really means to “let go and let God” in a practical wayThis conversation is a reminder that recovery isn’t just about changing behavior—it’s about reconnecting to yourself and creating a life that feels aligned instead of driven. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/ CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb!  Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session

    50 min
  5. How to Overcome Guilt and Handle Pushback When Setting Boundaries | Episode 349

    Apr 27

    How to Overcome Guilt and Handle Pushback When Setting Boundaries | Episode 349

    Send us Fan Mail In this week's episode 349 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m zooming out on everything we’ve covered about time and energy boundaries to talk about the hardest part of all: the guilt you feel and the reactions you get when you start changing your patterns. Because boundaries aren’t really about managing your life—they’re about whether you stay with yourself or abandon yourself. In this episode, I walk you through what actually happens before, during, and after you set a boundary, and how to support yourself through the discomfort that comes with it. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include: Why the hardest part of boundaries isn’t setting them—it’s managing the emotional discomfort before and after.How guilt doesn’t mean you’ve done something wrong, but that you’re breaking an old pattern.Why anchoring your boundaries in your values makes it easier to stay firm without second-guessing yourself.How to understand pushback from others without taking it as evidence that you did something wrong.The shift from trying to control others to focusing on what you will and won’t do.One of the most important shifts in this episode is this: Other people’s reactions are not evidence that you’ve done something wrong—they’re simply evidence that something has changed. As you begin to stay with yourself through discomfort, guilt, and pushback, something powerful starts to happen. You build trust with yourself. And over time, boundaries stop being something you have to think about—and become something you live. Boundaries don’t create problems. They reveal them. And that clarity is what allows real change to happen. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/ CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb!  Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session

    15 min

  6. Apr 20

    How to Stop Tolerating What Drains You and Reclaim Your Time and Energy | Episode 348

    Send us Fan Mail In this week's episode 348 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about one of the biggest hidden drains on your time and energy—and something most people don’t even realize is happening. It’s not over-scheduling. It’s not poor time management. It’s what you’re tolerating. In this episode, I walk you through how the small things you ignore, justify, or “put up with” are quietly draining your energy—and how shifting out of that pattern changes everything. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include: • Why resentment is a powerful signal that something in your life needs a boundary.  • How tolerating things that don’t feel right creates a constant, invisible drain on your energy.  • The stories we tell ourselves to justify staying in situations that don’t serve us.  • Why tolerating something is actually a form of self-abandonment, not “being nice.”  • How asking “What am I tolerating?” can be more powerful than trying to manage your time better. One of the most important truths in this episode is this:  If something is consistently draining you and it’s still happening, you are participating in it—and that’s where your power is. When you shift from overriding yourself to being in relationship with yourself, you stop tolerating what doesn’t align with you. And that’s when boundaries stop being something you set—and become something you have. You don’t have to overhaul your entire life. Start with one thing. Get honest about what you’re tolerating, the story you’re telling yourself, and what’s actually true. Because when you stop tolerating what drains you, you don’t just get your time back—you get your energy, your presence, and yourself back. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/ CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb!  Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session

    13 min

  7. Apr 13

    How I Stopped Giving My Time Away and Took My Life Back | Episode 347

    Send us Fan Mail In this week's episode 347 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm sharing a very real and practical look at time boundaries, what they actually look like in daily life, and how they changed everything for me. Before recovery, I thought my issue was time management. But the truth was much deeper: I didn’t have boundaries around my time. That meant my time was constantly available to others, and I was unintentionally abandoning myself. In this episode, I walk you through the specific shifts I made to stop giving my time away and start living more intentionally. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include: • Why time management isn’t the real issue—lack of boundaries is what leaves your time open for others to take. • How small changes like turning off notifications and choosing when to respond helped reclaim control over time and energy. • The shift from reactive living to intentional scheduling through time blocking and focused work. • How training your brain to stay present (instead of constantly switching tasks) creates more productivity and less overwhelm. • Why protecting time for relationships, rest, and leisure is essential—and not something you need to earn. One of the biggest shifts I share in this episode is this: When you stop treating other people’s access to you as more important than your relationship with yourself, everything changes. You begin to assign your time on purpose instead of reacting to whatever comes your way. And over time, that creates more clarity, more peace, and a deeper sense of ownership over your life. If you’re constantly feeling like there’s never enough time, it may not actually be a time problem. It may be that your time isn’t protected. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/ CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb!  Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session

    13 min

  8. Apr 6

    How Time and Energy Boundaries Help You Start Where You Actually Are | Episode 346

    Send us Fan Mail In this week's episode 346 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing a deeply personal experience that reshaped how I think about time and energy boundaries. After a period of illness, I noticed something unexpected: my capacity had changed, but my expectations hadn’t. In this episode, I explore how misaligned expectations can quietly create resistance, frustration, and self-judgment—and how boundaries with your own time and energy help you reconnect with where you actually are. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include: • Why time and energy boundaries are deeply connected, and how they impact what drains or fuels you. • How outdated expectations can create internal pressure when your capacity has shifted. • Why resistance is often your system protecting you, not a sign of laziness or lack of discipline. • How your body adapts after illness, burnout, or depletion by conserving energy and avoiding overload. • The shift from intensity to consistency as a way to rebuild trust with yourself. A key takeaway from this episode is learning to respect your current capacity instead of demanding your past capacity from yourself. When you align your expectations with where you actually are, you create internal safety and make sustainable progress possible. You don’t have to force yourself back into an old version of who you were. You can build a new relationship with your time, your energy, and your life—starting exactly where you are today. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/ CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb!  Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session

    13 min
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Tired of feeling fragmented and overwhelmed? Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12-Step Recovery is your guide to creating a life of wholeness, authenticity, and healthy boundaries. Join Barb Nangle, a boundaries  coach and speaker, as she shares raw and honest insights from her own journey and the principles of 12-step recovery. Discover how to set boundaries without guilt or shame, overcome people-pleasing tendencies, manage your emotions effectively, cultivate a stronger sense of self, and build healthier relationships. Barb's approach is raw, honest, and sometimes a little bit (okay, a lot) sweary.   Barb doesn't speak for or endorse any particular 12 step program of recovery. Though she's a huge fan of 12 step recovery, and a member of two 12 step fellowships, she cannot speak for them. If you're ready for real talk and practical tools for transformation, tune in! To learn more about Barb, go to https://higherpowercc.com/

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