The Feminist Dating Show

Lily Womble
  • 4.8 (162)
  • Relationships
  • Updated Weekly

How do I find the right relationship when dating apps suck? How can I find better dates? How can I deal with that nagging anxiety that no one is out there for me? How can I navigate dating with more confidence and find that right relationship? Welcome to The Feminist Dating Show, where we'll answer ALL of these questions and so much more. Week after week, host, former top matchmaker and dating coach, Lily Womble brings you all the tools, strategies and coaching you need to build a clear path to the best relationship of your life. After matching hundreds, Lily realized that with training, women can match themselves better than anyone else ever could. Now she helps thousands of women around the world build fulfilling, joyful and successful dating lives on their own terms. She's here to help you do the same. If you're looking for unconventional, feminist leaning dating advice that works, this podcast is for you. Along with her best kept secrets, Lily will share interviews with experts and live coaching sessions, so you can feel seen, heard and inspired.

  1. 2d ago

    277. The Flirting Ladder (from frozen with fear, to flirting irl)

    You want to flirt IRL. But you're scared to start... The Flirting Ladder is exactly how you will build the skills to become an expert, confident flirter! This is the exact tool Lily teaches inside Main Character Dating to take you from frozen with fear to flirting with confidence. In this episode: → Flirting is joyful, courageous connection. Not a performance, not a personality trait some people are born with. It's a skill set you build by doing. → Awkwardness is the price of admission for connection. It will be awkward, and that is not a sign you're doing it wrong. → You cannot say the wrong thing to the right person. The right person is looking for you too, and they will be delighted you walked up. → The flirting ladder itself: start with one second of eye contact and climb, one accessible rung at a time, until "so random question, are you single" feels doable. → The 10 seconds of courage tool that builds momentum from paralyzed to shooting your shot. By the time "random question" is out of your mouth, you're already halfway done.   Your flirting ladder lives right next to your rejection resilience plan from episode 267. Build both and you're unstoppable this summer.   💎 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book 💎 Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating 💎 Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook 💎 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ 💎 Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen 💎 Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

  2. Jul 21

    The Impossible List: The Exercise That Proves Your Love Story Is Possible

    Today we're talking about making the impossible happen. So if you think finding love is impossible for you, this is the episode for you. You've done it before. The friendship you didn't know you needed. The job that used to be a pipe dream and is now a no-duh. Your love life is next.   Work with Lily: ■ Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book ■ Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating ■ Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook ■ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ ■ Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen ■ Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

  3. Jul 14

    Episode Spotlight: Get over the fear of rejection (rejection resilience side quest!)

    If rejection makes you want to hide under the covers and never date again—this episode is your roadmap back to brave action.   In this Episode Spotlight, Lily shares one of her most painful rejections from her dating life, how it nearly derailed her belief in love, and the five-step Rejection Resilience Side Quest she created to help late bloomers build the skill of shooting their shot without spiraling.   Inside this episode: ⚡️ Why rejection feels so dangerous (and why that makes total sense) ⚡️ A 5-step framework to depersonalize "no" and take bold action anyway ⚡️ A rejection aftercare protocol that actually helps you recover faster ⚡️ How building resilience leads to getting more of what you want in love and life   This is the most essential skill in dating that no one teaches, until now. Work with Lily: 💎 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book 💎 Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating 💎 Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook 💎 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ 💎 Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen 💎 Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

  4. Jul 8

    Episode Spotlight: "How to move through hopelessness in my dating life?"

    This episode of The Feminist Dating Show is a juicy one-- I'm responding to a listener's voicemail about feeling completely hopeless after being ghosted... And after validating the hell out of her (because getting ghosted SUCKS), I got down to answering her question with a tactical action plan: How do you build hope in your dating life after so much disappointment? Is it even realistic to be hopeful in this dating climate? If these questions resonate with you, you're going to love love love this episode.  Links: Date Brazen on TikTok Date Brazen on Instagram 127. My response to the question, "Will I just die alone?" 128. The questions you don't say out loud.. 139. Body image and your dating life with Bri Campos 140. My bless and release strategy for letting go Kristen Neff, SelfCompassion.org Simone Seol's Joyful Marketing Podcast Work with Lily Join the Main Character Dating: https://datebrazen.com/dating Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

  5. Jun 30

    Episode Spotlight: "I'm a late bloomer, will men think that's a red flag?" - Live Coaching Session

    If you feel like a late bloomer, and you're fearful that will come off like a "red flag" when you start dating, this is for you. This is a live coaching session with Dana, a healthcare worker who's never been in a long-term relationship and is wondering if it's too late for her. In one hour, Lily helps her build a full dating system from scratch. Inside this episode: 💎 Why you're for the few, not for the many, and how that one reframe changes how you see every dating app profile 💎 How to build essence-based preferences live, so you know exactly what you want before you swipe 💎 The vetting questions that surface emotional maturity, shared values, and real adventure before you ever meet in person 💎 A dating profile makeover that starts with what you love, not an apology 💎 Why "I'm a late bloomer" isn't a "red flag"  Dana left this session with her preferences on paper, a vetting system, a rebuilt profile, and a completely different relationship to her own love life. You will too. Work with Lily: 💎 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book 💎 Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating 💎 Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook 💎 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ 💎 Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen 💎 Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

  6. Jun 23

    Episode Spotlight: The Most Anxiety-Relieving Dating Advice

    You know that spiral where you replay a conversation for hours, convinced you said the wrong thing to the wrong person at the wrong time? Lily's got one sentence that ends it. This week's Episode Spotlight revisits the piece of advice that went viral for a reason: you cannot say the wrong thing to the right person. Inside this episode: ✨ The exact moment on a first date Lily talked about her ex for 30 minutes straight, and why it didn't end the relationship (it's the one she's still in, eight years later) ✨ The follow-up nobody talks about: the right person isn't just forgiving, they know how to ask for what they need ✨ Why "minimum viable audience" means you're not for everybody, and that's the relief valve for first-date anxiety ✨ The difference between being a mind-reader and letting someone tell you what they need ✨ How to stop treating dating like there's a secret script you have to get right → Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book → Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating → Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook → Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ → Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen → Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

  7. Jun 16

    275. If I Was Your Dating Coach This Summer, Here's What I'd Tell You to Do

    If you've never been in a relationship before, or never been in a good one, and you identify with feelings of anxiety, hopelessness, or overwhelm when it comes to dating, and you just feel like it's impossible for you to find love and it's all over. This episode is for you. This is exactly what I would do if I was your dating coach in the next three weeks, so you could build a joyful dating life, attract the best dates of your life, and make the right relationship inevitable this summer. Inside Episode 275: Why "it happens when you least expect it" is actually desire suppression in disguise, and what to do instead How to build your matchmaker protocol: claim your essence-based preferences so you stop settling before you even get to the starting line The vetting questions I used as a professional matchmaker to qualify the right people and disqualify the wrong ones without mind drama Why rejection feels like death (it's biological, not dramatic) and how to build a bounce back plan so it stops running your dating life The Bounce Back protocol: a step-by-step rejection resilience plan you can write in your notes app right now Work with Lily Join the Main Character Dating: https://datebrazen.com/dating Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

  8. Jun 9

    274. Three Reasons Finding Love Is More Possible Than You Think

    Your brain is convinced it knows how your love story ends. It's gathered all the evidence from your past and decided: this is just how it is. But your brain is not a fortune teller. It's a safety mechanism. And it is working with about 1% of the data. In this episode of The Feminist Dating Show, Lily breaks down three reasons you might just be wrong that finding love is impossible — and why more is possible in your love life than you currently believe. Inside episode 274: Why your brain's "it's never going to happen" narrative is a biological feature, not a fact about your future The math on how many people you haven't met yet — and what that means for your love life How to use the relationships you already have as evidence that more is coming The two things that actually change your timeline: proximity to opportunity and courageous behavior in the face of it Lily's ACK process for rewiring your brain toward possibility when scarcity takes over   Work with Lily: Join my free live training, Attract the Right Partner, Zero Experience Needed: https://datebrazen.com/lets-go Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

See All (330)

4.8
out of 5
162 Ratings

About

How do I find the right relationship when dating apps suck? How can I find better dates? How can I deal with that nagging anxiety that no one is out there for me? How can I navigate dating with more confidence and find that right relationship? Welcome to The Feminist Dating Show, where we'll answer ALL of these questions and so much more. Week after week, host, former top matchmaker and dating coach, Lily Womble brings you all the tools, strategies and coaching you need to build a clear path to the best relationship of your life. After matching hundreds, Lily realized that with training, women can match themselves better than anyone else ever could. Now she helps thousands of women around the world build fulfilling, joyful and successful dating lives on their own terms. She's here to help you do the same. If you're looking for unconventional, feminist leaning dating advice that works, this podcast is for you. Along with her best kept secrets, Lily will share interviews with experts and live coaching sessions, so you can feel seen, heard and inspired.

Information