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Sophia Spallino

Lesbian dating advice and love stories brought to you by the Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaker, Sophia Spallino. 💎 Platinum Private Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaking – For the woman who wants her Future Wife® delivered on a silver platter. https://queercountryclub.com/private-lesbian-matchmaking-service ✨The Luxury Lesbian™ Experience – Exclusive in-person gatherings for single queer women… https://queercountryclub.com/single-lesbian-events-access ❤️ The Queer Country Club® – Our dating platform for monogamous WLW missing just one thing… their Future Wife®. https://queercountryclub.com

  1. Signs She Was "THE ONE" with Kristen Merlin - WLW Who Love Jesus

    22h ago

    Signs She Was "THE ONE" with Kristen Merlin - WLW Who Love Jesus

    Ways to work with The Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaker, Sophia Spallino: 💎Platinum Private Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaking – For the woman who wants her Future Wife® delivered on a silver platter, I do all the screening so you can focus on falling in love.Explore Private Matchmaking: https://queercountryclub.com/private-lesbian-matchmaking-service  ✨The Luxury Lesbian™ Event Experience – Invitation-only, in-person gatherings for extraordinary single queer women… thoughtfully curated to spark chemistry and meaningful connection. Request access:https://queercountryclub.com/single-lesbian-events-access  ❤️The Queer Country Club® – Our premier dating platform for monogamous queer women who are living amazing lives, but missing just one thing… their Future Partner®.   Apply to Join QCC: https://queercountryclub.com   🌈 Private Rising Coaching Session – If you're unsure of your next step but know in your gut you're ready to call in love, deepen self-trust, or design a life you’re proud of, I’m here to guide you.Reserve A Private Coaching Session: https://sophiaspallino.com/private-coaching  💬Got Qs? DM on Instagram → @sophiaspallino https://instagram.com/sophiaspallino 🔺Get Wisp Kitty Care 🐱 Proud Partner https://bit.ly/sophiawisp 📲 Connect with Kristen Merlin Follow Kristen Merlin on Instagram: Kristen Merlin (@kristenmerlin) • Instagram profileVisit her website: www.KristenMerlin.com Save Kristen’s Music on Spotify: Kristen Merlin Stream Kristen’s Music on Apple Music: Kristen Merlin on Apple Music Shop Kristen and her wife’s QUEER (beyond the stereotype of rainbows) black and white apparel: www.beyondthernbw.com Sophia’s GOD LOVES US GAY Doc: God Loves Us Gay and All Kristen’s favorite quantum leap meditation: Guided Meditation Quantum Jumping Into Ideal Health   In this episode of Queer Women Rising, Sophia Spallino sits down with musician and creative Kristen Merlin for a deeply honest conversation about love that doesn’t follow the rules. Kristen shares what it was really like to fall for the straight girl, how that experience reshaped her understanding of desire, identity, and timing, and why some connections ask us to grow before they can fully meet us. Together, Sophia and Kristen explore the often unspoken tension between faith and queerness, and what it looks like to reconcile spirituality with a lesbian or wlw relationship without abandoning yourself in the process. They also dive into the work that happens before high value love arrives. From emotional readiness to discernment, Kristen opens up about how she prepared herself for an intentional partnership and the subtle signs that told her this woman was the one. This episode is a reflection on reinvention, courage, and choosing joy on purpose…plus what it really takes to support each other as queer entrepreneurs and creatives while building a life together. If you’ve ever loved unexpectedly, questioned your beliefs, or wondered how to recognize aligned love when it shows up…this conversation is for you. IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVER What it’s like to fall for the straight girl as a lesbian Reconciling faith and queerness in a wlw relationship Preparing yourself for a high value woman before she arrives The signs that tell you she’s the one Character traits on a Future Wife® Wishlist Supporting each other as queer entrepreneurs and creatives Reinvention, courage, and choosing joy on purpose

    55 min
  2. Signs She Was "THE ONE" with Kristen Merlin - WLW Who Love Jesus

    May 4

    Signs She Was "THE ONE" with Kristen Merlin - WLW Who Love Jesus

    Ways to work with The Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaker, Sophia Spallino: 💎Platinum Private Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaking – For the woman who wants her Future Wife® delivered on a silver platter, I do all the screening so you can focus on falling in love.Explore Private Matchmaking: https://queercountryclub.com/private-lesbian-matchmaking-service  ✨The Luxury Lesbian™ Event Experience – Invitation-only, in-person gatherings for extraordinary single queer women… thoughtfully curated to spark chemistry and meaningful connection. Request access:https://queercountryclub.com/single-lesbian-events-access  ❤️The Queer Country Club® – Our premier dating platform for monogamous queer women who are living amazing lives, but missing just one thing… their Future Partner®.   Apply to Join QCC: https://queercountryclub.com   🌈 Private Rising Coaching Session – If you're unsure of your next step but know in your gut you're ready to call in love, deepen self-trust, or design a life you’re proud of, I’m here to guide you.Reserve A Private Coaching Session: https://sophiaspallino.com/private-coaching  💬Got Qs? DM on Instagram → @sophiaspallino https://instagram.com/sophiaspallino 🔺Get Wisp Kitty Care 🐱 Proud Partner https://bit.ly/sophiawisp 📲 Connect with Kristen Merlin Follow Kristen Merlin on Instagram: Kristen Merlin (@kristenmerlin) • Instagram profileVisit her website: www.KristenMerlin.com Save Kristen’s Music on Spotify: Kristen Merlin Stream Kristen’s Music on Apple Music: Kristen Merlin on Apple Music Shop Kristen and her wife’s QUEER (beyond the stereotype of rainbows) black and white apparel: www.beyondthernbw.com Sophia’s GOD LOVES US GAY Doc: God Loves Us Gay and All Kristen’s favorite quantum leap meditation: Guided Meditation Quantum Jumping Into Ideal Health   In this episode of Queer Women Rising, Sophia Spallino sits down with musician and creative Kristen Merlin for a deeply honest conversation about love that doesn’t follow the rules. Kristen shares what it was really like to fall for the straight girl, how that experience reshaped her understanding of desire, identity, and timing, and why some connections ask us to grow before they can fully meet us. Together, Sophia and Kristen explore the often unspoken tension between faith and queerness, and what it looks like to reconcile spirituality with a lesbian or wlw relationship without abandoning yourself in the process. They also dive into the work that happens before high value love arrives. From emotional readiness to discernment, Kristen opens up about how she prepared herself for an intentional partnership and the subtle signs that told her this woman was the one. This episode is a reflection on reinvention, courage, and choosing joy on purpose…plus what it really takes to support each other as queer entrepreneurs and creatives while building a life together. If you’ve ever loved unexpectedly, questioned your beliefs, or wondered how to recognize aligned love when it shows up…this conversation is for you. IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVER What it’s like to fall for the straight girl as a lesbian Reconciling faith and queerness in a wlw relationship Preparing yourself for a high value woman before she arrives The signs that tell you she’s the one Character traits on a Future Wife® Wishlist Supporting each other as queer entrepreneurs and creatives Reinvention, courage, and choosing joy on purpose

    55 min
  3. "Our Meet Cute Story" with Erin Brown - Healthy Lesbian Love Storytime

    Apr 6

    "Our Meet Cute Story" with Erin Brown - Healthy Lesbian Love Storytime

    Ways to work with The Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaker, Sophia Spallino: 💎Platinum Private Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaking – For the woman who wants her Future Wife® delivered on a silver platter, I do all the screening so you can focus on falling in love.Explore Private Matchmaking: https://queercountryclub.com/private-lesbian-matchmaking-service  ✨The Luxury Lesbian™ Event Experience – Invitation-only, in-person gatherings for extraordinary single queer women… thoughtfully curated to spark chemistry and meaningful connection. Request access:https://queercountryclub.com/single-lesbian-events-access  ❤️The Queer Country Club® – Our premier dating platform for monogamous queer women who are living amazing lives, but missing just one thing… their Future Partner®.   Apply to Join QCC: https://queercountryclub.com   🌈 Private Rising Coaching Session – If you're unsure of your next step but know in your gut you're ready to call in love, deepen self-trust, or design a life you’re proud of, I’m here to guide you.Reserve A Private Coaching Session: https://sophiaspallino.com/private-coaching  💬Got Qs? DM on Instagram → @sophiaspallino https://instagram.com/sophiaspallino 🔺Get Wisp Kitty Care 🐱 Proud Partner https://bit.ly/sophiawisp 📲 Connect with my guest, Erin Brown.Follow Erin Brown on Instagram: Erin Brown 🏳️‍🌈 (@iamerinbrown) • Instagram profile   Sharing a Lesbian Meet-Cute, Healthy Conflict, and Life as Two Neurospicy Wives with Erin Brown In this episode, we sit down with Erin Brown, a lesbian podcaster, author, and unapologetic smart mouth who is building the kind of representation she never saw growing up. Erin is the host of Lesbian Peep Show, where queer culture, humor, truth, and edge collide. Her voice is bold, layered, and deeply grounded in lived experience. And today, she brings all of that energy to the mic. We talk about her wife and their lesbian meet-cute, how they navigate healthy conflict without blowing up the relationship, and what it actually looks like to get needs met when two neurospicy wives are building a life together. This conversation goes beyond surface-level love stories and into the real mechanics of partnership, communication, and emotional safety. Erin opens up about the non negotiables she developed through lived experience, the moments that confirmed her wife was the one, and how being queer creators together shapes their relationship and their work. This episode is raw, funny, affirming, and deeply resonant for lesbians who want real partnership, not fantasy. If you are a lesbian looking for representation that feels honest, intelligent, and unapologetic… this one is for you. Erin’s lesbian meet-cute and how she met her wife How healthy conflict actually works in long-term lesbian relationships What two neurospicy wives need to feel safe, seen, and supported Non negotiables in queer relationships and why they matter Life as queer creators and building a relationship alongside public work Becoming the representation you never had growing up Love, humor, and fire behind Erin’s voice and storytelling Erin Brown is a lesbian podcaster, author of multiple books, and the host of the Lesbian Peep Show podcast. Known for her sharp wit, honest storytelling, and refusal to water herself down, Erin creates content that reflects the depth, humor, and complexity of queer life. She is passionate about representation, healthy partnership, and telling the stories queer women deserve to hear.

    1h 10m
  4. The "Healing Era Excuse" With Natalie Cass Kelley

    Mar 9

    The "Healing Era Excuse" With Natalie Cass Kelley

    Ways to work with The Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaker, Sophia Spallino: 💎Platinum Private Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaking – For the woman who wants her Future Wife® delivered on a silver platter, I do all the screening so you can focus on falling in love.Explore Private Matchmaking: https://queercountryclub.com/private-lesbian-matchmaking-service  ✨The Luxury Lesbian™ Event Experience – Invitation-only, in-person gatherings for extraordinary single queer women… thoughtfully curated to spark chemistry and meaningful connection. Request access:https://queercountryclub.com/single-lesbian-events-access  ❤️The Queer Country Club® – Our premier dating platform for monogamous queer women who are living amazing lives, but missing just one thing… their Future Partner®.   Apply to Join QCC: https://queercountryclub.com   🌈 Private Rising Coaching Session – If you're unsure of your next step but know in your gut you're ready to call in love, deepen self-trust, or design a life you’re proud of, I’m here to guide you.Reserve A Private Coaching Session: https://sophiaspallino.com/private-coaching  💬Got Qs? DM on Instagram → @sophiaspallino https://instagram.com/sophiaspallino 🔺Get Wisp Kitty Care 🐱 Proud Partner https://bit.ly/sophiawisp 📲 Connect with my guest, Natalie Cass Kelley. Follow Natalie on TikTok:Natalie Cass 🍊🌈⭐️ on TikTok Follow Natalie on Instagram:Watch this story by Natalie Cass 💌 on Instagram before it disappears. Work with Natalie: 1:1 mentorship calls:1:1 Content Mentorship Call with Nat📱🧚 In this episode of Queer Women Rising, we dive into femme representation, late-blooming lesbian identity, and the truth behind the so-called healing era that so many lesbians hide behind when dating feels vulnerable. Natalie Cass Kelley joins us for a grounded, honest conversation about coming out later in life, building a healthy partnership after years in the closet, and what it actually looks like to stop postponing love while waiting for your wife. This episode is for lesbians who are tired of over-explaining their readiness, done confusing healing with avoidance, and ready to choose connection without self-betrayal. We unpack how some lesbians use the healing era as a socially acceptable reason not to date… when the real truth is simpler. It is okay to say you are not interested. It is okay to wait for your wife. What is not okay is abandoning desire under the guise of self-work. Natalie takes us back to 2021… the moment she came out publicly after spending 25 years closeted. We explore what shifted internally, what cracked open emotionally, and why visibility became a turning point rather than a performance. From first contact to felt safety, Natalie shares how she and Cait crossed paths and why their connection stood apart from anything she had experienced before. This is a conversation about nervous system regulation, not sparks and chaos. We talk about the non-negotiables that actually matter after coming out later in life… emotional consistency, communication, self-responsibility, and the ability to grow together without power struggles. Natalie shares how stepping fully into life as a queer creator forced a reckoning with work, visibility, and self-respect. We talk about work life balance as a lesbian creator, setting boundaries with audience access, and why overworking is often disguised as purpose. This part of the conversation explores how protecting your energy is not laziness…it is what allows love, creativity, and partnership to actually thrive. ✨ Episode HighlightsHealing: Era vs. Honesty in Lesbian Dating. Coming Out Online After 25 Years in the Closet. Meeting Cait and Recognizing a Different Kind of Love. Relationship Non-Negotiables for Healthy Lesbian Partnerships. From Queer Creator to Boundaried Woman

    1 hr
  5. Feb 14

    7 Biggest Lies in Lesbian Dating: What You NEED To Know Before You Invest Your Heart

    Ways to work with The Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaker, Sophia Spallino: 💎Platinum Private Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaking – For the woman who wants her Future Wife® delivered on a silver platter, I do all the screening so you can focus on falling in love.Explore Private Matchmaking: https://queercountryclub.com/private-lesbian-matchmaking-service  ✨The Luxury Lesbian™ Event Experience – Invitation-only, in-person gatherings for extraordinary single queer women… thoughtfully curated to spark chemistry and meaningful connection. Request access:https://queercountryclub.com/single-lesbian-events-access  ❤️The Queer Country Club® – Our premier dating platform for monogamous queer women who are living amazing lives, but missing just one thing… their Future Partner®.   Apply to Join QCC: https://queercountryclub.com   🌈 Private Rising Coaching Session – If you're unsure of your next step but know in your gut you're ready to call in love, deepen self-trust, or design a life you’re proud of, I’m here to guide you.Reserve A Private Coaching Session: https://sophiaspallino.com/private-coaching  💬Got Qs? DM on Instagram → @sophiaspallino https://instagram.com/sophiaspallino 🔺Get Wisp Kitty Care 🐱 Proud Partner https://bit.ly/sophiawisp Lesbian dating can be intense, deep, and passionate… but if you’re not careful, you can accidentally gaslight yourself into staying in a connection that isn’t honest or aligned. In this solo episode, we’re breaking down the 7 biggest lies in lesbian dating — the subtle forms of emotional manipulation in lesbian relationships… the unspoken truth about trust issues in lesbian dating… and the red flags that queer women often overlook because we want to believe the best in someone. If you’ve ever wondered why lesbians lie in relationships… why some queer women say they’re over their ex when they aren’t… or how to spot a lying partner before you get attached… this episode is going to change the way you date forever. You’ll learn:– signs she isn’t actually over her ex– indicators she’s NOT ready for a serious relationship– how closeted dating dynamics lead to resentment– why “I’m fine” is one of the most dangerous lies in lesbian relationships This is a must-listen for queer women who want emotionally mature, honest, monogamous love.

    20 min
  6. Future Wife® Goals & Building Wealth with Haley Kowalewski

    Feb 3

    Future Wife® Goals & Building Wealth with Haley Kowalewski

    Ways to work with The Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaker, Sophia Spallino: 💎Platinum Private Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaking – For the woman who wants her Future Wife® delivered on a silver platter, I do all the screening so you can focus on falling in love.Explore Private Matchmaking: https://queercountryclub.com/private-lesbian-matchmaking-service  ✨The Luxury Lesbian™ Event Experience – Invitation-only, in-person gatherings for extraordinary single queer women… thoughtfully curated to spark chemistry and meaningful connection. Request access:https://queercountryclub.com/single-lesbian-events-access  ❤️The Queer Country Club® – Our premier dating platform for monogamous queer women who are living amazing lives, but missing just one thing… their Future Partner®.   Apply to Join QCC: https://queercountryclub.com   🌈 Private Rising Coaching Session – If you're unsure of your next step but know in your gut you're ready to call in love, deepen self-trust, or design a life you’re proud of, I’m here to guide you.Reserve A Private Coaching Session: https://sophiaspallino.com/private-coaching  💬Got Qs? DM on Instagram → @sophiaspallino https://instagram.com/sophiaspallino 🔺Get Wisp Kitty Care 🐱 Proud Partner https://bit.ly/sophiawisp 🏳️‍🌈Queer women, have you ever noticed how money can make or break the peace in your relationship? This week on Queer Women Rising®, host Sophia Spallino sits down with Haley Kowalewski, the powerhouse behind Femme Financial Coaching, to talk about what it really costs to be queer… financially, emotionally, and energetically. From splitting bills and navigating healthcare to building wealth as a couple, Sophia and Haley explore how financial values shape the kind of love we create. They share stories from real clients and personal experiences that reveal why talking about money can actually bring you closer when done right. Haley opens up about leaving corporate America in her twenties to start her own business helping women build wealth, confidence, and freedom. Together, she and Sophia unpack why money isn’t just a practical topic… It’s one of the most intimate conversations two partners can have. If you’ve ever wondered how to date with your financial values in mind, how to balance independence and intimacy, or what true abundance looks like in queer love, this episode will leave you feeling inspired to build both the love and the life you deserve. 📲 Connect with my guest, Haley Kowalewski.Follow Haley on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/femmefinancialcoaching/TikTok: @‌femme_financial

    1h 5m
  7. Jan 7

    Lesbian Dating After 50: How to Actually Meet Her in 2026

    Ways to work with The Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaker, Sophia Spallino: 💎Platinum Private Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaking – For the woman who wants her Future Wife® delivered on a silver platter, I do all the screening so you can focus on falling in love.Explore Private Matchmaking: https://queercountryclub.com/private-lesbian-matchmaking-service  ✨The Luxury Lesbian™ Event Experience – Invitation-only, in-person gatherings for extraordinary single queer women… thoughtfully curated to spark chemistry and meaningful connection. Request access: https://queercountryclub.com/single-lesbian-events-access  ❤️The Queer Country Club® – Our premier dating platform for monogamous queer women who are living amazing lives, but missing just one thing… their Future Partner®.   Apply to Join QCC: https://queercountryclub.com   🌈 Private Rising Coaching Session – If you're unsure of your next step but know in your gut you're ready to call in love, deepen self-trust, or design a life you’re proud of, I’m here to guide you.Reserve A Private Coaching Session: https://sophiaspallino.com/private-coaching  💬Got Qs? DM on Instagram → @sophiaspallino https://instagram.com/sophiaspallino 🔺Get Wisp Kitty Care 🐱 Proud Partner https://bit.ly/sophiawisp Lesbian Dating after 50…after 40…even after 30… can feel intimidating, especially when it seems like everyone else has already found their person. But here is the truth… you are NOT too late. In this powerful New Year episode, Sophia breaks down how lesbians over 50 can actually meet aligned, emotionally mature women in 2026... without hustling, without chasing, and without lowering your standards to avoid loneliness. We talk about the real landscape of lesbian dating over 50, the red flags most women miss, how to avoid situationships, why digital chemistry without real life action does not count, and how small yes decisions can change the entire trajectory of your love life. If you want monogamy, commitment, intentional partnership, and your Future Wife™… this episode gives you clarity and also the specific real world actions to take. Stay until the end for tangible homework that actually moves your love life forward… not just mindset inspiration. You will learn: The biggest red flags in dating for lesbians over 50 How to protect your heart and still stay open Why small yes decisions lead to real relationships How to stop feeling behind and start feeling powerful again How to attract women who are emotionally available in 2026 Love after 50 is not late. It is elevated.

    33 min
  8. 12/15/2025

    2 Lesbian Dating Red Flags You Can’t Ignore - Building Trust - Queer Women

    Ways to work with The Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaker, Sophia Spallino: 💎Platinum Private Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaking – For the woman who wants her Future Wife® delivered on a silver platter, I do all the screening so you can focus on falling in love.Explore Private Matchmaking: https://queercountryclub.com/private-lesbian-matchmaking-service  ✨Exclusive Luxury Lesbian™ Retreat at Canyon Ranch – A blissful weekend with an intimate group of extraordinary single queer women… curated to spoil your senses and reignite your belief in love and possibility. Join The Luxury Lesbian™ Getaway: https://queercountryclub.com/luxury-lesbian-retreat  ❤️The Queer Country Club® – Our premier dating platform for monogamous queer women who are living amazing lives, but missing just one thing… their Future Partner®.   Apply to Join QCC: https://queercountryclub.com   🌈 Private Rising Coaching Session – If you're unsure of your next step but know in your gut you're ready to call in love, deepen self-trust, or design a life you’re proud of, I’m here to guide you. Reserve A Private Coaching Session: https://sophiaspallino.com/private-coaching  💬Got Qs? DM on Instagram → @sophiaspallino https://instagram.com/sophiaspallino 🔺Get Wisp Kitty Care 🐱 Proud Partner https://bit.ly/sophiawisp In the world of lesbian dating, two of the biggest first date turn-offs aren’t about looks, chemistry, or conversation; they’re about inconsistency and lack of consideration. In this episode, Sophia Spallino (Founder of The Queer Country Club® and Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaking) unpacks why being late, canceling last minute, or rescheduling constantly isn’t just annoying…it’s destructive to building trust!!! You’ll hear: Why inconsistency feels like instability in a relationship How consideration in planning a date makes your partner feel special and valued Real-life examples of lesbian first date behaviors that send the wrong message Why trust is built on consistent small actions, not big gestures How queer women can set a standard of reliability in dating and partnership Whether you’re just stepping into the world of lesbian dating, or you’re ready to call in your Future Wife™, this episode will help you see why showing up on time and keeping your word is one of the sexiest things you can do.

    31 min

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Lesbian dating advice and love stories brought to you by the Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaker, Sophia Spallino. 💎 Platinum Private Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaking – For the woman who wants her Future Wife® delivered on a silver platter. https://queercountryclub.com/private-lesbian-matchmaking-service ✨The Luxury Lesbian™ Experience – Exclusive in-person gatherings for single queer women… https://queercountryclub.com/single-lesbian-events-access ❤️ The Queer Country Club® – Our dating platform for monogamous WLW missing just one thing… their Future Wife®. https://queercountryclub.com

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