Wives Not Sisters

Kayla Nielsen and Alix Tucker
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A playful, unfiltered podcast where a married wlw couple dives into the chaos of modern relationships, pop culture, queer lore, and all the little things most people wouldn’t admit out loud. Wives Not Sisters is a queer-led podcast where marriage meets humor, honesty, and a little too much sharing but in the best way. We’re here to normalize nuance in relationships -- from romantic, platonic, familial, and everything in between- and to create a space where deep conversations and dumb jokes can coexist. Through real talk, playful debates, and just enough oversharing, we’re building a community that’s reflective, ridiculous, and radically relatable.

  1. 1D AGO

    Aspyn Ovard is in a Throuple

    Alix and Kayla are back with a quickie—but this one spirals into a very juicy conversation 👀 In this episode, they dive into the internet drama surrounding a longtime influencer whose life took a major turn—from young marriage and mommy-vlogger perfection to divorce, coming out, and now… a rumored (and confirmed?) throuple. They unpack everything: The timeline of her relationship and coming outThe internet’s reaction (supportive, confused, and very judgmental)The complexity of labels like “lesbian,” “bi,” and “fluid”What it actually means to be in a throupleWhether polyamory is comparable to queer identityAnd the real-life logistics of relationships that don’t follow the normPlus, Alix and Kayla share their own takes on monogamy vs. non-monogamy, jealousy, parenting in unconventional relationships, and whether a throuple could ever work for them. It’s messy, thoughtful, funny, and full of questions we’re all kind of wondering… 👉 Would you ever be in a throuple?  👉 Do labels matter in modern dating?  👉 And can relationships like this actually work long-term? Let’s talk about it. 🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes 🎧 Listen on Spotify Follow WNS on Instagram Follow WNS on TikTok Follow Kayla Follow Alix Visit our retreat center in Nicaragua! Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod  | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    21 min

  2. 3D AGO

    Girls Hooking Up With Girls

    What actually counts as sexy… and what’s just awkward? In this episode, Alix & Kayla dive into a spicy (and very funny) conversation about lesbian sex, flirting, and the little moments that can either turn up the heat or completely ruin the vibe.  From being pushed against the fridge to intense eye contact, belt-loop pulling, accidental headbutts, and the infamous phrase “good girl,” they unpack the tiny details that make intimacy work—or make you burst out laughing mid-makeout. Along the way, they also talk about how humor plays a role in relationships, the awkward reality of real-life intimacy versus movie moments, and why some “sexy” tropes just don’t translate in real life. It’s chaotic, honest, and full of the kind of conversations you only hear between married lesbians who have no filter. 01:05 The Wi-Fi name that made them laugh  01:40 Ex-Mormon lesbian love story obsession  02:20 Why Mormon stories keep finding them  03:00 How listeners shape the podcast  03:35 Today’s topic: “girls hooking up with girls”  04:00 Beating the algorithm (aka avoiding the phrase lesbian sex)  04:15 Game time: Sexy or Silly  04:40 Being pushed against the fridge  05:10 Whispering “come here” from across the room  05:30 Intense eye contact  05:50 Accidental headbutts during a kiss  06:05 Laughing during a makeout  06:25 Saying “good girl”  06:40 Being called “trouble”  07:00 Sexy texts vs. nude photos  07:25 Pulling someone by the belt loops  07:40 Trying to be dominant but apologizing immediately  08:00 Whispering something sexy… and mispronouncing it  08:10 Making a playlist for the moment  08:30 When the “sexy playlist” completely kills the mood 🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes 🎧 Listen on Spotify Follow WNS on Instagram Follow WNS on TikTok Follow Kayla Follow Alix Visit our retreat center in Nicaragua! Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    1h 3m

  3. MAR 12

    WLW Couple Reacts To Heated Rivalry

    There’s one very gay show everyone seems to be talking about right now… so naturally, Alix & Kayla haven’t watched it. In this quickie episode, they dive into the internet’s latest obsession — “Heated Rivalry.” From the extremely passionate fan reactions to the very explicit scenes circulating on social media, the show has taken over queer corners of the internet. The only problem? Kayla has a hard time watching shows where the main characters are men. The conversation turns into a hilarious exploration of queer media consumption: why some lesbians love watching gay male storylines, why others struggle to connect with them, and how attraction (or lack of it) affects the way we watch TV. They also talk about supporting queer content even when it’s not exactly your flavor, the differences between lesbian and gay male media, and the constant pressure to show up for representation so these shows keep getting made. It’s a chaotic, funny, and very honest chat about queer TV, internet discourse, and the complicated ways we relate to representation on screen. 00:40 Today’s topic: the gayest show everyone’s talking about  01:06 The “Heated Rivalry” obsession online  01:30 The big reveal: we haven’t watched it  01:49 Kayla’s issue with shows led by men  02:14 The misandry debate  02:34 Why Kayla struggles to connect with male-led stories  03:18 When queer media still doesn’t fully resonate  03:58 Why lesbians might not relate to gay male storylines  04:22 The internet’s obsession with the show’s spicy scenes  04:43 Do lesbians actually enjoy watching gay male content?  05:05 The divide in queer audiences  05:31 Supporting queer media—even when it’s not your thing  05:49 Would we watch a male-only queer reality show? 🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes 🎧 Listen on Spotify Follow WNS on Instagram Follow WNS on TikTok Follow Kayla Follow Alix Visit our retreat center in Nicaragua! Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    12 min

  4. MAR 10

    Bi Girls With Husbands

    Alix & Kayla dive into one of the most requested topics from the Sister Wives community: the experience of bi women in relationships with male partners. After asking their audience for stories and questions, they unpack everything from “allowed cheating” dynamics and open relationships to the emotional reality of choosing monogamy when you’re attracted to more than one gender.  The conversation explores the complicated feelings that can come up in long-term relationships—like grieving parts of your identity, navigating attraction to others, and figuring out what honesty actually looks like in a committed partnership. They also discuss common assumptions people have about bisexual women, including threesomes, monogamy, and whether partners feel threatened by same-sex attraction.  Through listener submissions and personal experiences, Alix & Kayla break down the nuances of bisexual identity, relationships, and the messy gray areas that rarely get talked about. 01:40 – Marriage “Myth or Truth” Game  04:00 – Living & Recording in Nicaragua  06:30 – Relationship Habits & Fight Dynamics  10:20 – Today’s Topic: Bi Women With Male Partners  11:00 – Is the Word “Female” Offensive?  12:00 – Questions From the Sister Wives Community  14:00 – Do Bi Women’s Partners Support LGBTQ+ Rights?  15:10 – The Stereotypes: Threesomes & Open Relationships  16:20 – Listener Story: Open Marriage With Women Only  18:00 – What It’s Like “Turning Off” Part of Your Identity  21:10 – The “Open Energy” of Being Single vs. Married  23:30 – Grieving a Lifestyle or Version of Yourself  26:30 – Attraction Outside of a Relationship  27:50 – “Allowed Cheating” With Women  30:00 – Do Men See Women as Less of a Threat?  39:30 – When an Old Flame Reaches Out  41:00 – Why Waiting Before Responding Matters  45:00 – Honesty vs. Protecting Your Partner’s Feelings  53:30 – Is It Okay to Talk to Friends About Relationship Problems?  55:00 – Deal Breakers in Relationships 🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes 🎧 Listen on Spotify Follow WNS on Instagram Follow WNS on TikTok Follow Kayla Follow Alix Visit our retreat center in Nicaragua! Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    1h 3m

  5. MAR 5

    Becca Moore & Zoe Boyd DM Drama

    What’s worse: sending a cringe DM… or fumbling someone you already married in your head? In this Quickie episode, Alix & Kayla break down the viral DM moment between Becca Moore and Zoe Boyd that divided the internet. When a flirty (but arguably unhinged) cat-related message landed in Becca’s inbox, the internet split into teams: Was it just a joke? Was it too sexual too fast? Or did both of them fumble the bag? From DM etiquette and Gen Z flirting to “lines,” thirst traps, and how to actually message someone you’re interested in, the girls unpack what works, what absolutely does not, and Alix shares her tried-and-true three-step strategy for sliding into someone’s DMs successfully. It’s funny, chaotic, and surprisingly educational. So… who fumbled? And what’s the best DM you’ve ever received? Let us know, sister wives. 00:45 – The Viral Becca Moore & Zoe Boyd DM Drama 02:30 – The Cat DM That Broke the Internet 04:15 – Too Sexual Too Soon? 06:10 – Grace for a Cringe First Message? 07:10 – Alix’s Foolproof 3-Step DM Strategy 09:00 – Does Gen Z Flirt Differently? 10:00 – Should Becca Have Responded? 11:40 – When “Lines” Actually Backfire 12:40 – DM Etiquette: Do People Even Like Being DM’d? 13:20 – Who Fumbled: Becca, Zoe, or Both? 14:35 – Best & Worst DMs We’ve Ever Received 15:10 – Let the Sister Wives Decide 🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes 🎧 Listen on Spotify Follow WNS on Instagram Follow WNS on TikTok Follow Kayla Follow Alix Visit our retreat center in Nicaragua! Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    16 min

  6. MAR 3

    Understanding Detransition: Real Experiences from Queer and Trans Voices

    In this episode, Alix & Kayla explore stories from people who have transitioned and later detransitioned, unpacking the deeply personal, emotional, and complex experiences behind those journeys. From informed consent and puberty to trauma, social influence, and the evolving language around gender identity, they discuss how identity formation can shift over time—and why holding space for nuance matters. Through anonymous community stories and open conversation, they reflect on how gender, sexuality, and self-perception intersect with mental health, relationships, and the pressure to “figure it out” too quickly. This is a compassionate, layered conversation about gender identity, detransition stories, queer community belonging, and the reality that self-discovery isn’t always linear. 00:00 – Intro + Life Updates in Nicaragua  02:00 – Hyperfixations & Mormon Memoirs  04:20 – Marriage “Would You Rather” Game  15:20 – Today’s Topic: Transition & Detransition Stories  16:00 – News Story: Malpractice Case & Gender-Affirming Care  20:00 – What “Detransition” Means  22:00 – Informed Consent & Medical Decision-Making  26:30 – Why This Conversation Matters in Queer Spaces  30:00 – Anonymous Story: Transition, Fertility & Identity  32:00 – Puberty, Body Changes & Gender Confusion  38:30 – Trauma, Identity & Transition Motivations  44:00 – Social Influence, Language & Self-Understanding  48:00 – Internalized Misogyny & Gender Expectations  52:00 – Does Transition Resolve Dysphoria?  55:00 – Therapy, Root Causes & Identity Exploration  58:30 – Growing Up Tomboy & Gender Expression  01:02:00 – The Complexity of Identity & Final Thoughts 🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes 🎧 Listen on Spotify Follow WNS on Instagram Follow WNS on TikTok Follow Kayla Follow Alix Visit our retreat center in Nicaragua! Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    1h 21m

  7. FEB 26

    Cat Missal is Gay & Tell Me Lies Finale Reaction

    Did the Tell Me Lies finale actually deliver… or are we all just emotionally attached to chaos? In this quickie episode, Alix & Kayla break down the Tell Me Lies finale—spoilers included—and unpack everything from toxic relationship dynamics to unresolved plotlines and the very real lesbian internet crossover that somehow always leads back to the same tiny queer universe. From casting coincidences and queer Hollywood connections to the psychology behind Stephen and Lucy’s relationship, they dive into what worked, what didn’t, and the storylines they wish we’d gotten another season to explore. This is a fun, chaotic pop culture recap about messy relationships, queer internet lore, TV finales, and why the lesbian social graph is somehow only three degrees wide. 00:00 – Intro: First Ever “Quickie” Episode  00:45 – Why We’re Adding Quick Episodes  01:05 – Tell Me Lies Finale (Spoiler Alert) 02:00 – Recognizing the Cast & Lesbian Internet Connections 03:00 – Doppelgängers, Casting, and Queer Lore 04:05 – Real-Life Relationships Between the Cast 05:15 – The “Tiny Web of Lesbians” Phenomenon 06:30 – Finale Reactions: Mixed Feelings 08:00 – Did Stephen Actually Win? 09:30 – Lucy’s Choices & Relationship Chaos 10:45 – Plotlines That Felt Unresolved 11:45 – Storylines We Wish Got Another Season 13:00 – Favorite Character Dynamics 14:00 – Final Thoughts on the Ending 14:45 – Audience Questions & Comment Prompts 🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes 🎧 Listen on Spotify Follow WNS on Instagram Follow WNS on TikTok Follow Kayla Follow Alix Visit our retreat center in Nicaragua! Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    17 min

  8. FEB 24

    WLW Travel: What It’s Really Like Traveling the World as a Married Lesbian Couple

    Why does queer dating sometimes feel like relearning everything from scratch? In this episode, Alix & Kayla talk about the strange, funny, and sometimes emotional reality of navigating attraction, identity, and dating after stepping outside heteronormative expectations. From questioning what “counts” as chemistry to unpacking the pressure to label experiences too quickly, they explore how queer relationships often challenge the scripts we grew up with—and why that uncertainty can actually be freeing. This conversation is a relatable look at queer curiosity, identity shifts, and the messy, honest process of figuring out what feels right instead of what feels expected. 00:12 – When Attraction Doesn’t Follow the Script 00:28 – Pressure to Label Experiences Quickly 00:42 – Queer Dating vs Straight Dating Expectations 00:58 – Letting Yourself Explore Without Certainty 01:10 – Why Uncertainty Can Be Liberating 🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes 🎧 Listen on Spotify Follow WNS on Instagram Follow WNS on TikTok Follow Kayla Follow Alix Visit our retreat center in Nicaragua! Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    1h 1m
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About

A playful, unfiltered podcast where a married wlw couple dives into the chaos of modern relationships, pop culture, queer lore, and all the little things most people wouldn’t admit out loud. Wives Not Sisters is a queer-led podcast where marriage meets humor, honesty, and a little too much sharing but in the best way. We’re here to normalize nuance in relationships -- from romantic, platonic, familial, and everything in between- and to create a space where deep conversations and dumb jokes can coexist. Through real talk, playful debates, and just enough oversharing, we’re building a community that’s reflective, ridiculous, and radically relatable.

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  • Creator
    Kayla Nielsen and Alix Tucker
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    35
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Wives Not Sisters
  • Show Website
    Wives Not Sisters

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