Change Your Life with Dr. Amen Kaur

Dr. Amen Kaur
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You have something of immense value to give. Something happened, and now you feel unsure of yourself. You feel self doubt and your self confidence has gone. Maybe it was redundancy. A restructure. A new manager who chipped away at your value until you stopped trusting yourself. Maybe you were quietly managed out, or you have been applying for months and nothing is landing. Maybe it was a divorce or an ending that took something out of you and the work has never felt the same since. Or maybe nothing dramatic happened at all and you have just been asking, is this it? Either way you want more, you cannot go back to what it was, and you cannot make yourself move forward the way you used to. That is not a strategy problem. Most advice gives you one half of the answer. One half is all structure, the plans and the tactics, with no inner foundation to hold it up, so what is really driving you is fear and proving yourself. The other half is all inner work, sitting with your feelings and never taking an action. Both leave you feeling stuck, lost, overwhelmed and burned out. This show is about doing both, in the right order. Self love first, because when you do not have it you stop believing you are worth what you want. Then self worth, so you can trust what you know. Then self value, so you can express it and actually experience it. Then the systems and structures that make it compound. Build your value on the inside. Achieve your goals on the outside. I'm Dr. Amen Kaur. I have twenty years of insight into how people actually get hired, working up through recruitment to Director of Client Services and then to partner in an FTSE 250 staffing group. More than 200 people have been through my programmes. I am a researcher at heart, so I look for the root cause rather than treating the symptom. What I bring you here is research, science and spirituality, because the convergence of all three brings us to a core truth. Each week we look at answering the questions you are actually asking. How do I work out what I actually want? How do I find my purpose after losing my job? How do I change career when I have no idea what is next? Is it too late to start over? Should I start a business, or go back to a job after self-employment? How do I get back the confidence I had before all this? And underneath those, the questions that decide the answer. Why do I keep self sabotaging. Why do I procrastinate. Why do I people please and over give and prove my worth. Why does my confidence go when someone devalues me. Why do I keep attracting toxic bosses and toxic workplaces. Why do I feel undervalued when I know I'm good at what I do. We work through self love, self worth and self value, and the practical, tactical things they let you do. Getting the promotion. Getting the offer. Building the business. Finding career clarity when you are feeling stuck mid career. Setting boundaries without guilt. Regulating your nervous system so you can think straight. Building the systems that compound, at work and in a business, so the results keep coming without you burning yourself out to get them. If you are feeling lost, feeling stuck, or wondering what to do next, start with any episode and see what lands.

  1. 6d ago

    You Are Not Too Sensitive: Why You Help Others Succeed But You Feel Stuck

    3 Minute Assessment : https://linktr.ee/dramenkaurWhy can I help everyone else succeed but feel stuck in my own life? If you are a highly sensitive person, or you have been told your whole life that you are too sensitive, the answer is in how your brain is wired, not in your effort or your ability. Highly sensitive people are not broken. They are more sensitive instruments. The same wiring that lets you read a room, feel what someone needs and solve their problem before they have finished speaking is the wiring that makes your own success feel exposed and painful to go after. That is why you can grow someone else's business, confidence or career and still freeze on your own. In this episode, Dr. Amen Kaur, trauma-informed coach, former scientist and host of Change Your Life, explains what the research says about sensitivity and what to do about feeling stuck. What you will learn: Why being sensitive is measurable and real. A 2003 brain imaging study at Wake Forest University (Coghill) gave people the same heat stimulus and found the people who reported more pain showed more activity in the pain-processing regions of the brain. Same input, different experience, visible on the scan. A 2014 fMRI study (Acevedo and Aron) found highly sensitive people show more activation in brain regions linked to awareness, empathy and action planning. Why sensitive people help others succeed but stay stuck themselves. Most people carry a self-serving bias that softens criticism. Sensitive people often have less of it, so judgment of their own work lands fully. Eisenberger's 2003 UCLA research found social rejection activates brain regions that overlap with physical pain. Add scaffolding (Wood, Bruner and Ross, 1976), the way every skill is learned with someone holding the structure, and Lisa Hooper's research on children who became the carer in their family and grew up skilled at giving and unable to receive, and the pattern makes complete sense. Why the usual advice fails sensitive people. "Put yourself out there" and "fake it till you make it" assume an average dose of confidence is enough. For a sensitive person it is not. Teresa Amabile's research at Harvard Business School shows simply expecting to be evaluated reduces creativity, and that the biggest driver of how people feel about their work is small progress on something that matters to them. The way through is to build where no one can see, until the evidence about who you are comes from you. This episode is for you if you are a highly sensitive person, an empath, or someone who has been called too sensitive, and you are tired of helping everyone else move forward while your own business, career or next chapter stays on hold. Free assessment: find out which part of you is carrying the most right now, your body, your emotions or your thinking, and where your core block actually sits. Go to lWhy can I help everyone else succeed but feel stuck in my own life? If you are a highly sensitive person, or you have been told your whole life that you are too sensitive, the answer is in how your brain is wired, not in your effort or your ability. Highly sensitive people are not broken. They are more sensitive instruments. The same wiring that lets you read a room, feel what someone needs and solve their problem before they have finished speaking is the wiring that makes your own success feel exposed and painful to go after. That is why you can grow someone else's business, confidence or career and still freeze on your own. In this episode, Dr. Amen Kaur, trauma-informed coach, former scientist and host of Change Your Life, explains what the research says about sensitivity and what to do about feeling stuck. What you will learn: Why being sensitive is measurable and real. A 2003 brain imaging study at Wake Forest University (Coghill) gave people the same heat stimulus and found the people who reported more pain showed more activity in the pain-processing regions of the brain. Same input, different experience, visible on the scan. A 2014 fMRI study (Acevedo and Aron) found highly sensitive people show more activation in brain regions linked to awareness, empathy and action planning. Why sensitive people help others succeed but stay stuck themselves. Most people carry a self-serving bias that softens criticism. Sensitive people often have less of it, so judgment of their own work lands fully. Eisenberger's 2003 UCLA research found social rejection activates brain regions that overlap with physical pain. Add scaffolding (Wood, Bruner and Ross, 1976), the way every skill is learned with someone holding the structure, and Lisa Hooper's research on children who became the carer in their family and grew up skilled at giving and unable to receive, and the pattern makes complete sense. Why the usual advice fails sensitive people. "Put yourself out there" and "fake it till you make it" assume an average dose of confidence is enough. For a sensitive person it is not. Teresa Amabile's research at Harvard Business School shows simply expecting to be evaluated reduces creativity, and that the biggest driver of how people feel about their work is small progress on something that matters to them. The way through is to build where no one can see, until the evidence about who you are comes from you. This episode is for you if you are a highly sensitive person, an empath, or someone who has been called too sensitive, and you are tired of helping everyone else move forward while your own business, career or next chapter stays on hold. Free assessment: find out which part of you is carrying the most right now, your body, your emotions or your thinking, and where your core block actually sits. Go to https://linktr.ee/dramenkaur and tap Take your 3 minute free assessment. Research mentioned: Coghill et al. 2003, Wake Forest University. Acevedo, Aron et al. 2014. Eisenberger, Lieberman and Williams 2003, UCLA. Wood, Bruner and Ross 1976. Hooper on parentification. Amabile, Harvard Business School, on evaluation and the progress principle.

  2. 6d ago

    How to Recover from the Lowest Point in Your Life

    Coffee & Chat? Click here What does it mean when you say "I don't know who I am anymore"? It means you lost the things that were telling you who you were. A job, a marriage, a home, a parent, a version of your life you expected to keep. Your sense of self was resting on those, so when enough of them go, it goes with them. It is not a sign that something is wrong with you, and it is not a weakness. It is what happens when the labels come off. In this episode, Dr. Amen Kaur explains why losing your identity and losing your motivation are the same thing, why they arrive in that order, and what brings both of them back. Why don't I want anything anymore? Because wanting something you believe you can no longer have is painful, so the mind withdraws it. A 2015 meta-analysis of 90 studies by Colin Leach and Atilla Cidam found that shame leads people to act when a failure feels repairable, and to withdraw when it does not. A marriage that ended cannot be unended. A job that let you go cannot be undone. So the system stops reaching. Your desire did not die. It was pulled back to protect you. Why does losing a job or a marriage feel like shame rather than disappointment? Because the standard you fell short of was probably never yours. Research on the self finds that shame tracks the gap between who you are and a standard you have taken in, and the standards that bite hardest are the ones that came from other people. Married by thirty. Successful by forty. The one who made it out. Disappointment is what you feel when your own plan fails. Shame is what you feel when you fall short of someone else's. Why can I still enjoy things but not want anything? Because enjoying and wanting run on different brain systems. Kent Berridge at the University of Michigan spent thirty years showing that wanting (the pull toward something) and liking (the pleasure once it is here) are separate. One can go quiet while the other is intact. That is why you can have a lovely afternoon with a friend and feel no pull toward anything afterward, and it is not evidence that you are broken. Would getting the job or the relationship back fix it? No, and most people already know this because they have had the thing before and it did not settle them then. Jennifer Crocker's research on contingencies of self-worth found that staking your worth on achievement produces the volatility without the payoff. In one study, students who based their self-esteem on grades reported studying more and did not get better grades. So what actually helps? Self-compassion, which is the opposite of what most people assume. Juliana Breines and Serena Chen ran four experiments in 2012. People given a self-compassionate response to their own failure were more motivated to fix the weakness, and spent longer studying after failing a test, than people given a self-esteem boost. Easing up on yourself does not cost you your edge. Who this episode is for Professional women some months on from a layoff, a divorce, a bereavement, a home lost, an inheritance, children leaving, or an ending they did not choose. People who have done the work, know roughly what they want next, and still cannot make themselves move. Chapters 00:00 "I don't know who I am anymore" and what it actually means 00:00 Why the labels were never yours to begin with 00:00 Why your wanting went quiet 00:00 Wanting and liking are different systems 00:00 Why getting it back would not settle it 00:00 The question underneath all of it 00:00 A short practice you can do right now Research referenced Colin Leach and Atilla Cidam (2015), Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, meta-analysis of 90 samples on when shame leads to constructive action Kent Berridge, University of Michigan, on wanting and liking as separate systems Jennifer Crocker and Connie Wolfe (2001) and Jennifer Crocker and Lora Park (2004), on contingencies of self-worth and the cost of pursuing self-esteem George Bonanno and Charles Burton (2013), Columbia University, on the fallacy of uniform efficacy in coping Juliana Breines and Serena Chen (2012), on self-compassion and motivation to improve Rupert Spira, on the awareness of being Come and talk to me. I am offering a twenty minute coffee and a chat this week. You tell me where you are, and we look at the pattern underneath it. Click this Link Dr. Amen Kaur is a trauma-informed somatic coach and the host of Change Your Life. She spent over twenty years in recruitment and career development, latterly as a partner at a FTSE 250 company, and holds a PhD. She works with professional women rebuilding a sense of self after a major loss.

  3. 6d ago

    Finally Get What You Want: 4 Words That Reveal Why You're Stuck (& What to Do Instead)

    Curious about how to change your life? click here for coffee and chat Change Your Life with Dr. Amen Kaur If you lost your job, were laid off or made redundant, or came out of a divorce, and you know what you want next but cannot make yourself move, the problem is not discipline. In this episode, Dr. Amen Kaur explains the science of why working harder stops working after you have been devalued, why you have no motivation even though you know what to do, and what actually switches motivation back on. In this episode you'll learn The four words that reveal where your energy is going: should, have to, need and want, and why only one of them moves you forwardWhy shame keeps you repeating the exact behavior you are trying to changeWhat the still-face experiment reveals about attention, motivation and feeling stuckThe difference between being seen and being validated, and why praise never fixes itThe real cause of burnout according to burnout research, and why rest alone does not fix itThe two ways people cope with feeling unwanted, and why both keep you stuckA simple one-week experiment to find your motivation again Why do I have no motivation after losing my job? Because a layoff, a redundancy or being managed out is an experience of being unwanted, and the human system goes still when attention and value are withdrawn. That is not laziness and it is not a flaw. It is the same response the still-face experiment shows in infants. Rest and pressure do not fix it, because neither one is the missing input. Why can't I make myself do what I want? Wanting is not willpower. Effort runs on wanting, and wanting runs on being seen. When something cuts the third one, the other two fail behind it. Motivation returns when you are seen for who you actually are, not when you push harder. The four words Should looks at what is missing. Have to looks at obligation. Need looks at lack. Want looks at the thing itself. Want is the only one that pulls you toward your goal. Research mentioned The still-face experiment, Tronick and colleagues, 1978Donald Winnicott on the mirror role of the mother and the false selfCarl Rogers, 1957, on the core conditions of therapeutic changeNorcross and Lambert on the therapeutic relationship as the strongest predictor of outcomeMaslach and Leiter, the six mismatches that drive burnoutHebbian learning, neurons that fire together wire togetherJoe Hudson on shame, wants and the 10 percent more enjoyment experiment Try this week Pick one thing you keep telling yourself you should do. Drop the should. Ask how you could enjoy it 10 percent more, without changing it or buying anything for it. Then notice which of the four words you are using. Coffee and a chat? If you are capable and still feel stuck, grab a coffee and let's talk it through. Twenty minutes, no pitch, nothing to prepare. We will look at what might be keeping you stuck and what could help. Book here: Coffee & chat About Dr. Amen Kaur Dr. Amen Kaur is a trauma-informed somatic coach and former FTSE 250 partner with over 20 years in recruitment and career development. She helps professional women rebuild confidence and get what they actually want after major life and career transitions. Learn more at amenkaur.com. Topics: no motivation after layoff, no motivation after redundancy, lost my job and feel stuck, can't motivate myself after losing my job, how to find motivation again, identity after redundancy, lost sense of self after job loss, feeling unwanted at work, managed out of a job, burnout recovery, career transition, feeling stuck after divorce, self-compassion, being seen, should vs want, still-face experiment, science of motivation

  4. 6d ago

    Know your value: Take back your confidence from difficult people

    Click here for the quiz: amenkaur.com/quiz A difficult boss, a toxic relationship, or people who never saw your worth can leave you doubting yourself, even when you know you're good at what you do. So when someone finally praises you, you brush it off. Or it makes you want to cry. The problem isn't that you can't take a compliment. It's that difficult people chipped away at your sense of your own value, and your brain is still predicting from that old map. In this episode, I share five lessons to help you know your value again and take back your confidence: Why deflecting praise is a signal, not a flawHow judgment and shame keep good things out, and why the people who can't see you may not have the capacity toWhy comparing your weaknesses to other people's strengths hides your real valueHow self-compassion gets your problem-solving brain back (the one most people get backwards)Why your value grows as you express it Along the way, we look at the brain as a prediction machine, a famous experiment with kittens, and what the research says about judgment, stress and self-doubt. Know your value. Express your value. Receive your value. Take the three-minute quiz to see what's holding you back and where to start: amenkaur.com/quiz Want to work with me? Book a career diagnostic: https://linktr.ee/dramenkaur Research mentioned: Baumeister et al. (2001), Bad is stronger than good Tangney, shame and guilt Blakemore and Cooper (1970), visual development in kittens Festinger, cognitive dissonance and social comparison Dickerson and Kemeny (2004), stress and social evaluation Gerber, Wheeler and Suls (2018), social comparison meta-analysis Vazire (2010), self-other knowledge Arch et al. (2014), self-compassion and stress Crocker and Wolfe (2001), contingencies of self-worth Vallerand, harmonious and obsessive passion Arnsten, stress and the prefrontal cortex David Linden, Johns Hopkins, and Lisa Feldman Barrett on the predictive brain

  5. Sep 16

    You're Not a People Pleaser. You're Proving Something.

    Find out where you are being held back. The quiz takes three minutes: amenkaur.com/quiz You have been trying harder than you have ever tried, and it is not working. This episode looks at what actually happens to your sense of worth when you lose the thing you had been proving it with, why affirmations can make it worse, and two things that genuinely help. Underneath most people-pleasing there is one thing going on. We are trying to prove we are worth something. But proving your worth and feeling your worth are two different things, and one does not lead to the other. In this episode I look at what actually happens when the thing you had been proving yourself through is taken away. Why effort stops working at exactly the point you need it most. Why the advice you have been given, including affirmations, can make it worse rather than better. And two things you can do this week that actually restore something. I also share what happened in my own working life, a client of mine who went from being made to feel less than to thriving in a different environment, and a wasp at my daughter's window. In this episode: Why losing a role can feel like losing yourselfWhat the pursuit of self-esteem actually costs youRigid persistence, and why trying harder is not the same as trying wellWhat stress does to the part of your brain that makes decisionsWhy affirmations backfire for the people who need them mostThe open tab, and why unfinished things drain youTwo things that give you your capacity back The research referenced: Jennifer Crocker and Connie Wolfe, Contingencies of Self-Worth, Psychological Review, 2001Jennifer Crocker and Lora Park, The Costly Pursuit of Self-Esteem, Psychological Bulletin, 2004Robert Vallerand and colleagues, on harmonious and obsessive passion, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 2003Amy Arnsten, Stress signalling pathways that impair prefrontal cortex structure and function, Nature Reviews Neuroscience, 2009Joanne Wood, Elaine Perunovic and John Lee, Positive self-statements: power for some, peril for others, Psychological Science, 2009Kitty Klein and Adriel Boals, Expressive writing can increase working memory capacity, Journal of Experimental Psychology: General, 2001Gabriel Radvansky and David Copeland, Walking through doorways causes forgetting, Memory and Cognition, 2006Marily Oppezzo and Daniel Schwartz, Give your ideas some legs, Journal of Experimental Psychology, 2014 Find out where you are being held back. The quiz takes three minutes: amenkaur.com/quiz If this episode landed, rating the show is the single most useful thing you can do to help someone else find it.

  6. Sep 9

    I'll eliminate your self-sabotage forever (the five-beat loop and how to break it)

    Take the Quiz : https://www.amenkaur.com/quiz You get close to the thing you want. The promotion, the business, the conversation you've been meaning to have. And something in you pulls back. That's not weakness, and it's not a mindset problem. It's an old map doing its job. In this episode I walk you through the exact five-beat loop your self-sabotage runs on, so you can catch it happening in real time. Then I show you how to break it, working backwards, starting in the one place most people refuse to start. I also run my own through it. The boardroom, the seizing up, the boss who'd put his neck out for me, and the rule underneath it that I didn't know I was following. What you'll take away: The map you were handed early in life, and why self-sabotage is what happens at its edgesThe five beats: want more, trigger, the body reacts, escape, relief, shame, and why the relief is what makes it stickyStep one: start at the shame, and why love is the only thing that stops it fueling the next roundStep two: go back to the trigger and listen, with a short practice you can do while you listenStep three: give your body one new experience, and the trick I stumbled into when I couldn't do it for myselfThe deeper layer: what the Bhagavad Gita, the first letter of John, and the Guru Granth Sahib were pointing to long before the neuroscience caught up Your next step: You now have the method. What you don't know yet is which of your five systems is holding the edge. Take the three-minute quiz at amenkaur.com/quiz and find out what to focus on first. If this episode did something for you: Rate the show wherever you're listening. Share it with the one person who came to mind. And if you have a minute, a few words in the reviews about what shifted. I read every one. Research mentioned: Neff, K. (2003). Self-compassion: an alternative conceptualization of a healthy attitude toward oneself. Self and Identity.Gilbert, P. (2009). The Compassionate Mind. Constable.Kirschner, H. et al. (2019). Soothing your heart and feeling connected: a new experimental paradigm to study the benefits of self-compassion. Clinical Psychological Science. Texts mentioned: Bhagavad Gita 6:5 to 6:61 John 4:18Guru Granth Sahib, Ang 441 This episode is for reflection and education. It isn't therapy or medical advice.

  7. Sep 3

    Starting over after a loss or ending? It's not clarity you're missing

    You know roughly what you want. You still can't make yourself do it. This episode explains why, in plain pictures, and gives you one small thing to do this week that your body will actually let you do. If you've been laid off, divorced, lost someone, lost a home, or had an ending you didn't choose, and it's months or years on and you're still in the parking lot, this one is for you. Five lessons. It was never a clarity problem. Your brain is driving on an old map. You're not lazy, you're on 8% battery. You cannot be told your value, you have to experience it. And you redraw the map one short drive at a time. With the stories of five women who did exactly that: a book, a podcast, a sideline business, a job that trains for the next thing, and a job that finally fits her family. Find out which of five patterns is stopping you. Three minutes, ten questions: https://amenkaur.com/quiz In this episode Why "I need more clarity" is the wrong problem to solveThe satnav that has the destination and won't startWhat a loss actually takes from you (not the building, the road)Why your brain pulls over after a loss, and why that isn't weaknessThe 8% battery: why courses and advice don't land when you're running on emptyChargers and drainers: the people who fill your battery and the ones running in the backgroundYou cannot be told your value, you have to experience itThe singer, the applause, and where worth actually livesSmall drives in daylight: how the brain redraws its mapFuel on the garage floor vs fuel in the tank The one thing to do this week Write down the rough direction you already know. One sentence. Notice how fast it came. Take the quiz https://amenkaur.com/quiz Science mentioned Lisa Feldman Barrett, How Emotions Are Made / Seven and a Half Lessons About the Brain. The predictive brain, the body budget, prediction error.Peter Sheeran, Intention-behavior relations (2002); Sheeran and Webb, The intention-behavior gap (2016). Inclined abstainers.Albert Bandura, Self-Efficacy (1997). Mastery experience.Jamieson, Mendes, Blackstock and Schmader (2010). Arousal reappraisal. Keywords starting over, loss, layoff, divorce, stuck, motivation, self-worth, nervous system, identity, career change after 40, women, coaching, self love, value,

  8. Aug 26

    Why You Feel Stuck After a Big Loss (5 Lessons About Mastering Your Emotions)

    Click here for the Free Quiz You've done the courses. You've read the books. You've done the therapy work. And you're still sitting there thinking, why can't I move? That isn't a knowledge problem. You already know the direction you need to move in. Something is stopping you from acting on it. In this episode I make the case that when something big goes, a marriage, a role, a title, a business, a person, what you actually lost was your container. That identity was doing a job for you. It was holding your emotions in place. And when it went, the emotions didn't go anywhere, they just lost their anchor. Which is exactly why it feels like a confidence problem, and exactly why treating it as one doesn't work. I share what I learned reading KPI spreadsheets as a partner in a FTSE 250 business, where I could tell you which person on a team was struggling before anyone said a word to me. And I give you five lessons you can use today. The five lessons You didn't lose your confidence, you lost your containerEmotions compound, and the danger is the delay, not the emotionYour emotions are data, and naming them changes your nervous systemEvery emotion needs a different solution, which is why the wrong course leaves you exactly where you startedSAS: space and self-regulate, before you decide anything Lesson four is the one almost nobody talks about, and it's the reason people spend thousands and come back feeling identical. Not sure which one is yours? I've built a short quiz that tells you which pattern is running things for you right now, with an audio to listen to based on your result. It takes a couple of minutes. Quiz - Click here Research mentioned in this episode Lieberman, M. D., Eisenberger, N. I., Crockett, M. J., Tom, S. M., Pfeifer, J. H., and Way, B. M. (2007). Putting Feelings Into Words: Affect Labeling Disrupts Amygdala Activity in Response to Affective Stimuli. Psychological Science, 18(5), 421 to 428.Kashdan, T. B., Barrett, L. F., and McKnight, P. E. (2015). Unpacking Emotion Differentiation. Current Directions in Psychological Science, 24(1), 10 to 16. Note that this literature is largely correlational rather than causal. About Dr. Amen Kaur Dr. Amen Kaur is a trauma-informed who spent over 20 years in leadership, becoming a partner in a FTSE 250 business, before moving into helping women after major life transitions achieve their career and business goals through identity change & creating systems that help implement change.

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You have something of immense value to give. Something happened, and now you feel unsure of yourself. You feel self doubt and your self confidence has gone. Maybe it was redundancy. A restructure. A new manager who chipped away at your value until you stopped trusting yourself. Maybe you were quietly managed out, or you have been applying for months and nothing is landing. Maybe it was a divorce or an ending that took something out of you and the work has never felt the same since. Or maybe nothing dramatic happened at all and you have just been asking, is this it? Either way you want more, you cannot go back to what it was, and you cannot make yourself move forward the way you used to. That is not a strategy problem. Most advice gives you one half of the answer. One half is all structure, the plans and the tactics, with no inner foundation to hold it up, so what is really driving you is fear and proving yourself. The other half is all inner work, sitting with your feelings and never taking an action. Both leave you feeling stuck, lost, overwhelmed and burned out. This show is about doing both, in the right order. Self love first, because when you do not have it you stop believing you are worth what you want. Then self worth, so you can trust what you know. Then self value, so you can express it and actually experience it. Then the systems and structures that make it compound. Build your value on the inside. Achieve your goals on the outside. I'm Dr. Amen Kaur. I have twenty years of insight into how people actually get hired, working up through recruitment to Director of Client Services and then to partner in an FTSE 250 staffing group. More than 200 people have been through my programmes. I am a researcher at heart, so I look for the root cause rather than treating the symptom. What I bring you here is research, science and spirituality, because the convergence of all three brings us to a core truth. Each week we look at answering the questions you are actually asking. How do I work out what I actually want? How do I find my purpose after losing my job? How do I change career when I have no idea what is next? Is it too late to start over? Should I start a business, or go back to a job after self-employment? How do I get back the confidence I had before all this? And underneath those, the questions that decide the answer. Why do I keep self sabotaging. Why do I procrastinate. Why do I people please and over give and prove my worth. Why does my confidence go when someone devalues me. Why do I keep attracting toxic bosses and toxic workplaces. Why do I feel undervalued when I know I'm good at what I do. We work through self love, self worth and self value, and the practical, tactical things they let you do. Getting the promotion. Getting the offer. Building the business. Finding career clarity when you are feeling stuck mid career. Setting boundaries without guilt. Regulating your nervous system so you can think straight. Building the systems that compound, at work and in a business, so the results keep coming without you burning yourself out to get them. If you are feeling lost, feeling stuck, or wondering what to do next, start with any episode and see what lands.

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