Ask Kati Anything

Kati Morton, LMFT
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Ask Kati Anything is a weekly mental health podcast where licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton, LMFT, takes deep dives into the complexities of human psychology, relationships, and emotional well-being. If you are navigating daily anxiety, healing from trauma, or simply trying to understand your own mind, Kati brings over 12 years of private practice experience and the warmth of her 1.5 million+ YouTube community straight to your headphones. This isn’t a therapy podcast—it’s an educational, judgment-free space designed to unpack heavy topics so you never have to feel alone with your struggles. Each episode breaks down specific psychological themes, utilizing listener submissions and real-world experiences to ground clinical concepts into actionable insights. Core Topics & Deep Dives Include: Anxiety & Neurodiversity: Panic attacks, intrusive thoughts, OCD, and ADHD. Mood & Mental Health Conditions: Depression, PTSD, BPD, and eating disorders. Relationships & Behavior: Attachment styles, narcissistic abuse, boundaries, and self-esteem. Clinical Tools & Frameworks: Evidence-based CBT and DBT skills, healing childhood trauma, and navigating the process of starting therapy. Whether you are currently in therapy, considering it, or just looking for deeper self-awareness, this show treats the real struggles of real people like they matter. Because they do. Hit follow to join the community and never miss a weekly episode.

  1. 2d ago

    What Is a Trauma Bond? Signs of an Abusive Relationship

    What is a trauma bond, and why is it so hard to leave an unhealthy relationship even when you know you deserve better? In this episode, licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton breaks down what trauma bonds actually are, why intermittent reinforcement and the "hope trap" keep us stuck, and how to finally break free. Timestamps 00:00 Introduction to Trauma Bonds 02:39 Shared Trauma vs. Trauma Bonds 08:22 Why You Can Miss Someone Who Treated You Terribly 12:51 Intermittent Reinforcement and the "Casino" Effect 22:10 Can You Genuinely Love Someone Who Hurts You? 26:42 Trauma Bond vs. Anxious Attachment vs. Codependency 32:55 Why Do We Keep Going Back? 39:59 Why Leaving Feels Worse at First (Cognitive Dissonance) 46:36 Childhood Trauma and Vulnerability 49:08 Grief, the Death of the Dream, and Practical Autonomy 53:03 Is "No Contact" Always Necessary? (Safety First) 56:30 How to Actually Break a Trauma Bond MY BOOKS Why Do I Keep Doing This? https://geni.us/XoyLSQ Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY ONLINE THERAPY - Enjoy 10% OFF your first month! If you're looking for a therapist, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed online professional: https://betterhelp.com/kati This is an affiliate link, which means a portion of your signup helps support the podcast at no extra cost to you. SOCIAL X https://twitter.com/KatiMorton TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@katimorton Substack https://substack.com/@katimorton1 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/katimorton1/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katimorton Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/katimorton1/ Patreon https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/ PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Disclaimer: The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Ask Kati Anything ep. 334 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  2. Sep 25

    What Is Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD)?

    What Is Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD)? Do you struggle to make decisions without someone else’s approval? Do you constantly seek reassurance, fear being alone, or stay in unhealthy relationships because the thought of leaving feels terrifying? In this episode of the Ask Kati Anything Podcast, licensed therapist Kati Morton takes a deep dive into Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD). We explore the official DSM-5 diagnostic criteria, how DPD differs from anxious attachment, codependency, and borderline personality disorder (BPD), why DPD develops, and practical steps to rebuild self-trust and confidence. EPISODE SPONSOR Specialized virtual trauma treatment is available through Rebound. Founded by survivors and psychologists, Rebound provides clinically effective trauma therapy covered by leading insurance plans: https://hellorebound.com/askkatianything Timestamps 00:00 - Introduction: Understanding Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD) 01:31 - Q1: Am I Needy, Depressed, Traumatized, or Is It DPD? (DSM-5 Criteria) 10:30 - Q2: Capable at Work, But Indecisive at Home (Capability vs. Self-Trust) 15:15 - Q3: Asking Multiple People Before Making Decisions: Advice vs. Permission 18:54 - Advice vs. Reassurance: Finding What You Really Think 20:42 - Q4: Backtracking During Disagreements & Fear of Conflict 24:00 - Q5: Why Staying in Bad Relationships Feels Safer Than Being Alone 29:31 - Q6: Urgently Jumping Into Rebound Relationships 35:40 - Q7: DPD vs. Anxious Attachment, Codependency, BPD & Avoidant PD 44:33 - Q8: Where Does DPD Come From? (Genetics, Childhood, Overprotective Parenting) 53:32 - Q9: Why Does Reassurance Never Feel Like Enough? (The Reassurance Cycle) 56:31 - Q10: Transferring Dependency onto Your Therapist 01:02:03 - 5 Actionable Steps to Build Self-Trust and Overcome DPD MY BOOKS Why Do I Keep Doing This? Traumatized Are u ok? ONLINE THERAPY - Enjoy 10% off your first month If you're looking for a therapist, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed online professional: https://betterhelp.com/kati - a portion of your signup helps support the podcast at no extra cost to you. SOCIAL X https://twitter.com/KatiMorton TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@katimorton Substack https://substack.com/@katimorton1 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/katimorton1/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katimorton Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/katimorton1/ Patreon https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/ PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Disclaimer: The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Ask Kati Anything ep. 333 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  3. Sep 17

    Avoidant Personality Disorder: Why You Think You’re Better Off Alone

    Are you constantly craving connection but terrified of rejection? Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD) goes beyond typical shyness or introversion—it can keep you trapped in a cycle of loneliness and an intense fear of judgment. In this video, we explore the distinct symptoms of AvPD, how it heavily overlaps with social anxiety, and why someone might desperately want friends but actively avoid them. We discuss how this pervasive pattern develops, the role of a negative cognitive bias, and the practical steps and therapies (like CBT and Schema Therapy) that can help you finally build meaningful, lasting relationships. ✨ EPISODE SPONSORS OneSkin: Get 15% off scientifically backed peptide skincare with code KATI at https://oneskin.co/kati Hero Bread: Enjoy 10% off high-protein, high-fiber baked favorites with code KATI at https://hero.co 🎙️ EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 What is Avoidant Personality Disorder? 04:08 The DSM-5 diagnostic criteria for AVPD 10:08 What makes AVPD a personality disorder rather than just a preference? 16:50 Social Anxiety vs. Avoidant Personality Disorder 23:56 Avoidant Personality Disorder vs. Avoidant Attachment 27:08 Why we automatically assume people won't like us 32:16 Skipping opportunities and making your world smaller 36:49 The paradox of canceled plans and sudden loneliness 40:18 Where does Avoidant Personality Disorder come from? 46:58 The struggle of needing proof before letting people in 50:15 Is it fear of rejection or a negative cognitive bias? 54:15 Why avoidance feels safe but costs you deep connections 56:12 CBT, Exposure, and Schema Therapy for treating AVPD 1:00:18 Can you fully recover from a personality disorder? 📚 KATI'S BOOKS Why Do I Keep Doing This? https://geni.us/XoyLSQ Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY 💻 ONLINE THERAPY If you're looking for a therapist, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed online professional: https://betterhelp.com/katiEnjoy 10% OFF YOUR FIRST MONTH! This is an affiliate link, which means a portion of your signup helps support the podcast at no extra cost to you. 📱 CONNECT WITH KATI Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/katimorton?sub_confirmation=1 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katimorton TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@katimorton Substack: https://substack.com/@katimorton1 Patreon: https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/ PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Disclaimer: The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  4. Sep 10

    What Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder Actually Looks Like (OCD)

    Are disturbing intrusive thoughts a sign of OCD, or are they just severe anxiety? Licensed therapist Kati Morton explains how Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder is clinically diagnosed, why common expressions like Pure O and taboo obsessions are frequently misdiagnosed, and how to tell the difference between tidy preferences and true compulsions. Learn the neuroscience behind the obsessive-compulsive cycle, why constant reassurance backfires, and how exposure and response prevention (ERP) therapy helps you break the loop. SPONSOR Specialized virtual trauma treatment is available through Rebound. Founded by survivors and psychologists, Rebound provides clinically effective trauma therapy covered by leading insurance plans: https://hellorebound.com/askkatianything PUBLISHED BOOKS Why Do I Keep Doing This? https://geni.us/XoyLSQ Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY ONLINE THERAPY If you're looking for a therapist, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed online professional: https://betterhelp.com/kati - Enjoy 10% off your first month!(this is an affiliate link, which means a portion of your signup helps support the podcast at no extra cost to you) SOCIAL X https://twitter.com/KatiMorton TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@katimorton Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katimorton Substack https://substack.com/@katimorton1 Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/katimorton1/ Patreon https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/katimorton1/ BUSINESS INQUIRIES Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com DISCLAIMER The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. #OCD #MentalHealth #AskKatiAnything Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  5. Sep 3

    Why are some people so good at manipulating us?

    What is the Dark Triad, and how can you tell if you’re dealing with a narcissist, a psychopath, or someone high in Machiavellianism? In this episode, licensed therapist Kati Morton breaks down the core traits of dark triad personalities, the key differences between them, and the common myths surrounding manipulation and empathy. You'll learn the 6 telltale signs of interacting with someone who has dark traits, what the psychological "D-factor" really means, and whether people with these patterns can truly change. Timestamps 0:00 - Introduction to the Dark Triad 01:02 - Is the Dark Triad a Diagnosis or Framework? 02:13 - Trait Narcissism Explained 04:22 - What is Machiavellianism? Origins & 5 Core Traits 12:42 - Psychopathy vs. Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD) 19:15 - Key Differences: Impulse Control & Dark Triad Overlap 23:26 - 6 Signs You’re Interacting With a Dark Personality 35:09 - The "D-Factor": Are We All a Little Manipulative? 42:54 - Myth 1: Are Dark Personalities More Charming & Attractive? 46:53 - Myth 2: Do Psychopaths Make Great CEOs? 49:23 - Myth 3: Is Sadism Part of the Dark Triad? (The Dark Tetrad) 50:58 - Can Psychopaths Feel Empathy? Cognitive vs. Affective Empathy 54:54 - Nature vs. Nurture: Can Dark Traits Change Over Time? 1:01:10 - How to Protect Yourself & Set Boundaries MY BOOKS Why Do I Keep Doing This? Traumatized Are u ok? SOCIAL X https://twitter.com/KatiMorton TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@katimorton Facebook https://www.facebook.com/katimorton1/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katimorton Substack https://substack.com/@katimorton1 Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/katimorton1/ Patreon https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/ ONLINE THERAPY If you're looking for a therapist, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed online professional: https://betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month) This is an affiliate link, which means a portion of your signup helps support the podcast at no extra cost to you. PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Disclaimer: The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Ask Kati Anything ep. 330 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  6. Aug 27

    Dissociation: From Zoning Out to Depersonalization

    Have you ever felt completely disconnected from your body, lost hours of time, or wondered why you feel numb when overwhelmed? In this episode, licensed therapist Kati Morton explores dissociation and the full spectrum of dissociative disorders, including depersonalization-derealization (DPDR), dissociative amnesia, and dissociative identity disorder (DID). You'll learn the neuroscience behind why your brain pulls the ripcord to protect you, how to distinguish normal spacing out from trauma responses, and somatic grounding techniques to regulate your nervous system. To see if specialized trauma therapy with Rebound could be the right next step for you, head to https://hellorebound.com/askkatianything where you can check your insurance, book a free call with one of their care specialists, and find out more. Timestamps 00:00 What Is Dissociation? 00:55 Spacing Out vs. Dissociating 02:03 How the DSM Defines Dissociative Disorders 03:11 Dissociative Episodes vs. Diagnosable Disorders 06:03 Why Your Brain Pulls the Ripcord (Nervous System Protection) 10:05 Hypoarousal, the Freeze State & Emotional Dampening 12:28 Depersonalization-Derealization Disorder (DPDR) Criteria 14:53 Reality Testing: DPDR vs. Psychosis 21:02 How Common Is Dissociation? Statistics & Comorbidities 25:25 Dissociative Amnesia vs. Normal Everyday Forgetting 30:42 What Is a Dissociative Fugue? 35:07 Localized, Selective & Generalized Amnesia 36:15 Brain Networks & Memory Suppression Mechanisms 40:02 Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) Explained 40:40 Parts Work vs. Alters in DID 46:00 Cultural Context & What DID Is Not (DID vs. Schizophrenia) 47:18 The Dissociation Spectrum: Maladaptive Daydreaming to DID 50:07 Childhood Trauma & The Role of Protector Alters 54:37 How to Tell If You're Dissociating or Just Zoning Out 56:00 Somatic Grounding Techniques for Dissociation 58:45 Nervous System Regulation, Qigong & Calming the Amygdala 60:34 Therapy Approaches for DID: System Cooperation vs. Integration SOCIAL X https://twitter.com/KatiMorton YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/katimorton?sub_confirmation=1 TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@katimorton Facebook https://www.facebook.com/katimorton1/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katimorton Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/katimorton1/ Patreon https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/ MY BOOKS Why Do I Keep Doing This? https://geni.us/XoyLSQ Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY ONLINE THERAPY If you're looking for a therapist, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed online professional: https://betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month) This is an affiliate link, which means a portion of your signup helps support the podcast at no extra cost to you. PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Disclaimer The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  7. Aug 21

    Do You Have CPTSD? Symptoms, Flashbacks & Treatments

    What is Complex PTSD (CPTSD), and how does it differ from traditional PTSD or Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? In this episode of Ask Kati Anything (Ep. 328), licensed therapist Kati Morton breaks down the ICD-11 diagnostic criteria for Complex PTSD, the impact of chronic emotional abuse and neglect, emotional flashbacks, and practical treatment modalities like TF-CBT, EMDR, and DBT. Thank you to OneSkin for sponsoring today’s episode! Get 15% off OneSkin with the code KATI at https://www.oneskin.co/KATI TIMESTAMPS 00:00 - Introduction to Complex PTSD & ICD-11 Criteria 01:45 - What Makes PTSD "Complex"? (Judith Herman & Prolonged Trauma) 04:08 - Can Chronic Emotional Abuse, Neglect, or Bullying Cause CPTSD? 12:08 - Big "T" vs. Little "t" Traumas & Resilience 15:15 - Core Differences Between PTSD and Complex PTSD 18:54 - Emotional Dysregulation: Hyper-Arousal vs. Hypo-Arousal 23:20 - Why Trauma Triggers Make You Relive the Past 25:40 - Pete Walker’s Concept of Emotional Flashbacks & Dissociation 29:30 - Negative Self-Concept, Shame & Externalizing Trauma 35:48 - How to Heal When There Was "Never a Before" 41:00 - Childhood Trauma vs. Adult CPTSD 43:30 - How Complex PTSD Affects Relationships & Trust 50:20 - Why We Isolate Even When Craving Connection 54:35 - Complex PTSD vs. Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) 01:03:00 - What If Your Childhood Doesn't Feel "Traumatic"? 01:10:30 - Effective Treatments: Trauma-Focused CBT, EMDR & DBT 01:15:50 - What to Do If Trauma Therapy Isn't Working Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katimorton Ask Kati Anything ep.328 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT MY BOOKS Why Do I Keep Doing This? https://geni.us/XoyLSQ Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY ONLINE THERAPY If you're looking for a therapist, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed online professional: https://betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month) This is an affiliate link, which means a portion of your signup helps support the podcast at no extra cost to you. PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Disclaimer: The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  8. Aug 13

    How Narcissism Actually Works: Love Bombing, Gaslighting, Flying Monkeys

    Narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and NPD get thrown around constantly online, and most of what circulates is wrong. In this episode, licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton walks through what narcissistic personality disorder actually is (all nine DSM criteria, and why five or more are required for a diagnosis), the difference between covert and overt narcissism, and the specific behavior patterns that make a relationship abusive: love bombing, gaslighting, trauma bonding, DARVO, flying monkeys, isolation, and intermittent reinforcement. She also covers the gray rock method, the signs you're walking on eggshells in your own home, and how healing from narcissistic abuse actually works. If you've been wondering whether what you experienced counts, or whether the person in your life is a narcissist or simply selfish and hurtful, this one is for you. Timestamps 0:00 Everyone thinks everyone's a narcissist 1:07 What narcissistic personality disorder actually is: five of nine criteria 3:20 Covert vs. overt narcissism 9:22 What narcissistic abuse means 9:48 Love bombing, and how it differs from someone just being kind 13:49 Gaslighting 19:11 No accountability, no apology, no repair 22:19 Monitoring, isolation, and turning you against the people who love you 24:22 Trauma bonding and the abuse cycle 27:25 DARVO 30:45 The gray rock method 34:30 Flying monkeys 36:57 Why they aren't nasty all the time 40:02 Intermittent reinforcement 40:47 Signs you're living in this dynamic 43:50 How healing actually happens 46:27 Reconnecting with the people you lost touch with 49:16 A better question than "what's wrong with me" 53:33 Afraid you'll end up with another narcissist This episode is brought to you by Rebound, offering specialized virtual trauma therapy in all 50 states, founded by survivors and psychologists. Head to https://hellorebound.com/askkatianything to learn more and check your insurance. Using that link is a direct way to support the podcast, so even if you're only curious, take a minute to look. Ask Kati Anything ep. 327 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT MY BOOKS Why Do I Keep Doing This? https://geni.us/XoyLSQ Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY ONLINE THERAPY If you're looking for a therapist, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed online professional: https://betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month) This is an affiliate link, which means a portion of your signup helps support the podcast at no extra cost to you. PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Disclaimer The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Ask Kati Anything is a weekly mental health podcast where licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton, LMFT, takes deep dives into the complexities of human psychology, relationships, and emotional well-being. If you are navigating daily anxiety, healing from trauma, or simply trying to understand your own mind, Kati brings over 12 years of private practice experience and the warmth of her 1.5 million+ YouTube community straight to your headphones. This isn’t a therapy podcast—it’s an educational, judgment-free space designed to unpack heavy topics so you never have to feel alone with your struggles. Each episode breaks down specific psychological themes, utilizing listener submissions and real-world experiences to ground clinical concepts into actionable insights. Core Topics & Deep Dives Include: Anxiety & Neurodiversity: Panic attacks, intrusive thoughts, OCD, and ADHD. Mood & Mental Health Conditions: Depression, PTSD, BPD, and eating disorders. Relationships & Behavior: Attachment styles, narcissistic abuse, boundaries, and self-esteem. Clinical Tools & Frameworks: Evidence-based CBT and DBT skills, healing childhood trauma, and navigating the process of starting therapy. Whether you are currently in therapy, considering it, or just looking for deeper self-awareness, this show treats the real struggles of real people like they matter. Because they do. Hit follow to join the community and never miss a weekly episode.

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  • Creator
    Kati Morton, LMFT
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    335
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Happyable Inc.
  • Show Website
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