Wives Not Sisters

Kayla Nielsen and Alix Tucker
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A playful, unfiltered podcast where a married wlw couple dives into the chaos of modern relationships, pop culture, queer lore, and all the little things most people wouldn’t admit out loud. Wives Not Sisters is a queer-led podcast where marriage meets humor, honesty, and a little too much sharing but in the best way. We’re here to normalize nuance in relationships -- from romantic, platonic, familial, and everything in between- and to create a space where deep conversations and dumb jokes can coexist. Through real talk, playful debates, and just enough oversharing, we’re building a community that’s reflective, ridiculous, and radically relatable.

  1. 3D AGO

    Is This Female Friendship or Gay AF? Untangling Homoerotic WLW Dynamics

    Are homoerotic friendships a canon queer experience? 🌈 Recording from their new studio in Nicaragua, Alix and Kayla dive into homoerotic WLW friendships—the kind that blur the line between “best friend” and “something more.” From red/green flag dating games to listener submissions about twin-bed cuddling, forehead kisses, shared Google Docs, and lifelong “what ifs,” this episode unpacks queer longing, closeted intimacy, and the friendships that change us forever. Plus: a late-addition deep dive into Wicked as the ultimate WLW-coded friendship. 00:00 Intro from Nicaragua + new studio setup 01:20 Listener submissions & why this episode exists 02:40 Red Flag / Green Flag / Beige Flag (WLW edition) 06:10 Common outcomes of homoerotic friendships 08:45 Listener Story #1: “The book I never got to finish” 15:30 Personal college story & grief, queerness, and longing 19:40 More submissions: roommates, Google Docs, future fantasies 28:55 Shooting your shot vs. staying silent 38:30 High school crushes & delayed coming out 46:20 Who’s the problem? (Spoiler: society) 49:10 Wicked, Glinda & Elphaba, and WLW-coded friendships #QueerPodcast #WLW #HomoeroticFriendships #LesbianPodcast #QueerStories #Situationships #ComingOut #QueerCulture #WickedMovie #Sapphic Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    1h 9m

  2. DEC 16

    Chosen Family, Holidays, and Saying No to Expectations

    Family, queerness, religion, and the holidays—this episode goes deep. Alix and Kayla open up about navigating strained family relationships, missed weddings, religious rejection, reconciliation, and what it really takes to protect your peace as a queer couple during the holidays. From engagement fallout and parents not showing up, to rebuilding trust, setting boundaries, and creating chosen family traditions in Nicaragua—this is an honest, emotional, and deeply relatable conversation for anyone who’s ever felt unseen by their family. 00:00 – Intro: married, not related, definitely codependent 02:30 – Highs, lows & weirds of the week 05:20 – Dreaming up a queer camp & chosen family 07:00 – Family estrangement, phone anxiety & emotional triggers 11:15 – Holidays, big families & complicated dynamics 13:30 – Engagement fallout & family refusing to attend the wedding 18:30 – Feeling invisible as a queer couple 23:00 – Acceptance vs. avoidance in family systems 29:00 – Therapy, boundaries & rebuilding relationships 32:45 – Healing moments, unexpected growth & hope 38:30 – Redefining holidays & creating new traditions 43:00 – Religion, queerness & family rupture 51:00 – Confrontation, truth, grief & clarity 01:02:30 – Choosing peace, boundaries & moving forward #QueerPodcast #LGBTQPodcast #ChosenFamily #QueerMarriage #HolidayBoundaries #ReligiousTrauma #FamilyEstrangement #LesbianPodcast #HealingJourneys #QueerStories #WivesNotSisters Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    1h 20m

  3. DEC 9

    Lore: Caitlyn Jenner

    In this juicy, long-form episode, Alix and Kayla go deep into Caitlyn Jenner’s childhood, gender dysphoria, Olympic fame, marriages, parenting issues, transition timeline, political contradictions, and why the public remains so divided. Honest, funny, compassionate, and unfiltered. 00:00 – Intro, reviews & coming-out stories 01:20 – Why listeners say the show helped them come out 04:40 – Caitlyn Jenner: pronouns & how she refers to her past 06:30 – Childhood, dyslexia & early gender dysphoria 08:20 – Athletics, college injury & the decathlon path 11:50 – Olympic fame & America’s “golden couple” narrative 13:10 – Marriages, kids & early controversies 18:25 – Gender dysphoria during marriage & first transition attempt 22:30 – Meeting Kris Jenner & the rise of the Kardashian empire 34:20 – Parenting patterns & strained family relationships 48:00 – Transition timeline, Diane Sawyer interview & media frenzy 56:40 – Missteps, public criticism & political contradictions 01:02:50 – Why the queer community is divided on Caitlyn Jenner #Podcast #LGBTQPodcast #QueerStories #CaitlynJenner #TransHistory #PopCultureDeepDive #Kardashians #LGBTQCommunity #QueerMarriage #IdentityJourney Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    1h 20m

  4. DEC 2

    When Queer Love Changes: Trans Partners, Privilege & Progress

    This week on Wives Not Sisters, Alix & Kayla dive into your juiciest queer write-in questions—identity shifts, relationship changes, generational LGBTQ+ tensions, age-gap love, and what really counts as “queer representation.” It’s honest, hilarious, vulnerable, and very, very gay. 🌈 We also play Underrated or Overrated (spoiler: baths don’t stand a chance), confront who’s the problem this week, and unpack the Sydney Sweeney “good jeans” chaos. 00:00 – Intro: Married, codependent, and chaotic 00:50 – Write-ins & why reviews matter 02:00 – Naming the listeners: “Sister Wives”? 02:33 – Underrated/Overrated (baths, therapy, matcha, astrology memes + more) 06:21 – Queer Rants: Anonymous #1 – Identity shifts in a transitioning relationship 10:15 – Lesbian identity vs. partner transition 20:05 – Opening the relationship? Boundaries & self-trust 25:56 – Queer Rant #2 – Older gays, younger gays & language policing 30:25 – LGBTQ+ history, AIDS crisis & generational tension 36:37 – Queer Rant #3 – Should only queer actors play queer roles? 41:35 – Queer Rant #4 – Age-gap relationships & community judgment 47:09 – Who’s the Problem? Hair-washing edition 50:28 – Sydney Sweeney “good genes/jeans” debate 54:50 – Outro & call to action #QueerPodcast #LGBTQPodcast #WivesNotSisters #QueerStories #LesbianPodcast #TransSupport #QueerCommunity #LGBTQHistory #AgeGapRelationship #QueerRepresentation #RelationshipAdvice #PodcastersOfYouTube #BuzzsproutPodcasts Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    55 min

  5. NOV 25

    WLW Lore: Caroline Calloway

    Alix and Kayla dive deep into the wild, chaotic, endlessly fascinating lore of Caroline Calloway — from Instagram fame and ghostwritten captions to book-deal drama, retreat controversies, and the blurred lines between “scam,” self-mythology, and survival. The wives break down the friendship between Caroline and Natalie Beach, the homoerotic tension, the internet cancellation, the workshops, the snake-oil era, and why queer audiences are obsessed with this story. If you love scammers, internet culture, WLW lore, or messy influencer history, this episode is for you. 00:00 – Intro: Reviews, comments & community love 01:30 – Who is Caroline Calloway? 01:50 – Scam or Stan game (NFTs, Erewhon smoothies, retreats, astrology apps) 04:50 – Breakup brands, viral masterclasses & influencer culture 10:00 – Why Caroline’s story is “entertaining, not dangerous” 11:00 – The WLW lore + homoerotic friendship dynamic 18:00 – How Caroline built her Cambridge-era Instagram persona 21:00 – Natalie ghostwrites captions & the early partnership 28:20 – The $500K book deal & $100K advance 30:30 – Addiction, missed deadlines & the fallout 34:20 – Whose side are you on? 35:20 – The infamous “workshops” 37:00 – Is it a scam if people willingly pay? 38:20 – The cancellations & venue chaos 42:30 – Snake oil, villain era & Caroline’s pivot 43:40 – “I Was Caroline Calloway” & Natalie’s takedown essay 48:40 – Natalie’s book deal + riding coattails 49:55 – Caroline’s tragic family news amid cancellation 53:45 – Obsession, shamelessness & survival mode 54:40 – New York era, OnlyFans, and rising again #CarolineCalloway #ScamOrStan #InfluencerCulture #NatalieBeach #InternetDrama #Podcast #QueerPodcast #WLWLore #MessyInfluencers #BookDealDrama #CarlowayLore #OnlineScams #InternetHistory #WomenWhoWrite #CouplePodcast #AlixAndKayla Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    1h 20m

  6. NOV 18

    Two Wives, One Wallet: Love, Finances and Your Money Confessions

    If you’ve ever argued about groceries, avoided showing your partner your skincare receipts, or wondered how to merge finances without losing your mind, this one’s for you! From $300 facials to $3,000 handbags, Venmo-requesting girlfriends, U-Haul financial disasters, queer throuple budgeting, and how not to commit tax fraud as a married couple — this episode has answers to the questions YOU submitted about managing money. 01:35 – Splurge or Save: Dyson dryers, facials & quiet luxury 05:26 – $3,000 handbags & the lost purse saga 08:30 – Gear talk, e-bikes & used surfboards 10:23 – Listener Q&A: Power dynamics & “my treat” vacations 16:55 – Merging finances without losing your identity 23:04 – Allowances, budgets & guilt-free spending 31:16 – Queer throuple money management 36:12 – Financial secrets & student loan surprises 41:46 – Investing, retirement, & balancing present vs future 45:01 – Gift giving gone wrong: The $1200 suit 49:03 – U-Hauling & the IKEA spending spiral 51:31 – Eloping, wedding budgets & cake regrets 57:54 – Who’s the problem? (Hint: taxes.) 01:01:00 – Closing & community love #LGBTQPodcast #QueerCouples #LesbianPodcast #MoneyTalks #RelationshipAdvice #WivesNotSisters #BudgetingTips #CouplesFinance #QueerLove #PodcastEpisode Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    1h 4m

  7. NOV 11

    The TERF Talk

    In this episode, Alix & Kayla dive into the internet discourse that blew up: Are lesbians allowed to have dating preferences—specifically around bi women or trans women—without being labeled discriminatory or TERFs? Check out the post that started the comments war HERE! This conversation isn’t about exclusion—it's about autonomy, nuance, and consent in queer dating. 🎙️ Whether you agree or disagree, you’ll want to be in the comments for this one. 02:00 – Why real conversations matter 02:32 – Gay This or That (gay brunch vs. gay rave, U-Haul vs. slow burn, etc.) 06:10 – Episode topic reveal: The TERF Talk 07:40 – The viral reel that started everything 10:39 – When “preferences” go viral 12:15 – What TERF actually means 16:44 – “Are we TERFs?” 22:28 – Sexual preference vs. discrimination 30:02 – Should we question our preferences? 38:30 – “Why say it out loud?” 43:26 – Preferences in queer culture (femme for femme, masc, etc.) 51:06 – Why gay men don’t get this backlash 56:21 – My body, my choice—also applies to dating 01:02:17 – Who’s the problem? (Queer Ultimatum being cancelled) #LGBTQ #LesbianPodcast #QueerDating #TERFConversation #DatingPreferences #QueerRepresentation #PodcastClips #WLW #LGBTQPodcast #BuzzsproutPodcast #QueerCommunity #BiWomen #TransWomenAreWomen #MyBodyMyChoice #Sapphic Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    1h 7m

  8. NOV 4

    How Problematic is The L Word?!

    In this queer culture deep-dive, Alix and Kayla revisit The L Word — the iconic show that shaped lesbian visibility for an entire generation. From nostalgic favorites to problematic storylines, they unpack what the series got right (and wrong) about queer representation, trans inclusion, family, and chosen community. If you’ve ever debated who you’d be on The L Word, this one’s for you. 00:08 – Intro + Spotify love from listeners 01:13 – Would You Rather: The L Word edition 05:30 – Why The L Word still matters 07:04 – Queer representation on TV then vs. now 11:08 – Gay marriage and adoption rights in 2004 16:34 – Family acceptance, healthcare, and “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” 22:21 – How The L Word handled trans identity (Max’s storyline) 33:18 – Casting, representation, and the male gaze 41:01 – Chosen family and queer community 46:02 – The Planet: where queer culture thrived 50:26 – Why lesbian spaces are disappearing 52:10 – Why watching The L Word is still a queer rite of passage 55:18 – Who’s the Problem? (Underwear + queer community incest) #TheLWord #QueerPodcast #LesbianCulture #LGBTQHistory #WivesNotSisters #QueerRepresentation #ChosenFamily #QueerMedia Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

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A playful, unfiltered podcast where a married wlw couple dives into the chaos of modern relationships, pop culture, queer lore, and all the little things most people wouldn’t admit out loud. Wives Not Sisters is a queer-led podcast where marriage meets humor, honesty, and a little too much sharing but in the best way. We’re here to normalize nuance in relationships -- from romantic, platonic, familial, and everything in between- and to create a space where deep conversations and dumb jokes can coexist. Through real talk, playful debates, and just enough oversharing, we’re building a community that’s reflective, ridiculous, and radically relatable.

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  • Creator
    Kayla Nielsen and Alix Tucker
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2025
  • Episodes
    20
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2025 Wives Not Sisters
  • Show Website
    Wives Not Sisters

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