Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur

Dr. Amen Kaur
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Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur The podcast for high-achievers who have lost themselves inside the life they built. You have achieved things most people only dream of. And somewhere along the way, you stopped recognising yourself in any of it. Not because something went wrong. Because you outgrew the version of you that started. Maybe it was a layoff. A career that ended. A role you walked away from. A life that no longer fits. Or the quiet realisation, in the middle of an ordinary Tuesday, that you don't know who you are anymore. Starting Over, Being You is the weekly podcast for women who have done all the work: the therapy, the coaching, the mindset, the books, and are still stuck. Not because they lack insight. Because the version of them that built the last chapter cannot author the next one. The one thing that cannot be automated, outsourced, or made redundant is you. The specific, irreplaceable way you operate, feel, think, lead, and make decisions. But only if you know who you are. Each week, Dr. Amen Kaur draws on the latest research in neuroscience, psychology, and human behaviour to answer the question underneath every other question: Who am I now, and what do I build from here? This is not personal development. This is identity work. It is precise, evidence-based, and built for the woman intelligent enough to know that becoming herself requires more than a new strategy. It requires a return to the self who was there before she learned to perform. If you are navigating a career transition, a layoff, a life that no longer fits, or the quiet knowing that successful and alive are not the same thing, this show was made for you. Because the woman you are becoming is not someone new. She is who you were before you learned to perform. This podcast is how you come home to her. New episodes every Wednesday. Hosted by Dr. Amen Kaur: PhD, former Partner at a FTSE 250 company in business growth, and founder of the Human Intelligence Framework. She works with women who have outgrown the version of themselves that got them here. Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework. A walkthrough of the framework so you can lead, decide, and build from a self that is actually yours. Watch free: amenkaur.com/masterclass Follow Dr. Amen Kaur: Instagram @dramenkaur · YouTube @dramenkaur · TikTok @dramenkaur Topics covered: I've lost myself, who am I now, lost my identity, feeling lost in midlife, starting over after 40, high-achieving women, career transition, high functioning burnout, identity after job loss, capable but stuck, return not reinvention, coming home to yourself, Human Intelligence Framework, Dr. Amen Kaur. Educational content only. Not a substitute for professional therapeutic, medical, or financial advice.

  1. 3d ago

    How to Stop Overthinking and Start Creating

    For masterclass clink here Do you keep overthinking every idea, studying what everyone else is doing, and still find you can't start the thing you know you're meant to create? In this episode, we're breaking down why overthinking is exactly what's keeping your creativity stuck. If you're capable, driven, and full of ideas that never make it into the world, the problem isn't your discipline and it isn't a lack of originality. There are three layers of noise sitting between you and the part of you that already knows what to do, and each one has a name, science behind it, and a way through. I'm walking you through the Three Layers of Noise: why your nervous system filters every thought before you get to have it, why unfelt emotion jams the signal your intuition is trying to send, and why the voice in your head is a storyteller, not a reporter. You'll hear how Rick Rubin and Albert Einstein both described the same order of creation, and what the research on insight says about where ideas actually come from. In this episode, you will discover: Why comparison can only ever produce a copy, and what that's costing you. Layer 1: The Body. Why you can't out-think a stressed nervous system. Layer 2: The Emotional Static. Why the answer is arriving but can't get through. Layer 3: The Thought Stream. Why grinding at your desk produces nothing while ideas arrive in the shower. The order the research confirms: the idea comes first, the strategy comes second. The question that replaces "what's wrong with me." Research and books referenced: Amy Arnsten (Yale) on stress and the prefrontal cortex. Lisa Feldman Barrett on constructed emotion and interoception. Sarah Garfinkel and Hugo Critchley on interoception. John Kounios and Mark Beeman on the neuroscience of insight. Roger Beaty on the default mode network and creativity. Albert Einstein's account of his own thinking, from Jacques Hadamard, The Psychology of Invention in the Mathematical Field (1945). Rick Rubin, The Creative Act: A Way of Being. Free Masterclass: https://www.amenkaur.com/masterclass If you want to go deeper and align the systems underneath your creativity in the right order, join my free masterclass here Join the Conversation: Which of the three layers of noise is loudest for you right now? Drop a comment below. I read every single one, and they help me decide what to cover next. Sending you so much love, Dr. Amen Kaur #creativity #overthinking #intuition #creativeblock #startingover #beingyou Keywords: self-discovery, personal growth, creativity, emotional intelligence, innovative thinking, overcoming fear, entrepreneurship, spiritual awakening, finding purpose, mental health awareness, navigating anxiety, unique talents, expressing creativity, building confidence, overcoming obstacles, mind-body connection, emotional healing, intuitive guidance, self-acceptance, developing resilience

  2. Jul 22

    The 8% Battery Rule: Fix Your Nervous System Shutdown

    Ready to go deeper? Join the free masterclass and learn the full 5-stage framework: https://www.amenkaur.com/masterclass Ever feel like you're moving through molasses, giving maximum effort for minimal output? This episode unpacks the 8% Battery Rule, a simple way to understand why high-achievers hit sudden walls of exhaustion, and the exact signals your nervous system sends before, during, and after a shutdown. In this episode: Why cortisol isn't the villain it's made out to be, and what its natural daily rhythm should look like. How a "flat" stress curve is actually a sign of chronic overload, not calm. Why your recovery speed after a hard day is a better resilience signal than how you feel in the moment. The hidden cost of suppressing grief, anger, and shame while you're "too busy" to feel them. A simple weekly practice for identifying what's quietly draining your energy. Who this is for: high-achievers, entrepreneurs, and high-functioning professionals who keep pushing through exhaustion and want the biological reason their body keeps shutting down, plus a practical way to reverse it. Frequently asked questions: What is the 8% Battery Rule? It describes the tipping point where the nervous system shifts from functioning under pressure into a protective shutdown, often mistaken for laziness or burnout. Why do high-achievers experience sudden shutdowns? They tend to override early stress signals to keep performing, which pushes the body into functional freeze instead of allowing normal recovery. How do I know if my nervous system is recovering? Faster bounce-back time after a hard day is one of the clearest signs your range and resilience are returning. The science behind this episode This episode is science-led. Here are the studies behind each claim, in the order they come up. On the cortisol curve flattening under chronic stress: Adam, E. K., Quinn, M. E., Tavernier, R., McQuillan, M. T., Dahlke, K. A., & Gilbert, K. E. (2017). Diurnal cortisol slopes and mental and physical health outcomes: A systematic review and meta-analysis. Psychoneuroendocrinology, 83, 25–41. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.psyneuen.2017.05.018 On stress shifting the brain from its slower regulating systems to faster threat-driven ones: Arnsten, A. F. T. (2009). Stress signalling pathways that impair prefrontal cortex structure and function. Nature Reviews Neuroscience, 10(6), 410–422. https://doi.org/10.1038/nrn2648 On why the stress response keeps running as long as you keep thinking about the stressor (the "open tabs"): Brosschot, J. F., Gerin, W., & Thayer, J. F. (2006). The perseverative cognition hypothesis: A review of worry, prolonged stress-related physiological activation, and health. Journal of Psychosomatic Research, 60(2), 113–124. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jpsychores.2005.06.074 On allostatic load — the cumulative cost carried across the body's systems: McEwen, B. S. (1998). Protective and damaging effects of stress mediators. New England Journal of Medicine, 338(3), 171–179. https://doi.org/10.1056/NEJM199801153380307 A note on the science: These findings describe patterns across large groups of people, not a diagnosis of any individual. The associations are real and consistent, but they're modest in size — which is exactly why nothing in this episode can tell you what's happening in your own body. If you're worried about your symptoms, please see your doctor. Keywords: functional freeze, nervous system shutdown, high functioning anxiety, burnout recovery, why am i so tired, chronic stress, nervous system regulation, cortisol, emotional exhaustion, high achieving women, cant start things, task paralysis, freeze response, allostatic load, HRV, rest and recovery, overwhelm, stress and the body

  3. Jul 15

    The neuroscience of why you dream big but do nothing (& how to fix it)

    Free Masterclass You can see the life you want so clearly. The confident version of you, doing the work that actually matters. And then you don't move. Most videos will tell you that's your amygdala, or a dopamine hit, or a lack of discipline. They're wrong, and in this episode I'll show you what's actually happening in your brain when you sit down to begin. I spent twenty years in corporate and made partner at a FTSE 250 before becoming a coach, and the question I could never let go of was why capable people, people with every resource and every reason to move, still don't. This is the answer. We look at the real neuroscience of the vision-to-action gap, including Dr. Tim Pychyl's twenty years of research showing procrastination is an emotion problem, not a time management one, Dr. Piers Steel's motivation equation, and the research most people get wrong about dopamine and desire. Then I give you the one thing that actually closes the gap. Not more motivation. The next right action, small enough that being wrong about it costs you nothing. Because clarity is not the thing you need before you move. Clarity is what moving produces. If you can see it and you haven't started, this one is for you. Free guide, the identity gap and the disciplined mind training: https://www.amenkaur.com/about Studies referenced: Pychyl and Sirois on procrastination and emotion regulation. Steel's temporal motivation theory. Salamone and Correa on dopamine and effort. Oettingen on positive fantasy. Bandura on self-efficacy and mastery. neuroscience and procrastination, emotional management, overcoming procrastination, identity gap, fear and self-doubt, action and clarity, small steps towards goals, vision and action, achieving your dreams, self-help and motivation, managing emotions, understanding procrastination, personal development, achieving goals with neuroscience, productivity strategies, self-improvement techniques, visioning with action, emotional intelligence, mindset and success, motivation and behavior change

  4. Jul 8

    The Real Reason You're Stuck Starting Over (5 Steps That Work)

    Why do you feel so stuck, tired, and behind when you try to start over? Because the problem usually is not that you are behind, and it is not that you are not working hard enough. It is that your nervous system is stuck in survival, and you cannot design a new life from there. In this episode, Dr Amen Kaur walks through five steps to get unstuck and start over, whether that means a career change, a higher-paid job, or finally starting a business, grounded in the neuroscience of stress and a grounded, tradition-based approach to spirituality. This is not motivation or magical thinking. It is what actually moves you from surviving to creating. In this episode you will learn: Why you are not behind, you are early, and how AI is levelling the field for people starting overWhy fear and fatigue, not laziness, are what really hold you back, and the brain science behind itHow to get unstuck so your ideas finally turn into actionThe one question that designs a life: not what you could or should do, but what you want to doWhy your experience is your expertise, and how to turn it into real value using AI Studies and ideas mentioned: Amy Arnsten (Yale) on how stress takes the prefrontal cortex offline, the thinking and creating part of the brainInteroception research on how the body's signals get read as tiredness or fearFestinger's 1954 work on social comparison and how it lowers self-evaluationDeci and Ryan's Self-Determination Theory on autonomy and intrinsic motivationResearch on how belief and expectation from others can shape outcomesNamed traditions on releasing the grip on outcome: the Bhagavad Gita (2:47), Taoist wu wei, and trust in Sufism FAQ: Why do I feel so tired and stuck when I try to start over? Often it is not true tiredness, it is a nervous system in survival mode, driven by fear and self-doubt. In that state the part of your brain you plan and create with is less available, so effort alone does not move you. The fix is to regulate first, then design. Am I behind if I am starting over later in life? No. Because AI is changing what work looks like for everyone, the old map is dissolving. If you are already learning to navigate uncertainty, you are early to the shift, not behind it. How do I get unstuck? Get your nervous system out of survival before you try to plan. Daily, gentle regulation, done consistently, is what lets your ideas turn into action. Borrowed motivation fades because it does not change your underlying state. What is the first step to changing careers when you feel behind? Ask what you want to do, not what you could or should do. Look back at what already comes easily to you, because the thing you undervalue most is often your real strength. Will AI take my job? AI is automating routine, repeatable tasks, and shifting value toward human judgment, creativity, and connection. That makes your experience more valuable, not less, if you learn to use the tools and create from what only you can offer. Listen and subscribe: Follow Starting Over, Being You on Apple Podcasts so you do not miss an episode. keywords: starting over, five steps to start over, overcoming self doubt, designing your life, creating your own path, AI and career change, value of personal experience, regulating nervous system, moving out of survival mode, finding your worth, creating a business from scratch, mindset for success, intrinsic motivation, personal development tips, leadership in uncertain times, emotional regulation techniques, building personal brand, enhancing self evaluation, finding purpose in work, embracing change

  5. Jul 1

    Consciousness: The Level of Awareness That Makes Everything Feel Effortless (The 4 Levels of Consciousness and Your Nervous System)

    Want to go deeper: For Free Masterclass Click Here What are the four levels of consciousness, and why do you feel stuck between hustle and ease? This episode of Starting Over, Being You maps Michael Beckwith's four levels of consciousness, to me, by me, through me and as me, onto the science of your nervous system, for anyone starting over after a redundancy, a career change, or the end of a relationship. If you have lost something you poured years into, a job, a career, a relationship, and you are facing the strange and lonely work of starting over, this episode is for you. Here is the reframe at the heart of it. You did not fail. You outgrew the way you used to succeed. The pure hustle does not fit you anymore, but you are still capable and still ambitious, and it is so easy to get stuck in the gap between the two. In this episode we walk through the four levels of consciousness, a framework from the teacher Michael Beckwith, and do something you will not hear anywhere else. We lay the exact nervous-system state underneath each level, so you can feel where you actually are and what your next chapter needs from you. The science leads, and every spiritual idea comes from a real, named tradition. You will learn why achieving more never quite makes you feel like enough, what is really happening in your body when life feels like a constant fight, and the one shift that starts moving you out of survival and into a state where life feels less forced and far more effortless. IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARNWhat "levels of consciousness" actually means, and why rising through them changes how you see life rather than adding more to your to-do listThe single biggest reason people stay stuck, and why most of us cannot see it in ourselvesThe nervous-system state hiding underneath each of the four levels, in plain languageWhy hustle and achievement keep you in survival, and why burnout is that state working exactly as designedThe quiet loop that keeps capable people swinging between feeling like a victim and forcing everything themselves, sometimes for yearsWhy success never delivers the "enough" you are chasing, and what doesThe one question to change the next time life is not matching the picture in your headWhat flow and ease really are, and why you cannot force themThe direction all of this is pointing toward, and the first practical step to get there MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEMichael Beckwith, the four levels of consciousness (to me, by me, through me, as me)Lisa Feldman Barrett, the brain as a predictive organ managing your "body budget"The research on allostatic load, the wear that builds when the stress response never switches offJennifer Crocker, contingencies of self-worthThe research on rumination and why replaying the story prolongs the painResearch on victim signallingMihaly Csikszentmihalyi, the flow stateThe neuroscience of the default mode network quieting in long-term meditatorsRichard Lazarus and James Gross, how appraisal shapes your response and your outcomesNamed traditions referenced: Stoicism, Buddhism (tanha, craving), and the wisdom traditions that point toward oneness and unconditional love FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONSWhat are the four levels of consciousness? A framework from the teacher Michael Beckwith describing four ways of relating to life: "to me" (life happens to me, the victim position), "by me" (I make it happen through effort and hustle), "through me" (I stop forcing and let life move with more ease), and "as me" (a sense of oneness). This episode lays the nervous-system state underneath each one. Why do I feel stuck after being laid off or starting over? Often you have outgrown pure hustle but have not yet settled into a more allowing way of working, so you are caught in the gap between the "by me" and "through me" levels. Your nervous system reads the loss as a threat and keeps you in survival, which makes forcing feel like the only option even though it no longer works. What does the nervous system have to do with feeling stuck? Neuroscientist Lisa Feldman Barrett describes the brain as constantly predicting and running your body to match, always reading whether you are safe enough to grow or under threat and need to defend. Each level of consciousness sits on a different answer to that question, and staying in threat keeps you in defence rather than creation. Why doesn't achievement ever make me feel like enough? Jennifer Crocker's research on contingent self-worth shows that when your worth depends on results, it lifts the day you succeed and drops the day you do not, so the feeling never lasts. The target keeps moving, which is why more success rarely delivers lasting fulfilment. How do I move from hustle to flow? You cannot force flow, because forcing is the hustle state itself. Flow becomes possible when your nervous system comes off threat and feels safe, so the work is building that safety and changing the question you ask yourself, rather than pushing harder. GO DEEPER: THE FREE MASTERCLASSIf you know you are ready to move from "by me" to "through me," to stop forcing and start allowing life to work through you so you can create what you are actually here to create, come to the free masterclass. I take you through the spiritual side and the science behind it: your nervous-system intelligence, emotional intelligence, intuitive intelligence, cognitive intelligence, and energetic intelligence, so you can operate from that "through me" state. https://www.amenkaur.com/masterclass CONNECTIf this resonated, please subscribe to Starting Over, Being You so you do not miss the next one. I would love to hear from you, send me a message and tell me which level you recognised yourself in. Remember: we are moving from fear to love. Keep being loving and understanding toward yourself, because that is what helps you see that you are living in a friendly universe. Sending you so much love. Until next time.

  6. Jun 24

    Everyone Likes You. That's the Problem. (6 Disguises of Your Nervous System)

    For free masterclass : Click here People-pleasing isn't a habit you can simply decide to quit. It's your nervous system running a survival program that was wired in long before you ever had a say in it. And the moment you understand that, everything starts to shift, because you finally stop fighting the wrong thing. In this episode I walk you through the six faces this survival response wears, the disguises your nervous system learned to put on to keep you safe. You'll almost certainly recognise yourself in more than one, and maybe in all of them. Then I show you what's actually happening in your brain when you live this way, why every wisdom tradition on earth points to the same way back, and the one small practice that starts to bring you home to yourself. The six faces: The Perfectionist. The Peacekeeper. The Caretaker. The Performer. The Chameleon. And the Lone Wolf, the one almost nobody even calls people-pleasing. In this episode: Why "set boundaries, stop caring, just love yourself" never actually worksWhat people-pleasing really is, the fawn response, and why these patterns are blends, not boxesWhat chronic people-pleasing does to your brain, and how safety brings your thinking back onlineWhy losing connection to yourself quietly costs you in every area of your lifeHow presence brings you home, and the simple daily practice that starts it Key takeaways: People-pleasing is not a character flaw or a willpower problem. It's the fawn response, a survival reaction named by therapist Pete Walker.It shows up in six forms: the Perfectionist, the Peacekeeper, the Caretaker, the Performer, the Chameleon, and the Lone Wolf. Most people are a blend of several.Chronic people-pleasing keeps the brain in a low-grade threat state, which reduces access to the prefrontal cortex, the part you think and decide with.Reconnecting to yourself is a trainable act of attention called interoception, not a vibe or a mood.Losing touch with your own needs measurably lowers self-esteem and wellbeing, shown in Jennifer Campbell's research on self-concept clarity.The way back is presence, the same answer every major wisdom tradition arrived at independently. FAQ: Q: What is the fawn response? A: The fawn response is a survival reaction in which you keep yourself safe by keeping other people happy. Therapist Pete Walker named it as a fourth response alongside fight, flight, and freeze, and it's the pattern underneath chronic people-pleasing. Q: What are the six types of people-pleaser? A: The Perfectionist, the Peacekeeper, the Caretaker, the Performer, the Chameleon, and the Lone Wolf. They're not rigid boxes. Most people are a blend, and they all share one root, a lost connection to yourself. Q: Is people-pleasing a trauma response? A: Often, yes. People-pleasing frequently develops early as a way to stay safe in an unpredictable or high-conflict environment, which is why willpower alone rarely changes it. Q: How do you actually stop people-pleasing? A: Not by forcing more boundaries, but by rebuilding your connection to yourself through presence. A simple start is to pause three times a day and ask your body one question, what is true for me here, before you answer for anyone else. Mentioned in this episode: Pete Walker, Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving (the fawn response)Meg Josephson, LCSW, Are You Mad at Me? (the six types)Amy Arnsten, Yale (stress and the prefrontal cortex)Bud Craig (interoception and the insula)Jennifer Campbell (self-concept clarity)The wisdom traditions: the Upanishads, Buddhist buddha-nature, Marcus Aurelius, Psalm 46, the Qur'an, Rumi, and Emerson Further reading on interoception: Sarah Garfinkel and Hugo Critchley (interoceptive accuracy and emotion)Lisa Feldman Barrett (interoception and the constructed sense of self) Ready to come home to yourself? I've created a free masterclass that walks you through the steps. Watch it here: https://www.amenkaur.com/masterclass Starting Over, Being You with Dr Amen Kaur bridges neuroscience and grounded spirituality for women rebuilding their sense of self. New episodes weekly. people pleasing, people pleaser, how to stop people pleasing, fawn response, fawn trauma response, nervous system, nervous system regulation, survival mode, boundaries, self-abandonment, perfectionism, caretaker, codependency, presence, self-connection, interoception, anxiety, self-worth, Meg Josephson, Pete Walker

  7. Jun 17

    Your Identity Is Keeping You Stuck (Here's How to Change It)

    Free Masterclass : Click here You've been told that to change your life, you have to change your identity: decide who you want to be, affirm it every morning, and visualise your way into the new you. So why does changing your identity so rarely work? In this episode of Starting Over, Being You, Dr. Amen Kaur explains why the identity keeping you stuck is not a flaw to fix. It is a protection your brain actively defends, long after it has stopped serving you. And why trading it for a "better," more empowered identity is just a nicer cage. Bridging neuroscience and the contemplative traditions, she walks through what actually loosens identity's grip, and the one practical lever that has nothing to do with believing in yourself. What this episode covers: Why a stuck identity behaves like scar tissue, and the one question that begins to loosen itHow identity works as a perceptual lens, so your beliefs shape the evidence rather than the other way aroundThe expectancy-value science of motivation, and why losing your motivation is rarely a motivation problemWhy the "I have to" identity of high achievers leads to burnout and contingent self-worthThe counterintuitive truth about imposter syndrome: it is created by success, not cured by itWhat the Yoga Sutras, the Buddhist teaching of non-self, and the Bhagavad Gita reveal about the self that does the perceivingThe single lever that actually moves identity: how you respond to a thought, not the thought itselfA 30-second awareness practice you can do right where you are Questions this episode answersWhy does trying to change your identity rarely work? Because a limiting identity functions like scar tissue. It protects you from something painful, so willpower alone bounces off it. Until you understand what the identity is protecting you from, it keeps reasserting itself no matter how hard you push. Can you actually control your thoughts? No. The mind generates thoughts automatically, the way the body generates a heartbeat. What you can control is how you respond to a thought once it arrives. That skill is called cognitive defusion, from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, developed by the psychologist Steven Hayes. Is imposter syndrome cured by success? No. Imposter syndrome is created by success. It appears in the gap between what you have achieved and who you still believe you are, which means the more you accomplish while clinging to an old self-image, the stronger it gets. Why do I feel like I have no motivation? You are almost certainly not unmotivated. Expectancy-value theory, from John Atkinson and later Jacquelynne Eccles and Allan Wigfield, describes how the brain weighs how likely success feels against how much the outcome matters. When an identity says "I can't," predicted success drops, the effort registers as wasted, and you stay exactly where you are. What does the Bhagavad Gita say about effort and results? In chapter 2, verse 47, the Bhagavad Gita teaches that you have a right to your actions but never to the fruits of your actions. The invitation is to unhook your sense of self from outcomes you cannot control and return it to the action itself. Why do high achievers burn out on a "positive" identity? Self-determination theory, from Edward Deci and Richard Ryan, calls it introjected regulation: acting from internalised pressure rather than genuine value. Combined with contingent self-worth, researched by Jennifer Crocker, it means each achievement only rents a brief sense of being okay before the bar moves again. How do you stop a negative thought from running you? You do not stop the thought. You change how you respond to it. Drawing on Hebbian learning ("neurons that fire together, wire together," Donald Hebb, 1949), responding differently over time weakens the old mental pathway and strengthens a new one. Think of the mind as a garden: you cannot control which seeds blow in, but you control what you water and what you pull. Sources and traditions referencedExpectancy-value theory of motivation: John Atkinson; Jacquelynne Eccles and Allan WigfieldSelf-determination theory and introjected regulation: Edward Deci and Richard RyanContingent self-worth: Jennifer CrockerAcceptance and Commitment Therapy and cognitive defusion: Steven HayesHebbian learning, "neurons that fire together, wire together": Donald Hebb, 1949The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali (vritti, the fluctuations of the mind)The Buddhist teaching of anatta (non-self)The Bhagavad Gita, chapter 2, verse 47 The takeaway: You are not your identity. You are the one watching it arrive. The freedom was never in becoming someone solid. It was in realising you were never only one thing, and you do not have to defend a self that was always going to keep changing. Free masterclass: If you are in the middle of starting over and want to step beyond the labels holding you back, Dr. Amen Kaur has created a free masterclass to help you do exactly that. https://www.amenkaur.com/masterclass Follow Starting Over, Being You so the next episode finds you, and share this one with someone quietly outgrowing an old version of themselves. About the host: Dr. Amen Kaur is a coach and the host of Starting Over, Being You, where she brings together neuroscience and grounded spirituality for high-achieving professionals navigating identity, reinvention, and starting over. change your identity, personal transformation, affirmations, visualization techniques, identity protection, limiting beliefs, motivation and identity, self-image, identity and success, overcoming imposter syndrome, cognitive diffusion, awareness in psychology, self-worth, internalized pressure, spiritual identity, freedom from labels, neuropsychology of identity, emotional resilience, identity evolution, mindfulness practices

  8. Jun 10

    The Science of Luck: Why You Have to Become the Black Sheep

    → Want to go further? Join: the free masterclass Why are some people so much luckier than others? The science of luck says it's not chance, it's behavior, and it starts with your nervous system. Some people seem to have all the luck: opportunity finds them, the right people show up, doors open. Underneath the admiration is the quiet question, why them, and why not me? In this episode of Starting Over, Being You, we break down the real, measurable science of luck and why becoming a luckier person asks more of you than raising your vibration ever could. In this episode: Why luck is a set of behaviors, not a trait (Richard Wiseman's research)How your nervous system decides whether you see opportunities or miss themWhy "luck has an address": how the people around you set your baseline through co-regulationThe black sheep effect: why outgrowing your old life genuinely hurts (social rejection lights up the same brain regions as physical pain)Achieving vs. awakened relationships, and why wanting new people as you grow isn't betrayalA 5-step practice to start behaving your way toward luck You're allowed to outgrow a room. And you can still love the people in it. → Go deeper: join the free masterclass: click here Topics: science of luck, how to be luckier, why some people are luckier than others, nervous system regulation, black sheep effect, outgrowing friends, personal growth, awakened relationships

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Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur The podcast for high-achievers who have lost themselves inside the life they built. You have achieved things most people only dream of. And somewhere along the way, you stopped recognising yourself in any of it. Not because something went wrong. Because you outgrew the version of you that started. Maybe it was a layoff. A career that ended. A role you walked away from. A life that no longer fits. Or the quiet realisation, in the middle of an ordinary Tuesday, that you don't know who you are anymore. Starting Over, Being You is the weekly podcast for women who have done all the work: the therapy, the coaching, the mindset, the books, and are still stuck. Not because they lack insight. Because the version of them that built the last chapter cannot author the next one. The one thing that cannot be automated, outsourced, or made redundant is you. The specific, irreplaceable way you operate, feel, think, lead, and make decisions. But only if you know who you are. Each week, Dr. Amen Kaur draws on the latest research in neuroscience, psychology, and human behaviour to answer the question underneath every other question: Who am I now, and what do I build from here? This is not personal development. This is identity work. It is precise, evidence-based, and built for the woman intelligent enough to know that becoming herself requires more than a new strategy. It requires a return to the self who was there before she learned to perform. If you are navigating a career transition, a layoff, a life that no longer fits, or the quiet knowing that successful and alive are not the same thing, this show was made for you. Because the woman you are becoming is not someone new. She is who you were before you learned to perform. This podcast is how you come home to her. New episodes every Wednesday. Hosted by Dr. Amen Kaur: PhD, former Partner at a FTSE 250 company in business growth, and founder of the Human Intelligence Framework. She works with women who have outgrown the version of themselves that got them here. Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework. A walkthrough of the framework so you can lead, decide, and build from a self that is actually yours. Watch free: amenkaur.com/masterclass Follow Dr. Amen Kaur: Instagram @dramenkaur · YouTube @dramenkaur · TikTok @dramenkaur Topics covered: I've lost myself, who am I now, lost my identity, feeling lost in midlife, starting over after 40, high-achieving women, career transition, high functioning burnout, identity after job loss, capable but stuck, return not reinvention, coming home to yourself, Human Intelligence Framework, Dr. Amen Kaur. Educational content only. Not a substitute for professional therapeutic, medical, or financial advice.

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