Wives Not Sisters

Kayla Nielsen and Alix Tucker
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A playful, unfiltered podcast where a married wlw couple dives into the chaos of modern relationships, pop culture, queer lore, and all the little things most people wouldn’t admit out loud. Wives Not Sisters is a queer-led podcast where marriage meets humor, honesty, and a little too much sharing but in the best way. We’re here to normalize nuance in relationships -- from romantic, platonic, familial, and everything in between- and to create a space where deep conversations and dumb jokes can coexist. Through real talk, playful debates, and just enough oversharing, we’re building a community that’s reflective, ridiculous, and radically relatable.

  1. 20H AGO

    Cat Missal is Gay & Tell Me Lies Finale Reaction

    Did the Tell Me Lies finale actually deliver… or are we all just emotionally attached to chaos? In this quickie episode, Alix & Kayla break down the Tell Me Lies finale—spoilers included—and unpack everything from toxic relationship dynamics to unresolved plotlines and the very real lesbian internet crossover that somehow always leads back to the same tiny queer universe. From casting coincidences and queer Hollywood connections to the psychology behind Stephen and Lucy’s relationship, they dive into what worked, what didn’t, and the storylines they wish we’d gotten another season to explore. This is a fun, chaotic pop culture recap about messy relationships, queer internet lore, TV finales, and why the lesbian social graph is somehow only three degrees wide. 00:00 – Intro: First Ever “Quickie” Episode  00:45 – Why We’re Adding Quick Episodes  01:05 – Tell Me Lies Finale (Spoiler Alert) 02:00 – Recognizing the Cast & Lesbian Internet Connections 03:00 – Doppelgängers, Casting, and Queer Lore 04:05 – Real-Life Relationships Between the Cast 05:15 – The “Tiny Web of Lesbians” Phenomenon 06:30 – Finale Reactions: Mixed Feelings 08:00 – Did Stephen Actually Win? 09:30 – Lucy’s Choices & Relationship Chaos 10:45 – Plotlines That Felt Unresolved 11:45 – Storylines We Wish Got Another Season 13:00 – Favorite Character Dynamics 14:00 – Final Thoughts on the Ending 14:45 – Audience Questions & Comment Prompts 🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes 🎧 Listen on Spotify Follow WNS on Instagram Follow WNS on TikTok Follow Kayla Follow Alix Visit our retreat center in Nicaragua! Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    17 min

  2. 2D AGO

    WLW Travel: What It’s Really Like Traveling the World as a Married Lesbian Couple

    Why does queer dating sometimes feel like relearning everything from scratch? In this episode, Alix & Kayla talk about the strange, funny, and sometimes emotional reality of navigating attraction, identity, and dating after stepping outside heteronormative expectations. From questioning what “counts” as chemistry to unpacking the pressure to label experiences too quickly, they explore how queer relationships often challenge the scripts we grew up with—and why that uncertainty can actually be freeing. This conversation is a relatable look at queer curiosity, identity shifts, and the messy, honest process of figuring out what feels right instead of what feels expected. 00:12 – When Attraction Doesn’t Follow the Script 00:28 – Pressure to Label Experiences Quickly 00:42 – Queer Dating vs Straight Dating Expectations 00:58 – Letting Yourself Explore Without Certainty 01:10 – Why Uncertainty Can Be Liberating 🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes 🎧 Listen on Spotify Follow WNS on Instagram Follow WNS on TikTok Follow Kayla Follow Alix Visit our retreat center in Nicaragua! Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    1h 1m

  3. FEB 17

    OMG…My First Time Hooking Up With Another Woman

    What is it actually like the first time you’re with a woman? In this episode, Alix & Kayla talk about first times with girls — the magical ones, the awkward ones, the confusing ones, and the ones that quietly change everything. Drawing from listener stories, polls, and their own experiences, they explore what it means when desire finally makes sense, why some first times feel life-changing and others feel messy, and how fear, alcohol, shame, curiosity, and timing all shape our queer awakenings. From being a “ ‘straight’ girl” at a gay bar to sober sex, baby gay panic, internalized homophobia, and the relief of realizing you’re not broken — just queer and nervous — this conversation is honest, funny, and deeply relatable. Whether your first time was magical, chaotic, or still hasn’t happened yet, this episode is for anyone navigating queerness, curiosity, and the moments that quietly rewrite your story. 01:45 – Today’s Topic: First Time With a Girl 03:00 – Listener Poll Results: Magical vs Awkward First Times 05:30 – How Old Were You the First Time? 06:45 – Did You Come Out After? 08:00 – Game Time: First-Time Confessions 10:40 – Identity Crisis vs Peace After the First Time 12:00 – Listener Story: First Time With a Woman After Only Dating Men 14:45 – Feeling Like a Teenager Again 16:45 – Why Exploring Identity Matters (Even If It Changes) 18:00 – Is the First Time Scarier Without “Knowing What to Do”? 20:20 – Listener Story: A Bad First Time That Still Meant Something 23:20 – What Counts as “Lesbian Sex,” Anyway? 26:00 – Intentional vs Party Hookups 29:00 – When It Finally “Clicks” 31:00 – Listener Story: Calm, Clarity, and First-Time Love 33:00 – Dating Men vs Dating Women: The Intimacy Wall 36:45 – Wishing You’d Figured It Out Sooner 38:00 – Listener Story: Awkward, Nervous, Perfectly Imperfect 40:15 – Why the Build-Up Is Often the Hardest Part 42:30 – Hooking Up With Someone Who’s Never Been With a Girl 45:00 – Sober Sex, Alcohol, and Lowered Inhibitions 47:45 – “Who’s the Problem?” Baby Gay Panic Edition 52:00 – Internalized Homophobia vs Externalized Heterophobia 54:00 – Closing Thoughts: You’re Not Broken, You’re Queer 🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes 🎧 Listen on Spotify Follow WNS on Instagram Follow WNS on TikTok Follow Kayla Follow Alix Visit our retreat center in Nicaragua! Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    54 min

  4. FEB 10

    The Body Image Episode: Millennial Women, Diet Culture & Gender Expression

    What does body image look like when you’re queer, partnered, confident… and still unlearning everything you were taught? In this episode, Alix & Kayla get deeply honest about body image, desire, and self-perception inside queer relationships. They talk about comparing yourself to your past body, feeling pressure to look “gay enough,” navigating femme and masc expectations, and how confidence, strength, and self-expression shape attraction far more than size or shape. From almond moms and Gen Z style anxiety to masculinity, femininity, fitness, sex, and learning how to dress—and live—for yourself, this conversation explores what it really means to feel at home in your body when the rules you grew up with no longer apply. This is a candid, funny, and thoughtful episode about queer identity, lesbian relationships, body neutrality, confidence, and the slow, imperfect work of decentering the gaze and choosing yourself. 00:00 – Intro: Married, Codependent, and Back in the Jungle 01:00 – Queer Camp Update + Life in Nicaragua 05:30 – Today’s Topic: Body Image in Queer Relationships 06:40 – “My Body Had to Be ___ to Deserve Affection” 09:00 – Comparing Your Body to Your Past Self 11:00 – Unlearning Food, Rest, and Exercise Guilt 13:35 – Body Image in the Queer World vs the Straight World 17:00 – Confidence, Self-Expression, and Attraction 19:00 – Dating Women: Feeling Bigger, Stronger, or More Visible 24:30 – When Body Image Wasn’t the Problem at All 26:00 – Weight Gain, Health, and Changing Body Shapes 28:00 – Masculinity, Femininity, and Wanting a Different Body 31:00 – Being Femme, Being “Hot,” and Decentering Men 34:00 – Getting Dressed for Yourself (Not the Gaze) 37:15 – Listener Hot Takes on Body Image 39:30 – Masc vs Femme Bodies & Internalized Misogyny 42:00 – Aesthetic Attraction vs Romantic Attraction 44:00 – Power, Confidence, and “The Hotter Partner” 46:20 – Are Queer People Expected to Be More Body-Evolved? 49:45 – Gender Identity vs Learned Body Shame 52:40 – Who’s the Problem: Men, Women, or the Patriarchy? 58:30 – The One Thing We All Fixate On 01:00:00 – Why We Do This to Ourselves 🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes 🎧 Listen on Spotify Follow WNS on Instagram Follow WNS on TikTok Follow Kayla Follow Alix Visit our retreat center in Nicaragua! Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    1h 3m

  5. FEB 3

    I'm WLW, But I'd Never Date A Woman

    In this episode, Alix & Kayla unpack one of the most controversial queer takes on the internet: being attracted to women, sleeping with women, but not wanting to date or marry them. Is it preference, internalized homophobia, avoidance, or just honest self-awareness? Through listener submissions, they dive into WLW stereotypes, deal breakers, attachment styles, emotional intensity, codependency, and why queer relationships can feel so confronting. This episode is funny, nuanced, validating, and guaranteed to spark debate. 00:00 – Intro: married, not related, very codependent 02:00 – Listener love, sister wives & queer community updates 06:00 – Deal breakers: kids, lying, cheating & location 10:00 – Hygiene, finances & political differences 16:05 – Topic intro: “I’m into women but wouldn’t date one” 17:10 – WLW stereotypes: neediness, codependency & you-hauling 21:00 – Hookups vs dating & honesty vs leading people on 25:20 – Intimacy, fear & emotional closeness with women 29:50 – “Women are what I desire, men are what I tolerate” 35:30 – Right person vs wrong person 39:00 – Independence, merging lives & feeling suffocated 44:00 – Avoidant attachment & relationship panic 49:30 – Who’s the Problem: toothbrush edition  56:30 – Final thoughts & listener call-to-action #WLWPodcast #QueerPodcast #LesbianPodcast #BiVisibility #WLWRelationships #QueerDating #AttachmentTheory #QueerDiscourse #WivesNotSisters #LGBTQPodcast Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    57 min

  6. JAN 27

    I Lost 50k Followers When I Came Out

    What happens when you come out online—and thousands of people decide they’re done with you? In this episode, Alix & Kayla unpack cancel culture, internet outrage, and the emotional, financial, and personal fallout of coming out publicly. From losing 50,000 followers to navigating homophobia disguised as “wellness,” they explore why the internet struggles with nuance, change, and coexistence—and why scrolling past the beans might save us all. This is a raw, thoughtful conversation about queerness, yoga culture, social media power, cancel culture, and learning how to live outside the echo chamber. 00:00 – Intro: married, queer, and back online 02:10 – Cancelable or not? Internet apology culture 05:15 – Cancel culture vs real accountability 07:45 – Allegations, platforms & public judgment 12:50 – Cancel culture fatigue & social currency 14:30 – Coming out online & losing 50,000 followers 18:40 – COVID, internet culture & rising hostility 22:45 – “Colonizer,” “predator,” and wellness backlash 25:05 – Is social media a workplace? Queerness at work 32:20 – Why follower loss still matters 38:30 – Yoga, religion & spiritualized homophobia 43:00 – Inclusivity with an asterisk 47:00 – The Bean Soup Theory & online outrage 52:15 – Echo chambers, empathy & coexistence 01:04:00 – Who’s the problem? Public figures & politics #QueerPodcast #CancelCulture #LGBTQPodcast #InternetCulture #ComingOutOnline #WellnessIndustry #QueerVoices #YogaCulture #SocialMediaTalk #WivesNotSisters Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    1h 13m

  7. JAN 20

    Should Straight People Be Allowed In Gay Spaces?

    In this episode, married queers Alix & Kayla debate one of the most polarizing topics in LGBTQ+ culture—from gay bars and lesbian parties to allies, baby gays, and the future of community spaces. It’s thoughtful, funny, deeply personal… and ends with the messiest Who’s the Problem yet (yes, it involves towels). This conversation explores queer history, safety, allyship, feminism, chosen family, and why context matters more than hard rules. 00:00 – Intro: married, queer & back for the new year 02:10 – “Everyone’s a little bi?” identity & labels 04:30 – The real question: straight people in queer spaces 07:45 – Coming out in 2009 & first gay bar experiences 12:05 – Why queer spaces feel intimidating (and necessary) 15:10 – Straight friends, allies & knowing the culture 18:45 – Lesbian spaces vs gay male spaces 22:10 – When inclusion goes too far (and when it doesn’t) 25:45 – Queer Camp: who it’s for and why it changed everything 31:30 – Bars vs retreats: sex, safety & intention 36:30 – Can you even “police” queerness? 41:45 – WHO’S THE PROBLEM: The Towel Incident 🫠 49:50 – Final thoughts & listener call-in #QueerPodcast #LGBTQPodcast #QueerSpaces #Allyship #LesbianPodcast #StraightInGaySpaces #QueerCommunity #ChosenFamily #Feminism #WivesNotSisters #WhoIsTheProblem Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    51 min

  8. JAN 13

    What's With All The WLW Breakups Lately?

    Why does it feel like every WLW couple is breaking up right now? In this episode, Alix and Kayla unpack the recent wave of WLW breakups—from emotional burnout and attachment styles to visibility pressure, queer dating dynamics, and why sapphic relationships can feel so intense. They discuss common breakup patterns, listener perspectives, and how queer relationships navigate communication, community overlap, and healing after a split. 00:00 – Intro & why WLW breakups feel different 03:10 – Emotional enmeshment in queer relationships 07:40 – Why “let’s stay friends” often backfires 12:50 – Identity loss after a WLW breakup 18:30 – Attachment styles & emotional mirroring 24:40 – Boundaries, no-contact & healing 30:20 – Grief, longing & nervous system repair 35:10 – What actually helps you move on 40:00 – Closing reflections #WLW #QueerPodcast #LesbianBreakups #Sapphic #QueerRelationships #WLWDating #QueerCulture #LesbianPodcast Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    57 min
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A playful, unfiltered podcast where a married wlw couple dives into the chaos of modern relationships, pop culture, queer lore, and all the little things most people wouldn’t admit out loud. Wives Not Sisters is a queer-led podcast where marriage meets humor, honesty, and a little too much sharing but in the best way. We’re here to normalize nuance in relationships -- from romantic, platonic, familial, and everything in between- and to create a space where deep conversations and dumb jokes can coexist. Through real talk, playful debates, and just enough oversharing, we’re building a community that’s reflective, ridiculous, and radically relatable.

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  • Creator
    Kayla Nielsen and Alix Tucker
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    29
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Wives Not Sisters
  • Show Website
    Wives Not Sisters

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