The Feminist Dating Show

Lily Womble
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How do I find the right relationship when dating apps suck? How can I find better dates? How can I deal with that nagging anxiety that no one is out there for me? How can I navigate dating with more confidence and find that right relationship? Welcome to The Feminist Dating Show, where we'll answer ALL of these questions and so much more. Week after week, host, former top matchmaker and dating coach, Lily Womble brings you all the tools, strategies and coaching you need to build a clear path to the best relationship of your life. After matching hundreds, Lily realized that with training, women can match themselves better than anyone else ever could. Now she helps thousands of women around the world build fulfilling, joyful and successful dating lives on their own terms. She's here to help you do the same. If you're looking for unconventional, feminist leaning dating advice that works, this podcast is for you. Along with her best kept secrets, Lily will share interviews with experts and live coaching sessions, so you can feel seen, heard and inspired.

  1. 3d ago

    288. From feeling like a "late bloomer" to married at 36: How Alyx went from hopeless to meeting her husband

    If you want a loving, long-term relationship and you've never been able to picture it for yourself, meet Alyx Alyx joined Main Character Dating in March 2023. She felt like a "late bloomer" and had just gone through a painful breakup. She'd been on 30 plus dates over a few years and was getting fed up with dating. She didn't want to just find someone. She wanted "to really find myself and uncover why I'm holding myself back from what I really desired. A few weeks ago, she DMed me her wedding photo. She married the person she met during her time in the program In this episode, Alyx takes us behind the scenes of her year, including something we uncovered right before we hit record: the date feedback form from her first date with her now husband In this episode: Why getting off the apps for a dating detox was "mind-blowing" for her, and how she used the apps to meet her husband with intention after learning our strategy What being coached on scarcity gave her that therapy didn't The one line from the program she still shares with her husband What she'd say to the version of herself who didn't believe a loving, long-term relationship was possible Main Character Dating is open for enrollment now. Doors close November 4th, 2026. Learn more + Join us here-- https://datebrazen.com/dating 📖 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book ✨ Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook 📸 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ 🎵 Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen ▶️ Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

  2. Oct 20

    287. How to go from friendly to flirty in one simple question

    Today on the podcast I'm telling you exactly how to go from friend zone to flirty in any conversation. In this episode: The one question that takes you from friendly to flirty, and when to ask it. What the right people say when you ask, and what the wrong people say My rejection resilience plan to bounce back no matter what. My unconventional definition of flirting Why shooting your shot isn't desperate when it comes from desire, not scarcity How clients went from "I don't know how to flirt" to getting asked for their number, asking someone to coffee, and sending the bold text   🌟 Join Stop Freezing, Start Flirting, a three-day coaching challenge for late bloomers to confidently flirt and land a date IRL, October 25-27, 7-8pm ET: https://datebrazen.com/challenge   Work with Lily: 📖 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book 🌟 Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating ✨ Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook 📸 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ 🎵 Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen ▶️ Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

  3. Oct 13

    286. Stop Freezing Around Cute People

    If you want to date IRL and find your person, but you see someone cute and your body locks up, this episode is for you. Freezing is a somatic response. It is your nervous system protecting you from fears like: What if they reject me? I'm definitely not their type. They're probably coupled. Why even try? In this episode, I'm naming each of these fears for what it is, and giving you the reframes and in-the-moment tools to move through the freeze. Fall and winter are a high value, high opportunity season for your IRL dating life, so this is the moment to start. In this episode: The reframes for the fears that keep you frozen: fear of rejection, fear of not being their type, and the fear that they're coupled Why you need to stop being your own helicopter parent The somatic tool I learned that helps you move through the freeze What to do in the bathroom the moment you see a cutie The five parts of a rejection resilience plan Client brags from Main Character Dating, including the client who made a credit union teller blush   Work with Lily: 🌟 Join my free 3-day live challenge, Stop Freezing, Start Flirting (Oct 25-27): https://datebrazen.com/challenge 📖 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book 🌟 Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating ✨ Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook 📸 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ 🎵 Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen ▶️ Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

  4. Oct 6

    285. How to date men when you hate men

    How do you date men when you hate men? It can be a tough question, especially if you've never seen that what you want and who you want exists. Both/and in this episode, I'm your feminist dating coach. And especially if you date men, I'm here to show you how to attract the feminist, emotionally intelligent, fights-for-women's-rights kind of man you desire. You are for the few, not the many. And this kind of man is rare. But rare things exist. And I'm here to help you find them. I would tell you what I'm gonna tell you in this episode. In this episode: Why it's ok to hate men AND date to find your man. You can be a feminist and want a relationship. A complete dating system that vets for not only what they say, but how they behave ACK: acknowledge, compassion, kind reframe If you date men, you're not just looking for any man, you're looking for your man. This episode is the pep talk you need to double down on your boundaries, your vetting process, and your high standards.   💎 Join my free 3-night challenge, Stop Freezing, Start Flirting (Oct 25-27): https://datebrazen.com/challenge 📖 Get my book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book ✨ Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook 📸 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ 🎵 Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen ▶️ Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

  5. Sep 29

    284. Make dating apps optional: A roadmap to attract the right relationship IRL

    You don't have to be on dating apps to be "trying" in your dating life. This episode gives you the alternative strategy that has worked for hundreds of my clients (and worked for me to meet my husband). In this episode, you'll learn exactly how to date IRL. Inside episode 284: → Why "I don't chase, I attract" is one of my least favorite pieces of dating advice, and how it is negatively impacting your IRL dating life → My rule for feminist dating that I've seen work for hundreds of people who felt too behind, too late, too much, not enough → What to say when people tell you they don't know anybody single → Why awkwardness is the price of admission for connection 💎 Register for my free live 3-day coaching challenge, Stop Freezing, Start Flirting (Oct 25-27): https://datebrazen.com/challenge 💎 Listen to my Vox Explain It to Me interview: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/explain-it-to-me/id1042433083?i=1000789331580   Work with Lily 💎 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book 💎 Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook 💎 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen 💎 Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen 💎 Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

  6. Sep 22

    283. My story: from people pleasing and settling in dating, to attracting more as the main character (and how you can, too)

    In episode 283, I'm getting personal about how people pleasing made me settle in dating, friendship, and work, how it led to panic attacks on my lunch break, and the three-step formula I used to quit, one small choice at a time. → I thought I was and wanted "too much," and how that kept me in a relationship where none of my emotional needs were met → How people pleasing was showing up in every relationship in my life, from texting clients at 10 p.m. to making every single plan for my friend group → How you can go from feeling sick with people pleasing, like I was, to building an expansive, joyful life as the main character → The unconventional way to use guilt as your roadmap to give yourself more permission → The three-step formula I used to quit people pleasing and build main character energy, even when I was afraid Main Character Era -- my small group 6-month mastermind for people-pleasing burnt-out feminists to build rock-solid self-trust and finally get what they want in love, friendship, and work -- applications close tonight at midnight. 💎 Apply for Main Character Era: https://datebrazen.com/era   Work with Lily: 💎 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book 💎 Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating 💎 Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook 💎 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ 💎 Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen 💎 Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

  7. Sep 15

    282. "It's scary to want things." How to stop people pleasing and attract what you actually want, with my client Jackie

    Jackie was burnt out to a crisp. She was in a job she felt trapped in, because the story was that she had to be of service no matter how she felt. She had taken a sabbatical that was supposed to be two or three months, and it took her a couple of months just to relax. She came back and was immediately depressed. She couldn't see the forest through the trees. She had no vision. She just wanted to lay down. She also knew she was a background person who wanted to be a main stage person, and she couldn't say that out loud without shame about abandoning her community. Inside Episode 282 of The Feminist Dating Show, Jackie share your story of how she quit people pleasing as her default inside Main Character Era Mastermind (formerly Main Character Energy Mastermind), and what happened in the six months after. She left the job. She started her own company. She moved abroad, got the apartment she wanted in Edinburgh, and started dating with a lot more freedom. Inside episode 282:   → The difference between rest that hides burnout and rest that heals the burnout → How the skillset of self-trust changed Jackie's dating experience for the better. → The micro inflection points where your brain wants to dress rehearse tragedy instead of claiming that it's working, and how to catch yourself and redirect toward the best case scenario. → How Jackie built a self-care action plan she runs the second she notices herself spinning, instead of waiting until she's already spiraled   💎 TONIGHT: Join my free live training, Quit Being the Best Friend: How to Stop People Pleasing and Finally Get What You Want in Love, Friendship, and Work Without Overthinking and Anxiety.   You'll learn how to stop people pleasing, build rock solid self-trust, and become the main character of your life: https://datebrazen.com/best-friend   Work with Lily: 💎 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book 💎 Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating 💎 Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook 💎 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ 💎 Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen 💎 Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

  8. Sep 8

    281. When is the right time to have sex? (and why you keep asking everyone but yourself)

    The way you do one thing is the way you do everything. So when you're stressed about the question "when is the right time to have sex??" and outsource your answer to another dating expert or another tiktoker, I hear an opportunity to build a life changing skillset that will create clarity for this question (and all questions).... That skillset? Self-trust. When you build the skill set of self-trust, with sex, with friendships, with romance, with work, it all gets more easeful. Episode 281 unpacks what this question is really asking and gives you a framework to come to your best answer, whatever it is. Not just for this. For everything. Because the skillset of self-trust will help you get clarity everywhere. Inside this episode: → Self-trust defined: the firm reliance on the integrity of yourself. It does not mean everything goes your way. It means you will have your back no matter what happens. → ACK. Acknowledge, compassion, kind reframe. The self-coaching tool Lily teaches in main character dating, applied to a decision you have been agonizing over. → The small self-trusting decisions that you can make today that will start to build self-trust.   💎 Join my free live training, Quit Being the Best Friend: How to Stop People Pleasing and Finally Get What You Want in Love, Friendship, and Work Without Overthinking and Anxiety: https://datebrazen.com/best-friend 💎 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book 💎 Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating 💎 Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook 💎 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ 💎 Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen 💎 Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

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How do I find the right relationship when dating apps suck? How can I find better dates? How can I deal with that nagging anxiety that no one is out there for me? How can I navigate dating with more confidence and find that right relationship? Welcome to The Feminist Dating Show, where we'll answer ALL of these questions and so much more. Week after week, host, former top matchmaker and dating coach, Lily Womble brings you all the tools, strategies and coaching you need to build a clear path to the best relationship of your life. After matching hundreds, Lily realized that with training, women can match themselves better than anyone else ever could. Now she helps thousands of women around the world build fulfilling, joyful and successful dating lives on their own terms. She's here to help you do the same. If you're looking for unconventional, feminist leaning dating advice that works, this podcast is for you. Along with her best kept secrets, Lily will share interviews with experts and live coaching sessions, so you can feel seen, heard and inspired.

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