SheWolf Alchemy Podcast

Ress Clarke
  • 5.0 (31)
  • Self-Improvement
  • Updated Weekly

This is a Podcast about personal growth as millennials transitioning through life and the lessons learned along the way .

  1. 4d ago

    The Capable Tax

    Ress discusses the exhaustion that comes from being the person who always notices problems, reads the room, and manages crises, emphasizing that awareness and emotional intelligence are labor often treated as automatic and expected rather than appreciated. Ress explains how these skills are frequently formed through tough experiences and can lead to resentment when others rely on the “capable one” as an unpaid mediator, therapist, and safety net, like “electricity” people only notice when it’s gone. We explore how being seen as safe can cause others to stop trying, and share a personal realization that led to renegotiating how they show up.

    33 min

  2. Jun 14

    The Audacity of the Journey to Feel Rewardless

    Nique and Ress discuss the grief, anger, and shame that can arise when healing doesn’t lead to the expected “reward,” like a partner, marriage, career fulfillment, or community. They describe how many internalize an unspoken bargain that therapy, boundary-setting, and emotional growth will make life deliver love, success and instant community ...yet reality shows there is no guaranteed reward system and outcomes can be random. They reflect on how healing can feel boring, how toxic behaviors sometimes seemed to bring faster results, and how traditional millennial programming reinforced a supposed life “order.” Ress notes therapy helps identify patterns and make healthier choices but can’t fix structural loneliness, create third spaces, or make unavailable people change. They emphasize untangling self-worth from uncontrollable outcomes and reframing healing as gaining peace and resilience amid uncertainty.

    31 min

  3. May 31

    Emotionally near the exit door

    Ress does a check-in for people who stay emotionally “near the exit door,” reflecting on hyper-independence, comfort with solitude, and difficulty imagining consistent, non-wavering love . Today's episode looks at the sometimes over-lapping line of genuinely enjoying solitude to using solitude to prep for rejection. Ress discuss' the “strong friend” who carries others’ emotional weight while being overlooked, and describe how rehearsing breakups and keeping contingency plans can block trust and receiving support. Listeners are encouraged to use an explained exercise to practice scaling down from ideals that feel too far out of reach like picturing “forever” to smaller, believable experiences of consistency, practice receiving, diversify support systems, and gather evidence that it’s safe to relax and “put your bags down.”

    23 min

  4. Apr 26

    Bold Pivots and Becoming Who You’re Meant to Be

    Ress introduce an interview with Danielle (Dani) Leverett-Gallaspy about making bold, uncomfortable life pivots. Dani (a former teacher) describes feeling increasingly frustrated and unsupported after changes in education, culminating in a traumatic bullying incident at a Mississippi middle school that administrators dismissed; she emptied her classroom, resigned over Thanksgiving break, and left without a plan. After a brief period of fear and self-doubt,especially about finances,she found her self pivoting into a career she would have never imagined. Dani emphasizes self-trust, boundaries, releasing people-pleasing, and accepting that things can come in seasons and there can much beauty in refinding yourself and letting yourself have a new dream.

    1h 7m

  5. Apr 19

    The Player & The Pick-Me: Two Sides of the Same Script

    Nique and Ress talk through the “player” and “pick-me” identities as two sides of the same need for validation. They get into how these roles, often praised when we’re younger don’t really hold up over time, and can leave people feeling disconnected and unfulfilled. Through personal stories and honest conversation, they touch on emotional labor, gender expectations, and the ways some of these behaviors come from survival, especially for women of color. The episode ultimately centers on redefining self-worth through community, accountability, and real, meaningful connection.

    1h 10m

  6. Apr 5

    Unlearning the Need to Be Palatable

    Gabi and Ress explore how many people, especially women are conditioned to be desirable before they ever feel safe or truly seen. They unpack how early praise for being attractive, agreeable, or impressive can lead to masking, people-pleasing, and emotional disconnection. The conversation contrasts being “wanted” with being “known,” highlighting the burnout that comes from performing versus the fulfillment of being understood.

    1h 12m

  7. Mar 29

    Love, Lies, and Leaving Alive

    On this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, hosts Ress interviews co-host Gabi about surviving two domestic violence relationships in her mid-twenties despite having education, family support, and a career helping others in crisis. Gabi describes meeting the first partner while struggling after graduation, moving in quickly, experiencing manipulation and neglect that kept escalating, and then meeting a second partner who initially love-bombed her before becoming controlling and violent, isolating her from friends, choking her in public, and pressuring her into a reality that she never wanted for herself . Gabi shares recovery through therapy, support, learning boundaries, intuition, and self-trust as safety.*Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussion of abuse, which may be distressing for some listeners.*

    1h 6m

  8. Mar 22

    Wrong Rooms, Right You

    Ress of She Wolf Alchemy discuss recognizing when you’re in the “wrong rooms,” especially when feeling overlooked, underpaid, or underappreciated, and how overextending to prove your worth can lead to burnout and diminished confidence. Ress discuss' choosing alignment over familiarity and a fear of starting over.

    31 min
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This is a Podcast about personal growth as millennials transitioning through life and the lessons learned along the way .

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  • Creator
    Ress Clarke
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    184
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Ress Clarke
  • Show Website
    SheWolf Alchemy Podcast

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