Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Relational Recovery When You Have CPTSD

Dr. Tanner Wallace | CPTSD Resolution with IFS & RLT
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The CPTSD podcast for adults who grew up in dysfunctional families and are done repeating the pattern in their adult relationships. When you grow up in a house full of trauma, you develop a lot of coping skills just to survive, and it turns out what was adaptive then isn't so helpful in adult romantic relationships. I'm Dr. Tanner Wallace, former professor turned IFS Certified Practitioner, and in this podcast I share what I've learned about relational recovery when you suffer with CPTSD, so that you don't keep getting your heart shattered into a million pieces. Whether you've just broken up with the person you thought was the love of your life, or you're in a relationship and considering divorce, this can be your level-up moment, the one where you finally heal what is causing you so much emotional pain. It won't be easy, but you can do it, and I'll be right here with you. When you're ready for more than the podcast, the work continues at cptsdmedicine.com.

Episodes

  1. 12h ago

    006. Controlling Behavior Means Your No Is Being Overridden

    With complex trauma, we take the blame for bad things happening in our relationships. But controlling behavior isn't a character flaw. It's what a person does when their no keeps getting overridden and they've run out of other ways to get their safety and security needs met. Yes, a lot may need to change in what you say and do in your closest relationships. It's also true that we live inside societal rules that make men more entitled to do what they want and women less empowered to stand firm in their boundaries, and that shapes the strategies available to us. If controlling behavior is your go-to, this is an episode you'll want to download and listen to. Interested in working with me directly? www.cptsdmedicine.com

  2. Sep 22

    005. CPTSD Red Flags in Relationships: The Ones You Miss

    Not sure about your relationship? Is it healthy, unhealthy, fixable, or not? These are key questions many of us have, but we struggle to get answers that make sense, give us hope, and point us toward better outcomes. In this episode I walk through the CPTSD red flags in relationships that survivors miss, and the survival codes underneath them. This is the CPTSD podcast for survivors who are ready to get unstuck and out of relationship hell. Want to work with me? cptsdmedicine.com

  3. Sep 15

    004. Is This Behavior Making Things Worse?

    Often I get asked, "Why isn't this getting better?" And when I do, I often run a "Reach Inventory." This episode is a modified lecture from a core CPTSD Medicine teaching on "The Reach." Listen and see if The Reach is shaping your relationships. Want to work with me? https://cptsdmedicine.com/

  4. Sep 10

    003. Why Your Relationships Are So Messed Up

    You didn't choose to be a childhood trauma survivor. That's something I want you to remember. And yet, your childhood trauma has impacted your life considerably. In this episode, I share the origins of your relationship suffering. This is a topic I am often asked to speak about and so it feels good to deliver this content to you here. I hope it brings a fresh perspective to your work, and something I say helps you finally get help that actually helps. If you want to work with me: https://cptsdmedicine.com/happilyeverafter

  5. Sep 3

    002. Relational Empowerment As The Second Experience

    Learning how to be your own co-regulator is life-changing and knowing that no one is coming to save you is the ultimate leadership amplifier, and YET those are all very individually focused milestones. Critical for initial success in your CPTSD Resolution, but not enough for comprehensive relational recovery. Up next is Relational Empowerment which is what this episode is about. As the second of two episodes in a 2-episode relaunch, I share with you some big ideas of this kind of empowerment. It is a more advanced skill to take your individual empowerment and test it in the relational field, but you learn new things about yourself, your trauma, and yourself as significant other in ways that cannot happen in individual work.  If you would like to work with me: https://cptsdmedicine.com/help-with-healing-cptsd

  6. Sep 3

    001. Individual Empowerment As The First Experience

    Getting your heart broken again and again is horrific. It doesn't have to be this way for you anymore, and I would like to teach you how this exausting experience stops. In this two-episode relaunch, this episode focuses on Individual Empowerment as the first experience you need in your relational recovery journey. The good news is that CPTSD Resolution, or healing your complex trauma, is the exact process required for your relational recovery. These are entirely overlapping experiences for you, the human with childhood trauma and secondary adult trauma that led to complex trauma.  If you are interested in working with me: https://cptsdmedicine.com/help-with-healing-cptsd

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The CPTSD podcast for adults who grew up in dysfunctional families and are done repeating the pattern in their adult relationships. When you grow up in a house full of trauma, you develop a lot of coping skills just to survive, and it turns out what was adaptive then isn't so helpful in adult romantic relationships. I'm Dr. Tanner Wallace, former professor turned IFS Certified Practitioner, and in this podcast I share what I've learned about relational recovery when you suffer with CPTSD, so that you don't keep getting your heart shattered into a million pieces. Whether you've just broken up with the person you thought was the love of your life, or you're in a relationship and considering divorce, this can be your level-up moment, the one where you finally heal what is causing you so much emotional pain. It won't be easy, but you can do it, and I'll be right here with you. When you're ready for more than the podcast, the work continues at cptsdmedicine.com.

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